Anyone else's gums bleeding? Everytime I brush my teeth, my front teeth gum area bleeds instantly. And last night when we went out to dinner, DH made me laugh and then he looked horrified. Apparently I had blood all over my top teeth and then I could taste it. So annoying. Now I'm paranoid when I smile or laugh that I'll look like I was just gnawing on a living thing like a zombie. Thia baby is definitely doing different things to me, lol.
@psuxray07 i've had some bleeding but mostly just surrounding brushing and flossing. I just switched toothbrushes to hopefully help with gum health and the problem. I also had a dentist appt last week that said I need to focus on daily flossing and get in for a few more appts in the second trimester. sigh. I hate mouth stuff.
@psuxray07 my experience was similar to @ekendall09. Once I made myself be a more regular flosser (something I've sucked at my whole life), the bleeding really slowed down and I barely do anymore. Still dreading my overdue dentist Appt next week...
lol @psuxray07 another glorious pregnancy symptom. It could be pregnancy gingivitis. Its really really common for women to get. Do you have any appointments scheduled with your dentist?
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014! DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
@frenchiekinplusone I feel ya. I went in trying to be brave for DD. Her check up went great...mine was wellll we really need to get you in as much as we can to get you back to normal and we can only do stuff in the second tri. wahhh. I got my first cavity at 21 and it was the worst experience. This dentist was better this time but all the others have been awful experiences. Hopefully yours is NBD!
@ekendall09 Been there with the nightmare dentists (and way too aggressive hygienists, ouch). I've always had an irrational fear of the dentist (like to the point of crying as an ADULT in the office if they ever told me anything was wrong), but I found a great one a couple years ago that is super gentle so I'm a little more chill about it now. It's still my least favorite self-care appointment. I'd legit rather have a pap every month than visit the dentist twice a year. Fingers crossed for both of us that our next appts go well!
@ladythrice I had one for this month but had to reschedule to January. I read it's normal because of the increased bloodflow, I just don't want it to be random when I'm talking to people, haha. It'd be embarrassing!
It's funny how many people hate the dentist lol. I never minded it. But I've never really had teeth issues either.
Calling all STM and TTM+ how did you handle childcare when you went into labor? This is babe number 2 and we have no family within 12+ hours. My 2 closest friends are or have moved 3+ hours away, and my only other friend I could ask is due with baby number 3 in January. I just started thinking about it and freaking out.
@mcb2016 Every single RnP that Fisher Price makes is listed on their site under sleepers and is labeled as a sleeper. Not just the bassinet. Screenshot taken directly from the sleeper page under baby gear. There were way more than just these listed there.
Me (33). DH (37). DD (2.2012). MCs x4. After 4 years & 7 months, due 4.2018!
@bchalm We haven’t made formal plans yet, but i think we’re going to see if MIL and FIL will come here to watch DS when i go into labor. The one not so small problem with that is they would need to get plane tickets to visit and i don’t know for certain when I’ll go into labor. I’m trying to think of back up plans, i might ask friends to watch DS, but I’m afraid of how he’ll sleep in someone else’s home. I’m curious to see what others have done or plan to do!
@irenejean my mom is planning on getting a ticket, so she can get on a plane asap. But even still it might not be until the following day until she gets here. Last time it was just so fast, that right now hubby and I have a loose plan of him getting me settled and then going home to watch DD. But that would mean I would be laboring by myself. I'm just freaking out. Last time I didn't stress at all about logistics cause it was just me and DH.
@bchalm does DD go to daycare? I know in the past I was told I could get one of the teachers to cover babysitting for me if I ever needed it outside of daycare hours. Our home daycare provider would have watched DD in a second, even overnight if I had an emergency. Not a bad option if its available to you.
Late to the game, but .... +1 to RNP and Mamaroo. We bought them both for my first and couldn't have lived without either. DD also loved them. Hopefully this baby also does, but at this point if he doesn't I still feel like I got my money's worth.
@mcb2016 - @ladythrice is referring to this model. All you need to do is google Rock N Play and there ya go. It’s what we used for 6 months for DD, and what our Pedi was ok with (though ours is manual, not auto).
