@Cerisrichard I'm so sorry. It sounds like an awful situation. I hope that your DH shows his parents he's on your side with whatever decision you guys make as parents.
@tincupchalice yes it clearly falls under the child abuse laws...
It's our current game plan, though right now DS is 3.5 and a total pain in my you know what so I might want a break from him. But with the way DH's career works, we're moving every year for the next three, and after that I doubt we'll be any place longer than two years.
@Cerisrichard I'm so sorry. It sounds like an awful situation. I hope that your DH shows his parents he's on your side with whatever decision you guys make as parents.
@tincupchalice yes it clearly falls under the child abuse laws...
Thanks! DH is completely on board, so that's not a problem. To be fair FIL is being quite open minded, and while I can tell he doesn't agree with us, he has been researching it and listening to us. I think the real issue stems from how differently we view education to MIL. She sees starting school as this huge milestone, where they suddenly start to learn lots of things, but we see it more as a continuous progression. DS is already learning to write and recognise letters etc... We will just continue progressing at his pace and change up activities as appropriate. There's not a lot of academic learning to be done at age 5 anyway and everything else can be done through home ed groups/visits/walks etc... But she really can't see that.
The other problem, is that she hates us doing anything she sees as outside the norm, or different to how she did it. We had similar issues when we ended up cosleeping with DS1 and when we decided to become a foster family. We are definitely the black sheep of the family!
I think I'm going to print off a load of research on home ed outcomes, and lots of info on home ed activities in our area and our education plan. Then next time we see them I can just give them that to read and leave it at that. At least that way she might get an idea of what we're planning. Sigh!
Guys, I feel like a huge dick. My MIL texted me last night *TW loss* to tell me that MH's cousin's wife (that wanted to name her kid Elery) had an ultrasound and they couldn't find a heartbeat. *end TW* And now I feel really really bad for talking shit about her.
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
@sandbar517 aww honey I'm so sorry to hear that but you are in no way a dick
Angel Babies 1&2 2/14/09 DS born 3/11 Angel Baby 3 6/28/11 9/5/17 BFP!! divorced October 2014 9/6/17 hCG 88 progesterone 9.1 (prometrium started) Married DH 10/15 DH's DS born 6/09 9/8/17 hCG 242!!! Not preventing since 11/15 EDD 5/8/18 Adjusted 5/15/18 TTC since 1/1/16 9/27/17 we have a heart beat!
@sandbar517 very sorry. Don't beat yourself up though. It's just a shitty situation and there really are no good words to say to someone when they lose their baby.
Re: Monday Bitchfest 10/23
@tincupchalice yes it clearly falls under the child abuse laws...
I think the real issue stems from how differently we view education to MIL. She sees starting school as this huge milestone, where they suddenly start to learn lots of things, but we see it more as a continuous progression. DS is already learning to write and recognise letters etc... We will just continue progressing at his pace and change up activities as appropriate. There's not a lot of academic learning to be done at age 5 anyway and everything else can be done through home ed groups/visits/walks etc... But she really can't see that.
The other problem, is that she hates us doing anything she sees as outside the norm, or different to how she did it. We had similar issues when we ended up cosleeping with DS1 and when we decided to become a foster family. We are definitely the black sheep of the family!
I think I'm going to print off a load of research on home ed outcomes, and lots of info on home ed activities in our area and our education plan. Then next time we see them I can just give them that to read and leave it at that. At least that way she might get an idea of what we're planning. Sigh!
*TW loss*
to tell me that MH's cousin's wife (that wanted to name her kid Elery) had an ultrasound and they couldn't find a heartbeat.
*end TW*
And now I feel really really bad for talking shit about her.
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
DS born 3/11
Angel Baby 3 6/28/11 9/5/17 BFP!!
divorced October 2014 9/6/17 hCG 88 progesterone 9.1 (prometrium started)
Married DH 10/15 DH's DS born 6/09 9/8/17 hCG 242!!!
Not preventing since 11/15 EDD 5/8/18 Adjusted 5/15/18
TTC since 1/1/16 9/27/17 we have a heart beat!