My UO is that I believe I should be supportive first, regardless of whether someone deserves it or not. What's wrong with gently pointing something out rather than flaming them or yelling at them?
I'll explain: I was 21 and in a horrible relationship. Forums weren't that popular back then so I posted a question under a very anonymous name, created a fake email address (I was so ashamed) and had never participated in that forum before. I even emailed random pastors, begging for help getting out of that relationship.
In the forums, I got no response, which was much better than being flamed for "having a bad user name" and "being a drive by". I got genuine and helpful answers from the pastors I emailed, which gave me the courage to seek counseling.
What I'm saying is... regardless of how something looks, I can't bear to know that someone is in pain and that I shut them down simply bc they didn't follow the rules. I don't know anyone's circumstances.
@syssa-o he's like that one dude in high school who one person said was hot and somehow it took off so for 4 years everyone talked about how hot he was while deep down everyone just thought he was minimally attractive at most. I'm pretty sure every graduating class has one, it's a law of the universe.
@barrelocarol I love what you said and the way you said it, and I agree with you, but I just think a lot of the women on here are weary of people we don’t “know”.
Like they've been here long enough to have to deal with trolls coming in just trying to stir up drama and end friendships. I agree support first but I think at some point people become so sick of being supportive of people who don’t give a crap about them, and they become cynical because of it. We DO have a place here on the bump for one timers and that’s in the first tri, second tri, and third tri boards. If you have a question but don’t want to contribute to other people, then that’s where you go. And there’s nothing wrong with being a drive by, assuming you’re heart is in the right place and you’re not trying to be cruel.
Alternatively, the BMBs are where we build a little community of women helping each other. Sometimes people get protective of that which is why when they see someone come in and not contribute at all, it ruffles some feathers. My first instinct is always to tell them to change their name if they’re a knottie, because I DO want them to become part of a wonderful community and I know that, at least in this BMB, they’re going to have better luck getting the help they need if they follow the guidelines.
Again, I agree with you and I’m not arguing that we shouldn’t be kind to each other or that there’s ever an excuse to be cruel. I just wanted to give some (rather long-winded) insight into why things are the way they are here, so you don’t just think we’re all cruel people who don’t care.
I had such a good UO last week and now I can’t remember what it was. Ugh.
My UO: I’m team no presents on birthdays. For Christmas, go crazy. But for birthdays, I would much rather take my kids to go EXPERIENCE something. I know when I was younger I always asked to go somewhere rather than receive presents. Even just a weekend trip somewhere if the birthday is during the school year (mine always was) or going out to dinner and bowling that night. Or even telling them “okay, for your birthday we’re going to Disney World but not until -insert a break in school where you have enough time to go-“ and maybe wrapping up some Minnie Mouse ears for them to open on their birthday. I want to teach my kids there’s more value in experiences than things.
@syssa-o omg I’m here for this! I actually used to think he was attractive but I haven’t for years. Everyone looks at me like I have 4 heads when I say this.
My UO is I’m team no flat sheet on the bed. This is a recent development and mainly because my DH tries to burrito roll himself and totally makes the bed a mess when there’s a top sheet, but man I’m loving it. Plus making the bed has never been easier. (I have no idea of this is an UO.)
@barrelocarol I agree 100% with everything @ShawnnaO said. I also would never turn someone away who was going through something terrible or having a medical issue; HOWEVER, if you are referring to this latest Knottie the reason I took issue with her is b/c based on the information she offered then she brought this situation on herself. There is such thing as responsibility, birth control, and abstinence. My father is an alcoholic so I'm well aware of what life is like with someone who has an addiction. If you know your H is an addict and won't get help and you already have 5 kids then don't sleep with him or if you do, use RELIABLE protection. Don't come on a forum where some people have waited years and/or paid thousands of dollars and endured months of heartache before conceiving all upset because you got pregnant with an oops baby and your parents aren't happy for you. Note she didn't say they won't help/support her. She was upset because they weren't happy for her. Well of course they aren't happy ! And let's face it she probably knew he had a drug/alcohol issue when she slept with him. We all make mistakes, even big ones, but she seems like one of those ppl who NEVER takes responsibility for her own actions and I CANNOT STAND people like that.
I guess this is also my UO for the day!
