FTM Check-In 11/14

izza2 · November 2017

How are things going?

Appointments upcoming/recent?

Questions for other FTMs, or STM+?

GTKY: What's your biggest concern for once you bring baby home?

doxiemoxie212 · November 2017

How are things going? Pretty good. Almost in the second tri. Really anxious to get my mat21 results and NT scan done.

Appointments upcoming/recent? I should have my mat21 results by Friday, and I'm having my NT scan with the lab tech next Wednesday (so TBD if they tell us anything from it or if we have to wait to see my OB the following week).

Questions for other FTMs, or STM+? Nah

GTKY: What's your biggest concern for once you bring baby home? Space. Right now we live in a 2 bedroom / 1 bathroom apartment in NYC, and while our apt is fairly large by NYC standards, it is not by any other standard. It just seems so inconceivable that we're going to be able to not murder one another after a few months of no sleep and lots of stuff everywhere. Plus, DH is freaking out at the idea that I want to buy more storage solutions because "we're moving at some point" BUT WHEN WHEN WHEN lol.

izza2 · November 2017

@doxiemoxie212 - I can't believe you're almost in second tri! I feel like the past two months have flown by so quick! I'm team storage solutions, by the way. I mean, it'll only help you with the move transition anyway, right? Everything will be nicely organized and stuff....

How are things going? Good. Phenergan wasn't working for nausea and vomiting, so I'm trying Zofran. So far, things are going okay. They gave me a 10 day supply and put on the bottle to take it for 2 days... so I'll be calling later today or tomorrow just for clarification because that's weird. It's supposed to last 8 hours, which would mean less pill popping in the middle of the day.
I'm home with DSS today because he apparently had a fever and headache at school. His temp was fine when I got him home (98.9), and he's been acting totally normal, so I'm a little irked that I'm missing class today and clinical tomorrow for what seems to be a crappy thermometer (they've done this before; said he's had a fever and the school-based health center took it and it was normal) and good acting. *sigh*

Appointments upcoming/recent? Next appt is next Tuesday! Kind of hoping they order another ultrasound. I'm obsessed with wanting to see LO now!

Questions for other FTMs, or STM+? Nope.

GTKY: What's your biggest concern for once you bring baby home? Disruption to DSS's schedule, taking care of two kids and two dogs while H works FT, that kind of stuff.

doxiemoxie212 · November 2017

@izza2 I used to try to drink hot tea or something before anyone took my temperature to fake a fever lol.

Also, I don't want like, bins necessary. I want like storage furniture. I want this cabinet thing I've wanted for ages because it's the only thing that will fit in this one particular spot and it matches our decor perfectly AND IT IS ON SALE RIGHT NOW but DH is like, but we're moving, we don't need this, bla bla bla. When are you done with nursing school, btw? Is it the end of this year or is it like May/June next year?

galactickates · November 2017

How are things going?
I think they're going pretty well. I'm just going to be stressed until my first appointment. I read my first pregnancy book last night. It was a week by week breakdown. DH was shocked I read the whole thing. It was a pretty thick book.

Appointments upcoming/recent?
11/20
Questions for other FTMs, or STM+?

GTKY: What's your biggest concern for once you bring baby home?
my biggest concern is how our dogs will react. I'm worried they will have a hard time. I'm also hoping they figure it out quickly and I'm just being worried for no reason. I've been given suggestions and read a ton about introducing pets to babies so hopefully it's ok.

doxiemoxie212 · November 2017

@galactickates do your dogs generally like kids when they see them out and about? My dachshund LOVES strollers (TBD if she likes babies or just really likes strollers lol), but she's hit or miss with kids in the 3-5 year range based on how quickly they move toward her - and lord help anyone who touches her tail.

