@enigmaticjj Yes!! I hate the whole post dinner the guy said just keep hanging out and the women are supposed to go clean up thing. To be fair, I have some very warm memories of cleanup time after family dinners with my grandma and aunts and mom but it seems still total BS. I'm sure they would have loved to have been sitting on their butts after a long daub of busting them to make the meal.
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@heatherdubrow that's what it looks like to me too, or crib bumpers you wrap around your baby... My sister was a premie(28 weeks) and she had something like this kind of (but it was made out of lambs wool type stuff) to help her sleep since she still should have been in utero. Maybe the same concept?
@kiki75 I completely agree and would really love to teach my kids to help after a dinner regardless of their gender. I help after every meal, no matter who's house it is, because it's polite. But, over the years I have definitely gave my H the eye to help me. He now avoids my looks.
When it comes to baby sleep, I never say never. I never thought we would rock n play for sleep, and I never thought I'd sleep train (later on), but that's life at our house!
I agree though, I don't understand how the dockatot is safe either, but people swear by it.
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When it comes to baby sleep, I never say never. I never thought we would rock n play for sleep, and I never thought I'd sleep train (later on), but that's life at our house!
I agree though, I don't understand how the dockatot is safe either, but people swear by it.
My son slept in a rnp for 6 months due to horrible reflux, as well
It looks way too easy for a baby to roll and put their face into the side of the DAT, though. He had rolled blankets tucked around him during his nicu stay, but as soon as he was released I took them away. He was an awful sleeper but I wasn’t comfortable with the set up
@Gingermom15 I'm so with you on that one. DAT is not safe - even the company states in a few places that it shouldn't be placed in the parents bed, shouldn't be placed in a crib, and a baby shouldn't be left in it without direct supervision (aka when the parent is sleeping). So people are pretty much using it how it shouldn't be used.
This is a partial UO, partial vent, but I'm putting it here even though it's Friday. I don't know how to deal with people who ask for an honest opinion but don't actually mean it. I take what people say and ask for at face value, and am super honest/often very blunt and to the point with people. Not everyone likes it, however I assume when someone asks that we're good and that they're ready for a "real" answer, even if it's not what they want to hear. But I feel like a lot of the time I was supposed to instinctively know that that isn't what the person wanted even though they asked for it directly. And then I end up feeling like a shitty person for being honest because I don't have the instinct they think I should have, and I don't pick up on the fact that they didn't want an honest answer. It just makes me want to withdraw and stop interacting with people. Like, if you want everyone to make you feel better or more secure about a decision you've already made or a position you've already adopted, why not just say that? I don't think there's a problem with asking for that, if that's what you actually want. Then you'll get the answers you're actually looking for, and no one will walk away feeling bad for telling you the truth.
@vflux33 maybe an UO, but I have come to the conclusion that most people really don't want the truth. That's been a hard reality for me to grasp over the years, because I feel like without truth you can't be objective, and I want to live an authentic life even if it gets messy at times. But, it's reality and I need to adapt and get over it better.
@DDRRT1982@cdford08 Yeah, I think you're both right. I guess I've been a bit spoiled in that the people closest to me in my life really do want the truth, so I get used to telling it how it is, and then inevitably wind up in situations where I miss the secret memo where everyone decided to lie for a perceived-- usually short-lived and superficial-- benefit just because no one wanted to actually have the conversation/debate/dialogue that they said they were having.
@vflux33 To piggyback, I now find it cumbersome to get a real opinion from people bc they feel people don't actually want a real opinion! I now ask for a friend's opinion and say something like, "I came to you bc I value your judgement. Please tell me what you really think, regardless of whether you think it's what I want to hear or not."
@DDRRT1982 LOVE that you said "an authentic life"!!!!
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I know it’s Friday, this has been sitting as a draft since yesterday because I’m bad with internets
My sister was a premie(28 weeks) and she had something like this kind of (but it was made out of lambs wool type stuff) to help her sleep since she still should have been in utero. Maybe the same concept?
I agree though, I don't understand how the dockatot is safe either, but people swear by it.
It looks way too easy for a baby to roll and put their face into the side of the DAT, though. He had rolled blankets tucked around him during his nicu stay, but as soon as he was released I took them away. He was an awful sleeper but I wasn’t comfortable with the set up
EDD March 12, 2018
@DDRRT1982 LOVE that you said "an authentic life"!!!!