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TTCA35 Weekly Check In: 12/4/17

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Re: TTCA35 Weekly Check In: 12/4/17

  • @labluver2 - I can deal with hot flashes :) that's easy.  For us IUI OOP would be about $1200 a cycle - not something we have extra cash for.  Pretty sure we could do cash for a few cycles of Femara OOP.  IUI would either have to be debt or something we save for.  How long have you been TTC for?  I think adoption is great and I would consider it too if we didn't already have a kid.  I'm one of those people that wants to give it my all before I put it away so I'd be fine stopping TTC after 2 more months if I wasn't 37 but I'd have regrets of not trying at least a little medical stuff if I got to be 40 and then wanted to do it.  So that's where I'm at.  Then we will know we did it all and can be totally happy with 1 child because now I realize how it's such a miracle.

    I go in this morning to go over the result of my b/w from monday


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  • @vlagrl29 ttc for almost 4 years I'll be 39 in june. Didn't see a Re til last year but it would have been all a out of pocket and we just couldn't do it. Tried naturally a few more months and a friend told me her clinic she just had to pay iui OOP. I wasn't too happy with my old RE anyway so I switched and have been seeing this one since March and 5 failed iuis. But I keep plugging along bc at least I know my body is doing what its supposed to. It's just an extra jump to my follicals . I don't have a limit on how many I can do so I'm just going to keep going for a few more months then we will discuss adoption further. I don't have any kids.
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  • @vlagrl29 Is that your AMH test?

    @Labluver2 Adoption is awesome!! If this all doesn’t work we will consider as well.. We’ve literally only been trying for like 5 months before we went to the RE, so I am too am going to give it my all before I throw In the towel. I have 4 rounds of IVF completely covered and if that doesn’t work we will for sure be heartbroken but I am a firm believer in what is meant to be will be, and if this road leads up to adoption it was meant to be. That being said I am truly hoping all my hope that you and your H will conceive! 

    @kristimh80 I literally just off the phone with HR, she and I are close and she’s a family friend, so I told her the situation and she is calling the insurance company herself to see if she can’t get things moving faster!! UGH I didnt even sleep last night, idk if I’m stressed over this or what but maybe got like 2-3 hours which I also think maybe the reason for no AF.
  • well AMH is great at a 1.8 in normal range.  There really is no reason I can't get pregnant.  My vitamin D rose as well to 55 from 34 so she's cutting my dose in half 5,000 Ius instead of 10,000 Ius.  My T3 and T4 are still low so she switched thyroid supplements on me, TSH is normal range.  Immune system is still functioning really low even though I feel fine and not sick.  So she thought it could be stress and did some homeopathic test on me and 2 words came up - frustration and disgrace which frustration I can totally relate to.  She gave me a homeopathic remedy that is liquid and I do 14 drops a day under my tongue and hopefully that will help my immune system.  I'll get just thyroid tested in 30 days after the holidays.  I've been working on my mind too and I really am much less stressed than I was this time last year after the loss where I was on the verge of a breakdown almost daily.

    @Labluver2 - whew 4 years!  You are patient.  I thought you were 37 too.  I would totally consider adoption if we didn't have a DD.
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  • @vlagrl29 See!! You had nothing to worry about with the AMH test! Everything seems to be functioning well.  
  • yeah now I don't feel like I need to be in a super hurry to get pregnant because it may come back low @ndz2018

    I started streaming yoga yesterday so I'm adding 2 more days a week to my yoga practice.  Gotta keep the mind healthy.
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  • don't you love it when your mom sends you an email about reasons for erectile dysfunction lol!  She got it in her email and thought she'd send it to me because she had never heard of the reasons for it. Luckily we don't have that issue!
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  • @vlagrl29 I’m actually kinda nervous that my AMH is so high, 4.17 like what if I get OHSS when I start stimming?!? I think at 37 I would know if I has PCOS, right? 
    See this is probably why I couldnt sleep last night.. not that either of those things crossed my mind while I trying to sleep. Lol

    So my SIL n bro have their transfer date at the end of this month. I am so happy for them Bc they have literally been through the ringer with MCs but I cant help but be a tad jealous, idk why!! Am I an Awful human being? Im blaming it on PMS.. speaking of which my nipples have NEVER killed me more than they do right now! Im def not KUd and I’m not on any hormone but DAYUM is this painful!!
  • @ndz2018 - I think it's totally normal to be jealous - I'm finally at the point where I don't really feel that anymore when people announce pg on FB or IRL  - that is HUGE for me.  I use to always start ugly crying in the bathroom after an announcement.  part of the process for me.

