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June 2018 Moms
TravelingCouple
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PgAIF (Pregnant after Infertility) Check-in w/o 11/2/17
TravelingCouple
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I haven't seen this thread started yet but I know I could use the support and thought others could too. I didn't have an example to jump off of so let me know if you have suggestions on weekly check-in questions to add here...
How many weeks/EDD?
How long were you TTC (if you'd like to share)?
Did you seek treatment during your time TTC? Share any parts of your journey you'd like to:
How are you feeling?
GTKY: If you could go back in time and tell the you from one year ago today one thing, what would it be?
How many weeks/EDD?
How long were you TTC (if you'd like to share)?
Did you seek treatment during your time TTC? Share any parts of your journey you'd like to:
How are you feeling?
GTKY: If you could go back in time and tell the you from one year ago today one thing, what would it be?
Re: PgAIF (Pregnant after Infertility) Check-in w/o 11/2/17
How long were you TTC (if you'd like to share)? I got my BFP on cycle 22, just under 2 years of trying
Did you seek treatment during your time TTC? Share any parts of your journey you'd like to: We went to an RE a little after a year of trying unsuccessfully. After a full panel on both of us he discovered MH had 14% motility and recommended we jump straight to IVF. This was very difficult for me to adjust to so when MH wanted to wait and get a repeat SA in a few months I was good with it (I'm 32 and didn't feel any need to rush). But then I developed a cyst that ended up needing to be laparoscopically removed, and during the surgery it was discovered I had stage 3 (of 4) endometriosis. This was an extra bummer. So I was basically moping for awhile and then two months after the surgery I got my BFP and my mind has been spinning ever since.
How are you feeling? Very nervous. I haven't personally experienced a loss but I've been on this board long enough to know how common it is. I'm excited and overwhelmed and thinking about it nonstop. I feel better since the first ultrasound showed a baby in there, but I'm anticipating feeling much more confident after the second ultrasound confirming growth.
GTKY: If you could go back in time and tell the you from one year ago today one thing, what would it be? That it would take 2 years to get pregnant. It would have saved me much heartache. I wish future me could come back and tell me that this pregnancy will be fine.
Me: 32 | DH: 36
Married June 2005
1/2016 - TTC#1
4/2017 - Initial RE visit, Dx: Severe MFI (Varicocele, 14% motility, 3% progression, but normal count)
7/2017 - Stage 3 endometriosis discovered during laparoscopic removal of ovarian cyst
9/27/2017 - BFP at 10dpo (cycle 22), baby boy due June 9, 2018
How many weeks/EDD? 7 weeks + 2 days/ June 19th
How long were you TTC (if you'd like to share)? 23 months/21 cycles
Did you seek treatment during your time TTC? Share any parts of your journey you'd like to: We tried on our own for nearly a year before going to an RE. I really thought it had to do with still BFing DS. But after he weaned and month after month still passed, I figured we'd see if anything was going on. It took me a few months after the initial consult with the RE to build up the nerve to do all of the testing. The end result was: unexplained secondary IF. They couldn't tell us why it wasn't happening. They gave us the stats on IUI and IVF and with everything completely OOP for us, we decided to go for a few IUIs. We first tried just progesterone supplimentation, then 2 cycles of Femara, and finally 2 IUIs that were both unsuccessful. I did not anticipate how intense my side effects would be on the injectibles for the IUIs and decided after the 2nd one that I couldn't handle another. We looked into adopting for quite a while, but every door there seemed to slam in our face. So we just decided to focus on moving into our new house we had just bought and figure out what to do next in a few months. In the meantime I decided to try Vitex under the care of my acupuncturist and try to stabilize my hormones. It seemed to do the trick and I got the huge shock of my BFP.
How are you feeling? The fact that I'm pregnant has finally sunk in and it is feeling real. Like @RatParade, the fear of loss is definitely there. I'm still checking for blood every time I go to the bathroom. My anxiety lessened a lot when we saw the heartbeat at 6 weeks, it's just really hard to stay in a place of peace. I feel like there was such a buildup to this moment, and now that it's here there's so much pressure. Focusing on each day as an individual is definitely helping and I am so, so grateful that this day actually came for us. It just doesn't feel like I'm on the other side of infertility.. if that makes sense.