@mcb2016, that portable bassinet is nice, but not the product to which I was referring. @kmalls is much closer. Here's another one: Ours are both manual rockers too, although the newer one might have an auto rock function?? I don't even know lol. It definitely has the light and attached sound/lullaby machine. We never used the noise part though. The light however was pretty handy!
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014! DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
@bchalm, dude I have all kinds of family near me and this is still a stressful topic... mainly because last time around MIL promised to watch DS then bailed THE DAY I WENT INTO LABOR. It took me crying on the phone and BIL driving her to our house to get her there... [Long story, but there were extenuating circumstances, FIL had passed two months earlier, MIL was still grieving, and BIL had recently been diagnosed with Leukemia. MIL was completely overwhelmed.]
That being said, we'll probably ask her to do it again this time around. But I will tell her in no uncertain terms that if she tries to bail on us there will be hell to pay... My sister might be a back up for her. Our kids are in daycare so worst case my sister will stay with the kids and take them to daycare for us. Ideally, when labor starts I'll call my parents, they'll hop in the car and drive 5 hours here. Dad will watch the kids and mom will be a labor coach with DH. My sister and MIL are back-ups in case my parents can't arrive in time. We shall see...
@ekendall09 has a great idea if your LO is in daycare. We go to a center but the teachers are often willing to do after hours babysitting and I would feel 100000% comfortable asking one of my kids' teachers to be on call for delivery.
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014! DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
@ekendall09 DD is on daycare and her teacher is one of our regular babysitters, honestly she is probably at our house twice a month. So I could def ask her. She has never done an overnight, so I should prob ask her if that was necessary would she be willing.
@ladythrice that sounds so stressful. Good luck this time.
@bchalmEven though I am having my first right now this is a topic that already stresses me out. I really need to make a friend or find a daycare worker/babysitter that I can trust before we have #2. My husband and I don't have a single friend or family member in the same state as us. One time my husband and I were out of town and our home alarm went off. The alarm company called and said they would send the police but if there has been a break in we would need to send someone by the house. Umm, like who? We joked that we may have to call his boss. Luckily it turned out to be a false alarm.
I'm late to the party, but add me to the RNP lovers group. We actually borrowed the one my parents had in their house, that my SIL gave because they had an extra one. We used it for the first month since DD slept in our room, she had a small reflux so it helped a lot with that. Not sure if I'll just buy one this time around or just borrow again, since we won't need to buy anything else really.
@tooraloorah my cousin recently had this issue, but I believe hers was actually covering her cervix complete. She had to schedule a c-section but a few weeks before at her scan to check it, it had actually moved and was able to deliver vaginally. So it can resolve it's self so I wouldn't think to much about it, it just means you will get extra scans.
@bchalm our plans is just to have my parents watch DD they are both retired now so it won't be a problem with them and taking off for work. Really haven't put a full plan in place because I'm waiting until after my glucose test in December to see if I have GD before we make the full plan. If I have GD again, I'll just be induced so they will have DD the day I go into the hospital, which I'm sure they will just keep her the whole time until we get home so she probably won't go to daycare that week. If I don't have GD (which I'm doubtful this will happen) and I just go into labor automatically it will be a play by ear kind of thing since my parents do live a good 20-30 minutes away.
@JJMNO1616 I was just joking I needed to make a new friend just for this situation. Literally within 2 months our closest friends moved. Ironically, they were both put down as my DD's emergency contact at daycare. We've lived in Austin for 2 years now and I know this sounds crazy but it is just so hard to make friends after college, especially if you don't work. I had plenty of friends when I taught in Houston.
+1 to terrible at making adult friends. To include trying to put my best foot forward with daycare parents. DD has asked to have play dates but I have no idea how to go about actually scheduling one...I might panic if the parent actually wanted to stay! Sigh, I feel like i'm always an outsider.
+1 to terrible at making adult friends. To include trying to put my best foot forward with daycare parents. DD has asked to have play dates but I have no idea how to go about actually scheduling one...I might panic if the parent actually wanted to stay! Sigh, I feel like i'm always an outsider.
Omg, it’s SO HARD. Yesterday, someone from DS’s preschool emailed a few of us asking if we wanted to start a weekly playgroup. I basically cried with happiness, I never ever know how to get that stuff started and I feel like we’re so isolated even though there are parents with kids everywhere. Ugh it’s like the biggest stressor in my life.
