UO 12/14

krash_ · December 2017

a classic...

profmcgonagall · December 2017

This is unpopular where I live now but I love Christmas music and will listen to it all the time. We play it at work and customers constantly complain but I just give those Grinches their coffee and watch them walk out the door

krash_ · December 2017

I don't like when people participate on multiple BMB's, just pick one. I get that you're due at the beginning or end of the month so you could fall into either group but in reality any of us could deliver in another month. It seems less personal.

krash_ · December 2017

Another one...I don't like flow-y maternity shirts/dresses. If you just have to hold your bump the whole time to show off the bump then what is the point. And if you're not holding the bump I feel like it just looks like a tent.

To add to that...I don't really like maternity photos.

MoonOverGoldsboro · December 2017

I really don't get ultrasound pictures. Like, I love the scans of my own baby, but I have no interest in seeing anyone else's (they all look basically the same, guys) or sharing mine with anyone besides my immediate family.

On the other hand, I love bump photos and totally get excited for HDBD every week (my own blump is almost ready for showcasing!). So I'm weird, I guess.

Miz_Liz · December 2017

@krashke totally agree with you on multiple BMB’s; however I have to disagree on flowy maternity shirts. I have some extra padding so I feel insanely self conscious in fitted maternity shirts. I don’t mind showing off my bump, but I don’t want to show off every other lump as well!

@MoonOverGoldsboro I don’t care about other people’s ultrasound pictures either.

izza2 · December 2017

krashke said:

I don't like when people participate on multiple BMB's, just pick one. I get that you're due at the beginning or end of the month so you could fall into either group but in reality any of us could deliver in another month. It seems less personal.

Thiiissss.
Someone due smack dab in the middle of June could end up giving birth in May. That doesn't mean we should all start participating in May and July just in case we go early/over our DD? I'm team no. Pick one, and stick to it. *shrug*

But I disagree on flowy clothing. I'm not going to wear form-fitting clothes just because I'm pregnant and have a bump. I don't care if my shirt looks like a tent.

NamelessAria · December 2017

I thought I disagreed on flowy maternity shirts but I thought about it and realized I mostly agree. Up until maybe 30 weeks or so with my son I just looked fat in flowy shirts. And then at that point they just looked like a tent. They made me so self-conscious. At least in fitted shirts I looked mostly pregnant instead of mostly fat. That being said I have no problem at all with someone else wearing the flowy things. I think everyone should do that makes them the most comfortable.

I agree on BMBs. Pick one. Stick to it.

My UO is that I think it's super weird to have clothing for babies/toddlers/very young children with things that are somewhat sexual on them. I don't want my baby wearing a onesie about how they're the official mistletoe tester or how they're a total ladies man. I don't want a funny shirt talking about how my baby is proof my husband doesn't shoot blanks or that he doesn't play video games all the time or whatever. That's weird. I was talking to some other moms lately and realized this is not a popular opinion.

LaceyBee522 · December 2017

@NamelessAria Ewwww....those shirts/onesies sound gross.

@MoonOverGoldsboro I agree re US pics. I share here and we will give one to our parents when we announce, but I do not plan on sharing them anywhere else - especially not social media. I really hate it when women put US pics as the profile photo on Facebook...so weird.

kmurdock925 · December 2017

@namelessaria - I second everything you said!

Also, not all about the super character-ie baby clothes, decorations, etc. Give me a fun geometric pattern and some bold colors and I'm good

katelynrae86 · December 2017

@NamelessAria I agree on the baby clothes thing. A friend gave me a box of hand me downs when I was pregnant with DS. There was a onesie that said "Boob Guy". I thought it was funny at the time, but then the thought of actually putting him in it seemed super weird.

@MoonOverGoldsboro I'm with you on ultrasound pictures. I barely care about my own...mostly kidding. I love going and seeing baby, but the pictures themselves always look like blobs to me (especially these early ones). So I dont really care about other peoples. Now once the baby is on the outside, give me all the photos all thw time! This is me at every ultrasound:

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becca_123 · December 2017

@MoonOverGoldsboro I also love HDBD and I'm super jealous of the little bumps growing on this board already (nonexistant here yet). I usually check out all the HDBDs through all the boards because I like to see the progression, and with that being said that's also why I like to see the US pics on here! I think it's cute looking at them on this board and then going to the other boards and seeing the difference in size etc. But that's tailored to something very specific, and as @LaceyBee522 said I have no interest when it's posted on social media and also find it weird when women post the US pics as a profile photo.

Also agree to the pick one BMB. I was going through the HDBDs yesterday and I saw the same one posted in two different BMBs and I was just like why?!?!

My UO would be that I find the 3D US photos super creepy to look at and it makes me have no desire to get one of my own, even though I think I would feel different if it was my own baby.

doxiemoxie212 · December 2017

I think it’s extraordinarily weird how many people post ultrasound photos on BMBs and never participate. Like that’s the mindset there??

buffalove1211 · December 2017

@krashke Agreed. It totally bothers me when pregnant ladies wear flowy clothes and then hold it down for pictures. On that note, I also don't like when a pregnant lady is in a picture that she isn't the focal point of (like a bridesmaid in a wedding) and she puts her hands all over the bump and steals the thunder.

