FF*FC 12/8

[Deleted User] · December 2017

Confess!

*not actually flame free

JBcakes08 · December 2017

The last time my husband and I had sex was when this baby was conceived.

DDRRT1982 · December 2017

JBcakes08 said:

The last time my husband and I had sex was when this baby was conceived.

Kind of jealous. We have a weekly quota. I guess it's kind if flameable I agree to that shit. (It is less during pregnancy bc I definitely use the pregnancy card and any excuse I can. )

mdfarmchick · December 2017

So with DS we were pretty regular about it after I stopped wanting to puke all the time and before I got uncomfortably large. This one has been pretty hit or miss... depends on how tired we are, when the toddler sleeps, and how uncomfortable I am... We are both tired a lot and the toddler is not the best sleeper...

amylonghorn · December 2017

The hubs told me that the more pregnant I get, the sexier I get. Someone wants to get lucky, huh?!

AFM, I participate in the Weekend Ticker Change thread, but don't feel like I should follow, read or even open the other ticker change threads throughout the week. What is wrong with me?!

Edited bc Autocorrect is not always correct.

i-wanna-b-the-girl-w-most-cake · December 2017

Ok, I've gotta ask. What does ff*fc stand for?

orbmaker · December 2017

@JBcakes08 I've been so weird about sex in my brain since the baby became "visible." We've gone for it, but it's definitely not like the best sex ever (cos I can't forget about the human growing in my abdomen and it distracts me from orgasm). Maybe I should try wearing a giant t-shirt or something, lol.

muggle621 · December 2017

We haven’t been the most active either , especially lately since I’ve been more uncomfortable. My H seems to be doing ok so far....

LaurenAnn0405 · December 2017

@amylonghorn I participate in my Friday ticker change but I don't read any of the others!

@DDRRT1982 We have almost a weekly quota too. I use my tiredness and general uncomfortableness to try and get out of it as much as possible. DH basically expects it on his days off (Wednesday and Thursday) and my days off (Saturday and Sunday). While I love him and the sex is always great sometimes I'm in the middle of a yeast infection and I don't want anything there and sometimes the baby's kicking and it feels weird to do that while she's kicking me, and sometimes I'm just too lazy to put out the effort.

@I-wanna-b-the-girl-w-most-cake it stands for Flame Free Friday Confessions but the * means that they're not always flame free

runsoncoffee · December 2017

I actually have one this week... I'm sending out DS1's thank you cards from his July birthday party with our Christmas cards. They've been written for month but never sent lol!

heatherdubrow · December 2017

@scoogy19 well then mine is I didn’t even bother to write them he made for my kids’ party back in October. I said no gifts on the invitation!!

vflux33 · December 2017

@orbmaker Same. For the brief moment between MS and really showing it was great, but now that I can't hide my belly I have like a psychological block on my libido.

[Deleted User] · December 2017

@orbmaker I'm struggling with that as well. Like she will be kicking around during sex and it's just... THERE ARE SO MANY PEOPLE INSIDE OF ME RIGHT NOW AND GAHHHH.

LaurenAnn0405 · December 2017

Aaand my DH just texted me saying he wants sex so he wants me to wake him up when I get home from work-dude we just had sex this morning, once a day is more than enough!

i-wanna-b-the-girl-w-most-cake · December 2017

@LaurenAnn0405 - thank you!

This car kept honking at me to pull out of my parking spot this morning and I was in no mood. I rolled down my window and flipped him off. Truth be told I wanted to get out of my car to give him a piece of my mind but I'm super pregnant and he wasn't worth the energy.

Also, I feel like I've been the initiator in bed lately. I think hubs has some kind of complex going on about sex and the babies. I hope he's enjoying it while it lasts because I'm getting too big to even attempt it, there's getting to be no comfortable position.

vflux33 · December 2017

antoto said:

@orbmaker I'm struggling with that as well. Like she will be kicking around during sex and it's just... THERE ARE SO MANY PEOPLE INSIDE OF ME RIGHT NOW AND GAHHHH.

FFFC? I made a joke after sex a few weeks ago about having 3 dicks inside of me. We just about died laughing, but it was one of those laughs that starts out really raucous and then tapers off into an extremely awkward "kill me"/"I hope nobody heard that" kind of laugh. The next day I turned to MH and I was like, "Hey-- I just realized I also have more balls then you!", which went over about as well.

