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July 2018 Moms
SmashJam
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STM+ Check In 11/29
SmashJam
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How far along are you?
How old are your other kids?
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab?
How old are your other kids?
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab?
Re: STM+ Check In 11/29
How far along are you? 5 +6
How old are your other kids? 2.5
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? When your kid is an a-hole in the car/in public, what do you do? For example, mine ocassionally goes through a phase where he will kick and hit me while I am trying to strap him in. Usually its because he doesn't want to be in the carseat so taking him out doesn't work. I often shut the door and take deep breaths and then try again, but all I do is hold down his legs and arms and tell him he's hurting me and we aren't playing, and then try some classic misdirection by talking about people he loves or playing with friends. Or I tell him if he doesn't stop I won't give him his car toys, and then I don't if he doesn't stop.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: He has a lot of words, and there are so many times where I can see him making a connection or making a big step to using them instead of his body to communicate. Yesterday we were playing at a friends house and he was pulling him in the wagon. DS asked for a turn in the wagon instead of hitting or pushing, the other kid GOT OUT and gave him a turn, then asked for a turn and DS got out and pulled him again. Like 3 days ago that would have been a hitting and pushing fiasco. And 3 days from now it probably will be again, lol.
GTKY: *****TW the ashes of DD and my momma, they are in a bag with handles so i am counting as 1 end TW*** 2) the basket of photo albums from my moms house 3)My childhood blanket (This also assumes that DH has his own list).
-How old are the other kids? Just one, a 21 month old.
-Current challenges/concerns about being a stm or questions about things going on now?
My daughter was really sick two weeks ago. Fever of almost 104, coughing and throwing up, only sleeping on me, the works. It's got me exhausted because she has not gotten back to normal. Not drinking and eating great, having trouble getting to sleep or waking in the MOTN. Just not cool. How on earth will I handle this if it happens again with a newborn?
-Current joys/successes or happy thoughts about being a stm?
DD is using sentences right now and it's overwhelmingly adorable. Out of no where when she saw something the other day, she exclaimed "oh, what is that?" We were like ah!!! It was so cool. She s getting so big it makes me cry. She is also trying to feed all her stuffed animals and doll, make them pee, or clean them. It makes me excited for her to have a brother or sister.
Gtky: Assuming my keys and cell phone don't count, I would grab my laptop bag, my daughter's box (with stuff from her being born) and one of her stuffed animals (a giraffe blanket).
@SmashJam his behavior is so a win. I feel you on the cranky little ones. It's so hard, but that sharing is adorable.
How old are your other kids? 9.5 months
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? Thinking about finding some books about becoming a big brother. Any suggestions?
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: I love my son so much and can't wait to have more love in my life.
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab?
6+2
How old are your other kids?
4.5 DS
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
My son has been crying about EVERYTHING. can't get a button on the first try? sobbing. Have to do chores before tv? tears. We tell him all the time to ask for help, that we won't help him if he cries about it, but its rare that happens. He relies a lot on me to do things for him, and I feel he is going to be in for a rude awakening when the new baby comes.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
I was telling DS yesterday he is going to have to start climbing in and out of the truck soon by himself because I won't be able to lift him that high. He asked if it was because of "my baby?" I thought it was so sweet.
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab?
The quilt that my aunt made my son when he was born, the quilt that the same aunt made my DH and I when we got married, and the picture of my dad at 3 years old on the fridge.
** edit: spelling of a word
How far along are you? 6w 4d
How old are your other kids? 9 and 2
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
Not really.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
Idk. I'm happy to be expecting again, it's been a hard road. I can't wait to see my youngest as a big brother. He loves babies and kids. My DD is a great big sister already, so it will be fun to see her with 2 siblings.
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab?
