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riversdoctor · November 2017

im making up a new check in because my resolve to remain team green is faltering.

What number kiddo is this for you?

Have you been team green or find out before?

Are you finding it easier or harder than expected?

riversdoctor · November 2017

What number kiddo is this for you?
Hope to be 3rd baby. 5th pregnancy.
Have you been team green or find out before?
This would be our third time on team green.
Are you finding it easier or harder than expected?
suddenly much harder! (I’m literally one instant message to my midwife away from finding out).

my current debate is that we have had the surprise at birth twice now (one of each) and I’m curious to see what it would be like to find out sooner. Unfortunately if I do there’s no turning back. Ack! So torn!!!

frenchiekinplusone · November 2017

First baby so I have nothing to compare it to! It's been easier that I expected so far. I always figured I would find out, but DH was SO adamant about being team green so we decided to wait after talking about it a bit. It's definitely hard not to peek during ultrasounds and there are moments where I really wish I knew, but surprisingly it's not killing me. I don't think about it too much. I think my only worry is that I'm not bonding as much with the baby since I don't know the sex - which probably sounds insane.

Im also saying all of this being barely 20 weeks along - we've still got half this ride left so I could be changing my tune at any point! Haha

kmalls · November 2017

@riversdoctor I'm going to play total devils advocate here, though I totally respect the opinions of those who choose to wait to find out.

Ive found out the sex of my babies prior to birth all three times now (at 13 weeks with DS, 20 weeks with DD, 13 weeks with DD2). I can promise you that no matter when you find out, it's an overwhelming, heart-stopping, emotional moment. Its no less of a surprise if you find out now or 5ish months from now!

dirtyboots · November 2017

This is our second. We were team green with our first and this one as well. I do feel like I'm more anxious to find out this time, nether the less we're still waiting to wait till birth to find out.

btm013 · November 2017

What number kiddo is this for you?
2
Have you been team green or find out before?
Team green for both! My first ended up being a boy. I’m convinced this is a girl.
Are you finding it easier or harder than expected?
I wouldn’t consider it harder but I feel like it would be way more convenient to know this time around. I have a friend who is due a month before me and is expecting a boy. If I knew this was a girl I would drive bin fulls of clothes to her house to rid myself of the haha. That is the only reason i would want to find out. To have a cleaner basement!!

ekendall09 · November 2017

What number kiddo is this for you?
2

Have you been team green or find out before?
Team green last time too

Are you finding it easier or harder than expected?
It’s easy for me. It bothers everyone else that I’m not interested in knowing ahead of time. I’m so thankful for that birth moment (I was told dd was a boy before looking for myself when she came out) I can’t imagine it another way. I’m happy for my friends when they find out because they need to plan or they just want to know. I personally don’t think you need to know a sex to plan for having a baby. Can’t wait to get through th A/S so I can be clear of someone taking away the surprise on accident!

btm013 · November 2017

@ekendall09 it drives my friends crazy that we don’t find out haha. It almost makes it more enjoyable!

But I agree, i don’t think you need to know the gender to plan a nursery. For our first, I refused to do the standard neutral colors (beige/tan, yellow and green) and instead chose bright oranges and teals. Turned out great!

Another bonus, all the nurses, the anesthesiologist and doctor loved the fact we didn’t know and were taking bets. It made things light hearted in the midst of labor.

Last point for the Team Green is, we as mothers have so many firsts and it was my husband who got the first glance and announced “it’s a boy/girl!” He got to tell our parents first too. (He didn’t tell them the name though and let me announce it which I appreciated!)

riversdoctor · November 2017

I’m with you all on the excitement in the delivery room! That’s my favorite! I’m so glad I made this post! Stay strong! So far it’s bewn way harder to stay strong with this one compared to the last two! (First was incredibly easy. Second was a little temptation leading up to the anatomy scan then fine). This time I’m just so tempted to find out and I don’t even know why! I have plenty of clothes for both! No nursery to plan, so weird!!! But my PGAL brain is grateful that this has become my focus instead of constant fear and dread.

pghren · November 2017

What number kiddo is this for you?
This will hopefully be baby #1 (3rd pregnancy)
Have you been team green or find out before?
n/a
Are you finding it easier or harder than expected?
Harder! I'll decide that I think they're a girl or DH will decide they're a boy and I'll want to find out to see who's right! Ultimately we plan on doing things as gender neutral as possible, so it won't matter except for practical diapering purposes.

whatabout2ndbreakfast · November 2017

What number kiddo is this for you? #2

Have you been team green or find out before? Team green last time!

