@skilledsailor@jrm_14@blackhottamales@icecubeinthedesert I was always adamant I would keep my Maiden name and then shocked my DH when the day we landed back from Vegas decided to change it. Little did I know how much hassle it would be and would not like to change it ever again! (We got married in the US, I'm a British citizen and he's German so three countries' laws and copies of everything in two notarized languages needed, as well as having to change my drivers licence from British to German) It took 5 months. And professionally they changed my email address but have to keep my old one routing to it, and my signature and business cards are Firstname Marriedname (nee Maidenname) (at my company's requirement!!!). My maiden name is super unusual and I loved it. But my married name is not common either so for me it was win win. Still have to spell either every time someone needs to write it down lol. Right up until the day we got married I was totally adamant I would not change it, but then something in me just clicked. Weird.
@skilledsailor Imlived 3 years in China and right up to the last day I was discovering people in the office who were married who I hadn't realized were before I left because of no name changes. Most kept their marriages very secret and it was only when we had an issue (a manager in one business unit had his wife as an employee and gave her big raises and bonuses) that HR got every employee to sign a form stating any relationships they had with other employees once a year before salary review/bonus time! My own employees had been very open with me (and had all invited me to their homes for food etc) so I knew theirs, but when I went through the entire list with HR we found more than 60% of employees were in some kind of long term relationship with another employee.
Sorry, only half awake and rambled now...
Me 43 DH 45 Married 12/2016 TTC #1 since 04/2015 AMA, DOR (AMH 0.65, AFC 2-4) and autoimmune issues (RA, APS), low TSH, adenomyosis 7 retrievals, 3 transfers
Jun19 FET BFP, due date 7th March 2020, DD born Feb20
Sep17 IVF1 - 1ER, 1F, 1ET, BFN Nov17 IVF2 - 1ER, 0F Jan18 IVF3 - 3ER, 1F, 1ET, BFN Feb18 - second opinion and additional testing Apr18 IVF4 - cancelled (E2 too high) May/Jun18 IVF4 - 4ER, 0M, 1F, 1 frozen day 3 (not best quality) Jun/Jul18 IVF5 - 5 ER, 3M, 2F, 2 frozen day 3 (not best quality) Jul/Aug18 IVF6 - 4ER, 3M, 2F, 2 frozen day 3 (good quality) Aug/Sep18 IVF7 - cancelled (cyst) Sep/Oct18 IVF7 - 3ER, 3M, 2F, 2 frozen Day 3 (excellent quality) Oct18 IVF8 - Cancelled (cyst and too low TSH) Oct18-Jan19 bringing TSH under control Feb19 ERA and hysteroscopy Mar19 Investigation for fibroid and adenomyosis Apr19 adenomyosis confirmed, polyps removed Jun19 FET after 2 months Lupron, autoimmune protocol, transferred two day 3 frozen embryos
Sep17 - Pergoveris 10-17 Sep, Orgalutran 15-18 Sep, Ovitrelle 18 Sep, ER 20 Sep for 2 follies, 1 mature egg, fertilized, ET 1x 2d 4-cell embryo 22/09, 05/10 BFN Nov17 IVF2 - Pergoveris 2-14 Nov, Orgalutran 5-14 Nov, Ovitrelle 15 Nov, ER 17 Nov for 3 follies, 1 mature egg, did not fertilize Jan18 IVF3 - Pergoveris 30 Dec - 8 Jan, Orgalutran 5-8 Jan, Ovitrelle 9 Jan, ER 11 Jan 3 eggs, 2 mature, 1 fertilized, ET 1x 4d 12-cell embryo 15/01, 24/01 BFN May/Jun18 IVF4 - Rekovelle 25-29 May, Menogon 30May - 2Jun, Zomacton 25 27 29 31 May and 2Jun, Cetrotide 30May - 3Jun, Gonasi 3Jun, ER 5Jun 4 eggs, none mature, two matured overnight, 1 fertilized with ICSI, Frozen day 3 but not good quality Jun/Jul18 IVF5 - Rekovelle 21-24 June, Menogon 25Jun-3Jul, Puregon 4-5Jul, Zomacton 21 23 25 27 29 Jun, Cetrotide 25Jun-5Jul, Gonasi 6Jul, ER 8Jul 5 eggs, 3 mature, 2 fertilized with ICSI, 2 frozen day 3 but not good quality Jul/Aug18 IVF6 - Rekovelle 26-29 Jul, Menogon 30Jul-7Aug, Buserelin 26Jul-7Aug, Zomacton 26 28 30 Jul 1 3 Aug, Gonasi 7Aug, ER 9Aug 4 eggs, 3 mature, 2 fertilized (normal IVF), 2 frozen day 3 good quality Sep/Oct18 IVF7 - Menogon 19-30Sep, Buserelin 19-30Sep, Zomacton 19 21 23 25 27 Sep, Ovitrelle 1 Oct, ER 3 eggs, 3 mature, 2 fertilized with ICSI, 2 frozen day 3 excellent quality
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@blackhottamales Well that’s not very nice of them. It’s a personal decision. Part of feminism is having equal say. If your vote was for changing your name then you do you boo boo. I guess my point was why do other people really care that much?
