Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
doxiemoxie212
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Re: Just for Fun: Predictions
Baby's sex: boy (we'll know on Saturday if I'm off to a good guessing start lol)
Baby's weight at birth: 8 lbs 1 oz
Baby's height/length at birth: 21 inches
When will you "pop"?: 18+3
When will you first feel movement?: 19+2
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): super active
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): June 6; 10:17pm (EDD: June 2)
Any other predictions?: born with full head of hair
Baby's weight at birth: 8.13
Baby's height/length at birth: 22 inches
When will you "pop"?: 18 weeks
When will you first feel movement?: 18 weeks
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): Active
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): EDD: 6/1 / Prediction 6/1 (DS was born on his due date)
Any other predictions?:
Hair: Brown
Eyes: Brown
Short / Fast Labor: Fast!
Baby's weight at birth: 8lb 3oz (both kids weighed the same so far)
Baby's height/length at birth: 21”
When will you "pop"?: 14w, already starting
When will you first feel movement?: 17w
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): Active
What date/time will you deliver?: 5/19, in the afternoon EDD: 5/28, (two prior births both at 38+5)
Any other predictions?:
Hair: Brown, lots of it
Eyes: Brown
Short / Fast Labor: Fast
Baby's sex: Boy
Baby's weight at birth: 7 lbs 10 oz
Baby's height/length at birth: 21 in
When will you "pop"?: 17+2
When will you first feel movement?: 19+5
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): active
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): EDD 6/18; 6/25 11:20 PM
Any other predictions?: Ginger; short labor
Will come back later and add MH's predictions. This will be fun to look back on.
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
Baby's sex: Girl (but i can't determine if that's just what i'm "hoping" for or if its a true intuition yet)
Baby's weight at birth: 7lbs 5oz
Baby's height/length at birth: 19.5"
When will you "pop"?: yesterday? haha I say 12-14 weeks
When will you first feel movement?: 15 weeks
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): Super Active
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): EDD 6/23 - RCS 6/16 - but I hope 6/22 1:11pm
Any other predictions?: Hair, hazel eyes, and will be breech again haha
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
Baby's weight at birth: 8lbs, 14oz
Baby's height/length at birth: 22”
When will you "pop"?: 16 weeks
When will you first feel movement?: 15 weeks
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): Super Active
What date/time will you deliver?: 6/2 at 2:00 PM; EDD: 6/7
Any other predictions?:
Hair: Brown with a little bit of red since MH has a lot of red in his beard!
Eyes: Green
Short / Fast Labor: Yes!
Baby's weight at birth: 8 lb 7oz
Baby's height/length at birth: 19 inches
When will you "pop"?: 15 weeks (I don't remember if I popped last time)
When will you first feel movement?: 20 weeks (I'd love to feel them sooner, but I was closer to 22 with DD)
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): Slightly sleepy
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): EDD 6/5; PDD 5/31 @4:55pm
Any other predictions?: Long Ass Labor (DD was over 18 hours), full head of hair, My belly button will 'pop' at 34 weeks
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
Baby's sex:
Baby A: Girl Baby B: Boy
Baby's weight at birth:
Baby A: 5.8 Baby B: 6
Baby's height/length at birth:
19 inches for both
When will you "pop"?:
15 weeks
When will you first feel movement?:
17 weeks
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero):
Baby A: Active Baby B: Over it and sleepy
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is):
Early morning May 28 (EDD: 6/23)
Any other predictions?:
One will have red hair and one will have pretty brown eyes.
Baby's sex: Boy (we know already, but we've both been team boy since the BFP. I even said this on my spread sheet post)
Baby's weight at birth: 7 lbs. At the last u/s he was measuring 1 week larger. Every u/s he is bigger than the weeks. I was a preemie & DH was about 6 lbs
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Baby's height/length at birth: I have not clue, average
When will you "pop"?: I'm 12w 1d and pretty visible, If I purposely wear a tight top I'm sure people would notice. I'll say 2 more weeks so 14 weeks.
When will you first feel movement?: IDK what's normal?