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@ksmwalters I very unwillingly became team no flat sheet only because my husband was so strangely unable to put himself between the fitted and top sheets. He always ended up between flat sheet and cover, then would act like my insistence on both sheets was some quirky, eccentric habit. I will admit, though, that it makes cleaning and remaking the bed a lot easier.
My UO is that I'm truly struggling to maintain positive relationships with those in my family who continue to stand by our president as things get increasingly disgusting, scary, and depressing. I really feel like this is beyond mere "politics." As I think about this aspect of my baby's future, I'm so sad and angry.
My UO is that I'm truly struggling to maintain positive relationships with those in my family who continue to stand by our president as things get increasingly disgusting, scary, and depressing. I really feel like this is beyond mere "politics." As I think about this aspect of my baby's future, I'm so sad and angry.
I have flat out told people in our family that their so-called values are the reason why they will never get close enough to my kids to have any kind of influence over them, and in fact, my kids are being raised to be better than that. I am soooooo over coddling people with warped perceptions of what it means to be a good human. Their beliefs have actual consequences, one of them being they will never get close to my kids. And I'm not even a little sorry. /rant
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@barrelocarol I agree 100% with everything @ShawnnaO said. I also would never turn someone away who was going through something terrible or having a medical issue; HOWEVER, if you are referring to this latest Knottie the reason I took issue with her is b/c based on the information she offered then she brought this situation on herself. There is such thing as responsibility, birth control, and abstinence. My father is an alcoholic so I'm well aware of what life is like with someone who has an addiction. If you know your H is an addict and won't get help and you already have 5 kids then don't sleep with him or if you do, use RELIABLE protection. Don't come on a forum where some people have waited years and/or paid thousands of dollars and endured months of heartache before conceiving all upset because you got pregnant with an oops baby and your parents aren't happy for you. Note she didn't say they won't help/support her. She was upset because they weren't happy for her. Well of course they aren't happy ! And let's face it she probably knew he had a drug/alcohol issue when she slept with him. We all make mistakes, even big ones, but she seems like one of those ppl who NEVER takes responsibility for her own actions and I CANNOT STAND people like that.
I guess this is also my UO for the day!
Oy. I mean, I'm on board with what you posted to knottienumbers 100 percent, and I understand why/how posts like hers can be hurtful. But I'm not sure I can get fully behind your statement here, particularly the part about responsibility, birth control, and abstinence.
Poverty, abuse, mental illness, and access to women's health services come to mind right off the bat as to how one could find themselves in her situation, and it's absolutely no one's place to judge how she got into her current situation but rather to ensure that there are options available to her and others to either help prevent it from happening or to support her when it does. This is why the current war on women is so.effing.important right now.
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I'm with @muggle621 on the most recent drive-by. On her first AW post (which also rubbed me wrong because it felt braggy and kind of like "bet no one has as many as me!") she was welcomed and given tips on how to join the community. Which this is. It's kind of like a neighborhood with an HOA. If you want to go be a hoarding hermit somewhere who blasts show tunes at 3 am, that's cool, it's just that a neighborhood isn't the place to do it. There are other places for "I just pop by when I need something."
And that one, honestly, my heart went out to her a little bit but then I thought about my aunt & uncle and cousin who is currently in rehab and lost custody of her two kids. My aunt and uncle have tried. For nearly 40 years, they have busted their butts and spent an incredible amount of money supporting her. My uncle is 70 and still working, I'm sure in part because of how much they've helped her. They want to retire and travel and just enjoy a calm grandparents life but they can't because of her constant shenanigans. Meanwhile the other kids and grandkids get shortchanged because she's always making it all about her.
So really, this person could either be like my cousin and it's no big surprise that her parents are over it or she could be like many others and it's possible her spouse recently developed addiction. I don't know.
And honestly, the comment about God wanting her to have this baby... yes, all babies are miracles and gifts and blessings. But at a certain point you take responsibility, too. If your family is in a disaster state, that's a great time for some birth control because I believe that you have a responsibility to every child who didn't make a choice to be in this family and that includes potential children. I believe that it's akin to the story of the guy stuck in the lake who was given an oar and when he lamented to God about why God didn't scoop him up and save him, the response was, "I gave you an oar!" And I've said before the invoking God's will will always irritate me because of the comparisons. So God wanted her to have a baby but wanted these other wonderful people to go through the crushing struggles of loss/IF? God wanted her to have six kids but took this other family's baby? Read the room. Consider other people.