@icecubeinthedessert So I’m totally over here going through all the old actresses I know to try and guess your name. My mom changed her name for the very same reason!
@emmasemm Haha that’s crazy! With that many co-working couples I’m surprised there wasn’t more drama sooner!
I made the decision to change my last name. It was a tough choice but my maiden name was 13 letters long, very German and no one spelled/ pronounced it correctly. I didn't want to hyphenate because I had a hyphenated last name until age 19 (17 letters total) and it was a hot mess of inconvenience/inconsistency/misspellings on documents. I went through the trouble of legally changing my last name.
Anyways, I joke now that my last name is five letters long and no one can pronounce or spell it so it's a good fit for me. I have had people insinuate that I'm not a feminist because I changed my last name. Pisses me off. I made the choice to change my last name. No one made me do it.
I complained on fb (mistake!) a few years ago when the university MH and I boyh graduated from started sending mail to Mr. and Mrs. Husband's First and last name. Not cool and I wrote the university telling them that as I was also an alum they could put my name on mailings too, thank you very much. So an acquaintance on fb called me out saying it was just etiquette and I was a hypocrite. Lovely.
Can I add a FFFC on a Saturday? MH and I are going to this fundraiser dinner/auction tonight and I am going sans undies. . My dress is form fitting and it just didn't look right, even with a thong. FX I don't drop anything!
Re: FFFC 10/06
I was always adamant I would keep my Maiden name and then shocked my DH when the day we landed back from Vegas decided to change it. Little did I know how much hassle it would be and would not like to change it ever again! (We got married in the US, I'm a British citizen and he's German so three countries' laws and copies of everything in two notarized languages needed, as well as having to change my drivers licence from British to German) It took 5 months. And professionally they changed my email address but have to keep my old one routing to it, and my signature and business cards are Firstname Marriedname (nee Maidenname) (at my company's requirement!!!).
My maiden name is super unusual and I loved it. But my married name is not common either so for me it was win win. Still have to spell either every time someone needs to write it down lol.
Right up until the day we got married I was totally adamant I would not change it, but then something in me just clicked. Weird.
@skilledsailor Imlived 3 years in China and right up to the last day I was discovering people in the office who were married who I hadn't realized were before I left because of no name changes. Most kept their marriages very secret and it was only when we had an issue (a manager in one business unit had his wife as an employee and gave her big raises and bonuses) that HR got every employee to sign a form stating any relationships they had with other employees once a year before salary review/bonus time! My own employees had been very open with me (and had all invited me to their homes for food etc) so I knew theirs, but when I went through the entire list with HR we found more than 60% of employees were in some kind of long term relationship with another employee.
Sorry, only half awake and rambled now...
