I hooked up with a guy in college that apparently my friend liked (even though she had NEVER mentioned him and I didn't know they really knew one another). She stopped being my friend after the innocent infraction and every time we are similar gatherings (15 years later mind you) she STILL brings it up. I apologized for hurting her feelings, but not for the hook up.
Backstory first: I was viciously bullied when I was a kid, and the teachers in my miserable excuse for an elementary school participated in and encouraged it. One teacher in particular attacked me unprovoked on the first day of second grade, grabbing my arm hard enough to bruise and shaking me as I walked into the classroom before telling me "I am going to make your year hell" (yes she swore at a little second grader). Needless to say, I hated her.
So, fast forward about a year, and one of the usual kids was bullying me during recess, and I snapped. He ran from me, and when he realized he couldn't shake me, he ran for the teachers. Wouldn't you know it, one of the teachers on playground duty was the evil witch from hell. So I let him get riiiiggt up to her, then I shoved him as hard as I could. He fell smack into her legs, and they both went down. I got into SO much trouble, but it was so worth it.
I still get a little glow in my heart whenever I think back on it .
Backstory first: I was viciously bullied when I was a kid, and the teachers in my miserable excuse for an elementary school participated in and encouraged it. One teacher in particular attacked me unprovoked on the first day of second grade, grabbing my arm hard enough to bruise and shaking me as I walked into the classroom before telling me "I am going to make your year hell" (yes she swore at a little second grader). Needless to say, I hated her.
So, fast forward about a year, and one of the usual kids was bullying me during recess, and I snapped. He ran from me, and when he realized he couldn't shake me, he ran for the teachers. Wouldn't you know it, one of the teachers on playground duty was the evil witch from hell. So I let him get riiiiggt up to her, then I shoved him as hard as I could. He fell smack into her legs, and they both went down. I got into SO much trouble, but it was so worth it.
I still get a little glow in my heart whenever I think back on it .
Holy shit balls. The human in me, let alone the mom in me, is so angry at that hateful teacher.
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014! DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
@ladythrice yeah, I still hate her to this day, because the adult in me is horrified that a teacher could do that. In her (sort of) defense, my dad was the president of the school board, and I was kind of a natural target when policies were handed down they didn't like. I also was always bigger than the other kids, so nobody ever believed that I was being bullied.
I should preface this by saying that I'm the oldest and apparently think I'm right in all things and that my siblings should just do what I tell them and take my word as gospel...
My sister's have both dated dirt bags, one each that come right to mind. And I did things to sabotage their relationships when things got toxic.
For sister #1 (19 months younger than me), she was dating a guy who refused to call her his girlfriend and just used her as a booty call. It drove me insane. So once during a vacation from college we were both home and her laptop was open with a AOL IM open from him. I sent him a message to stop being a dick, leave me alone, and never talk to me again. They ultimately stopped fooling around and sis was never mad at me for my obnoxiousness. #sorrynotsorry
For sister #2 (8 years younger than me), she was dating a married man who claimed it was a marriage of convenience to get citizenship. Enter big sister. After months of kindheartedly listening to her relationship drama and how shitty he was and supporting her, I broke down and dumped on her about what a toxic relationship it was and she needed to break it off. They did eventually break it off but she kept talking to him (WHY!?!) so I deleted him from her Snapchat, facebook, and cell phone... She knew of course, because he kept messenging her and added her back on everything but for a while she was a peace without him. And I think it helped her finally kick him to the curb. She wasn't really mad at me either... she even told me she wished she had the guts to do it. #sorrynotsorry
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014! DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
I had two close friends in high school. One was super high maintenance and needy and an overall PITA. Another friend invited me and my other friend (the not needy one) to take a trip to Europe with her after graduation. We accepted, but then our needy friend invited herself along. We knew we wouldn't be able to have a fun trip with her along, so we told her she couldn't come. Needless to say, she disowned us as friends and burned all our pictures and cast evil spells on us. Sorry not sorry, we had a great time anyway.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013 Started TTC August 2016 BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17 BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17 BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18 BFP: 2/27/20
@ngolimento I can relate to your story a bit - I was always taller by at leave 6-12 inches out of all the girls in my class, but was the youngest. When a kid sticks out, its like they can't just have a bad day or be sad and they don't get a lot of sympathy. What that teacher did was so unacceptable, sorry you had to deal with that.
@lund honestly, the world is better place thanks to you!!!