@ekendall09 if these parents turn out to be cool (and initial gut reaction says they are), I’ll totally invite you over
I should totally just put myself out there for DDs sake. I'll probably push it until after the holidays but I made the first step but accepting a b-day invitation for next weekend for her! Most of these are kids she'll be in kindergarten with anyways so developing relationships will be helpful and likely meaningful!
Childcare during birth is really stressing me out too. My parents flew in and watched my 11 year old. I was hospitalized for 6 days and could not see my big kid because it was still active flu season at our hospital. No minor visitors allowed. It was really hard on both of us. And it was the end of April 2016 so I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a shorter flu season this time around. I can't even think about not seeing my toddler for almost a week.
I love my parents but I'm not sure I want to leave my not yet 2 year old with them. My 12 year old is hoping another relative will come out, possibly my mil but she is not always reliable. If my parents do come up I will hire someone to help out with the toddler. And my dh will most definitely be spending a lot of time at home.
It is hard making adult friends. I have had to put myself out there to meet people with toddlers. Most of my friends have big kids and are way past the baby stage. We have finally found a group of moms from our library to get together occasionally. We are still in the getting to know you stage. Sadly our branch library is closed for a year and a half but it sure helped us start regularly meeting up. Our group is small just 4 of us. But I'm hoping it will work out.
@bchalm@ekendall09@kmalls@ladythrice I have already joined some local mom FB groups and I also joined a local "Girls night out group" in attempt of making some friends. I actually went to my first event last night which was a happy hour gathering and I just had a virgin Mojito. lol I have been totally dragging my feet since I moved to Houston a year ago in terms of putting myself out there and meeting people. It's just SO hard but I know for my sanity I really need to find some female friends.
Add another to the difficulty making adult friends. I work but I work with mostly older women who are at a different life stage than me. Most of my friends from high school and college haven't settled down or started families yet. I lost a lot of my acquaintance friends after I had DS.
@peppersmith22 I have mostly the exact opposite here at work, most of the girls are younger (or similar aged) but more in the engagement, living downtown stage of life!
I had a follow-up ultrasound today and everything looked good! They said the anatomy scan would be a much better look at everything when baby is bigger, but it was reassuring to see baby looking good today.
My question: Baby was measuring over a week ahead again this week and my doctor wants to change my due date. The due date I have now is based on the date of my positive ovulation test and due date based on my initial ultrasound at 7.5 weeks.
Has anyone had their due date changed based on a later ultrasound (the way baby was measuring at 11.5 weeks versus 7.5 weeks)? If my due date now is correct, then baby is measuring really big, which is atypical for my babies (usually born about average size and the ones that get huge do so after birth). Then again, I feel really confident of my dates, so I honestly don't know what to think at this point. I do think it matters, though, because I want to make sure baby has the full time it needs to gestate and is not kicked out early for going past it.
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@lindsye I've measured ahead with both of mine but they haven't changed the dates. I measured 2 weeks ahead with DS and they didn't change it. But my dating scan was at 8 weeks last time and 12 weeks this time. I'm measuring half a week ahead for this one.
@lindsye that’s a tough one, I’ve really never heard of a due date being changed based on measurements after the first trimester. Personally I’d be as skeptical as you, primarily because you’re fairly confident of ovulation date. That being said, I’m extremely gun-shy about going too far past a given due date as I very strongly believe my son had issues at birth that stemmed from my OB not moving the due date at the initial ultrasound.
Do you have to make a decision now? Could you wait until the a/s and see if baby is still a week+ ahead?
@peppersmith22 my doctor is arguing that measuring that much ahead at 11.5 weeks makes her think my due date is wrong; she said normally at that point it wouldn't just be that baby is big because it's before their rates of growth really start to vary. I really don't know what to think, though.
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@lindsye I wonder if you could get a second opinion. Having the right due date was super important for my friend. They almost sent her home instead of inducing because she was one day shy of 36 weeks. They ended up keeping her and that night she had an emergency c-section because her blood pressure went really high. I just find it odd that your doctor would want to change it now when they measured you at 7.5 weeks and you have the ovulation test.