    What's OHSS?  Over hyperstimulation of the ovaries?  Honestly that kinda scares me too if we did just femara since everything is so great in working condition with my body.  geez.  It's like do I really want to mess up what is already in normal range or do I want to say I've tried it all and be at peace?  Been praying a lot for some major sign to open up and answer this question.
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  • @vlagrl29 That’s exactly what OHSS is.  Grrrrr I just need to STOP! And believe in the process!!  As for trying the ferama, that’s a personal decision only you can make. What are the pros and cons?
  • @ndz2018 haven't researched it much but less side effects than clomid. Basically creates more follicles for possibly more than 1 egg release if you already ovulate. I'm not going to think about it too much right now. I'm sure we will still seek consultation to talk it all over with a specialist in Jan.
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  • @vlagrl29 Yeah that’s probably best. I wish they had a test for your egg quality.
  • @vlagrl29 Femara is less potent I guess you could say than Clomid. You don't have as much of a chance of producing too many eggs. I have tried it, only side effects I had was hot flashes and some people say they got headaches but usually you will if don't drink enough water :) That's great news on your bloodwork results!

    @ndz2018 I get it! We did med teach at the RE's office today and they brought up OHSS. Since they are tripling my follistim than with IUI and adding menopur, it made me a little nervous too! Your AMH is high like mine...I tell my husband I was just hoarding eggs for him lol I always wondered about PCOS too because I have no signs of it, usually everything is normal. Have a lot of follicles, but about it that may kind of look like it. 
    TTC #1 since April 2015
    June 2016 - CP
    2017 - Medicated Cycles & IUI's
    IVF w/ PGS  - January 2018
    FET #1 - April 2018 - BFN
    ERA Cycle May / June 2018
    ERA Biopsy June 2018 ~ Results: receptive (no change)
    FET #2 - July 2018 - BFP <3 Beta #1 - 137 Beta #2 - 410
    U/S #1 7wk1d - HB 144 U/S #2 9w1d HB 166
    Anatomy Scan 1st 11/2/18 2nd AS 11/19
    EDD March 28, 2019
    Baby Girl born 3/26/19  <3



  • That fsh and mine is good. I have a good prog as well so I'm pretty confident my eggs are great ha!
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  • Yeah my AMH was 4.17 and FSH was 7.8 I feel Confident with those numbers 
  • WELL if we didn’t have a MFI and I had My septum removed I may consider TTC on our own. I’m going to go with IVF now but over the next 2 years I’m going to have him do as much as possible to increase his count and see if when we are ready for #2 we may be able to do it ourselves and if we can’t and we wind up with some frosties we will always have that option. 
  • yeah do what you feel right in your gut @ndz2018 - If we had any issues at all I would have seen an RE a long time ago.
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  • @vlagrl29 yeah I just said to my husband I don't know where I find the strength to keep doing treatments everytime I say this is it I do another one. I guess bc I don't want to give up the hope that it might happen. He told me you can stop anytime I know how emotionally draining it is for you and this won't change things between us like I won't resent you bc we don't have children and we will look into adoption. I love him so much he's really been supportive thru all this. My progestrone was 22 today Fsh on CD 3 was 5.4 AMH. Glad your AMH came back good!!!!!

    @ndz2018 that's how I felt when my friend told me she was pregnant on her 3rd iui she stared why later than me. Even tho I know how hard it was for her I feel that jealously like why not me. 

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    edited December 2017
    @Labluver2 OMG I adore your H for saying those words to you! He’s sounds amazing! So happy for you!! 