I once had this little boy run up to her when we were in Sephora (I think he was a tourist from Spain with his mom and she wasn't paying attention) and he just starts sort of aggressively petting my dog. So I got down on the floor with him and was like, gentle gentle, etc. Then he stood up, lifted his shirt to reveal a bunch of scratches and bite marks, and exclaims, "A dog bit me yesterday but it doesn't scare me!!" I was like oh good lord, pls gtfo lol.

krash_ · November 2017

@doxiemoxie212 I say go for storage unit. You can always sell it before you move. I love anything that I can hide clutter in. My home is just one big thing filled with things to hold other things. I also want a storage ottoman for the nursery.

@izza2 sorry you're stuck at home with your SS. I hope you get some relief with the Zofran.

@galactickates I am also mostly concerned about our animals. Our dog has been around babies before but she is really hit or miss. She has anxiety and will eat things like blankets, bedding, and walls if she gets too stressed out. At least I will be home with her and the baby to hopefully keep an eye on her signals.

How are things going? good! My boobs are huge and I have a feeling I will need to get new bras soon. I asked my mom for comfy bralettes for Christmas. I felt like crap yesterday so I'm hoping that my luck with no MS hasn't run out now that I'm 9wks.

Appointments upcoming/recent? First prenatal last Thursday was good. The NP was a little weird but that's ok I wont be seeing her for every appointment. Had a dating scan on Friday and still waiting to hear back for an official due date. Next appointment is 12/8

Questions for other FTMs, or STM+? NATM

GTKY: What's your biggest concern for once you bring baby home? Pretty much everything. As noted above the animals for one. Second and probably a bigger concern is sleeping. I want to be able to put baby in it's crib right away. We don't have a lot of room in our master to have a bassinet next to the bed and I don't think co-sleeping is right for us. Aside from my concerns about safety, the cat also sleeps with us at night and I think that would be a hard habit to break because he's a cat and DGAF. We are also really tall people that take up a lot of room and we only have a queen size bed because our master isn't big enough for a bigger bed. I am concerned that we are going to bring baby home with the plan of putting them in their crib and all hell will break lose and they will have colic or reflux and I will have to come up with something else. I don't want to sound judgy but I also think the bedroom is for the two of us. I don't want to have to plan being intimate around where the baby is sleeping.

galactickates · November 2017

@doxiemoxie212 - lol wow what a story haha what a weird little kid. My doxies are both extremely barky. They don't bite though. They will run out our dog door and literally bark from the deck and at people they have met before. Stranger danger is level 14 with them. I'm sure it will be a bark fest when we bring baby home, but hopefully once they realize this little person is permanent they will chill out. They usually do after awhile. I'm going to play baby crying sounds for them so they get used to it and bring home baby's hat so they can sniff. I read to let your pets smell everything that comes into the house.

doxiemoxie212 · November 2017

@galactickates hahaha oh yes, the dachshund bark is no joke. My dog really only barks until the person pets her, which is more problematic with strangers who are walking by the house because obv they're not going to come pet her, but I'm hoping that maybe I can just like, move the baby's hand to her, and she'll be like, oh yes, another minion who will pet me.

@krashke the sleep thing freaks me out because I don't sleep well at all - it's always really hard for me to fall asleep, but once I'm asleep I never want to wake up, and I can't drink caffeine (makes me feel anxious AF and nutty). I'm so so so nervous about how I'm going to handle sleep deprivation. I just get so mean and impatient when I'm overtired! Just an FYI - which you might already know - the AAP recommends baby sleep in parents bedroom until 6 months now. I wouldn't have known that as a FTM mom except I used to do PR for baby care companies so we'd have to keep up to date on the AAP guideline revisions. No idea why they changed the reco or how important it is to follow - obv do what works best for your family. Baby is rooming with us just because we only have two bedrooms, and I want our second bedroom to be a guest room for my mom to be able to stay with us and help out, so, moot point for us. (Doubt DH is going to get laid much if at all in baby's first 6 months anyway, lol lol if I'm being completely honest.) But if we had more space, I'm not sure I'd go that route just because my mom let me sleep in her bed with her until I was - no joke - 11-years-old. I'm sure it started as like oh this is easier at first, and then she just never wanted to deal with the transition because I'd fight it, and she was tired. But not great!