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): active we've already seen him move on the u/s
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): I'm going to go with June 6, simply because that's the Wednesday before my EDD 6/11. My OB does surgery (c sections) on Wednesdays which if my bottom fibroid grows any more blocking the exit I will require, but even if not a c section I'll probably try to go into labor around then so I'll know for sure she'll be available that day. Delivery later in the day, esp if vaginal, bc I'll labor at home for as long as possible.
Any other predictions?: I pretty dead set on this baby coming the first week in June for sure. Very little/ no hair (neither of us had hair at birth).
TTC: 08/2017 EDD: 6/11/2018 FTM
Weight: 6lbs 9oz
Height: 18 inches
When will I pop? 15 weeks
Feel Movement: 17 weeks
Active or Sleepy in utero: Active, DD was very active
Date/Time for Delivery: June 8 at 9am.
EDD is July 1st but RCS has to be by 37 weeks due to previous classical incision.
Other Predictions: lots of brown hair and brown eyes.
Married 6/15/13
BFP #1 5/8/16, EDD 12/31/16- DD born 9/10/16 at 24 weeks
~In our hearts forever~
BFP #2 10/14/17, EDD 7/1/18
Baby's sex: boy (but we know that)
Baby's weight at birth: 8lbs 2ounces
Baby's height/length at birth: 19 inches
When will you "pop"?: 17 weeks
When will you first feel movement?: 16 weeks
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): active
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): 5/24/17 8:15am (repeat csection) (EDD is 5/31)
Any other predictions?: lots of hair
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
Baby's sex: Girl
Baby's weight at birth: 8lbs 1oz
Baby's height/length at birth: 20 inches
When will you "pop"?: 18 weeks
When will you first feel movement?: 19 weeks
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): slightly sleepy
What datetime will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): EDD: 6/14, est: 6/16 middle of the night
Baby's sex: Boy
Baby's weight at birth: 8lbs6oz
Baby's height/length at birth: 21.5in
When will you "pop"?: 17+4
When will you first feel movement?: already did
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): active
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is):Edd 6/2 prediction 5/18 8:15pm
Any other predictions?: dark brown hair
Baby's sex: male
Baby's weight at birth: 9 lb 2 oz
Baby's height/length at birth: 21 in
When will you "pop"?: already did
When will you first feel movement?: 15 weeks
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): super active
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): 12:52 a.m. June 17. EDD is June 21
Any other predictions?: the baby will have a dusting of red hair
Baby's weight at birth: 7lb 11oz, 8lb 4oz (DH)
Baby's height/length at birth: 20 in, 21 in (DH)
When will you "pop"?: 17+4, 18 (DH)
When will you first feel movement?: 18w, 21w (DH)
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): active (both)
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is) EDD 6/7, guess both day 6/1 (i will be induced at 39-39.5 weeks but don't have it in stone yet) I saw 2:43pm, 10am (DH)
Any other predictions?: Full head of dark brown hair, blue eyes. Bald with brown eyes (DH)
Thanks Doxie, that was fun!
Baby's sex: male
Baby's weight at birth: 8 lbs., 6 oz.
Baby's height/length at birth: 20.5 in.
When will you "pop"?: I feel like I already have, but I'll say 15 weeks.
When will you first feel movement?: 16 weeks
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): super active
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): EDD is 6/18; I'm thinking 6/12, around 3 pm.
Any other predictions?: lots of dark hair, soup coolers. DD & DS were born before their due dates, so I am pretty confident that this one will be, too.
Baby's weight at birth: my husband and I were similar weights, so I'm going with ... 5lbs 7oz
Baby's height/length at birth: same as me, 19"
When will you "pop"?: already showing
When will you first feel movement?: Hoping by xmas (16 weeks), but guessing around gender reveal (18 weeks)
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): Guessing active. 12 week ultrasound it was super active
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): EDD June 8th - I'm gonna guess either June 5th or June 10th - water break midafternoon, born either just midnight or after.