GTKY: If you could go back in time and tell the you from one year ago today one thing, what would it be? That the day I spend hours every day wondering if it will ever come...will come. And to try and give a little more grace to those around me who are trying to help and be there, but sometimes say rude things inadvertently.
@TravelingCouple It's really great to see you here too
I definitely remember you from those early TTGP days. What you said about not feeling like being on the other side of infertility yet is spot on! I always imagined what my reaction would be finally getting a positive test, but reality was much different. MH and I just sort of looked at it and said we'd test again tomorrow, like neither one of us really believed it. It also took me a few months after my initial RE visit to work up the nerve to actually test. Funny how hard it is to be at a place to finally find answers but how hard it is to do when those answers could potentially change your life!
Just a heads up, and I know everyone is different, but when I hit ~8 weeks I got a big wave of negative emotions that took over for a couple days. I'm assuming it was a hormone fluctuation because it's mostly gone now, but it really knocked the wind out of my sails. But if that happens to you, pretend this is future you coming to tell you it will go away
Me: 32 | DH: 36
Married June 2005
1/2016 - TTC#1
4/2017 - Initial RE visit, Dx: Severe MFI (Varicocele, 14% motility, 3% progression, but normal count)
7/2017 - Stage 3 endometriosis discovered during laparoscopic removal of ovarian cyst
9/27/2017 - BFP at 10dpo (cycle 22), baby boy due June 9, 2018
How long were you TTC (if you'd like to share)? 4 years.
Did you seek treatment during your time TTC? Share any parts of your journey you'd like to: PCOS and unexplained fertility. We did 7 IUI’s and then moved onto IVF. We got 8 embryos to freeze and implanted a PGS normal boy and it took thankfully.
How are you feeling? I feel pretty miserable. Nausea is a legit all day experience and it’s bad. Pretty tired too.
GTKY: If you could go back in time and tell the you from one year ago today one thing, what would it be? Just start IVF. Quit wasting time. I suppose that would be it.
Thanks for the heads up on 8 weeks! I'm sure each week brings new emotions of relief for making it that far and feeling unsure of the unknown.
@Holls214 I'm so happy for you guys that your transfer worked and you have a baby boy growing in there! That's great you got so many to freeze for future transfers too
2. 3 years
3. We tried on our own for 1 year, and just knew something was wrong. Got referred to a fertility clinic. We were told DH had an exteremily low sperm count and would be unable to produce a healthy, viable pregnancy. Looked into adoption & sperm donors and decided to use a sperm donor. DD was conceived first round. We had two natural pregnancies this year, to our shock, but both ended in loss. Our current babe was conceived using the same sperm donor as DD.
4. We saw our babe's heartbeat yesterday and that has eased a lot of fear & anxiety! I feel like I can finally allow myself to enjoy this pregnancy & look forward to what's to come!
5. You're going to endure a lot of hope, and a lot of pain, but you can handle all of it. You are stronger than you think, and God has a beautiful plan for you at the end of the tunnel.
How many weeks/EDD? 9+0 due 6/7
How long were you TTC (if you'd like to share)? I got my BFP on my 21st cycle, so also almost 2 years
Did you seek treatment during your time TTC? Share any parts of your journey you'd like to: After a year of trying, I made an appointment with an RE. Lots of tests came back with nothing conclusive so it just seemed to be unexplained infertility. I was worried about both my and DH's weight, but was assured that since I had a regular cycle, it had no effect. Well, both DH and I lost about 30 lbs each and then I got a BFP.. probably coincidental but it feels like something.
How are you feeling? Not as good as I thought I would feel. I'll be honest, infertility got me pretty down. I struggled with depression all of last year because of it and I still feel like this is a joke, even though we heard the heartbeat at our last appt. We had both kind of resigned ourselves to not being able to have kids when this happened, so it's a pretty big shock to the system. Hopefully it wears off soon.
GTKY: If you could go back in time and tell the you from one year ago today one thing, what would it be? Stop moping! The stick will turn positive eventually and just keep living your life until it does.