Married 12/2016
TTC #1 since 04/2015
AMA, DOR (AMH 0.65, AFC 2-4) and autoimmune issues (RA, APS), low TSH, adenomyosis
7 retrievals, 3 transfers
Nov17 IVF2 - 1ER, 0F
Jan18 IVF3 - 3ER, 1F, 1ET, BFN
Feb18 - second opinion and additional testing
Apr18 IVF4 - cancelled (E2 too high)
May/Jun18 IVF4 - 4ER, 0M, 1F, 1 frozen day 3 (not best quality)
Jun/Jul18 IVF5 - 5 ER, 3M, 2F, 2 frozen day 3 (not best quality)
Jul/Aug18 IVF6 - 4ER, 3M, 2F, 2 frozen day 3 (good quality)
Aug/Sep18 IVF7 - cancelled (cyst)
Sep/Oct18 IVF7 - 3ER, 3M, 2F, 2 frozen Day 3 (excellent quality)
Oct18 IVF8 - Cancelled (cyst and too low TSH)
Oct18-Jan19 bringing TSH under control
Feb19 ERA and hysteroscopy
Mar19 Investigation for fibroid and adenomyosis
Apr19 adenomyosis confirmed, polyps removed
Jun19 FET after 2 months Lupron, autoimmune protocol, transferred two day 3 frozen embryos
Nov17 IVF2 - Pergoveris 2-14 Nov, Orgalutran 5-14 Nov, Ovitrelle 15 Nov, ER 17 Nov for 3 follies, 1 mature egg, did not fertilize
Jan18 IVF3 - Pergoveris 30 Dec - 8 Jan, Orgalutran 5-8 Jan, Ovitrelle 9 Jan, ER 11 Jan 3 eggs, 2 mature, 1 fertilized, ET 1x 4d 12-cell embryo 15/01, 24/01 BFN
May/Jun18 IVF4 - Rekovelle 25-29 May, Menogon 30May - 2Jun, Zomacton 25 27 29 31 May and 2Jun, Cetrotide 30May - 3Jun, Gonasi 3Jun, ER 5Jun 4 eggs, none mature, two matured overnight, 1 fertilized with ICSI, Frozen day 3 but not good quality
Jun/Jul18 IVF5 - Rekovelle 21-24 June, Menogon 25Jun-3Jul, Puregon 4-5Jul, Zomacton 21 23 25 27 29 Jun, Cetrotide 25Jun-5Jul, Gonasi 6Jul, ER 8Jul 5 eggs, 3 mature, 2 fertilized with ICSI, 2 frozen day 3 but not good quality
Jul/Aug18 IVF6 - Rekovelle 26-29 Jul, Menogon 30Jul-7Aug, Buserelin 26Jul-7Aug, Zomacton 26 28 30 Jul 1 3 Aug, Gonasi 7Aug, ER 9Aug 4 eggs, 3 mature, 2 fertilized (normal IVF), 2 frozen day 3 good quality
Sep/Oct18 IVF7 - Menogon 19-30Sep, Buserelin 19-30Sep, Zomacton 19 21 23 25 27 Sep, Ovitrelle 1 Oct, ER 3 eggs, 3 mature, 2 fertilized with ICSI, 2 frozen day 3 excellent quality
Fav Quote: The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return
@icecubeinthedessert So I’m totally over here going through all the old actresses I know to try and guess your name. My mom changed her name for the very same reason!
@emmasemm Haha that’s crazy! With that many co-working couples I’m surprised there wasn’t more drama sooner!
Me: 30 | DH: 31
Met: August 2006
Married: July 2012
TTC #1 since June 2016
***TW***
BFP: 7/12/16 | MC: 9/12/16
BFP: 1/18/17 | MMC: 2/13/17
BFP: 10/7/17 | EDD: 6/21/17
MTHFR: homozygous A1298C
I made the decision to change my last name. It was a tough choice but my maiden name was 13 letters long, very German and no one spelled/ pronounced it correctly. I didn't want to hyphenate because I had a hyphenated last name until age 19 (17 letters total) and it was a hot mess of inconvenience/inconsistency/misspellings on documents. I went through the trouble of legally changing my last name.
Anyways, I joke now that my last name is five letters long and no one can pronounce or spell it so it's a good fit for me. I have had people insinuate that I'm not a feminist because I changed my last name. Pisses me off. I made the choice to change my last name. No one made me do it.
I complained on fb (mistake!) a few years ago when the university MH and I boyh graduated from started sending mail to Mr. and Mrs. Husband's First and last name. Not cool and I wrote the university telling them that as I was also an alum they could put my name on mailings too, thank you very much. So an acquaintance on fb called me out saying it was just etiquette and I was a hypocrite. Lovely.