@ngolimento I'm honestly at a loss for words about that teacher. I appreciate not always liking a policy a parent hands down being on the board but taking it out of a second grader? AYFKM. That sweet revenge though played out like something in a movie. I bet your parents were secretly proud. did they know about the bullying? that is so messed up. I was always way taller than anyone else in school and I agree, everyone assumes you then can't be bullied but the girls were so mean to me at that age.
@hedgepig that feels like friend-darwinism at its best. You want to go to Europe, stop sucking as a human. I wish i could have been brave like that when I was younger.
@ladythrice your sisters are lucky to have you. I could have used someone like you in my corner when I was doing my own tour de dirt bags.
@stalkinghorse, it was a complicated situation for me and my parents. Back then, we were in an extremely conservative small community that very much operated by "spare the rod spoil the child", and my parents were that way too. So, all they heard from authority figures is that I was getting into fights and that I was the problem.
They did eventually move us across the country to a big city when I started coming home with cracked ribs and bruises (by middle school I was told if the negative reports kept happening I'd end up in military school, and the kids noticed I stopped defending myself). It was almost a religious experience to have teachers who didn't tell me constantly I was an awful person, and to be able to walk down a hallway without being kicked/hit/spat on. I would have moved heaven and Earth for my new teachers and instantly became a 4.0 student. High school was paradise for me.
My older sister was such a jerk growing up. She would constantly beat up on me and make fun of me in front of her friends.
Once when I was about 13, I dug her toothbrush into the kitty litter box. All deep and good....
another time, she and her friend were treating me like crap in the front seat of the car. A few pairs of her shoes were in the back, and I casually threw one shoe from each pair out the window.
Hahaha @mikkimikey did she find out you did it? That is great! My H would throw out just one of his roommates socks per week to get back at him and "establish dominance"?!! wtf lol
@ngolimento omg how was that teacher even employed? I'm sorry you dealt with that. I would have knocked that teacher and kid both the f*ck out!!!! That makes me scared for my own kids. I was bullied to a degree boys in elementary and middle school. I was called ugly, fat and other names.... those same boys ended up messaging me in my 20's trying to tell me how beautiful I had become. Ha let's say I ripped them a new one!
@ladythrice I would have retaliated for my family too! No shame!!
I confess to using dry shampoo a little too much! I have too much hair to wash and dry it everytime I shower. It takes me about an hour and this mom doesn't have time for all that!!
I I don't read the "It's a Boy/Girl" thread because I'm super salty that all y'all know what you're having and I don't yet. It's not even like I'm really hoping for one or the other, I just want to know already. It's very petty.
My best friends mom was a teacher at our high school and she was very neurotic (I love her mom but she really is a little BSC) anywho... even though my friend was a very good student (AP classes/ among top student in grade), held a job, and was generally a good kid her mom was all up in her business all the time. She would go through her room, her purse, look through her phone, ect. Well one day her mom ended up finding some marijuana "paraphernalia" in her purse and she completely LOST it. She decided she was going to go to the store to purchase an in home drug test to confirm if she has been smoking so in the meantime my friend called me and asked if I would bring her some of my pee. I wasn't into smoking so she knew I would be clean and I agreed. So I ran to her house real quick and provided my sample in a cup. She ended up sneaking it into the bathroom and passed the test... it was hilarious and we were really proud of ourselves. However, our big mouths got us into trouble because people at school found out about it and this one girl who hated me ended up telling my friend's mom what we did. Even though we got caught I would totally do it again, I would have just been smarter not to tell ANYONE.
I am honestly ashamed of my behavior .... and I was an ADULT when this happened! ... but I'll confess anyway, because I love the idea of confessing past misdeeds (good idea @ngolimento!)
About 2 1/2 months after I had DD1, my extended family was at our family's ranch for the annual quail hunt. DD1 had colic sooooo freaking bad. It was terrible. My aunt, mom to 4 of her own kids, all in college and upper high school at this point, thinks she's all-knowing when it comes to kids, despite the fact that a good 15 years has passed since she had a newborn. I didn't doubt that she may have good ideas, but EVERYTHING she said to me started with "you don't know what you're doing! you have to ____" all.weekend.long. It burned me up as a new mom who was doing the best I could. Rather than explain to her how I felt, like a rational human being, I instead took multiple of DD1's poopy diapers and hid them in a small compartment in her Suburban, which then heated up in the lovely Texas late summer weather.
They drove home the entire way with the windows down because they couldn't figure out what smelled so badly in their car. I told my SIL whose family lived a few doors down from where my aunt lived, to remove the diapers whenever they got to her parent's house so my aunt wouldn't find the diapers and know it was my fault they smelled ripe, overheated poop all the way home.
