I went to a haunted house thing (they have like 5 haunted houses at one place) with my friend last night. I expected her to have a few beers but she kept ordering shot after shot after shot.. probably like 10 shots and at least 4 beers. We only made it through 3 haunted houses before she couldn't walk. She threw up out the window multiple times on the hour drive home, getting it everywhere. Her car, thank goodness. But god.. the smell. Ugh. I got her home, went in to get her boyfriend to help her up the stairs. He just stood at the bottom on the steps while she almost fell backwards down them. I was at the top and my reflexes were on point and somehow I caught her, she's a bigger girl. At that point, I was fuming. She could have dragged my pregnant ass down the concrete stairs with her. Sorry for the rant, guys, but it's just now hitting me how mad I am about the whole ordeal.
DH asked me last night if I still loved him. He said I've been distant and so easily irritated lately. I felt horrible. But I also was like "yes I love you, you idiot! You're just irritating me lately!!!"
I need to make a better effort to be a nicer wife.
co-worker (who has twins): are you planning on breastfeeding? me: yes co-worker: keep formula on hand for when you give up me: didn't you exclusively breastfeed till they were over a year? co-worker: yes but I was very determined me:
@mdfarmchick right?! Like I feel like "keep some formula on hand" is good advice for anyone/everyone (we always kept those free sample formulas on hand just in case) especially with twins but like really? For *when* you give up. Thanks dear *eyeroll*
@syssa-o, wowwwww!!!!! She should be encouraging you!!! Of course keep formula on hand. Like you said, the samples are great because you never know. But she of all people should be advocating for it and saying it IS possible!
Last night I hit the wall sometime while we were out to dinner with FIL. My rib hurt, my head hurt, I was ready to pass out, and I was so frigging annoyed with the movement of my earrings when we went over bumps. That's when it became clear that I needed to just take my vitamins and go straight to bed.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@crossfitbabybump LOL maybe I should actually START lurking. Sometimes I get bored and just want to read something entertaining.... but I have a hard time staying out of it if I feel strongly enough so maybe I shouldn’t lurk
@ShawnnaO - not gonna lie I lurk to read other people's drama sometimes but lately it's been just so dumb and annoying the crap out of me on how people can be so rude and ignorant towards other women on here *TW* that have losses or horrible things going on *END TW* yet they just keep posting the STUPIDEST things. UGH! Okay.. I'm calm. sorry. lol
@npkat I went to a concert with my husband and a friend of ours on Thursday and she got a little too tipsy and was super annoying. At one point she leaned down and started talking to my belly and KISSED IT. She immediately realized her mistake but I wanted to smack her.
@crossfitbabybump I am actually pretty disappointed there are so many people that lack the ability to be sensitive. The first time that FFC went round was bad, but this second time was terrible. I don't post on other people's boards, but had to exercise some extreme restraint this time.
@DDRRT1982@crossfitbabybump I just lurked that one. Horrible. Those ARE NOT the ones that are entertaining. That one was just full of women trying to be so tactful, and kind, to 2 women who clearly didn't even care. It made me sad to read that women like that are out there, and purposely hurting other women because "it's all about them".
Just kidding, I found the thread. After spending an hour reading through “me too” on twitter and then reading through that thread, I’m emotionally exhausted. I don’t get why people don’t understand to just, idk, CARE a little bit?
I agree with what you ladies are saying! Lurking can be fun and also a way to get to know the other ladies of TB but yesterday I should have just stayed on my own BMB.. that made my blood boil. I'm calm now... kind of. lol.
I hesitate to say this, but sometimes I get annoyed when people suggest "Call your doctor" to someone asking a question, as if that isn't the obvious thing to do anyways.
Maybe I just get annoyed with people who must comment but it's just unhelpful, even with the best intentions.
And also, my son peeing on the floor and playing with it isn't helping my irritability.