The bottom line is that I don't have it in me for people who show up and pretty much just say, "Hello! I have arrived for you to all support me!" It's like when I mentioned that it irritates me when people ask for recommendations on Facebook and close it with "And go!" Like I have nothing going on in my life so it's a top priority to race forward with whatever to please this person.
There have been plenty of people I've helped out over the last 18+ months who came in crisis. But usually you can tell when they understand that we're all people with our own stuff, too and when some people think we just exist to serve them.
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@orbmaker@bettyvonsomethingstein Yeah, right there with you. Thankfully we don't have any close family members who are sticking to their guns on the issue but I definitely intend on staying vocal and calling out extended family if/when they make comments.
My UO: I’m team no presents on birthdays. For Christmas, go crazy. But for birthdays, I would much rather take my kids to go EXPERIENCE something. I know when I was younger I always asked to go somewhere rather than receive presents. Even just a weekend trip somewhere if the birthday is during the school year (mine always was) or going out to dinner and bowling that night. Or even telling them “okay, for your birthday we’re going to Disney World but not until -insert a break in school where you have enough time to go-“ and maybe wrapping up some Minnie Mouse ears for them to open on their birthday. I want to teach my kids there’s more value in experiences than things.
Related: I'm good with presents for birthdays, but I do not want to throw three birthday parties every single year. I think I would prefer a few gifts + a smaller experience. Growing up we got to have a cake, our favorite dinner, and got to choose a movie for the family to see on our birthdays, and we just did parties every handful of years or so. I think I want to do something similar.
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@barrelocarol I agree 100% with everything @ShawnnaO said. I also would never turn someone away who was going through something terrible or having a medical issue; HOWEVER, if you are referring to this latest Knottie the reason I took issue with her is b/c based on the information she offered then she brought this situation on herself. There is such thing as responsibility, birth control, and abstinence. My father is an alcoholic so I'm well aware of what life is like with someone who has an addiction. If you know your H is an addict and won't get help and you already have 5 kids then don't sleep with him or if you do, use RELIABLE protection. Don't come on a forum where some people have waited years and/or paid thousands of dollars and endured months of heartache before conceiving all upset because you got pregnant with an oops baby and your parents aren't happy for you. Note she didn't say they won't help/support her. She was upset because they weren't happy for her. Well of course they aren't happy ! And let's face it she probably knew he had a drug/alcohol issue when she slept with him. We all make mistakes, even big ones, but she seems like one of those ppl who NEVER takes responsibility for her own actions and I CANNOT STAND people like that.
I guess this is also my UO for the day!
Oy. I mean, I'm on board with what you posted to knottienumbers 100 percent, and I understand why/how posts like hers can be hurtful. But I'm not sure I can get fully behind your statement here, particularly the part about responsibility, birth control, and abstinence.
Poverty, abuse, mental illness, and access to women's health services come to mind right off the bat as to how one could find themselves in her situation, and it's absolutely no one's place to judge how she got into her current situation but rather to ensure that there are options available to her and others to either help prevent it from happening or to support her when it does. This is why the current war on women is so.effing.important right now.
@bettyvonsomethingstein I live in Louisiana, which is one of the most poverty stricken states the country. It's also a red state so needless to say we have hardly any planned parenthoods or low cost mental health clinics available, so believe me when I say I understand there are a lot of factors out of a person's control. I see it every day and volunteer regularly with organizations which assist those in need. I mean in some schools here sex ed is still abstinence only so my state (and many others) do nothing to educate girls and women on how to prevent STD's and pregnancy. The reason I got kind of judgy is because the way she worded her post. Her "parents are not happy" for her and something about (I'm paraphrasing here) God deciding she needed this child even though she didn't plan on 6. Those statements say to me she is not one of these women who have been denied access to such services. Had she not included those statements in her post then I would have left well enough alone.
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@muggle621, I mean, I support your comments to her, I really do. I just think she had enough material to be flamed for without getting into the whys and hows of her situation, because you really just never know, and it's really no one's place to judge that aspect.
