June 2016 Moms
Delitachan
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The Terrible Twos
Delitachan
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Has anyone's LO started their terrible twos yet? I think mine has. My evidence:
Around the time LO turned 15 1/2 months, he started crying for everything - EVERYTHING.
When walking and exploring, he wants to get into an area that we don't want him to. Turn him around - CRY. He tries to go back. Prevent him? = SINK TO FLOOR AND CRY. Pick him up to his feet? CRY. Walk away? CRY LOUDER then walk back to area.
He sees us serving milk? CRY. Locks iPhone because he keeps punching in random numbers for the password? CRY. Take the toy or other object away? CRY.
He sees daddy? Auto CRY.
Dont let him off the cart at the store? CRY
It's just constant wah wah wah. He hasn't learned "no" yet but man is this boy headstrong and bad tempered. It's his way or WW3!!
Is this the sign of the terrible twos?
Around the time LO turned 15 1/2 months, he started crying for everything - EVERYTHING.
When walking and exploring, he wants to get into an area that we don't want him to. Turn him around - CRY. He tries to go back. Prevent him? = SINK TO FLOOR AND CRY. Pick him up to his feet? CRY. Walk away? CRY LOUDER then walk back to area.
He sees us serving milk? CRY. Locks iPhone because he keeps punching in random numbers for the password? CRY. Take the toy or other object away? CRY.
He sees daddy? Auto CRY.
Dont let him off the cart at the store? CRY
It's just constant wah wah wah. He hasn't learned "no" yet but man is this boy headstrong and bad tempered. It's his way or WW3!!
Is this the sign of the terrible twos?
Re: The Terrible Twos
Damien will cry if we take something away, keep him from doing something, or if one of us leaves the condo but it rarely lasts more than a minute. He can often calm himself down by finding something else to do. Other times he needs help. If I offer him a new item to play with as I'm taking away the one he shouldn't have, it also greatly reduces the crying/fussing and sometimes keeps the tears from happening altogether. Doesn't always work, sometimes he's too upset to want whatever it is so he pushes it away. If my husband leaves, to run to the corner store for instance, I can usually calm him down with a distraction (book or something).
He's now facing a lot more boundaries and restrictions because he's more mobile and suuuuper curious about everything around him and he's learning how to handle situations where he can't always get whatever it is he wants or go wherever he wants. Right now he knows, "This makes me happy/feel good. I like this," so when we stop him or take something away, his first reaction is to be upset until he either calms down himself or with our assistance. We practice validation a lot, letting him know that we understand why he's upset but for XYZ reasons he can't do that or play with whatever it is. He doesn't understand what we're saying when we do that, for now, but it's practice for us so that it just becomes second nature in the future.
I've read that during their tantrums you shouldn't reason with them - they're beyond reasoning. My hubs likes to negotiate and validate it, but again, when they're in the heat of tantrum, you can't reason with them. Simply let them finish.
I'm guessing this is a terrible twos thing.
So what will our LOs gain from this leap?
We should hopefully witness them becoming more independent and self-reliant, which also means being a bit more will-ful. They will be pushing boundaries to see what they can do, how far they can go, and to show, "I do what I want." At this point, they will begin to recognize their extended family as being part of their family (grandparents, aunts/uncles, etc.). We'll see further comprehension of what's being said to and around our LOs. Drawings might become a bit less abstract and more "real world." They'll even have a basic understanding of possession (this is mine, that belongs to her, etc.).
I hope this info is helpful!