ETA: ah, I googled to find out if they list the reason for the room sharing. More info here, summary below: https://www.aap.org/en-us/about-the-aap/aap-press-room/pages/american-academy-of-pediatrics-announces-new-safe-sleep-recommendations-to-protect-against-sids.aspx

"Share a bedroom with parents, but not the same sleeping surface, preferably until the baby turns 1 but at least for the first six months. Room-sharing decreases the risk of SIDS by as much as 50 percent."

Yikes, a year?

pewpewpewme · November 2017

How are things going? Stressed. Exhausted. All that fun stuff. Will be in the 2nd tri next week for our trip back to the east coast for Thanksgiving where I get to meet all of BF's family and tell them all at once about the pregnancy...oh...yay. Hopefully my nausea will ease up a bit because 700+ miles in the car sounds awful.

Appointments upcoming/recent? First appointment with the OB Dec 4th.

Questions for other FTMs, or STM+? I'm sure I'll have some in the 2nd tri lol.

GTKY: What's your biggest concern for once you bring baby home? Small space, plus baby, plus dog with medical needs. I'm alone out here and my Mom passed away and she's the one person I want to call every day. So I am worried about what to do with all my questions and anxiety with no one to reach out to or call for help. I imagine me and the interwebs will become best friends over the next few months lol.

krash_ · November 2017

@doxiemoxie212 a year!?! I think that might be a bit extreme. I get that that is their recommendation but they also recommend a separate surface and many parents co-sleep. They say it reduces the risk of SIDS by 50% but how and why? I may need to do some more digging on this because there are a lot of factors that would go into that. Thank you for the additional information.

doxiemoxie212 · November 2017

@krashke def report back on what you find. I'm curious too why they would make that reco and what statistics go into it.

lovetakesworkman · November 2017

I have the same worry about my dog! How will he respond to a new baby? How Can I introduce the two as successfully as possible? What things Can I teach my dog now to help the whole family later??

My dog is my first baby so it’s an interesting situation.

Let me know now if you learn anything!

lovetakesworkman · November 2017

How are things going?
Things are good. Nausea isn’t too terribly bad, but my boobs have finally started feeling sore and that’s not fun. Just turned 8 weeks

Appointments upcoming/recent?
So excited! Just scheduled the very first appt, and I’m excited about this office, the providers, and the connected admitting hospital! I didn’t have any doc options I was completely happy with last week, so I’m really really happy now! O and it’s this Friday

Questions for other FTMs, or STM+?
How do you decide how you want to give birth? I feel like there’s a thousand options, so how do you make those decisions?

GTKY: What's your biggest concern for once you bring baby home?
Like I mentioned in a reply on another comment, my biggest worry right now is my dog. He’s getting older and grumpier and he has his own quirks, so I’m really worried about his adjustment to a baby.

krash_ · November 2017

@doxiemoxie212 here is what I have found with my initial research. I think this is something I am going to spend a lot more time looking into but I have to get back to work lol. I will also get recommendations from my doctor and of course it will all depend on what works best when baby actually comes.