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absolutely no top sheets! I go so far as taking it off the bed before I go to sleep in a hotel. I do like making the bed, which is a fairly new thing for me, like I was in my 30s before I cared, but we also have burrowing blanket obsessed pit bull who unmakes the bed and turns it into a king size nest if it's under 75 degrees outside, so sometimes I just tuck him into it and then make it before bed. I have never thought Matthew McConaughey was attractive, but after Dallas Buyers Club and a few other things I do think he is a better actor than I used to.
^evidently I have a lead quoting finger. @muggle621, LET'S NOT GET CRAZY HERE AND HALT ALL THE JUDGINESS. I fully expect continuing flames and rants from you, pleaseandthankyou, and I'll be there to back you up with fist bumps and love-tits and GIFs. I think we share many viewpoints, and I appreciate hearing from you
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I see all the merits of the comments re: recent drive by. I am missing out on tagging everyone who commented on this. I have to say again: I'm so impressed that we can all discuss and share different opinions in such a respectable way. I love that and I'm glad to be part of this board.
I should have noted I was just commenting in general and was in no way calling out anyone or even had anyone in mind. I wasn't even thinking of this recent post, just in general.
Also, I've never met a useful top sheet and our bed is constantly disheveled as of late.
@bettyvonsomethingstein Don't worry, you aren't rid of me haha. You make some good points and I should be a less judgy of this Knottie.
Those of you who don't like the top sheet must not live in the south. Unfortunately in my house we only use the top sheet and in the winter we add a light blanket because it's so hot. I'm jealous of you all with duvets and comforters and snuggly blankets. I'm still trying to get my H to move to Canada!!
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Those of you who don't like the top sheet must not live in the south.
@muggle621 This might be crazy, but we live in South Florida. We technically use a big, fuzzy throw blanket as our top sheet (I guess? Does this make me a top sheet hypocrite?) with a big, fluffy comforter... Every night. We keep the it at 75 at night and I'm still freezing.
@muggle621 it gets hot up here but I have such a dramatic need to sleep in a cold room that we run our ac in just the bedroom basically until it's cold out.
Those of you who don't like the top sheet must not live in the south.
@muggle621 This might be crazy, but we live in South Florida. We technically use a big, fuzzy throw blanket as our top sheet (I guess? Does this make me a top sheet hypocrite?) with a big, fluffy comforter... Every night. We keep the it at 75 at night and I'm still freezing.
Warm bodies do weird things...
You are still cold at 75 degrees? OMG I want your air conditioner!!!! We keep it at 69 at night and I'm still hot! I'm one of those people who is always cold at work, at the grocery, at movies, etc. but at night I just burn up.
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@ShawnnaO my son isn’t having a birthday party this year. We’re taking him to a museum and dinner instead, big in part due not needing/wanting gifts and partly due to not seeing a point in throwing a party for a two year old.
@Gingermom15 yes! Maybe it’s a UO of mine but if they aren’t old enough to remember the party, why throw a party??? A mom I know made me feel so guilty for not throwing my daughter a first birthday party.
@ShawnnaO we threw my son a first birthday party at the local pizza place. It was stressful and we found out he doesn’t even like cake. He got so much stuff that he never cared about, a ton of clothes because people shopped for his age rather than his size, after I told everyone who asked what size he wore. He’s a super scrawny kid and wears up to 3 months behind in clothes, so he didn’t get anything weather appropriate. As grateful as I am, I would much rather buy clothes and toys myself
I’m going to wear a button that says “don’t talk to me about my pregnancy or kids” to work from now on.
I really don’t want to hear you “oh he’ll be so much easier than your girls” or any more boy vs girl bs. He may be easier, one girl has been easier than the other so I’m not buying your boy vs girl argument (which insuppose is my UO). Kids will be who the are - period. I just had to tell someone to walk away from my desk because she wouldn’t let it go. She still managed a “just you wait”. (FYI she has one child so I don’t even know where all this “wisdom” is coming from).
@Mass-girl-at-heart yesssss!!! We don’t know yet, but if I get one more “you have a girl so now you need a boy,” comment, I’m going to lose it. I NEED a healthy baby. You NEED to shut up.