@kmurdock925 Agree! Bold solid colors all the way. Not everything has to have a cat on it or a weird saying.

krash_ · December 2017

FFTC...So I totally bought a onesie for my nephew that said "Ladies Man" and other one for my brother at the shower that said "you got this dad" with arrows pointing out the head, arms and legs. And I am totally ashamed. I would never put my kid in something like that so I don't know why I would thnk my brother and SIL would. I need to find a way to repent for my sins.

momlyfe29 · December 2017

I 100% agree with disliking people jumping between between birth month boards. It drives me nuts especially since I lurk more some days then participate. Which makes me weird, but whatever. I like you guys so I hang here and participate when I can or have something I want to say haha

MoonOverGoldsboro · December 2017

@katelynrae86 Yes, I think ultrasounds of my own baby are awesome while they're happening, but I agree on the photos--like, even my own baby basically looks like a skeleton-ghost to me.

@becca_123 I am pretty much positive I would be creeped out by a 3D ultrasound of my own kid. Those things give me the heebie jeebies.

Miz_Liz · December 2017

@NamelessAria yesssss!! I can’t stand those shirts/onesies, etc. I also can’t stand when people tease kids in elementary school about having a boyfriend/girlfriend - let them be kids!! There was one girl in my son’s prek class and this other kid’s mom was laughing about how her son had to wear cologne that day to impress her...ummm, he is 4!!!!

@doxiemoxie212 I am always baffled too by people who post their US but nothing else - why?!

RatParade · December 2017

becca_123 said:

#snip*

My UO would be that I find the 3D US photos super creepy to look at and it makes me have no desire to get one of my own, even though I think I would feel different if it was my own baby.

I think 3D ultrasounds look a little creepy/alienish too. Even regular ultrasounds give me a slight case of the heebie jeebies. I still like them, and seeing my baby moving around in there was one of the highlights of my life, but it's still a little weird to me especially when it doesn't look like a proportional baby yet. Like, we're not meant to see the baby yet, it's not ready.

Austenista · December 2017

Flowy stuff is about all I could tolerate toward the end last pregnacy. I didn’t even like my underwear and bra bands to touch me. It may not have been cute, but I needed my clothes to touch me as little as possible because I was feeling over capacity if you know what I mean.

izza2 · December 2017

3D ultrasounds are creepy AF. My insurance doesn't cover them, either, so I thankfully don't have to worry about ever getting one

buffalove1211 · December 2017

3D/4D ultrasounds - I got a quickie one for free with DD because the tech told me she had a few extra minutes and asked if I wanted to play around with the machine and see the baby. Ummmmm hell yes! My UO on this topic is that people call them creepy because they don't have the opportunity to get one without going to some random elective US place and paying for it.

kmurdock925 · December 2017

@buffalove1211 - same...I got a freebie when the tech told me the wrong gender and the printed photos look pretty weird but seeing it in person (again, because it was my baby) was pretty cool. Prior to getting it for free though I wouldn't have elected to get it myself.

ramblebee · December 2017

Agree with basically what everyone is saying especially all the gross onsie / slogan wear. Words matter. And somewhat related...

Mine is the increasingly huge emphasis it feels like our culture puts on "gender" reveals when it is really revealing baby's sex. Working with transgendered youth who have been through hell and back has really made me sensitive to this.

rnielsen321 · December 2017

Currently only rocking flowy stuff in an effort to keep pregnancy low key at the office. And, well as a plus size lady, the maternity clothes pickings are "slim" ... also still rocking the B bump, so tight fit clothes aren't going to look cute on this 42 yo for a while. I wish I was adorable in some fitted Mat wear.

And I agree with the creepy "manhood" onesies. Keep them out... also to add the onesies that are about telling little girls they are pretty, or love shopping, or are about values that deal with superficial things. I am not against witty sayings on onesies. Just be smart about it.

krash_ · December 2017

To clarify re: the flow-y tops and dresses...I was more thinking for occasions where you want to specifically show off the bump like photos or showers. I don't see the point if you're wearing it for maternity photos and then for every photo you have your arm wrapped around your bump.

I certainly don't wear form fitting clothing every day.

izza2 · December 2017

buffalove1211 said:

3D/4D ultrasounds - I got a quickie one for free with DD because the tech told me she had a few extra minutes and asked if I wanted to play around with the machine and see the baby. Ummmmm hell yes! My UO on this topic is that people call them creepy because they don't have the opportunity to get one without going to some random elective US place and paying for it.

Nope. Wouldn't matter if it was free, done by my doctor, or whatever else. The pictures are creepy AF.
Where it's done won't change that for me. Nor will the cost.

May14th2011 · December 2017

I avoid most saying shirts/oneises for that reason. I really hate the ones that say "I'm cute, mom's pretty and Dad's just lucky."
It feels like it belittles the father, and I hate that.
I did find some uplifting ones at Target, which was nice.