room-sharing can reduce quality of sleep for baby and parents and reduce the length of sleep; which can lead to other causes of infant death
infants that are room-sharing are more likely to end up in bed with the parents or with blankets or stuffed animals in their sleep surface
room-sharing may actually increase the risk of SIDS after 6 months based on the above
room-sharing may reduce the risk of SIDS based on the lower arousal threshold i.e. parents will wake to sounds and movements from baby easier
higher arousal thresholds were found in families of smokers
this is also true of the arousal threshold of the baby; babies with a higher arousal threshold are more likely to die of SIDS
the studies cited for the AAP recommendation do not actually support the recommendation; "The recommendation to room-share until the age of 1 year is not evidence-based for the prevention of SIDS, given that 90% of these tragedies occur before the age of 6 months.20The data presented by the AAP Task Force on Sudden Infant Death Syndrome to support the recommendation21 came from 3 European case-control reports.33–35 In the first by Blair et al,33 infants who died of SIDS at over 4 months of age were more likely than controls to be room-sharing without bed-sharing (46% vs 41%) and less likely to be sleeping independently in their own rooms (43% vs 53%; statistical comparison not performed), yet the age stratification presented in this paper was not acknowledged in a recently published letter by the Task Force.36 The second report involved mostly infants <6 months old and used data from the early- to mid-1990s, when prone sleeping was still common.34 The third study involved only 123 cases of SIDS with a mean age of 13.6 ± 9.5 weeks, indicating that most cases included infants <6 months old.35 This small study included only 15 infants who slept in their own room and died of SIDS. Therefore, it is unlikely that any conclusions can be made about those who were 6 to 12 months old on the basis of this small sample size and the epidemiology of the condition. Importantly, the biggest risk factor for SIDS in this third report was “sharing the same sleep surface as the last sleep location,” something that more commonly occurred among infants who initially shared their mother’s room in our study."
note on above: prone sleeping = stomach sleeping

sources:
https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/early/2017/06/01/peds.2017-1323
https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/early/2017/06/01/peds.2017-0122

In the first article linked above the odds of death in room-sharing vs solitary sleeping vary from study to study and in some cases might not be statistically significant.

Also, this is just my interpretation after reading 4-5 articles; I am not a doctor or experienced in infant sleep in the least, so take it with a grain of salt.

Also sorry for the novel.

doxiemoxie212 · November 2017

@krashke yeah it seems like the AAP is all over the place. The only thing counter I could find was from here: https://www.aap.org/en-us/about-the-aap/Committees-Councils-Sections/Child-Death-Review/Pages/Safe-Sleep.aspx

"An infant’s ability to arouse is critical physiologically - and a leading hypothesis is that failure to arouse makes infants vulnerable to SIDS. Room sharing infants have more small awakenings (for instance, when the parent moves, the baby stirs a little bit - may not wake up fully but has a little arousal) during the night. It has been postulated that room sharing without bed sharing may offer a protective effect from the small awakenings. Further, room sharing facilitates continued breastfeeding, another measure that reduces the risk."

But that seems entirely in opposition to the other places on the same AAP website where they say the arousal effect functions the opposite way (also cited in your post above).

So, cool. Glad none of this is confusing at all lol.

krash_ · November 2017

@doxiemoxie212 the other thing that I don't quite understand is why they seem to think that room-sharing is the only way to facilitate continued breastfeeding. I'm planning on breastfeeding so I will be the sole provider of food for my baby so if they need to eat I will get up to feed them. If they need to eat every 3 hours, I can set an alarm and get out of bed, go to the nursery, sit in the glider that I have probably paid to much for a feed the baby. I would feel much more comfortable doing that than in the bed where I would be more likely to fall sleep while feeding.

doxiemoxie212 · November 2017

@krashke before I started googling, I honestly thought that they wanted room sharing so that when the parents get, like, way over tired or something, they don't forget the baby exists or something absurd. Or, like, I thought they were trying to say you should breastfeed the baby in your bed so that if you accidentally fall asleep, the baby doesn't fall on the ground (spoiler alert: turns out they don't want you to do this lol). Soooo my instincts are top notch over here guys.

cheerfuld8 · November 2017

How are things going?
Still been a bit up and down. I'm 8 weeks, 4 days and I had a tiny bit of light spotting last night again (this is the 4th time in like 4 weeks), but considering each time I've had issues I've been to the doc and everything looks fine and baby is growing, I am currently chalking it up to just increased blood flow/popping vessels. Still no nausea or morning sickness. My big new thing this week has been headaches! I never got them before really, but the last two days it's been hard to shake them. Anyone else having headaches around this mile marker? Is it common?