I love the idea of a huge baptism party and first birthday party with the parents’ family and friends. I know the kids don’t remember it but I see it as more of a party for the parents. The baptism is great because people who I don’t necessarily want at my house know that they get to meet the baby soon after birth. Both are also celebrations for the parents making it through (in my opinion) some of the hardest times of their life.
It’s okay to let your kid cry. Unless he is throwing such a huge massive fit that my nerves can’t handle it, sometimes he just needs to have his “moment.”
This is is especially unpopular when I am visiting my family because it is practically a crime for my child to be upset and make noise. Also, I don’t let him just lose his shizz in public and disturb other people. But he’s a kid. He’s allowed to be upset.
Oh and ps, team no too sheet and always has to have a duvet... I live in the desert and it is sometimes 120’ here. We have a super light insert. And I keep the house on 72’ when I’m sleeping, unless I’m pregnant. Then I have a casual disregard for the electric bill.
Re: UO Thursday - 10/19
My UO is that I believe I should be supportive first, regardless of whether someone deserves it or not. What's wrong with gently pointing something out rather than flaming them or yelling at them?
I'll explain: I was 21 and in a horrible relationship. Forums weren't that popular back then so I posted a question under a very anonymous name, created a fake email address (I was so ashamed) and had never participated in that forum before. I even emailed random pastors, begging for help getting out of that relationship.
In the forums, I got no response, which was much better than being flamed for "having a bad user name" and "being a drive by". I got genuine and helpful answers from the pastors I emailed, which gave me the courage to seek counseling.
What I'm saying is... regardless of how something looks, I can't bear to know that someone is in pain and that I shut them down simply bc they didn't follow the rules. I don't know anyone's circumstances.
Edit to add - I actually hope this is popular rather than unpopular because I just find him that repulsive.
Like they've been here long enough to have to deal with trolls coming in just trying to stir up drama and end friendships. I agree support first but I think at some point people become so sick of being supportive of people who don’t give a crap about them, and they become cynical because of it. We DO have a place here on the bump for one timers and that’s in the first tri, second tri, and third tri boards. If you have a question but don’t want to contribute to other people, then that’s where you go. And there’s nothing wrong with being a drive by, assuming you’re heart is in the right place and you’re not trying to be cruel.
Alternatively, the BMBs are where we build a little community of women helping each other. Sometimes people get protective of that which is why when they see someone come in and not contribute at all, it ruffles some feathers. My first instinct is always to tell them to change their name if they’re a knottie, because I DO want them to become part of a wonderful community and I know that, at least in this BMB, they’re going to have better luck getting the help they need if they follow the guidelines.
Again, I agree with you and I’m not arguing that we shouldn’t be kind to each other or that there’s ever an excuse to be cruel. I just wanted to give some (rather long-winded) insight into why things are the way they are here, so you don’t just think we’re all cruel people who don’t care.
I had such a good UO last week and now I can’t remember what it was. Ugh.
I forgot about him till recently when they started airing (I think it was) Lincoln commercials.
My UO: I’m team no presents on birthdays. For Christmas, go crazy. But for birthdays, I would much rather take my kids to go EXPERIENCE something. I know when I was younger I always asked to go somewhere rather than receive presents. Even just a weekend trip somewhere if the birthday is during the school year (mine always was) or going out to dinner and bowling that night. Or even telling them “okay, for your birthday we’re going to Disney World but not until -insert a break in school where you have enough time to go-“ and maybe wrapping up some Minnie Mouse ears for them to open on their birthday. I want to teach my kids there’s more value in experiences than things.
My UO is I’m team no flat sheet on the bed. This is a recent development and mainly because my DH tries to burrito roll himself and totally makes the bed a mess when there’s a top sheet, but man I’m loving it. Plus making the bed has never been easier. (I have no idea of this is an UO.)
If you know your H is an addict and won't get help and you already have 5 kids then don't sleep with him or if you do, use RELIABLE protection. Don't come on a forum where some people have waited years and/or paid thousands of dollars and endured months of heartache before conceiving all upset because you got pregnant with an oops baby and your parents aren't happy for you. Note she didn't say they won't help/support her. She was upset because they weren't happy for her. Well of course they aren't happy ! And let's face it she probably knew he had a drug/alcohol issue when she slept with him. We all make mistakes, even big ones, but she seems like one of those ppl who NEVER takes responsibility for her own actions and I CANNOT STAND people like that.