@barrelocarol I always end my advice with “but call your doctor to get peace of mind, etc” because honestly sometimes people DO need to be reminded that we aren’t doctors here (even those of us who are can’t actually give real medical advice with no prior knowledge of the patient). That being said, if “call your doctor” is ALL I have to say, I don’t usually comment unless what the person is describing is very concerning. And in those cases it’s less call the doctor and more “go to the doctor as soon as you can.”
@barrelocarol aaaaaaand that's why I only give advice if I have a pretty definitive answer. I know all y'all are smart enough to call your MDs if you feel like something isn't right.
Super annoyed with work today. And fall harvest. It is NEVER ENDING! I have college friends coming in this weekend. Fri-Sun morning. I tried taking off Friday afternoon, but no.. my boss has a meeting and needs me to be here. It never even crossed my mind that I would have to work Saturday, but this morning I was informed that one of my fellow employees needs Saturday off for a wedding. Which leaves us short handed. Which leaves me to fill in. So I'm glad I have friends that drove over 10 hours to see me and I will basically be at work the whole time they are here. I might as well tell them, "oh by the way, can you watch my kid for me Saturday? Because I don't have a freaking babysitter for Saturdays!" Ahhhh! okay rant over. I apologize, but it feels good to get that off my chest.
The hospital FINALLY called to schedule my anatomy scan this morning and I missed the call. So I called back, no one answered so I left a message. They called back again and when I went to answer it my daughter reached over and hung up the phone. I know she doesn’t realize what she’s doing but I’m so frustrated right now to the point of tears. I’ve been waiting SO LONG for these people to call me and get this scheduled.
And then to rub salt in the wound, she puts food in her mouth, then comes over and spits chewed up food on me. I wish my husband was home. I need a break.
@ShawnnaO My daughter just went through a phase (hopefully thats what it was anyways) where she kept spitting out her chewed food. She would lean over her high chair and do it. And when we would have snacks she would do it all over the carpet. I would get so frustrated with this. And I don't know how to successfully punish an almost 2 year old! I can tell she knows she is not supposed to do it. And that's what irks me the most.
I say phase because she's gone about two weeks now where she hasn't done that. So I'm keeping my fingers crossed!
@triplejplus1 I’m crossing my fingers for you too! P is about 13 months, she does it when she puts something in her mouth that she doesn’t like. Agreed that it’s hard to explain to them that they can’t do certain things when they’re so young. You just have to keep saying it and hope it sticks.
I have this friend that is constantly complaining that she misses me and we don't see each other anymore... but my group of friends always make plans and we host get-togethers and movie nights and game nights that she NEVER comes to. Yes she still complains. I am getting annoyed. We all live about half an hour within each others places so we all have a bit of a drive to get to each others houses when we hang out. She complains it's a far drive for her and gas money adds up, blah blah blah. Gas in Minnesota right now is $2.30... that's not that expensive compared to Pennsylvania, where we used to live. But I totally get it. I drive 45 minutes sometimes from Minnesota to Wisconsin to hang out with these friends. She was complaining to me how money is tight for her right now.. and for some reason that just set me off. Money is not tight for her. She doesn't have any bills. She lives with her parents. They pay her car insurance and payment. She pays nothing! I have a mortgage, student loans out the ass, TWO car payments, bills, utilities, groceries, 3 dogs to feed, and I am trying to find daycare right now. On top of that I just received a bill for the MaternIT21 testing we had done... $1,450!!!!! I about went into early labor last night opening that bill! But they have a payment plan for that and I am going to make it work. It just annoys me that she constantly is bailing on us hanging out and complains it's expensive to drive everywhere... like we don't understand?? The rest of us do it... all the time! I have a baby to save for, shit in my house to fix up, things to buy and get ready and only 18 weeks left to do it! But yet I am still finding the time and some money to go and see my friends because now is the time for small paychecks and big adventures! This baby will be here before we know it so I am trying to make the best of it all with the people I love. I just can't take her complaining anymore... I'm ready to snap. We all have it hard... I just don't want to hear about it right now. I need to relax and have a good time with my friends that I won't get to see as often come February/March. I will try to hold it together and not flip out but my patience is running very, very thin. Honestly, am I just being a bitch??