    I feel like I should Be super happy for my bro and SIL( I mean it’s my Brother! I don’t want to feel this way about them but a piece of me is a little jealous). Then a part of me is SOOOO happy for them Bc no one deserve a take home baby more than them  after struggling like that but I guess I just wish it was our turn..  I am REALLY REALLY hoping for a Feb FET. I’ve heard from people they’ve sat out one cycle after their surgery and others 2 cycles. So it’ll be Feb or March. FX I’m a fast healer and we can do Feb. We’ll only be a month or 2 behind them. Pending we get good quality eggs this ER which also makes me a little nervous. Let me tell you the wheels of IVF are slow my friends.
  • yeah I can't imagine @ndz2018 - the entire IVF process

    @labluver2 - glad your H is so supportive.  Mine is too.  He doesn't care if we go to an RE, continue naturally, or stop all together.  I'm almost at that stopping point - maybe another 6 months.  I understand you and not wanting to give up.  For me it would be about just keeping my sanity and enjoying life as it it.  For you it could be going to persue adoption.  Either way I believe god has plans for all of us.
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  • @vlagrl29 - oops! Been away a few days and missed a whole bunch of responses! I have not been diagnosed with infertility, but after trying for 6+ months the first time (when I got pregnant on 7th month and didn't know it, which ended in MC), my OB said we'd need to look into other options than just trying naturally. But after my MC, first one that I knew about, I went kinda crazy and got a bunch of blood work done with a homeopathic doctor that specializes in internal medicine. Well, her comments after the blood work came back were "I don't even know how you're standing in front of me, let alone how you ever got pregnant!" - I had so many issues (but nothing specifically relating to fertility). But once we got everything straightened out and I was given the thumbs up to TTC again, my OB wanted me to try Femara just to give me a boost. I took it for 1 cycle before we started and then the next cycle I got pregnant right away. I was also doing a special diet, on hypothyroid meds + a ton of supplements and doing acupuncture, so a lot more stuff second time around TTC (plus I had lost over 20lbs from the diet). This is when I was 36 and 37.

    So this time TTC for baby #2, I'm 40 and thought I may have been pregnant this summer, but was a super long cycle, then we were concerned about not ovulating, etc., my OB tested my progesterone and it was quite low, so she was concerned and filled a Rx for progesterone but told me not to take it yet. But then we were ready to start TTC this past cycle, so she said she wanted me to do the Femara again, so I did. I didn't have any noticable side effects while taking them (only for 4 days), but during my FW I had really strong cramps. I've been tracking BBT temps and I'm on CD 21 today and got a spike, so we'll see if it worked out!

    I think with our insurance (which is huge deductible up front), it was only $16 or so for the 4 pills.
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    ME: 40, DH: 44, stopped BCPS 1/2013, TTC #1 2/2013, AMH 0.4, started acupuncture: 7/2013,
    BFP: 10/07/2013; MC 10/15/2013 @ 7 wks (natural), focused on health issues for 7 months.
    TTC again: 6/2014, 2nd round Letrozole, BFP 7/7/2014!!! --- EDD 3/18/2015!!! DS born 3/13/2015
  • Snow day here in NJ. Love our little beach cottage! 

  • @mdogan29 - yeah I think its very important to get all health issues checked out esp if they can't diagnose you with IF.  Kinda the reason I went to a naturopath.  I just need a little tweaking.  My vit D is already much better, just gotta raise the t3 and t4 and my white blood cells a little bit and work on my mind in the process.  I'm really healthy - I don't have any weight to loose, I practice yoga often (4 times this week), and I eat well.  I'm wanting to start juices in my diet.  I already try and eat 1 green smoothie a day I make with my nutri bullet.  My OBs don't do femara so I'd have to see an RE for that which is fine.

    @Ndz2018 - nice view!  I'm so looking forward to snow whenever we git it.
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  • ndz2018ndz2018 member
    edited December 2017
    @vlagrl29 It hasn’t snowed too much a few inches. Fires been on since early this morning at like 9am.! Thermostat hit 90 degrees before we had to crack the windows ! 
  • vlagrl29vlagrl29 member
    edited December 2017
    This month is flying by!  I can't believe we are already coming upon FW again for myself.  Already asked DH tonight if he was busy any nights so I couldn't mentally plan it out.  I told him it's about that time again - like to give him a heads up to be ready.  Not so much romantic in that way anymore but I do find sex more enjoyable now that my mind feels more healed than say 6 ish months ago.


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