I guess this is also my UO for the day!
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Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
Poverty, abuse, mental illness, and access to women's health services come to mind right off the bat as to how one could find themselves in her situation, and it's absolutely no one's place to judge how she got into her current situation but rather to ensure that there are options available to her and others to either help prevent it from happening or to support her when it does. This is why the current war on women is so.effing.important right now.
And that one, honestly, my heart went out to her a little bit but then I thought about my aunt & uncle and cousin who is currently in rehab and lost custody of her two kids. My aunt and uncle have tried. For nearly 40 years, they have busted their butts and spent an incredible amount of money supporting her. My uncle is 70 and still working, I'm sure in part because of how much they've helped her. They want to retire and travel and just enjoy a calm grandparents life but they can't because of her constant shenanigans. Meanwhile the other kids and grandkids get shortchanged because she's always making it all about her.
So really, this person could either be like my cousin and it's no big surprise that her parents are over it or she could be like many others and it's possible her spouse recently developed addiction. I don't know.
And honestly, the comment about God wanting her to have this baby... yes, all babies are miracles and gifts and blessings. But at a certain point you take responsibility, too. If your family is in a disaster state, that's a great time for some birth control because I believe that you have a responsibility to every child who didn't make a choice to be in this family and that includes potential children. I believe that it's akin to the story of the guy stuck in the lake who was given an oar and when he lamented to God about why God didn't scoop him up and save him, the response was, "I gave you an oar!" And I've said before the invoking God's will will always irritate me because of the comparisons. So God wanted her to have a baby but wanted these other wonderful people to go through the crushing struggles of loss/IF? God wanted her to have six kids but took this other family's baby? Read the room. Consider other people.
The bottom line is that I don't have it in me for people who show up and pretty much just say, "Hello! I have arrived for you to all support me!" It's like when I mentioned that it irritates me when people ask for recommendations on Facebook and close it with "And go!" Like I have nothing going on in my life so it's a top priority to race forward with whatever to please this person.
There have been plenty of people I've helped out over the last 18+ months who came in crisis. But usually you can tell when they understand that we're all people with our own stuff, too and when some people think we just exist to serve them.
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@orbmaker @bettyvonsomethingstein Yeah, right there with you. Thankfully we don't have any close family members who are sticking to their guns on the issue but I definitely intend on staying vocal and calling out extended family if/when they make comments.
And the bed is the first thing I do after peeing and puking. I neeeeed to crawl into a made bed at the end of the day.
The reason I got kind of judgy is because the way she worded her post. Her "parents are not happy" for her and something about (I'm paraphrasing here) God deciding she needed this child even though she didn't plan on 6. Those statements say to me she is not one of these women who have been denied access to such services. Had she not included those statements in her post then I would have left well enough alone.
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
I have never thought Matthew McConaughey was attractive, but after Dallas Buyers Club and a few other things I do think he is a better actor than I used to.
I should have noted I was just commenting in general and was in no way calling out anyone or even had anyone in mind. I wasn't even thinking of this recent post, just in general.
Also, I've never met a useful top sheet and our bed is constantly disheveled as of late.
Those of you who don't like the top sheet must not live in the south. Unfortunately in my house we only use the top sheet and in the winter we add a light blanket because it's so hot. I'm jealous of you all with duvets and comforters and snuggly blankets. I'm still trying to get my H to move to Canada!!
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Warm bodies do weird things...
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Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
I think this opinion is super unpopular around here.
I really don’t want to hear you “oh he’ll be so much easier than your girls” or any more boy vs girl bs. He may be easier, one girl has been easier than the other so I’m not buying your boy vs girl argument (which insuppose is my UO). Kids will be who the are - period. I just had to tell someone to walk away from my desk because she wouldn’t let it go. She still managed a “just you wait”. (FYI she has one child so I don’t even know where all this “wisdom” is coming from).
@afoul I’m partial to “tiny human”
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This is is especially unpopular when I am visiting my family because it is practically a crime for my child to be upset and make noise. Also, I don’t let him just lose his shizz in public and disturb other people. But he’s a kid. He’s allowed to be upset.