@crossfitbabybump I literally feel like we could know some of the same people from your story
EDIT because it cut me off.
I live 18 hours away now but I have a friend who lives in WI and people who live an hour away from her are always expecting her to drive to them rather than them going to see her. And my mother in law lives on the border of MN/WI and always asks us when we’re going to come see her while we’re in WI like we’re supposed to drive an hour every day just to see her.
Hell, even being 18 hours away we still get “when are you going to come see us?” From family ALL THE TIME. We already travel up once, usually twice a year. Like, when are you going to pay the travel expenses? Kthanksbye. My parents are the only family members who make it a point to come see us (TWICE a year!) so they can see me/my daughter semi-regularly without us needing to travel even more to see them.
@ShawnnaO My daughter just went through a phase (hopefully thats what it was anyways) where she kept spitting out her chewed food. She would lean over her high chair and do it. And when we would have snacks she would do it all over the carpet. I would get so frustrated with this. And I don't know how to successfully punish an almost 2 year old! I can tell she knows she is not supposed to do it. And that's what irks me the most.
I say phase because she's gone about two weeks now where she hasn't done that. So I'm keeping my fingers crossed!
My son did this. It lasted a couple months and I was hoping it was a phase, but it didn’t stop. I ended up needing to end meal time when he did this. I would tell him firmly “we do not spit”, then if he did I would say “all done. No more”. I’d put his food up for 15 minutes or so until he stopped throwing a tantrum, it took a couple weeks but I did catch on that spitting meant end of meal time.
@crossfitbabybump I don't think you're being a bitch, I have one friend who complains to me about money all the time and she makes well over what I do, is living in her in-laws' second home rent-free, they pay all the bills for them, etc. etc. Like stop it, you do not have it bad.
About your genetic testing, have you talked to your doctor about if it really costs you that much? When we had mine done (it was through GenPath, not MaternIT21) my doctor told me it would only cost us $150 because we weren't billing it through insurance. I got the bill later and it was $900. I called them about it, and they only had me pay $150. It's worth looking into if your doctor told you it'd be a different price!
@crossfitbabybump do we have the same friend?! Seriously, you’re not being a bitch. It may be that you are simply in different life stages and she is more interested in herself at the moment. By all means invite her to gatherings, but don’t go out of your way for her. Or anyone that doesn’t make your friendship a priority. She may come around later, this may just be a snag in your friendship or it may be coming to an end. This happens, but don’t put yourself out trying to hang on to it. Only make an effort equal to hers.
But yes, very frustrating to hear someone complain when they have it easier. Maybe she just needs an eye opening experience to what adulthood and responsibilities really entail.
ETA ask your OB’s office about billing. Maybe they submitted it under a different code and insurance didn’t process it as a “necessity”, so they want you to pay out of pocket. Ask if there is a different coding they can submit it under and reprocess the claim
@ShawnnaO@stlbuckeye132@Gingermom15 - thank you ladies! I am remaining calm on the friend home front lol! I am not going out of my way anymore to accommodate her. If she wants to be around, I'm here.
As for the billing, my DH is so mad about it. I think we will discuss with the office at our next appointment because she definitely said it would cost around $200.. not $1,450. lol
@crossfitbabybump they probably billed it as diagnostic and not preventive. Definitely call them sooner rather than later before you start paying anything towards it. They might be able to refile the claim under the a different code.
@Gingermom15 - when I called Sequenom they said they billed it as "experimental" so I will give my provider a call and see if there's anything they can do to bill it again! I don't have a payment due until December, too. But I'd like to get this taken care of ASAP! Thank you!!