Well if no one appreciated it I'm deleting it. Anyone from TTTC knows 100% what I'm talking about and I was hoping to find someone here who got it. So much for that.
I I don't read the "It's a Boy/Girl" thread because I'm super salty that all y'all know what you're having and I don't yet. It's not even like I'm really hoping for one or the other, I just want to know already. It's very petty.
This is me too! Especially since I am at the very end of the month, everything happens last for me
The last guy I dated before my husband was a total creep. I was young and stupid and couldn't be told any different. Well when I finally had enough just breaking up with him didn't work, he thought I was joking. I have never cheated on anyone in my life but I actually cheated on him because it made him hate me so much that he broke it off. We have a mutual friend and to this day he still hates me and that was over 10 years ago. Still have no regrets about that
Past behavior story time: In college my then-boyfriend lived in a house with 4 other guys he met online. They ended up being complete d-bags and were complete jerks to him. A whole feud sprang up out of it and in the end they ended up getting him kicked out (one of the guy's mom owned the house so all it took was a phone call). I had spent a lot of time there so I knew it was 100% not his fault, so I helped him get revenge. They were all out of the house on the day he moved out. I poured a trail of sugar from the front door into the living room and their bedrooms (all carpeted so you couldn't tell and they never vacuumed). I took a carton of milk and poured it into the carpet under one of the couches in the living room. I dropped a huge open container of yogurt behind the fridge. We went back a few weeks later for him to pick up his mail and they had every window open with fans going because the place absolutely reeked and they couldn't figure out where the smell was coming from, and there were millions of ants marching in and out of the house along the sugar trail I had left. I have no remorse.
Past behavior story time: In college my then-boyfriend lived in a house with 4 other guys he met online. They ended up being complete d-bags and were complete jerks to him. A whole feud sprang up out of it and in the end they ended up getting him kicked out (one of the guy's mom owned the house so all it took was a phone call). I had spent a lot of time there so I knew it was 100% not his fault, so I helped him get revenge. They were all out of the house on the day he moved out. I poured a trail of sugar from the front door into the living room and their bedrooms (all carpeted so you couldn't tell and they never vacuumed). I took a carton of milk and poured it into the carpet under one of the couches in the living room. I dropped a huge open container of yogurt behind the fridge. We went back a few weeks later for him to pick up his mail and they had every window open with fans going because the place absolutely reeked and they couldn't figure out where the smell was coming from, and there were millions of ants marching in and out of the house along the sugar trail I had left. I have no remorse.
I social media stalk my husband's first wife even though I've never met her and DH hasn't spoken to her (other than to say thanks when she offered condolences when his dad passed) since they split. They were married for less than 5 years and never had kids. It's not a weekly or even a monthly occurrence--just the occasional check-in. I like to think it's a "keep your enemies closer kind of thing."
Ok I have another one. My first boyfriend was my "true love" that I finally got with after years of unrequited love. I was on cloud nine for about 4 months. Then, one night out of nowhere, this dude tells me that he is addicted to anonymous sex, and has been with dozens of people (both men and women) since we had been together. Also? Most of it was unprotected. I was beyond crushed. Not only was he cheating, but he was literally putting my life at risk (thank god for me being intelligent enough to use condoms). It messed with me something awful that someone could tell me they love me, then purposefully risk my life and health.
Fast forward about 10 years, and out of nowhere he tracks me down and sends me a message on FB. He went on and on about himself, then asked how I was doing, like nothing had happened. I channeled my inner heinous bitch, and only wrote back "My biggest disappointment in life this far is that you haven't died yet". He never messaged me back for some reason *puts on devil horns*.
When I was in junior high this one girl absolutely tormented me. She literally beat me up twice for no reason just because she could. I picked up my little sister from school and one day she followed me there with a bunch of people who were coming to watch her beat me up and their plan was to have my little sister watch me get beat up. It was horrible. Thankfully a neighbor called the cops and stopped it from happening. I still have no idea why she kept doing this stuff to me. I was kinda a goofy nerdy kid and I think she just found me to be easy prey.
Fast Forward many years—
She started dating a guy I was friends with in high school while I was in college and sorry not sorry one night after a high school reunion, we hooked up. He knew the connection. I knew the connection. She kept calling his phone while it was happening. And it was truly fucked up but I’m not even a little regretful about it. They’re still together and I still get a ton of satisifaction in knowing what I did.
@julzy Oooo did she find out about it? I would have wanted to rub that in her face so bad!