Appointments upcoming/recent?
Luckily I have one Thursday with another ultrasound, so hopefully more reassurance that things are progressing ok.

Questions for other FTMs, or STM+?
How did you deal with your anxiety? I'm not generally an anxious person, but this first trimester so far has been really putting me through the ringer. I can't stop thinking about getting an ultrasound and getting bad news, even though nothing to date shows real concern.

GTKY: What's your biggest concern for once you bring baby home?
How we will figure out child care after mat leave... I can't even think about it without stressing. Also my husband and I not getting enough sleep. Let's just say we don't do great sleep deprived. Oh and we have a dog too, more like a puppy... She sleeps with us too, so figuring out how baby works into this scenario will be interesting!

izza2 · November 2017

@doxiemoxie212 - Yeah, but even if it's organizational furniture, it's still organized, so easier for moving... And keeping organized once you've moved! Obviously YH just isn't thinking about the long term benefits here.

Nursing school will be over in May! So I'll be waddling for our pinning and grad ceremonies, lol.

@galactickates - Oo, what book was it?

@krashke - I'm with you on not co-sleeping. One thing that H and I agreed on before even thinking of TTGP was that the baby will be in the nursery, end of discussion. Unless we're just lounging in bed watching TV and want to cuddle with baby, s/he will sleep in their own crib. We don't want to start off with them feeling like our bed is their bed every night.

The room we have for a nursery is actually connected to our room. It's not a full-sized room, and at some point we're planning on completely renovating the upstairs so that there's 3 full bedrooms and a bathroom, but for now, it's 2 full bedrooms, the nursery off of our bedroom, and the extra bedroom that's going to be a bathroom no matter what. So I have no plans to have the baby in our room to sleep, since their room is connected to ours and the door will be open (or even removed for extra space) at all times.

galactickates · November 2017

@izza2 - Its called "your pregnancy week by week" by glade b curtis M.D. M.P.H and Judith Schuler M.S. I put a picture of the cover in the spoiler because it's acting funny. I didn't realize that was the actual title but I googled it and Sure enough. I really liked it because for a the first few weeks they show the actual size of your baby which is a crazy visual. It explained labor and delivery terms, what to expect in appointments. I read the whole thing so fast because it was so interesting and incredibly easy to read. I highly suggest it. Google says you can get it for $14 but I checked it out free at the library a couple weeks ago.

dinodna3 · November 2017

With introducing the dog to babies, the way we did it was DH going in the house first and greeting the dog then taking her outside for a short walk. Then I went in and put the baby on the bed. DH came back in with our dog and placed her on the bed too. Our dog slowly walked over,sniffed the baby and then was over it. DH was very insistent that the dog approach the baby first not the other way around, so the dog was in control. The dog would come over a sniff the baby during tummy time but she pretty much ignores them unless food is involved. (Obviously, every dog is different but that’s just how it worked for us)

galactickates · November 2017

@dinodna3 - thanks for that tip. We'll Probably use that with the other techniques I've been reading about.

RatParade · November 2017

How are things going? Pretty good. My nausea has tapered off a lot (which of course freaks me out a little) but it's been nice to be able to eat more food. I'm still super tired though and never want to do anything.

Appointments upcoming/recent? I have an ultrasound next Tuesday to confirm growth. At that point I'll be a week away from the 2nd trimester and I'm very excited to be at that stage

Questions for other FTMs, or STM+?

GTKY: What's your biggest concern for once you bring baby home? All this information about co-sleeping has me realizing there's a lot I haven't really given any thought to. Even though we've been TTGP for years, I haven't really researched anything beyond getting pregnant. I guess my concern now is just being overwhelmed with decisions once I have an actual human life in my hands. Maybe I'll be more motivated to research these things once I'm passed the first trimester and I'm less worried about staying pregnant.

buddins22 · November 2017

How are things going?: I have been really anxious about everything. I have been to the doctor 3 times but 2 were just with the ultrasound tech so I haven’t actually got to talk to anyone about anything yet. Nausea has subsided some but I have been having a lot of cramping and I’m exhausted.

