Moms who smoke/vape

masonsmomma9177 · October 2017

I’ve been vaping for 2 years now. It was easy to quit with my first pregnancy the day I found out. This pregnancy, I’m 7w2d and I’m having a really hard time quitting vaping. Yes it’s not as bad as cigarettes, there’s no nicotine in it but it’s all mental and I’m finding it impossible to quit. My husband vapes and won’t stop so I see him and that doesn’t help. Of course I love my child and I don’t want to endanger him/her. I feel very selfish. Is there any one whose quit smoking who can give advice? Please no mean comments telling me I’m horrible. I want to stop, just need some help!

ladystinson · October 2017

Not at all being mean, I haven't done a ton of research but vaping isn't as regulated as tobacco and there's a lot of questions about what is actually in it and how much it varies between brands. One (at least) was found to be basically putting off formaldehyde which is a carcinogen. Standard cigarettes have tons of chemicals too, but they've at least been studied and it's known what is in them. And of course there are a few brands out there (American Spirit is one I believe) that's old school with essentially just tobacco and rolling paper, and then there's rolling your own.

I completely understand how hard it is to quit a habit (I'm a diet coke drinker normally) but vaping is so dangerous even not pregnant. We know smoking can affect birth weight and lead to severe ear issues in children. We really don't know yet what vaping can do, but with the unstudied chemicals...... I don't know. It would scare me out of it...

suchaglencoco · October 2017

masonsmomma9177 said:

I’ve been vaping for 2 years now. It was easy to quit with my first pregnancy the day I found out. This pregnancy, I’m 7w2d and I’m having a really hard time quitting vaping. Yes it’s not as bad as cigarettes, there’s no nicotine in it but it’s all mental and I’m finding it impossible to quit. My husband vapes and won’t stop so I see him and that doesn’t help. Of course I love my child and I don’t want to endanger him/her. I feel very selfish. Is there any one whose quit smoking who can give advice? Please no mean comments telling me I’m horrible. I want to stop, just need some help!

What @ladystinson said. I never vaped, but smoked for many years before getting married and having children. When I decided to stop I just stopped, didn't buy another pack, and tried to stay away from situations where I'd be around smokers for awhile.
You should talk to your DH and ask if he can at least not do it around you for the time being.
I also suggest introducing yourself in the appropriate thread and joining in on other threads. There is a lot of great support here and a lot of support needed.

lincbeesmom · October 2017

I was a smoker before I found out I was pregnant with my first. I had already started quitting but had been slipping before I got my BFP. The day I saw positive, I stopped completely and haven’t looked back.

As as far as camping, my husband vapes but he doesn’t do it around me very often. I would stop just because of what @ladystinson said. We really don’t know the effects vaping has on a baby. I wouldn’t take the risk.

I had a laser tattoo removal session a week before I found out I was pregnant and it’s been keeping me up at night because it’s similar to vaping in the sense that there really isn’t much information on it.

Ceridwen77 · October 2017

I quit smoking many years ago, before I even met DH. I quit cold turkey. I stopped hanging with people who would negatively impact my progress. Whenever the temptation was presented to me I just passed. I didn’t want to “just take one drag” or anything like that. It was all or nothing to me.

Sorry to say, but it is incredibly selfish of you to not quit, and also for your husband to be such a bad influence and seemingly unsupportive. You need to just stop, and draw the line with your husband. Hoping you/your husband are not doing it in the house with your other child present either...who knows what effects that could have down the road. So if he isn’t already, make him go outside when he wants to do it.

momo214 · October 2017

I have no experience with smoking or vaping but I know there are some medications that can help kick the smoking habit. Maybe it'd be worth a convo with your OB to see if there are any pregnancy safe medications or other techniques to help you quit. Hopefully you find the support you need to stop for you and baby's safety.

Pearlvirus · October 2017

Oh my, what is vaping? Do I really live that far under a rock???

desertdweller21 · October 2017

Since you said there's no nicotine in your vape, can you substitute the sensation with a straw? It obviously won't be the same, but maybe it will help?