I have another one... so I had a HUGE crush on this guy in HS and I knew he liked me too but he was a grade older then me and I don't think I was popular enough for him. So years go by and we occasionally bump into one another and start talking online alot. This goes on and on and on for literally YEARS. Finally one night when I was in grad school I asked him to come over and I fully intended for it to be a booty call. Well we ended up dtd but it was HORRIBLE. I literally have never had worst sex in my life. Well a few weeks later I agreed to get together with him for drinks and he brings up our hookup insinuating he would like to do it again and I flat out looked him straight in the eye and said no because he put in no effort and I don't got time for that.
@JJMNO1616 lol that is awesome! I got turned off from booty calls because the one time I did it, the dude was teeeeeerrible. He would just sit there and "stir", and the whole time he did it, I was thinking "Am I getting punked? This is a joke, right?".
@ngolimento My dude from HS just layed there. I thought he had fallen asleep at first but no... he was just laying there doing nothing. I thought I was getting punked too. The entire situation was so bizarre that I just stopped and got off him because I felt like I was having sex with him against his will or something. To make matters worse he slept in SO late the next day and wouldn't leave my apartment! It's so crazy knowing I had built him up in my head for so many years and then that one night just completely changed everything.
I met this guy through a roommate in college. We went to a dancehall and we made out on the dance floor and were getting all hot and bothered. He kept making comments about going back to my apt. Which I was all for! Then as we are all leaving (My friends/his friends) he starts acting differently and rude and says he isn't coming over. Okay fine! So a few weeks later his friend that was messing around with one of my roommates comes over and brings him. I had no idea he was coming. So he starts flirting with me. His friend who was his ride decided he is going to leave. So I tell him it's fine that I'll give him a ride back. He stated he lived about 40 minutes away which is where i was headed that next day anyway. So I have my way with him that night and made his ass sleep on the couch. Mind you it's a small ass couch that comes with the apartment. Very uncomfortable. So the next morning I get up super early and he is still knocked out on the couch. We lived in a four bedroom apartment where they lease the bedrooms individually so we all had seperate locks/keys to our bedrooms and the common areas stuff came with the apartment. I knew he needed a ride home but I decided to leave him on the couch and figure out how he was going to get home. He was blowing up my phone that day, and I never spoke to him again.
Re: FFFC 10/13
So, fast forward about a year, and one of the usual kids was bullying me during recess, and I snapped. He ran from me, and when he realized he couldn't shake me, he ran for the teachers. Wouldn't you know it, one of the teachers on playground duty was the evil witch from hell. So I let him get riiiiggt up to her, then I shoved him as hard as I could. He fell smack into her legs, and they both went down. I got into SO much trouble, but it was so worth it.
I still get a little glow in my heart whenever I think back on it .
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014!
DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
Baby #3: EDD, April 16th, 2016
My sister's have both dated dirt bags, one each that come right to mind. And I did things to sabotage their relationships when things got toxic.
For sister #1 (19 months younger than me), she was dating a guy who refused to call her his girlfriend and just used her as a booty call. It drove me insane. So once during a vacation from college we were both home and her laptop was open with a AOL IM open from him. I sent him a message to stop being a dick, leave me alone, and never talk to me again. They ultimately stopped fooling around and sis was never mad at me for my obnoxiousness. #sorrynotsorry
For sister #2 (8 years younger than me), she was dating a married man who claimed it was a marriage of convenience to get citizenship. Enter big sister. After months of kindheartedly listening to her relationship drama and how shitty he was and supporting her, I broke down and dumped on her about what a toxic relationship it was and she needed to break it off. They did eventually break it off but she kept talking to him (WHY!?!) so I deleted him from her Snapchat, facebook, and cell phone... She knew of course, because he kept messenging her and added her back on everything but for a while she was a peace without him. And I think it helped her finally kick him to the curb. She wasn't really mad at me either... she even told me she wished she had the guts to do it. #sorrynotsorry
DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014!
DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
Baby #3: EDD, April 16th, 2016
Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013
Started TTC August 2016
BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17
BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17
BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18
BFP: 2/27/20
I also drop some truth in the comments if someone is being a douche.
@ngolimento I'm honestly at a loss for words about that teacher. I appreciate not always liking a policy a parent hands down being on the board but taking it out of a second grader? AYFKM. That sweet revenge though played out like something in a movie. I bet your parents were secretly proud. did they know about the bullying? that is so messed up. I was always way taller than anyone else in school and I agree, everyone assumes you then can't be bullied but the girls were so mean to me at that age.
@hedgepig that feels like friend-darwinism at its best. You want to go to Europe, stop sucking as a human. I wish i could have been brave like that when I was younger.