Appointments: I had a last minute ultrasound today and everything is going well which I was thrilled to hear. I have my bloodwork and finally talk to the doctor tomorrow (I mistakenly wrote it was today on appointments but it’s tomorrow).

Questions for FTM or STM: what symptoms are bad enough to call about? I had some spotting and cramping and they had me come in right away, but I don’t want to call every time I spot if I’m supposed to just let it go now that they checked me.

Biggest concern for bringing baby home: we live in a town that we don’t know anyone and our families both live an hour away as well as any friends. I am concerned if we will have babysitters as my boyfriend and I both plan on continuing to work after my time off. We have cats too but I think they will leave the baby alone for the most part.

galactickates · November 2017

@RatParade - I feel the same way, my MIL is asking about cribs and portable cribs and should she get one or will we have one..... I'm just trying to get to my first US..... I have no idea about cribs or anything else right now.

Once I know baby is healthy and if we're having a boy and girl, research is going to kick into over drive.

doxiemoxie212 · November 2017

RE: dogs, this infographic just popped up on my Pinterest feed

https://pin.it/nggea5x64t2qsu

galactickates · November 2017

@doxiemoxie212 - I almost just pinned that a 3rd time in my baby tips. I just cleaned out my board so its just there once.

galactickates · November 2017

@doxiemoxie212 - I almost just pinned that a 3rd time in my baby tips. I just cleaned out my board so it's just there once.

Side note but related to pinterest - are you keeping your pins or baby boards private? I am for now, I knew a lot of my friends were preggo before any announcement was made just by the sudden appearance of baby pins.

doxiemoxie212 · November 2017

@galactickates yeah, for now mine is private. I honestly probably will keep them private just because people can be judgy? Not that many people follow my pinterest board lol.

silvergreen · November 2017

How are things going?
So far, so good. Symptoms are minimal, as they've always been! I feel like I've had a fairly easy go compared to most of the other ladies here. I mostly get the occasional mild period-like cramping. I try not to overthink it too much since my last ultrasound went so well. I think I read somewhere that this cramping can continue throughout the whole pregnancy.

Appointments upcoming/recent?
Check up next week on 11/21. Sequential screening and NT scan on 11/27.

Questions for other FTMs, or STM+?
When do you officially enter the first trimester? I've seen varying opinions about this (12+0 vs 13+3)? Thanksgiving will be the 12 week milestone for me, and I was really hoping I would have an extra reason for be thankful!

GTKY: What's your biggest concern for once you bring baby home?
I think a little bit of everything, if I'm totally honest! This is all foreign to me. My biggest concern at the moment is this pregnancy and the hope that everything goes well. I honestly haven't really given much thought to what happens after. Day by day right now!

doxiemoxie212 · November 2017

@silvergreen do you mean second trimester? Assuming yes. If so, I think 13+6 is when you can confidently say you’re out of first tri. But basically there isn’t a “real” gap between the trimesters, they’re just vague, general concepts, so different things have them spaced different amounts. Have you checked out yourduedate.com? It gives you a few options and sort of explains differences (gestation vs development or something?)

silvergreen · November 2017

@doxiemoxie212 D'oh! Yes, I meant second trimester, lol! Thanks for catching that. Yeah, it's all kind of different. Don't they typically say wait until 12 weeks before announcing a pregnancy? I guess I always imagined that was the "safe zone." And thanks for the link! It's telling me 11/30 is when I enter the second tri, so I guess I need to wait a little longer. Dang.

