Mental health check-in (week of 10/23)

Re: Mental health check-in (week of 10/23)

• Ceridwen77 member

  October 2017

  Anxiety relieved - had my NT scan today, saw the little heartbeat again (last week the doc couldn’t find a heartbeat with the handheld thingie). 
  
  

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• holli0801 member

  October 2017

  @Ceridwen21 happy for you! I have an appt tomorrow, FX we can hear the heartbeat!
  
  i thought I was doing well on the depression/anxiety front but I'm realizing I'm totally isolating myself. I recognize that part of it is I'm tired, and feel crappy, but I keep canceling plans with friends and never want to leave the house. I think I need to also admit to myself it's partly depression as well. Maybe it's just easy to excuse right now... I'm sharing and trying to hold myself accountable! This is what I did with PPD after DS. I used the tired, too much work to take a baby out excuse a lot, but I was truly isolating and in a fog. 

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• zizzabell523 member

  October 2017

  I feel like my depression is starting to creep back in to focus. I've felt off lately, and I've been chalking it up to being pregnant, but now I'm not so sure. I'm tired all the time and I have no motivation to do ANYTHING productive (at home or at work). Libido is also non-existent. We've DTD twice since the BFP back in August. I feel like I'm slipping backwards when I was hoping this pregnancy would help.
  

  BFP 9/11/13   EDD 5/21/14   MC 9/20/13 
  
  
  BFP 2/25/14   EDD 11/5/14   BD 11/4/14
  
  
  BFP 8/26/17  EDD  5/5/18
  

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• holli0801 member

  October 2017

  @zizzabell523 I feel you. Sorry no advice... 

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• justsuzie member

  October 2017

  @Ceridwen77 yippee! So glad for you. Hope it can ease your anxiety for a bit. 
  
  @holli0801 at least you are aware. The next step you can do is maybe make a short meet up date with someone. I like to commit to exact times, nothing open ended. 
  
  @zizzabell523. Crazy pregnancy hormones. I feel the same way about my anxiety. I was fine before all the pg stuff now it’s more in the forefront. 

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• okaykoala member

  October 2017

  I was doing super well with pg-related anxiety until this morning.
  
  TW loss mentioned.
  
  I stupidly googled when the first trimester officially ends (trying to determine when to tell people), and it just resulted in a bunch of posts on various boards from women who had second trimester losses. 
  
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  So, I was feeling pretty great, and now I'm all nervous and worried again. My 12-week OB appointment isn't for another two weeks, and my NT scan isn't for another three. Time feels like it's crawling.

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• holli0801 member

  October 2017

  @justsuzie thanks! I did meet up with a friend today which was good. But I'm so exhausted now!! So over the first trimester! A little energy would probably help as well..

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• justsuzie member

  October 2017

  @holli0801
  It's almost like you are almost waiting for the hangout to be over so you can say you did it!. I am going to happy hour on Friday and Margarita Wednesday next week.  My friends like to drink.  I may tell them all I am pregnant at happy hour. I'll almost be 14 weeks, guess I should probably start telling people. 

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• theletlers member

  October 2017

  Sorry to everyone struggling right now in whatever way. I'm not going to push advice but know you are being thought of and loved! Do whatever you need to do for you and your baby right now. Stranger from the internet hugs to you all! 
  
  

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• PocoHR member

  October 2017

  Pregnancy hormones make your emotional life so much more complicated I think! I'm weaning my toddler and I'm having such a hard time with the feelings around it. I definitely want to wean, I don't want to nurse two babies at once (if you do that... you're a rock star and you have my sincere admiration). I just know I'll get annoyed and feel touched out and I don't need extra stress with a newborn and a toddler. BUT while he's taking the weaning amazingly well and has basically stopped asking except for at night I'm SO sad to stop nursing him and I feel like he's not a baby anymore and I want to cry about it every time I put him down for a nap basically. I feel stupid because it's ultimately what I want, but I'm sad. I didn't expect to feel this sad about it. It's like heart-crushingly sad for me, and there is no real solution. I know it's way worse because I'm pregnant and I cry easily these days, and in my more rational moments I take it in stride, but those rational moments don't come often enough lately! Can I nurse him until college? What do you think?

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• ivyvines6 member

  October 2017

  PocoHR said:

  Pregnancy hormones make your emotional life so much more complicated I think! I'm weaning my toddler and I'm having such a hard time with the feelings around it. I definitely want to wean, I don't want to nurse two babies at once (if you do that... you're a rock star and you have my sincere admiration). I just know I'll get annoyed and feel touched out and I don't need extra stress with a newborn and a toddler. BUT while he's taking the weaning amazingly well and has basically stopped asking except for at night I'm SO sad to stop nursing him and I feel like he's not a baby anymore and I want to cry about it every time I put him down for a nap basically. I feel stupid because it's ultimately what I want, but I'm sad. I didn't expect to feel this sad about it. It's like heart-crushingly sad for me, and there is no real solution. I know it's way worse because I'm pregnant and I cry easily these days, and in my more rational moments I take it in stride, but those rational moments don't come often enough lately! Can I nurse him until college? What do you think?

  I've been feeling this lately too. J only nurses in the morning, but I think he would choose breakfast over milkies at this point, and I'm so sad about that. I'm sure we'll be 100% done when I come back from my eight day honeymoon in November :'(

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• PocoHR member

  October 2017

  @ivyvines6 It’s so hard isn’t it? My husband tries to console me saying you’ll have a new baby to nurse soon, but he doesn’t get it. I am happy my son is growing up but it’s also sort of devastating in a way.
  

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• ivyvines6 member

  October 2017

  @PocoHR tell him that's like telling someone they'll date someone else after a break up /eyeroll

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• bwow615 member

  October 2017 edited October 2017

  @pocohr everything you are feeling is totally normal, it's a super hard bond to break, cherish the snuggles a little more.  I weaned at 18 months right before I had to have a surgery where I was going to be under anesthesia and on some painkillers while I recovered.  Our bond is still just as strong as before.  
  
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• theletlers member

  October 2017

  I had to wean too. I felt like with such extreme morning sickness/HG I didn't have it in me. It's been a few weeks but DS also still keeps asking for it and telling me he wants to cuddle and it's time for milk. It's so hard!! I've  been trying to just do a lot of extra snuggles during those times.

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