@kmalls it is the 11.5 week measurement that she wants to go off of - she's arguing it's the most accurate. But as @peppersmith22 said, I also have an ovulation test and earlier ultrasound that indicate otherwise. If you don't mind sharing/me asking @kmalls, what problems do you think your son had for going so far past his due date? I'm trying to weigh the risks on both sides.
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@lindsye let me preface this by saying this is a gut instinct, I have no actual proof of any of this.
My son measured 6 days ahead at our initial dating ultrasound. I knew the due date was incorrect as I have short cycles and ovulate earlier in the cycle than average. The NP doing that initial appt, however, just wouldn’t budge and with me being a FTM, I let it go.
I ended up going 9 or 10 days past my due date, so that combined with measuring 6 days ahead throughout the pregnancy, I was more like 15-16 days late. I had been sent for an ultrasound around 5 days past my due date as a matter of protocol, and DS showed minimal movement and did absolutely no “practice breathing” within a 45 minute period. To this day I don’t know why they didn’t induce. When labor finally hit a few days later, his heart rate was dangerously low and I had an emergency c/s. He came out COVERED in meconium and a he was given a scary-low APGAR score. He spent 3 days in the special care nursery (a level below NICU) under an oxygen hood because he had issues maintaining his oxygen level on his own. Because they feared he aspirated meconium, he was also on antibiotics to prevent infection.
He pulled throgh and recovered just fine, thank god, but since then I’ve done some research on the dangers of going too far past your due date. The chances of meconium being present shoot up, and placental decay can start to occur. Personally, I truly believe meconium had been present for a while prior to birth, which lead to his breathing issues. For those reasons I wish I had advocated for a change in due date much more strongly — in the end, I would have been induced and possibly avoided that entire shit show.
Thank you for sharing, @kmalls, and I'm so sorry you and your DS had to go through that. I'm so glad that he came through it and recovered, but how terrifying for you! Most of what you hear/read about is the risk associated with baby being born too early, so it's good to think about the other side as well.
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@lindsye, I'm with @kmalls in trusting your gut and your knowledge of dates based on your cycle. I'm actually hypersensitive to this issue, from the opposite perspective of Kmalls, because I'm hoping for a VBAC this pregnancy. As a VBAC candidate my OB is extremely unlikely to let me go more than 1 week overdue before inducing, thus knowing my dates and having an accurate-ish due date is vital to ensuring that my body has enough time to prep for delivery/birth.
I think that knowing your cycle dates, your ovulation date, AND having an early dating U/S that confirms those dates indicates that your original dates have high probability of being correct.
Re: Questions - Week of 11/6
Married: 10/3/15
TTC: May 2017
BFP: 7/20/17
EDD: 3/29/18
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014!
DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
Baby #3: EDD, April 16th, 2016
Married: 10/3/15
TTC: May 2017
BFP: 7/20/17
EDD: 3/29/18
It's funny how many people hate the dentist lol. I never minded it. But I've never really had teeth issues either.
Do you mean this rock and play?
https://www.amazon.com/Fisher-Price-Rock-Play-Portable-Bassinet/dp/B008DDPL32
Me (33). DH (37). DD (2.2012). MCs x4. After 4 years & 7 months, due 4.2018!
DS-9/2012
DD-7/2015
Here's another one:
Ours are both manual rockers too, although the newer one might have an auto rock function?? I don't even know lol. It definitely has the light and attached sound/lullaby machine. We never used the noise part though. The light however was pretty handy!
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014!
DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
Baby #3: EDD, April 16th, 2016
That being said, we'll probably ask her to do it again this time around. But I will tell her in no uncertain terms that if she tries to bail on us there will be hell to pay... My sister might be a back up for her. Our kids are in daycare so worst case my sister will stay with the kids and take them to daycare for us. Ideally, when labor starts I'll call my parents, they'll hop in the car and drive 5 hours here. Dad will watch the kids and mom will be a labor coach with DH. My sister and MIL are back-ups in case my parents can't arrive in time. We shall see...
@ekendall09 has a great idea if your LO is in daycare. We go to a center but the teachers are often willing to do after hours babysitting and I would feel 100000% comfortable asking one of my kids' teachers to be on call for delivery.
