This is a safe space for those who are pregnant after a loss. General TW for this thread.
How far along are you?
Any appointments coming up?
How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)
GTKY: Have you bought anything for this baby yet? When do you plan on starting shopping?
Re: PGAL Check In (week of Oct. 11)
DD #1: 2012; MMC: 2014; DD #2: 2015; It's a boy! 3/31/2018
I haven’t bought anything, but Grandma has. Not sure when I’ll feel comfortable enough to start making my own purchases or even when I’ll feel ready to start going through totes of infant clothes downstairs. I just now got the courage to go down and look at our infant seat to see what the status of that is. Which..... we have to buy a new one, it expires in April. Ahhh!
How far along are you?
not a thing lol.... I'll probably buy a few small things once we confirm genders but we are still not buying any baby gear till after our next fetal echo. And perhaps maybe not till after we move.
And yes, we are calling her Nova - it means "new" in Jose's native language, Catalan... Nova Marsela (all my children have middle names after family who has passed on). Never had a name picked out this early for any of my kids but it feels right.
Zane William 9/17/03
Vance Xenophon 5/17/06
Mars Florencio 11/15/16 - 3/6/17
Nova Marsela 3/14/18
Mentally I’m doing okay this week—we are visiting my family so there are lots of distractions and much less time to think.
I’ve bought a rainbow onesie and a couple little newborn outfits because I wanted this LO to have some of their own clothes. C’s newborn clothes are all in his baby box. We have to buy a couple of strollers—a double and a replacement for the stroller we gate check since it was broken by the airline this time. Otherwise I already have all the big stuff for this one.
@justkeeptrying sounds like a good appointment! Those little handheld ultrasounds are amazing to me.
@mintea you might be surprised... we ended up with a ton of cute little boy clothes. Like more than DS could wear.
@chasingroygbiv I’m so glad you are having a good week. Less pressure is definitely a good thing.
@syssa-o is your elective US for finding out what you are having? If so, how exciting!
@senora76 I hope that you start feeling more movement soon. Praying for some peace for you all over Mars.
@justkeeptrying - Congratulations on announcing! Like you, I only told people after good appointments and still felt the fear afterwards. Hopefully the more people know, the more people will bring positive vibes to you and baby!
@mintea - BOYS CLOTHES ARE SO MUCH CUTER! Tiny button downs? Lil' suspenders? Baby bow ties? Sign me up! (Regardless of the fact that I tried to dress my godson in all of those things and he just pulled them right off.)
I stopped taking diclectin a few days ago... and I feel like my nausea is coming back. I'm hoping its just a withdrawal of sorts. Praying it doesn't last.
Aside from that - I'm feeling very positive. The baby wiggles are getting stronger and this LO has been super active today! It feels SO STRANGE ...but i also love it. It makes me laugh out loud.
Not yet - waiting on the anatomy scan to really start. but we have started our registry for basic needs. i am going shopping for flooring tomorrow as we want to pull up the carpet and put in laminate. Not really a baby purchase really .... but it is for the baby's room, so I guess it counts?
Zane William 9/17/03
Vance Xenophon 5/17/06
Mars Florencio 11/15/16 - 3/6/17
Nova Marsela 3/14/18
20 weeks today!
I have an US and follow up today. I've been going every week to try and manage my GD. Ugh.
Mostly okay! I actually ordered a fetal Doppler because I kept having nightmares that my doctor couldn't find the heartbeat at our next appointment. I check every day around the same time and it's helped me so much.
So far we've only bought diapers! We plan on stocking up before Emma gets here. We've gotten a bunch of hand me down clothes too so all we need right now is to get NB sizes
senora76 LOVE the name choice. Nova is beautiful! It makes so much sense that time passing without Mars could make things harder in many ways. I hope warm memories of him bring you some comfort.
bb3vj3n Last night I ran out of diclegis and I figured I’m ready to go off of it anyhow. This morning I totally puked. Is withdrawal a thing with this med or do you think it’s a sign we’re not ready to go off it?
ashtuesday Ok baby bow ties sounds sorta cute! Maybe it’ll grow on me
DD #1: 2012; MMC: 2014; DD #2: 2015; It's a boy! 3/31/2018
re: clothes... I know I’m not buying anythng else now but love to “window shop” online and find myself in the boy section always... cutest little beanies with bear ears, tough little hoodies, baby skinny jeans, baby vans and converse...