Any other predictions?: Bald like husband and I; long labour - MIL was nearly 30 weeks for both kids, my mum was under 20hrs for me {water broke at 10am, didn't go to hospital until early afternoon, born at 3:04am}
Baby's sex: girl- find out next week!
Baby's weight at birth: 7lbs 5oz
Baby's height/length at birth: 19in
When will you "pop"?: 17 weeks
When will you first feel movement?: 16 weeks (3rd pregnancy)
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): active
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): maybe June 26/27? I always seem to go late. Dd is June 19,
Any other predictions?: some hair, brown eyes
Baby's sex: Female
Baby's weight at birth: 7lb 8oz
Baby's height/length at birth: 18.5 in
When will you "pop"?: I'm overweight, so never. Lmao. But, probably more noticeable around 18-20 weeks.
When will you first feel movement?: 17 weeks
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): Super active
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): EDD is 6/23, I'm predicting I'll deliver 6/25 mid-morning
Any other predictions?: Lots of blonde hair, and H's eyes!
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
Baby's sex: Girl (we know it's a girl)
Baby's weight at birth: 7lb 7oz
Baby's height/length at birth: No idea but based off of everyone elses answers I'll go with 19 in
When will you "pop"?: 20 weeks (I'm 5ft 10 but not thin)
When will you first feel movement?: 18 weeks
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): I'll be opposite and go with sleepy
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): EDD 6/7 est. 6/10 2:45pm
Any other predictions?: Lots of dark hair, and blue eyes!
Baby's sex: boy- we found out today, but I had a feeling it was a boy all along.
Baby's weight at birth: 8lbs 3oz
Baby's height/length at birth: 20.5"
When will you "pop"?: 18w
When will you first feel movement?: 19w
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): active
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): 6/19 at 3:35pm, EDD is 6/21
Any other predictions?: brown hair and brown eyes- I have brown hair and brown eyes, DH has blue/green eyes and light brown hair that was bleach blonde as a child. With our DS we thought for sure he would have brown hair and brown eyes. He came out with white blonde hair and blue/green eyes. He's 6 now and has the same eyes as DH, with dark blonde hair, but still has a bleach blonde streak naturally.
Baby's sex: Girl (just because this pregnancy has been so different already)
Baby's weight at birth: DS was 6lbs7oz and born at 37w so I'm going to say this one will be 7lb6oz
Baby's height/length at birth: DS was 19.5in so I'll guess this one will be 21in
When will you "pop"?: Eventually? I'm also plus size. I mean you can kinda tell toward the end...but idk. I just felt very round, lol.
When will you first feel movement?: I don't care what anyone says, I feel like I felt DS super early so I'm going to say the same with this one, like 14-15 weeks.
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): Sleepy
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): DD is 6/21 I'm hoping I get to go full term this time so 6/23
Any other predictions?: Blue eyed 100%
Baby's weight at birth: 8lbs 11oz
Baby's height/length at birth: 21in
When will you "pop"?: already have
When will you first feel movement?: around 13 weeks
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): active
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): 6/29 2:30am (edd 6/30)
Any other predictions?:
Predictions:
Baby's sex: Girl
Baby's weight at birth: 7lbs 5oz
Baby's height/length at birth: 18 inches
When will you "pop"?: 18 weeks
When will you first feel movement?: 16 weeks
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): slightly sleepy
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): EDD is June 12th. I guess it will be the 9th.
Any other predictions?: If it is true that your second is the opposite of your first, than this one will be the world’s best sleeper. Haha. One can wish, right?
Baby's sex: Girl
Baby's weight at birth: 8lb. 1 oz.
Baby's height/length at birth: 21.5in
When will you "pop"?: STM, already poppin
When will you first feel movement?: 16 weeks
Super active or slightly sleepy baby? (in utero): super active *momma likes caffeine!*
What date/time will you deliver? (remind us what your EDD is): EDD is 6/19, but I will have a repeat section so we are hoping for 6/12 10am
Any other predictions?: dark hair and dark eyes (DS was blonde hair blue eyes like daddy, and I have dark brown eyes and brown hair, so it's time to have a "mini me!")