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014!
DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
Baby #3: EDD, April 16th, 2016
@ladythrice that sounds so stressful. Good luck this time.
Thanks ladies for all the help!!
@tooraloorah my cousin recently had this issue, but I believe hers was actually covering her cervix complete. She had to schedule a c-section but a few weeks before at her scan to check it, it had actually moved and was able to deliver vaginally. So it can resolve it's self so I wouldn't think to much about it, it just means you will get extra scans.
@bchalm our plans is just to have my parents watch DD they are both retired now so it won't be a problem with them and taking off for work. Really haven't put a full plan in place because I'm waiting until after my glucose test in December to see if I have GD before we make the full plan. If I have GD again, I'll just be induced so they will have DD the day I go into the hospital, which I'm sure they will just keep her the whole time until we get home so she probably won't go to daycare that week. If I don't have GD (which I'm doubtful this will happen) and I just go into labor automatically it will be a play by ear kind of thing since my parents do live a good 20-30 minutes away.
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014!
DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
Baby #3: EDD, April 16th, 2016
@ekendall09 if these parents turn out to be cool (and initial gut reaction says they are), I’ll totally invite you over
I should totally just put myself out there for DDs sake. I'll probably push it until after the holidays but I made the first step but accepting a b-day invitation for next weekend for her! Most of these are kids she'll be in kindergarten with anyways so developing relationships will be helpful and likely meaningful!
I love my parents but I'm not sure I want to leave my not yet 2 year old with them. My 12 year old is hoping another relative will come out, possibly my mil but she is not always reliable. If my parents do come up I will hire someone to help out with the toddler. And my dh will most definitely be spending a lot of time at home.
My question: Baby was measuring over a week ahead again this week and my doctor wants to change my due date. The due date I have now is based on the date of my positive ovulation test and due date based on my initial ultrasound at 7.5 weeks.
Has anyone had their due date changed based on a later ultrasound (the way baby was measuring at 11.5 weeks versus 7.5 weeks)? If my due date now is correct, then baby is measuring really big, which is atypical for my babies (usually born about average size and the ones that get huge do so after birth). Then again, I feel really confident of my dates, so I honestly don't know what to think at this point. I do think it matters, though, because I want to make sure baby has the full time it needs to gestate and is not kicked out early for going past it.
Do you have to make a decision now? Could you wait until the a/s and see if baby is still a week+ ahead?
My son measured 6 days ahead at our initial dating ultrasound. I knew the due date was incorrect as I have short cycles and ovulate earlier in the cycle than average. The NP doing that initial appt, however, just wouldn’t budge and with me being a FTM, I let it go.
I ended up going 9 or 10 days past my due date, so that combined with measuring 6 days ahead throughout the pregnancy, I was more like 15-16 days late. I had been sent for an ultrasound around 5 days past my due date as a matter of protocol, and DS showed minimal movement and did absolutely no “practice breathing” within a 45 minute period. To this day I don’t know why they didn’t induce. When labor finally hit a few days later, his heart rate was dangerously low and I had an emergency c/s. He came out COVERED in meconium and a he was given a scary-low APGAR score. He spent 3 days in the special care nursery (a level below NICU) under an oxygen hood because he had issues maintaining his oxygen level on his own. Because they feared he aspirated meconium, he was also on antibiotics to prevent infection.
He pulled throgh and recovered just fine, thank god, but since then I’ve done some research on the dangers of going too far past your due date. The chances of meconium being present shoot up, and placental decay can start to occur. Personally, I truly believe meconium had been present for a while prior to birth, which lead to his breathing issues. For those reasons I wish I had advocated for a change in due date much more strongly — in the end, I would have been induced and possibly avoided that entire shit show.
I think that knowing your cycle dates, your ovulation date, AND having an early dating U/S that confirms those dates indicates that your original dates have high probability of being correct.
https://americanpregnancy.org/prenatal-testing/ultrasound/
https://www.ultrasoundcare.com.au/services/pregnancy-ultrasound-5-17-weeks-dating-and-viability.html
https://www.verywell.com/are-ultrasounds-accurate-for-predicting-due-dates-2371403
Some notes from the links above:
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014!
DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
Baby #3: EDD, April 16th, 2016