Zane William 9/17/03
Vance Xenophon 5/17/06
Mars Florencio 11/15/16 - 3/6/17
Nova Marsela 3/14/18
Its a funny coincidence that for having not a crazy amount of Canadian moms the three of us are so (relatively) close to each other!
@senora76 my name is Sarah and I hated it for a loooong time as it was literally THE most popular white girl name for almost 10 years in a row. For what it's worth - I love it now. I like that's it's traditional and that it meant something to my parents. Just because something is common - doesn't mean it can't be beautiful
@mintea I'm on day 3 now... just getting up so we will see how it goes. the morning is generally fine for me - it's in the evenings that I struggle. I have an OB appointment Monday and I plan to ask him if it's normal to experience a withdrawal of sorts - or if it just means I'm not really ready to stop. I'll let you know what he says in a few days
I think I told you all that I did have a meet up several times with a mama I met through my 2006 group... our kids played together - it was great. In fact that group has stayed pretty tight... we have a facebook group, and even though I deleted the fb app when I lost Mars (and have no idea when I will be able to handle it), I know the girls are still friendly... one of the other girls who I haven't ever met in real life, texts me quite frequently... so I feel like I know her in real life too.
@bb3vj3n Sarah is my high school BFFs name LOL its a nice name in itself, and I don't think Jennifer is a terrible name in itself either, its just so common in my age group... Jose agrees with me because being Jose in Spain is the same thing! My boys like their less common names - Zane is the only Zane at his high school of 2600 kids, and Vance the only Vance at his middle school of 1100 kids...and well Mars, I know his was the most unique name out of all 3...both of my boys have told me they go to school with at least one Nova... but I still dont think it will ever be like Sarah or Jennifer in the 70s and 80s... but you never know... my good friend named her son the then uncommon Kaden in 2003 and BOOM we know a handful of Kadens and Caydens and Cadens.
Zane William 9/17/03
Vance Xenophon 5/17/06
Mars Florencio 11/15/16 - 3/6/17
Nova Marsela 3/14/18
bb3vj3n yes I'd love to hear what your OB thinks about it. I'm probably going to call in for a refill today.
DD #1: 2012; MMC: 2014; DD #2: 2015; It's a boy! 3/31/2018
for what's it's worth - I think Nova is a beautiful name. Our last pregnancy, the one we lost, we had decided on Nora (for a girl).... very similar. I still love it but i think it would be too painful to use it now. It's still on the table - but not the front runner
@bb3vj3n Thanks - If the unthinkable happens, I think this baby will forever remain Nova to us...but hopefully we will be taking her home with us in March Zane would have been Paige if he was a girl, Vance would have been Xanthe if he was girl, we knew Mars was a boy at 10 weeks and he was actually going to be Viggo or Soren until he met us with his red hair. I still love all those names... Paige, Xanthe, Viggo, Soren, but don't know that I would ever use them for another... again, only time will tell...
Zane William 9/17/03
Vance Xenophon 5/17/06
Mars Florencio 11/15/16 - 3/6/17
Nova Marsela 3/14/18
An acquaintance (who knows what happened) found out we were having twins and said that she was "jealous" I think I almost bit a hole in my tongue trying to keep my mouth shut. It's not fair to people for me to snap on them because I'm having an off day and so I internalize it and it leaves me sooooo ..... I don't even know.
Tomorrow is H's birthday so I'm trying to play good wife and all that but I'm emotionally exhausted.
CANNOT WAIT to see my OB and get a refill. I feel like I'm smack dab back in the first tri
@bb3vj3n Hope you feel better soon
Zane William 9/17/03
Vance Xenophon 5/17/06
Mars Florencio 11/15/16 - 3/6/17
Nova Marsela 3/14/18
DD #1: 2012; MMC: 2014; DD #2: 2015; It's a boy! 3/31/2018
I seriously can't believe how many GTA moms there are here!
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