[Deleted User] · December 2017

vflux33 said:

antoto said:

@orbmaker I'm struggling with that as well. Like she will be kicking around during sex and it's just... THERE ARE SO MANY PEOPLE INSIDE OF ME RIGHT NOW AND GAHHHH.

FFFC? I made a joke after sex a few weeks ago about having 3 dicks inside of me. We just about died laughing, but it was one of those laughs that starts out really raucous and then tapers off into an extremely awkward "kill me"/"I hope nobody heard that" kind of laugh. The next day I turned to MH and I was like, "Hey-- I just realized I also have more balls then you!", which went over about as well.

Well I ACTUALLY loled at this. So many dicks....

[Deleted User] · December 2017

And on the baby penis topic .... It did actually occur to me that most men's dicks have passed through his mothers vagina and I KNOW it's not weird because hello. That's nature, yo. But also....... lol. I once watched a birth video on Youtube of a mother giving birth to a breach baby and the baby boys penis came out first so it was just this little penis coming out of her vagina and I giggled.

mmom3 · December 2017

Car rider line at school gives me all the rage. Seriously whether I’m a teacher or parent dropping/picking up.

vflux33 · December 2017

@antoto That is definitely a mindfuck, yeah. I realized that recently about these guys and then realized MH's penis at one point was in my MIL.... like I know I'm supposed to be mature about this, but ewwwwwww.

gh515 · December 2017

My cousin (somewhat awkwardly) once told me the same idea as @amylonghorn - that he found his wife sexiest when she was pregnant. I see the thinking behind it, but it won't change me from feeling like an uncomfy whale. We still try to do it a couple times a week, though I am certainly never the instigator.

@scoogy19 you're saving on postage and being environmentally friendly. A thank you card is always good, no matter the timing!

stlbuckeye132 · December 2017

@LaurenAnn0405 I'm exhausted just reading about your sex life

Also, all the penis jokes have me giggling like a 10 year old.

mdfarmchick · December 2017

@vflux33 I’m dying at the penises and the balls. So funny.

JBcakes08 · December 2017

@DDRRT1982 I'm kind of jealous of you lol. Grass is always greener! I wish we we would do it sometimes just to stay in a 'habit.' I feel like sex begets sex!

I have definitely wanted to and tried to initiate a few times but stopped after feeling like crap after getting shot down. I finally caved and asked WTF a couple weeks ago. He said he honestly hadn't thought that it had been that long. I had him on a pretty strict schedule when we were TTC and scheduled sex for 2 weeks every month drained him. After I got pregnant he said he wanted to take a break for awhile which I agreed to but I didn't agree to not have sex again until the baby gets here......
He didn't really have a great answer for why we haven't or when we will again. I'm glad I finally asked because it's been wrecking my self esteem. I'm jealous of the ladies who's husbands find them irresistible pregnant. Sounds nice! Womp, womp.

DDRRT1982 · December 2017

Oh, don't feel down. Some men just don't like sex during pregnancy. It's definitely not you. It has actually been pretty common over the years for me to hear how people don't really have sex during pregnancy. It has nothing to do with how their husbands feel about them, but more the fact that there is a baby in there and they feel weird. I am sure after the pregnancy you guys will find a good rhythm.

FWIW, TTC sex wears us out too and we never found it fun. Sometimes I wish I could not over analyze things and make it fun, but I know to much about the process now that it isn't any fun. It's more of a transaction.

heatherdubrow · December 2017

@JBcakes08 my H finds pregnancy sex completely repulsive and he has never been able to tell me why. We almost never have sex beyond like 20 weeks along. It’s just something I have come to accept and we always go back to normal after the baby is born. Men are weird...

vflux33 · December 2017

@JBcakes08 I'm sorry, that sucks. Scheduled sex while TTC is stressful AF. Especially when the TTC timeline takes a lot longer than you both expect. It's tough for us all, but for men I think it's a special kind of tough because of the whole ejaculation thing, while we can just be kind of passive if we're not feeling up to it but are ovulating that day. There were many days when we were TTC where we both would definitely not have had sex if not for TTC, and it gets so old. I guess what I'm saying is I totally get where you're coming from, but I wouldn't take it personally like he's not attracted to you or something. It might just be taking him some time to "get over" the whole forced TTC part. TBH, I'm not really over that yet myself. If it took you guys awhile to conceive he may just need more time to put that whole experience out of his mind, and that's normal.