Are you finding it easier or harder than expected? Way way harder. I'm actually on the fence here. It was really fun in the delivery room with DS. Like btm013 said, the doctors and nurses (there were about a dozen people in the room because the NICU had to come down since DS pooped) were taking bets and everyone thought he was a girl because he had so much hair! He was a boy, and all his dark baby hair rubbed off haha. This time I feel like it might be more convenient to know ahead of time, even though we have all neutral baby stuff and aren't planning on really buying anything extra.

EDIT: Besides buying a Tula and having a boy or girl might influence which pattern I choose haha

hedgepig · November 2017

What number kiddo is this for you? #1

Have you been team green or find out before? N/A, Team Green now

Are you finding it easier or harder than expected? Easier for the most part. I had a couple of moments of weakness when everyone else here started finding out, but my resolve has re-solidified. I have found it interesting that most of the adults who I tell that we aren't finding out seem to like it, while young people (my students) are aghast at the idea

It helps that MH is steadfast in not wanting to know.

hedgepig · November 2017

What number kiddo is this for you? #1

Have you been team green or find out before? N/A, Team Green now

Are you finding it easier or harder than expected? Easier for the most part. I had a couple of moments of weakness when everyone else here started finding out, but my resolve has re-solidified. I have found it interesting that most of the adults who I tell that we aren't finding out seem to like it, while young people (my students) are aghast at the idea

It helps that MH is steadfast in not wanting to know.

bchalm · November 2017

This is baby #2

We were not team green before.

Some days it's hard and some days it's easy. The hardest is at the ultrasounds, my Dr. Said she knew and it took a lot not to ask. But I'm excited for the surprise. That keeps me going.

ladythrice · November 2017

So I'm not team green but I wanted to jump in on the discussion.

With DS we found out at 20 weeks, so we decided to be Team Green with DD. We found out at delivery she was a she and it was a pretty awesome moment. DH was crying, i was crying, my mom was crying... It was beautiful.

...That being said I'm never doing it again and we found out this baby's sex last week lol.

Good luck Team Greeners!!!

mountainsmama · November 2017

I'm not sure if I'm team green anymore - my resolve is crumbling! I have 2 weeks to decide before my anatomy scan.
What number kiddo is this for you?
2
Have you been team green or find out before?
We were steadfastly team green with my first. My DH and I were both on the same page and I felt like it was pretty easy.
Are you finding it easier or harder than expected?
Way harder for number 2 - this time around, I just want to know! Not that it really matters to me, I'm just curious.

jwhokie · November 2017

I have a question for all you team greeners......are you and your spouse both on board to be team green? My DH and I are completely split - I want to know and he doesn't. We've done one of each - found out with DD#1 at 20 weeks and went team green with DD#2 until birth day. I didn't care much for team green.....like @kmalls has said, it's the ultimate experience whether you find out now or later. Just curious if anyone else is at odds with their spouse on the team green experience?

ekendall09 · November 2017

@jwhokie SO is ok with the idea but he would rather find out personally. He's being supportive and we are both on board at this point!

btm013 · November 2017

@jwhokie with our first my husband did want to find out but then got on board halfway through. For this time he is 100% committed to team green. I completely understand wanting to find out though. I find myself excited when my friends find out!!

ladythrice · November 2017

@jwhokie so we were both on board for finding out with #1 and team green with #2. I didn't even give DH an option for this pregnancy though so I don't really know what his preference would have been. I told him during DD's pregnancy that I was finding out for all future pregnancies, no ifs ands or buts... soo... whoops? lol

jwhokie · November 2017

@ladythrice - that's what I said too, but now I'm overwhelmed with guilt if I find out and have to keep that secret for months. Oh well. We have until next week to decide.

bchalm · November 2017

@jwhokie we are kind of split. DH wants to find out and I don't. But I think this will be our last, so I won't have to chance for this surprise again. That being said if we had a surprise later, I would probs not be team green cause I've already had the experience.

dirtyboots · November 2017

@jwhokie both dh and I are on the same page, with the first and this one as well.

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