krash_ · November 2017

@silvergreen the reason for waiting to announce is because the chance of miscarriage goes down with everyday you progress in pregnancy but there isn’t a magical day that is a turning point so you can announce whenever you feel comfortable. We will be telling immediate family and some more friends at thanksgiving even though I will only be 10 weeks. The 12 week rule was primarily developed when women didn’t talk about pregnancy or miscarriage so 12 weeks was usually when women would start showing.

icecubeinthedesert · November 2017

I just came across this tool for estimating miscarriage probability day-by-day. They even incorporate your history to mine the data in context to BMI, previous pregnancy history, etc. https://datayze.com/miscarriage-chart.php
@silvergreen Might be useful tool to decide when you feel comfortable sharing, as everyone has a different number of acceptable risk before sharing. After 8 weeks, the rate at which the risk changes slows quite a bit (meaning that most miscarriages will happen before this).

silvergreen · November 2017

@krashke That makes a lot of sense. Thanks!

@icecubeinthedesert I actually did find this and have found it very helpful. I guess it's hard to shake that whole "first trimester" mentality that you hear about your whole life. It currently estimates my risk at 2.7% and while that feels reassuring, PGAL brain also tells me my risk was pretty low for the MMC I did have, and so I end up going in circles. Not to mention, I'm noticing a lot of posts where people mention their late first tri losses, and then I start to doubt the statistics.

I just got some custom mugs made for "grandma" and "grandpa" to gift either Thanksgiving or Christmas, so I'm hoping this means that I'm starting to relax on some subconscious level!

Image: https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/sn/ll1wu8lzgh1e.jpg

izza2 · November 2017

@silvergreen - Those are cute!!

krash_ · November 2017

@icecubeinthedesert thank you for sharing that.

@silvergreen my chance of miscarriage is still 3% which I thought was pretty high considering not having any pervious losses and being healthy. But if you think about it the other way my chance of live birth is 97% which is really good! I’m sorry for your loss and do what feels most comfortable to you but I think it’s helpful to turn those statistics around.

Also love the mugs. I just ordered some for my in-laws and I hope they get here before Thanksgiving!

silvergreen · November 2017

@krashke I'm generally an anxious person, so I realize that these feelings are pretty amplified. I really appreciate all the reassurance. I'm totally that annoying person that constantly needs it and I just need to chill.

Hopefully I get to be one of those STM mommas that gets to pass on that reassurance in a few years.

@izza2 Thanks! I got them from here if you're interested!

Seller was super responsive. I contacted her in the morning about some ideas, which we discussed through a few messages over the day - and she had them printed and packaged by the end of the night!

ffw0617 · November 2017

How are things going?
Good. I’m feeling better progressively. I’m 10w 1d and it was the hardest weeks 7&8 with the nausea but I feeling much better. Now I think I’m having a dental issue (ugh) going to see if I can get that checked out today. I told my second (and last friend) we suffered a loss this year about the of last night via text. She reacted as expected. I don’t think she’ll be at our Friendsgiving Sunday. She had an excuse that didn’t make sense (she lives 4 blocks away in the same subdivision btw) but I understand & expected this would create some distance.

Appointments upcoming/recent? Thur (tomorrow) I have NIPT. And we’ll get to check the heartbeat one more time before announcing to extended family & close friends on Sunday at Friendsgiving.

Questions for other FTMs, or STM+? No

GTKY: What's your biggest concern for once you bring baby home?
That my husband won’t be helpful. That was my biggest concern when we started ttgp that my life would change but his would stay the same. I know 2 ppl, My cousin & my friend chealse, that had babies & got divorced before the child was 6 months just this year. We are in a good space right now (and so were they from the outside looking in) I’ve read a couple books on how to protect your marriage after the addition of kids/babies I just hope the duties don’t cause animosity between us & he lives up to his part (which he says he will, but what person would admit when they wouldn’t).

ffw0617 · November 2017

* I told my second (and last friend) that suffered a loss this year about the pg last night via text.*

autocorrect and TB abbreviations don’t go well together

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