MoonOverGoldsboro · December 2017

I just google image searched "3d ultrasound" so I could post a picture of how scary they were and NOPE. Not even gonna do that. That search page is gonna haunt my dreams.

@krashke I find photos of women cradling their bumps almost universally irritating. Either wear your tent clothes and let them fly freely as intended, or wear something tight to show the bump.

catlady1215 · December 2017

yes and yes.

I could never keep up with 2 BMB. Just to many people to get to know.

and so not a fan of flowly mat tops on me. with my shape, it just makes me look large. if I'm going to look large, I'd rather it be cause of a pregnancy belly. But I know everyones comfort level is different. and I'm absolutely in large tshirts all day, everyday at home.

and I completely agree with a pregnant woman who isn't the main target of a pic.. cradling her belly. stop, just stop.

lrichhx05 · December 2017

I guess my UO is that I am not bothered by most of these UO's. I think a pregnant woman should wear whatever makes her feel good. I personally am not a big fan of the flowy clothes on myself, but if someone else feels more comfortable in that than something tight then they should wear it. Also, I really don't care if a pregnant woman wants to hold her belly in a photo. It doesn't bother me when people say "gender reveal". I think "sex reveal" just sounds weird, even though it is the sex they're really talking about. And I love 3D ultrasounds!
I do agree that people should just stick to one BMB and the onesies/shirts with sayings like that are strange.

ffw0617 · December 2017

I love flowy regular shirts, I wear those all the time now, bc most of the time my bumb doesn't look like a bump I just look fat. (Or I'll layer up with sweaters to cover it completely) I doubt I continue buying the flowy maternity kind though.

@buffalove1211I agree I don't like when bumps take the shine in pictures. My stepmom (who I love and call mom, we don't do the whole step thing) got in my dad's (he's a high school football coach) team picture when she was pg with my baby brother back when she was like 8 months, and in a group of 45 boys in football uniforms & pads all you see is a lady standing on the side holding her bump.

As far as the gender reveal thing I know a lot of ppl have problems with the "gender" part. Who wants to use the word sex in reference to a baby though? We know the sex already and when people ask I just "It's a DH's name" to signal boy. I don't want to get into a weird argument with someone.

This isn't really unpopular bc I'm sure we all feel that way, but I HATE when people diminish your accomplishments because of marriage or children. I've seen people respond to post about marriage or children like "well some of us are focused on our careers" or "some of us have careers" or "not all our lives revolve around marriage and kids." As if you've accomplished nothing else. In addition to being married with a baby on the way I also have 3 degrees & working on my 4th, my husband has 3 degrees, I work full time, we own our home, I teach pole, in addition to running 3 companies between DH & me.... but please tell me how my life revolves around marriage and children or I'm not focused on my career.

ffw0617 · December 2017

Another UO: WHO YOU ARE PREGNANT BY SHOULD NOT BE A SECRET!!!!!! OMG! You can keep the baby's sex a secret, the baby's name a secret, but the father should NOT be a secret! The response to "I'm having a baby" or "I'm pregnant" should not be "By who?" UGH!

krash_ · December 2017

@ffw0617 playing devil's advocate here but not all of us have the gift of a loving and supportive significant other. If the woman was pregnant by someone she isn't proud of, or doesn't know, or it was a one night stand, I'm not going to demand to know who the father is. But I would also never ask.

I do think she has a responsibility to the father to tell him, assuming she knows who he is, because he should be given the opportunity to have a relationship with the child if he is willing and able.

ffw0617 · December 2017

@krashke I have never asked either. I'm talking about people who KNOW who the father is. I wish I could screen shot the posts I'm referring to. Ex.: Maternity pictures with his face covered. Why even post this picture or have him in the pictures if he's a secret? Some people think its cute to keep the person they are seeing a secret, I'm cool with that, esp if they are not serious. You have a whole human together that goes out the window. A child is more permanent than marriage.

stephcat421 · December 2017

@krashke we totally got the onesie that says you can do this dad with all the arrows yesterday from my husband's secret Santa... Along with one that says dad's drinking buddy with a bottle cheering a mug of beer. DH thinks they are funny, but they won't be worn out of the house

Austenista · December 2017

Ugh I hate onesies with gross sayings like, "lock up your daughters." We got that one with a chain and lock on it. That went straight to the donation pile. I don't like anything that sexualizes babies. Someone asked me if my son liked the movie Moana because he thought Moana was hot. Umm...he's an infant, he probably likes the colors and music.

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catlady1215 · December 2017

@ffw0617 so she took Mat pics WITH him and still hiding him?! Ok that sounds weird to me.

ffw0617 · December 2017

@catlady1215 yup. and posted them.

izza2 · December 2017

ffw0617 said:

@catlady1215 yup. and posted them.

Sounds like someone's an AW..

fitzandgiggles · December 2017

I'm torn on the multiple BMB issue. My EDD was adjusted at my 9 week dating u/s from June 30th to July 3rd. I was attached to this board by that point and yet suddenly felt like an imposter. I did an introduction on July after my EDD changed and I lurk over there, but I don't really know them and now feel like I don't belong on either board

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