Married August 2015
DS born 5/23/2018
TTC #2 July 2020
@Amphibious22 I totally get so many of your feelings. IF affected me so much too, it affected everything.. Our marriage, other relationships, it's really isolating. It is definitely a shock to the system now. After we saw the heartbeat I said to DH "wow I forgot what it felt like to be this happy. I really am I happy, positive person...I forgot what's it like not to have this cloud over me."
How long were you TTC (if you'd like to share)? We started trying 5 years ago and have had 3 losses along the way.
Did you seek treatment during your time TTC? Share any parts of your journey you'd like to:
I have a lifetime of issues with fibroids and endometriosis and I’m turning 40 this month. We are not really sure if the female problems are directly related to my infertility, but I’ve seen lots of doctors about it. I’ve had 7 surgeries to remove fibroids with 2 if them being C section style surgeries. After 2 rounds of IUI and several courses of injections and other drugs a few years ago, our doctor told us we were not good candidates for IVF. I got a second opinion and they wanted to operate on me first. After spending a year thinking about it I went through one final major surgery and had 30 fibroids removed. After that we decided it was too much on us emotionally and physically to pursue IVF. So, we changed our family plans all together and became foster parents. So two beautiful little girls joined our family last year. It has been such a special year to become parents, participate in family activities and to help these girls reach their potential. Somehow it also looks like we may also be adopting our girls in the next year. So, after all that you can imagine my surprise when I got a positive!
How are you feeling?
The shock can’t even be described. I just heard the heartbeat yesterday and don’t know if my doctor is more excited or me. Obviously I’m still super nervous and scared, and think I have a ways to go before I really feel comfortable with it all. Regardless though, I’m trying to stay positive and enjoy all the nausea!
GTKY: If you could go back in time and tell the you from one year ago today one thing, what would it be?
If you are still reading after all this I would say, try not to control everything so much. Accept the opportunities right in front of you and trust that things have a way of working out.
Heres a picture of our gummy bear or my sister said sour patch kid.
@Holls214 omg what an adorable gummy bear! Are you guessing boy? I live in NE USA and I'm cold all the time, my feet never warm up!
@bkrahn I'm also torn, not with sharing online yet, but sharing with those close to us in person. We told immediate family and closest friends so far, but most people know our journey too since almost everyone at some point asked when we were having more and I got tired of skirting around it. It was more fun to see them wish they hadn't asked when I explained how long we'd been trying. But anyway, so many people have been asking me how I'm doing and our church community continues to say "we're praying for you guys" and here I'm thinking "yeah I'm ktfu..." But not ready to tell everyone yet. Maybe after the new year I'm thinking.
@holls214 I feel really cold all the time too, for the last month probably. I live in the CA valley so I have no excuse haha. But I'm always bundled up and looking for something hot to hold. Also that is a super adorable baby pic!
I'm not planning on posting on social media for a little while, but I'm planning on telling people in person that we're expecting after our next ultrasound on the 21st. I'll be between 11 and 12 weeks and as long as all looks good I don't see a reason to wait any longer. I've read that the risk of miscarriage goes down to like 1% at that point.
I feel like once it's public knowledge this will all feel more real and I'm really looking forward to that!
Me: 32 | DH: 36
Married June 2005
1/2016 - TTC#1
4/2017 - Initial RE visit, Dx: Severe MFI (Varicocele, 14% motility, 3% progression, but normal count)
7/2017 - Stage 3 endometriosis discovered during laparoscopic removal of ovarian cyst
9/27/2017 - BFP at 10dpo (cycle 22), baby boy due June 9, 2018
@RatParade I think that’s our plan too. We have our ultrasound the next day. I wish I was in CA. A little warmer than Oregon but would probably still be cold haha. Me too!
i totally get what you mean.. I always go into our appts expecting the worse, because it still just doesn't feel like this is actually happening for us now. Hearing baby's heartbeat tomorrow will be a final milestone for us, and today I just feel sick to my stomach with fear and worry.
I have a cold now which is horrible and haven’t taken any meds for it except Tylenol. Being sick while pregnant sucks. Hopefully you ladies are feeling good!!!
GL on all appts tomorrow, let us know how it goes!
My next appt is Dec 4 for the NT scan
Cant wait to hear how everything went!
AFM, appt today went well! Heard baby's heartbeat for the first time
So happy for all the positive updates!! I don't have my next appt until Dec 4