All my pictures, the quilt my granny made me, and our portable safe
@SmashJam that sharing is too sweet! My sons still in the "no!" stage, including kids at the park using his favorite train jungle gym
How old are your other kids? DD is 3.5yo, DS is 21 months old
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? My DS needs some speech therapy I think. I keep going back and forth between waiting for his 2yr appt or asking for an appt sooner. He babbles a lot, but seems to have trouble forming certain sounds or repeating some words. He can say more now than he did 6 months ago, but it's still very hard to know what he wants sometimes because he just babbles nonsense. I am pretty sure he can hear just fine.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: TTM...so I am looking forward to one last chance at a drug-free birth, to newborn snuggles again and hopefully my DD won't be sick this time and can come to the hospital to meet the baby there. Also happy that I will still be able to go back to work after my maternity leave is up. My husband gets 12 weeks of parent leave and will take it after my leave is up so baby won't have to go to daycare until she/he's 6 months old, and I don't have to request more time than I get otherwise. It'll be interesting with him as mr.mom for a while. He's a great dad so he's looking forward to it.
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab? My husband's most expensive guitar, our personal documents, and my baby carrier? haha
9w2d
How old are your other kids?
dd is 16 months
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
she js just so busy it can be hard to keep her out of everything these days
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
I love being a mom and really excited for dd to have a companion to play with as well
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab?
my phone, my laptop for my pictures, my favorite blanket
7+3?
How old are your other kids?
19 months
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
DS is too little to understand what’s going on but i hope he will be excited once I’m bigger. Also trying to figure out daycare.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
Giving DS a sibling because all of our family and friends are in another state.
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab?
Family photo, phone, and DS fav blanket (we have a fire proof safe for our important docs so i would be trusting on that).
8+2
How old are your other kids?
He’s 21 months- will be 2 in February.
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
Actually yeah, I’m having g a hard time getting my usually amazing sleeper to go to bed. He sleeps in a converted toddler bed in his own room with a projector thingy and ALWAYS has. Nothing is changed. The past few nights he lays down fine but flips when I go to walk out of his room and he wants his light on. This is something totally new and my husband teases and says he’s afraid of the ghosts on his room- which scares me and I don’t like. Is this just a phase? This too shall pass?
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
-I’m excited to give my son a playmate.
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab?
-Photo album, my sons momentous box, and the brand new jar of pickles in the cupboard I just bought.
6 weeks today
How old are your other kids?
My son turned 2 in August
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
I am pretty freaked out at the prospect of caring for 2 little ones. The other night my husband and I were struggling to get DS to bed and get the kitchen cleaned up, etc. and we were both like how the f*** do we do this with 2 kids. I'm sure we will adjust, but it is overwhelming to think about. We both work full time, so the evenings are just so jam packed.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
I can't wait to see DS as a big brother. He loves babies and I think he will love having a sibling.
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab?
DS's baby book, DS's toy cat (lol), and my PhD diploma
I have three boys, ages 9, 6, and 3
I think my biggest concern weighing on my heart about going from 3 to 4 kids is with my oldest. He’s 9 and will always be my baby, but he’s at that age where he’s about to completely lose all of his “babyness” and become an independent man child. Lol. I’m just scared to be in the stage again where all my attention is devoted to a baby and the big boys sort of get pushed aside. I don’t want to lose him. We’re very close and I’m afraid another baby will completely box him out.
I’m joyful for another baby because I know they’re a blessing, but still having trouble letting fear steal my joy because this pregnancy wasn’t planned.
If if there was a fire, I’d grab pictures albums, that thing that my computer’s backed up on (what’s the word? pregnancy brain) and maybe some of the kids artwork??
How old are your other kids? 2.5y
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? Nope
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: I’m just really excited to be pregnant!
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab? My phone and both blankets from DDs bed (a quilt made by my great grandmother and a crochet baby blanket by my mom).
How old are your other kids? DD just turned 2
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? Not really. I was actually feeling guilty for non having the same mom guilt that others were expressing in the other STM thread. While I'll definitely go out of my way to make sure DD feels very special once little one is here I think this new baby will be great for the family.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: I'm just excited about DD having a sibling and about having 2 kiddos.
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab? I'm not too sentimental and all my photos are backed up so IDK, realistically I'd probably just panic, grad by phone and run away.
How far along are you? 6w3d
How old are your other kids? 5yo DD
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? My DD is finely in a more self sufficient stage. Going back to giving complete care is terrifying and exhausting just thinking about it. I have a demanding job and am not sure how I made it with my DD other than just younger and pure adrenaline.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
I can't wait to see my DD as a big sister. She's going to be a great big sister. She's a very nurturing personality.