I have smoked and vaped, but not recently. My issue was wanting nicotine though. I had no interest in vaping if there wasn't nicotine. (I quit by tapering off to the lowest level and then stopping).

cups4 · October 2017

Can I ask the point of vaping if there is no nicotine involved?

kpc914 · October 2017

If there is anything I know is bad for baby (drinking, smoking marijuana, eating lots of tuna, etc.) I really have no problem cutting it out of my life. In fact, I think if I gave in, the entire time I was consuming/imbibing all I could think about is that I KNOW this is bad for baby, so why do I need to do it? I guess maybe it's easier said that done, but I think you need to force an attitude change. Tell yourself that vaping is just as bad for baby as cigarettes (which it very well could be, because we have no idea). Keep saying it to yourself until you believe it. Google everything that says vaping is bad for pregnant women. You need to get in your head that this isn't healthy nor necessary. And I agree, your husband should be more supportive/understanding and take it seriously.

If I saw a pregnant woman vaping, I would judge hardcore.

lincbeesmom · October 2017

cups4 said:

Can I ask the point of vaping if there is no nicotine involved?

This was my thought too. It shouldn’t be as hard to stop if there is no nicotine in it...

lincbeesmom · October 2017

Pearlvirus said:

Oh my, what is vaping? Do I really live that far under a rock???

It’s kind of like using an e-cig.
https://vaping360.com/what-is-vaping/

lincbeesmom · October 2017

@Pearlvirus

Pearlvirus · October 2017

Ahhhh, I have seen those, just didn't know the term, lol.

Jlr025 · October 2017

My SO vapes and he happily goes outside to do it. I used to smoke and quit cold turkey about 6 years ago. I know it's not easy, but you can do it! And you need to have a serious conversation with DH about boundaries with his vaping so he can support you in successfully quitting for the health of you and your child.

bumpemma · October 2017

Hi, I studied psychology particularly smoking - there are different reasons for different people that keep them from quitting when they want, I suggest maybe pondering or researching online (best would be to see a counsellor or online counsellor versed in smoking habits) and see which things are difficult for you.
I would say can you talk to your DH about not doing it as often? Or not near you, keeping to when he's away, or he could go elsewhere? I think the social aspect if your DH is doing it in front of you is hard.
Maybe some concrete research into the effects for your or your husband will help both of you find the strength.

Update us on how you go!

bumpemma · October 2017

lincbeesmom said:

cups4 said:

Can I ask the point of vaping if there is no nicotine involved?

This was my thought too. It shouldn’t be as hard to stop if there is no nicotine in it...

Nicotine isn't necessarily what people are addicted to, smoking can be physical to nicotine and/or other addictions to behaviour, relaxation etc. it's interesting but true how variable people bodies and mind react to many substances.

charlestonchew · October 2017

@bumpemma speaks truth. My mom quit cold turkey and had one relapse but hers appeared to be an oral fixation. She used to chew her nails to nothing and now chews gum all. the. time.

zaclina · October 2017

Never vamped but once smoked. If it's vaping without nicotine (congrats on busting the nicotine habit btw), I wonder it's the deep breathing all inhalers of smoke-like objects/things miss when quitting. Have you tried deep breathing exercises? Also, is it "an escape/break, stress reliever" etc? If you figure out what it's doing for you (vaping), try replacing it with something else specific that creates a similar effect (e.g. Walk, meditate, music, read, sex, talk on the phone). Good luck!!! You're doing the best thing for your baby by quitting!!!!

CraftyG · October 2017

Well done for wanting to quit! I used to be a wine and cigarette in the evening type of smoker but when I was first pregnant the taste of snoke just made me feel so sick (I didn't know I was pregnant at the time). Find out what your triggers are and avoid them. For instance if you always sit on a bench outside at lunch to smoke don't step foot outside the door, distract yourself with other things. If it's the physical sensation chew gum, if it's keeping your hands busy make homemade Christmas cards. Tell your partner it's dangerous for the baby and you don't want him to do it infront of you anymore.

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