@ladythrice your sisters are lucky to have you. I could have used someone like you in my corner when I was doing my own tour de dirt bags.
They did eventually move us across the country to a big city when I started coming home with cracked ribs and bruises (by middle school I was told if the negative reports kept happening I'd end up in military school, and the kids noticed I stopped defending myself). It was almost a religious experience to have teachers who didn't tell me constantly I was an awful person, and to be able to walk down a hallway without being kicked/hit/spat on. I would have moved heaven and Earth for my new teachers and instantly became a 4.0 student. High school was paradise for me.
Once when I was about 13, I dug her toothbrush into the kitty litter box. All deep and good....
another time, she and her friend were treating me like crap in the front seat of the car. A few pairs of her shoes were in the back, and I casually threw one shoe from each pair out the window.
@ladythrice I would have retaliated for my family too! No shame!!
I confess to using dry shampoo a little too much! I have too much hair to wash and dry it everytime I shower. It takes me about an hour and this mom doesn't have time for all that!!
Now anytime they see a shoe on the side of the road, they said "oh, Mikki has been here!!" Lol
About 2 1/2 months after I had DD1, my extended family was at our family's ranch for the annual quail hunt. DD1 had colic sooooo freaking bad. It was terrible. My aunt, mom to 4 of her own kids, all in college and upper high school at this point, thinks she's all-knowing when it comes to kids, despite the fact that a good 15 years has passed since she had a newborn. I didn't doubt that she may have good ideas, but EVERYTHING she said to me started with "you don't know what you're doing! you have to ____" all.weekend.long. It burned me up as a new mom who was doing the best I could. Rather than explain to her how I felt, like a rational human being, I instead took multiple of DD1's poopy diapers and hid them in a small compartment in her Suburban, which then heated up in the lovely Texas late summer weather.
They drove home the entire way with the windows down because they couldn't figure out what smelled so badly in their car. I told my SIL whose family lived a few doors down from where my aunt lived, to remove the diapers whenever they got to her parent's house so my aunt wouldn't find the diapers and know it was my fault they smelled ripe, overheated poop all the way home.
Married: 10/3/15
TTC: May 2017
BFP: 7/20/17
EDD: 3/29/18
Fast forward about 10 years, and out of nowhere he tracks me down and sends me a message on FB. He went on and on about himself, then asked how I was doing, like nothing had happened. I channeled my inner heinous bitch, and only wrote back "My biggest disappointment in life this far is that you haven't died yet". He never messaged me back for some reason *puts on devil horns*.
Fast Forward many years—
She started dating a guy I was friends with in high school while I was in college and sorry not sorry one night after a high school reunion, we hooked up. He knew the connection. I knew the connection. She kept calling his phone while it was happening. And it was truly fucked up but I’m not even a little regretful about it. They’re still together and I still get a ton of satisifaction in knowing what I did.
Edited: because words are hard!
I have another one... so I had a HUGE crush on this guy in HS and I knew he liked me too but he was a grade older then me and I don't think I was popular enough for him. So years go by and we occasionally bump into one another and start talking online alot. This goes on and on and on for literally YEARS. Finally one night when I was in grad school I asked him to come over and I fully intended for it to be a booty call. Well we ended up dtd but it was HORRIBLE. I literally have never had worst sex in my life. Well a few weeks later I agreed to get together with him for drinks and he brings up our hookup insinuating he would like to do it again and I flat out looked him straight in the eye and said no because he put in no effort and I don't got time for that.
I met this guy through a roommate in college. We went to a dancehall and we made out on the dance floor and were getting all hot and bothered. He kept making comments about going back to my apt. Which I was all for! Then as we are all leaving (My friends/his friends) he starts acting differently and rude and says he isn't coming over. Okay fine! So a few weeks later his friend that was messing around with one of my roommates comes over and brings him. I had no idea he was coming. So he starts flirting with me. His friend who was his ride decided he is going to leave. So I tell him it's fine that I'll give him a ride back. He stated he lived about 40 minutes away which is where i was headed that next day anyway. So I have my way with him that night and made his ass sleep on the couch. Mind you it's a small ass couch that comes with the apartment. Very uncomfortable. So the next morning I get up super early and he is still knocked out on the couch. We lived in a four bedroom apartment where they lease the bedrooms individually so we all had seperate locks/keys to our bedrooms and the common areas stuff came with the apartment. I knew he needed a ride home but I decided to leave him on the couch and figure out how he was going to get home. He was blowing up my phone that day, and I never spoke to him again.