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab? Hmm all my pictures are digital now. I really don't have much that is irreplaceable. I guess my jewelry box, my DD's bear, and our wedding book.
9w2d
How old are your other kids?
son is 7.5, daughter is 4.5
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
I'm just nervous because my son has ADHD and struggles so much (behaviorally) at school. He always needs me. Not sure how this is going throw a wrench in to things.
Nervous. I'm old. I'm out of the baby stage. I have no baby items left. We are not baby proofed at all. I'm not all that excited about starting over. oy.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
I know my family is going to be excited!
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab?
Engagement/wedding ring (I take mine off at night), kids' Christening gowns, grandmom's jewelry (sentimental value)
Married: 6/27/2008
DS: 3/14/2010 Planned, PG first try
M/C 6/2012
DD: 4/22/2013 Planned, UnDx Infertility, PG on our own
BFP: 10/28/2016 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE!
M/C 12/12/2016
BFP: 10/27/2017 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE
EDD: 7/2/2018
7+6
How old are your other kids?
Boys are 4, 2.5
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
We will need a new car once #3 comes along, so trying to figure out what will work best for us. We're also already outgrowing our first home after 8 yrs and, although we can make it work for awhile when baby arrives, we are keeping our eyes peeled for a larger one.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
DS1 is making good strides in Pre-K and I love how excited he is about going to school. DS2's language has really taken off and it's (usually) so sweet to hear what that little mind is thinking.
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab?
In real life, I think I would just panic and leave everything. If I were smart, I would bring my phone, important docs and wallet so I don't have to worry about calling everyone to replace things.
How old are your other kids? 15 & 2
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? Just the normal challenges of being pregnant and chasing after a toddler and dealing with all the fun of the teenage years, oh and we got a puppy in August.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: Just excited to have 2 closer in age (12 years is quite an age gap....but we have a built in babysitter! Winning!)
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab? My cell phone, our framed vows, my car keys
How old are your other kids? 7
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? I don’t really have any. My DD is old enough that my experience won’t be typical of STMs with multiple young children. Though I’m a little daunted at the idea of “starting over” since we’ve been diaper free for four years!! Lol
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: I’m just glad my kid won’t be an only child. She was the only grandkid on both sides for six years and, despite our best efforts, has definitely been spoiled. I’m glad some of that love gets to be spread around!
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab? My bible, phone, and childhood teddy bear.
@paytonpedro, not that this helps you now, but our typically amazing sleeper DD hit a bad patch several months ago and just wasn't going to sleep as easily. She was always scared. Our solution was to bunk her and DS together in the same room so they have each other and she stopped being scared. It's helped a ton. Now she still climbs into our bed some nights, but at least she goes to bed fine. And DS is adorable because he goes into his crib first, but he waits up for big sister to get into her bed before he settles down to sleep.
@Duckie678 thanks for that resource. You sound so calm! I try and keep the "this too shall pass" mantra because it seems so few things last more than a few weeks, but it can be hard!
How old are your other kids? DD is 3.5, DS is 2 in January.
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? My current challenge is having the energy to play with my kids after work. I'm also concerned because our DD is stubborn with potty training and I don't want 3 in diapers this summer!!
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: I worried going from 1 kid to 2 but they love each other so much that I am excited for them to get another sibling. I know they will love it and will adjust great! I'm keeping their excitement as my main focus to try and not worry about everything else.
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab? Our family records folder, the kids favorite toys/blankets (God knows they will need something to keep them calm!) and my laptop with all our family photos on it.
If you ever want to vent/rant about sleep issues, or just generic ranting feel free to PM me!
@zg49 i hear you on the potty training. I have left potty training and transition out of crib and now i'm facing down those AND a new sibling before September (preschool). DS is not having potty training-just today we tried no pants and he was almost in tears he said, "But no. I need a diaper!" It was after nap so I need to try again early on and just not leave the house.
How old are your other kids? 1 yr
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? Current challenge is just having enough energy to keep up with DS.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: I am happy we were able to get pregnant in the timeframe I wanted... although I know it will come with its own challenges, I wanted our two kiddos to be 18-24 months apart. They will be 20 months. My brother and I were 18 months apart and we have both always loved it.
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab? Hm, interesting. Our safe, photo albums, and something for DS - quilts?