AFM, beyond just being drained from TTC, MH isn't particularly into pregnant sex either. We are referring to it as "maintenance sex" at this point, as in, neither of us are super into it but we recognize our bodies probably need that release, and we don't try to make it "good" like we used to. That sounds depressing and lame, but we're not really viewing it that way and it'll pass, I'm sure. I bet it will for you too.

Mass-girl-at-heart · December 2017

I had finished tell H how the baby was kicking me like crazy when I was on my stomach for a few minutes. Then about 20 minutes later we were having sex for the first time since the BFP. After he told me all he could think about was the baby feeling his weight and kicking him so it was pretty awkward.

That’s probably it until the end when we are just trying to get the labor ball rolling. I’ve been so sick it doesn’t really bother me and he is all about anything I need these days because he feels so bad.

mdfarmchick · December 2017

@JBcakes08i get where you are coming from. If we haven’t had sex in a while and I feel like I’m initiating, and he’s not into it... it’s really hard not to take it personally. Being pregnant multiplies that feeling. Usually when I actually talk to him about it, he doesn’t realize that he’s doing it, doesn’t realize how long it’s been and is stressed about something at work and tired. And, as PP mentioned, a lot of guys find it weird but can’t explain it.

@vflux33 “maintenance sex”—we have that too.

baybeesunflower · December 2017

LOVED reading this ladies!

I have also thought about the penis and balls and have mentioned it to my husband and we both chuckle.

With our first we barely had sex. At first I was scared something bad would happen (we TTC for 2 years and ended up needing IVF) and then it became, ok, let's try but it just DID NOT FEEL GOOD.

This time around though, hot damn. Feels so good, even now, though I don't always like the from behind because I like kissing.

runsoncoffee · December 2017

@heatherdubrow I'll be doing that in the future!

chasingroygbiv · December 2017

Lolol. I wish my husband would get off my back about sex. Like dude, I have DD hanging on me all day and a baby hanging out inside me all day. Come 9 pm I just need serenity. I will say I’ve done far better this pregnancy as of late than with my other two pregnancies. I just feel so awkward and like someone’s watching me.. or getting poked. Which I thank DH for that vision because with our first he jokingly said, “whoa, I think I just poked him in the head.” Barf, barf, barf. Oddly enough DS came out with a little tiny scratch on the very top of his head and DH said, “you thought I was kidding???” Men. I can’t.

i-wanna-b-the-girl-w-most-cake · December 2017

this is quickly becoming my favorite thread!

chasingroygbiv · December 2017

March 2018— boring no more!

kalawa · December 2017

Sigh. Big ol' sigh. When someone says you CAN'T have sex, that's all you want to do. I have been on strict no sex rules since 5w. Brutal. Awful. Horrible. I am literally counting down until Mayish...oh boy.

cford08 · December 2017

I'm with @kalawa. MFM told us we could have sex, but no orgasm for me

I was like sir, I don't do this for my health. DH has been a champ, so he pretty much gets oral whenever he wants. I will be counting down those six weeks for real!

mdfarmchick · December 2017

@cford08 wth? What’s the point if you don’t get to O?

Also, kudos to you for doing that. I’d be like, nope, heartburn

kbiala · December 2017

I have literally lol’d so many times reading this.

Im in the same boat as most, I make sure that we are still somewhat consistent with sex although I’m just getting to the point where I’m so uncomfortable.

i just want to tell DH...we’re good for awhile now right? This National Geographic body I have going on can’t be a turn on.

chasingroygbiv · December 2017

@kbiala Yes! Like how... HOW... is THIS even remotely attractive in any way, shape, or form? Must be the bigger boobs since in June I had not even A’s. No joke. Like.. maybe not even AA’s. Pre-teen girls probably put me to shame.

JBcakes08 · December 2017

I just wanted to thank you ladies @DDRRT1982 @heatherdubrow @vflux33 @mdfarmchick
I honestly feel a lot better now.

I've tried to be understanding and give space but it's really been messing with me emotionally. I feel better to know that a lot of other ladies aren't very regular during pregnancy!

ETA: it did take a while for us to conceive and it took a lot out of us emotionally and physically. We were scheduled for IUI the month after I got my BFP and had just undergone a bunch of fertility testing. I think it will definitely take a while to get back into the groove of things and I definitely appreciate everyone's thoughtful responses!

barrelocarol · December 2017

cford08 said:

I was like sir, I don't do this for my health.

I just scream laughed at this!!!!

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