@crossfitbabybump I called Sequenom before we did the testing because typically my insurance does not cover it. They told me upfront the total oop would be $120-170, if my insurance didn’t cover it. It ended up being $54ish because my insurance did cover it and we just had to pay a copay and some tax. You might call Sequenom back and talk to someone else and see if you can get it reduced for your insurance not covering it. I’d also consider calling your office’s billing department and talking to them about recoding and rerunning it, in case that’s an option.
WOW! @mdfarmchick - thank you! that's good to know! I will be giving BOTH of them a call.. because honestly that just seem so crazy for one blood test! $1,450 seems a litttllleee high.
Update on the MaterniT21 testing fiasco! I called the hospital and they do have me marked as high risk due to my Factor 5 Leiden so I called Sequenom and they said that the hospital coded the billing wrong and they tested me for visibility, not the actual MaterniT21 test.. that's why it was so much. So the lady at the lab said she could cut the bill in half but I still needed to talk to the billing department at my office. I called them back and they are "looking into it." I told them I am not paying for something that they coded wrong and shouldn't have even tested for in the first place. I will pay for the MaterniT21 test but that's it! I have a feeling they will handle this promptly because they don't want me calling back... again.
Re: Easily Annoyed..
I need to make a better effort to be a nicer wife.
me: yes
co-worker: keep formula on hand for when you give up
me: didn't you exclusively breastfeed till they were over a year?
co-worker: yes but I was very determined
me:
fuck off
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Our board seems pretty pleasant. Even with our disagreements here and there, overall we all seem like decent people at the very least.
Maybe I just get annoyed with people who must comment but it's just unhelpful, even with the best intentions.
And also, my son peeing on the floor and playing with it isn't helping my irritability.
And then to rub salt in the wound, she puts food in her mouth, then comes over and spits chewed up food on me. I wish my husband was home. I need a break.
I say phase because she's gone about two weeks now where she hasn't done that. So I'm keeping my fingers crossed!
EDIT because it cut me off.
I live 18 hours away now but I have a friend who lives in WI and people who live an hour away from her are always expecting her to drive to them rather than them going to see her. And my mother in law lives on the border of MN/WI and always asks us when we’re going to come see her while we’re in WI like we’re supposed to drive an hour every day just to see her.
Hell, even being 18 hours away we still get “when are you going to come see us?” From family ALL THE TIME. We already travel up once, usually twice a year. Like, when are you going to pay the travel expenses? Kthanksbye. My parents are the only family members who make it a point to come see us (TWICE a year!) so they can see me/my daughter semi-regularly without us needing to travel even more to see them.
I ended up needing to end meal time when he did this. I would tell him firmly “we do not spit”, then if he did I would say “all done. No more”. I’d put his food up for 15 minutes or so until he stopped throwing a tantrum, it took a couple weeks but I did catch on that spitting meant end of meal time.
About your genetic testing, have you talked to your doctor about if it really costs you that much? When we had mine done (it was through GenPath, not MaternIT21) my doctor told me it would only cost us $150 because we weren't billing it through insurance. I got the bill later and it was $900. I called them about it, and they only had me pay $150. It's worth looking into if your doctor told you it'd be a different price!
But yes, very frustrating to hear someone complain when they have it easier. Maybe she just needs an eye opening experience to what adulthood and responsibilities really entail.
ETA
ask your OB’s office about billing. Maybe they submitted it under a different code and insurance didn’t process it as a “necessity”, so they want you to pay out of pocket. Ask if there is a different coding they can submit it under and reprocess the claim
@ShawnnaO @stlbuckeye132 @Gingermom15 - thank you ladies! I am remaining calm on the friend home front lol! I am not going out of my way anymore to accommodate her. If she wants to be around, I'm here.
As for the billing, my DH is so mad about it. I think we will discuss with the office at our next appointment because she definitely said it would cost around $200.. not $1,450. lol