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Help me win the debate with my husband on being team green

hotmessmamax3hotmessmamax3 member
in May 2018 Moms
We are expecting our third child- we have a boy and a girl already so I thought it would be fun to not find out this time.

My husband is completely against this idea! He needs to know so he can plan. Plan what exactly, I don’t know because the baby isn’t getting their own nursery and we literally just have to pull some clothes down from the attic and we are good to go.

So help me build my case! How do I convince my husband team green is the way to go?
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Re: Help me win the debate with my husband on being team green

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  • lincbeesmomlincbeesmom member
    eh he’s either on board or he’s not. I don’t really think there’s an “argument” to be made for being team green. 

    Good luck!


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  • nanifrognanifrog member
    Maybe tell him your reasons?
    I've known people where one person knows and one doesn't.
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  • sandbar517sandbar517 member
    I'm in the same boat.  I didn't want to find out with our girls, but MH said finding out it was twins was enough of a surprise, and he didn't want to wait until they were born to find out their sex(es).  LOL  I caved.  This time around I said I would really like to be Team Green, but he really wants to find out.  I agree with @tincupchalice that knowing the sex may help your husband feel more connected, which is why I'll more than likely give in again.  Having one of you find out and the other not would definitely not work for us, so if it's a possible solution for you, go for it!  Something else to think about is that you may not be able to find out just by ultrasound, one of our girls NEVER cooperated with her positioning, and if they weren't identical we never would have known she was a girl before she was born!


    Me, 35 Hubs, 32
    Married June 2012
    BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
    BFP Oct 2013- twins!  A&H born May 2014
    BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17


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  • RachelT1234RachelT1234 member
    My husband was so excited about being team green for our first, and I thought he was nuts. I never thought I wouldn't find out the sex, but after waiting until having the baby to find out I would not have it any other way! It was so exciting for us both, and he loved walking into the waiting room to announce to our family what we had. We're pretty confident that we're going to be team green again this time, especially for the reasons you explained...we aren't redoing the nursery, and we already have clothes, etc. Aside from the wait, the hardest part for me is coming up with two sets of names. :)
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  • curleemama32curleemama32 member
    We loved being able to tell busy bodies that we weren't finding out, it was our little bit of rebellion against nosey people. We're brats, though.

    In all honesty, though, MH loved being able to be the first to tell me what sex our baby was. It was the coolest thing, amid all the craziness of delivery, to have him be the one to see the baby and know something before me, he just adored the entire experience. He said it was a cool way to a part of the experience.

    But men can be stubborn. Can he keep a secret? Maybe he can find out and it can be a surprise for you?
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