Lab Mom (x2): Sept/Oct 2014
Married: August 2015
DS: Nov 2016 (36w)
Baby H #2: July2018 (Team Pink!)
6 weeks
How old are your other kids?
DD will be 2 in March.
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
DH works out of town pretty frequently and I am currently losing my mind with DD. I'm wondering how in the world I'm going to have patience for her plus an infant. I feel so nervous and unprepared to be a mom of two.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
Even though I'm nervous I'm still really excited. My brother and I are 5 years apart and not very close. I always wish I had a sibling closer in age so I'm glad DD will have that.
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab?
pictures mostly
edit: words
8 weeks tomorrow
How old are your other kids?
4, July 2013 baby
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
I worry about how he’s going to handle having to share me after almost 5 years of being an only child. He still loves to snuggle and hug as much as he can so I hope I can give him the attention he needs.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
I’m so excited to see how my son will be as a big brother.
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab?
photo albums, my son’s baby book, and box of letters and mementos from my mom
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
7+2
How old are your other kids?
DD is 6, DS is 14 months
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
Our transition from one to two was fairly painless, mostly due to the age gap, I’m sure. DD was super helpful and excited. This little peanut was not planned and I’m struggling with all of the things. Lol. I think my biggest internal challenge right now is cutting DS’ babyhood short and caring for two so close in age. I have no doubt we’ll be ok, I just wasn’t mentally ready yet.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
DD is just an awesome big sister. She’s helpful, caring, and genuinely loves her little brother. We haven’t told her we’re expecting yet but I know she’ll be excited (and wishing for a sister).
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab?
My laptop, my camera, and DS’ newborn things. DD’s are in our fireproof safe, his just haven’t made it there yet. Second kid probs?
7 weeks today!
How old are your other kids?
4 and 3
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
I am worried about my 3 year old. She is very attached to me and gets jealous when I hold other kids. I am working on more independence with her right now.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
I am really excited about having another baby. I miss having a new born!
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab?
Laptop, cell phone, scrapbooks.
Thanks everyone one for your responses!!!
We did have a talk before i left the room about his screaming and how i was right outside going to bed too and that everything would be ok and he boo-hoo'd a little but no crazy yelling and screaming like he has recently!
The two things that turned it around for us were a small potty (I had started with just a potty seat on the regular toilet because our bathrooms are tiny and I didn’t want something extra in there) and the right reward (stickers for us. She gave not one crap about the m&ms I started with. Literally no craps.).
Good luck to you!
@lindsayleigh1989 Thank you! Other than waking up once around 5 and turning his light back on and being up early he slept okay!! Fell right to sleep!
7+6
How old are your other kids?
14 months
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
My son is killing my nipples. They're blanched and white when he's done nursing, and he's scraping me with his teeth. I know he's hardcore teething but I don't know how much longer I can go on. I snuck out of the house and left for work before he woke up, partly because I couldn't handle the thought of sitting through our morning nursing session, and now I feel like a bad mom. (I really did have to leave early to make it in time for a phone hearing, but I probably could have waited a little more for him to wake up).
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
I'm just super excited to see my son as a big brother. I got him a baby doll for Christmas and anxious to see if he has any interest in it.
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab?
One of my grandpa's paintings, an old family photo album, and our wedding book.
How old are your other kids? DS turned 2 last month
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? like others, potty training is on my mind. I would definitely prefer to have him out of diapers before #2 comes, but I also don't want to be dealing with accidents and emergency bathroom runs with a newborn attached to my boob so the convenience of keeping him in diapers is also appealing.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: DS is so much fun and has such an entertaining personality, I can't wait to see what #2 is like and how they will interact.
GTKY: There is a fire in your house and you can only save three things. All the living things are safe. What do you grab? I actually have some real life practice at this. We had a bad wildfire in our area last month. I was at work when it broke out and DH Went home to grab some things and was able to get out as the police were shutting down the streets to our neighborhood. He grabbed some clothes and our passports, certs, etc. In hindsight I should have had him grab the shadow boxes my mom made for our wedding and DS birth. The other things I would want to save are too big to pack up, like our dining table my dad made us and an antique dresser thats been in my family forever. Luckily our neighborhood was spared but it really got us thinking about a plan of action since wildfires are common in California.