Really want this baby to be a boy! I have two girls and I've always wanted boys. I'd of course love another girl with all my heart, but I'd be absolutely thrilled to finally have a boy.
I would love to have a boy! I have 2 girls already. I've always wanted a little boy but I do think this baby is a girl, I am destined to be a girl mom I think lol.
This is our first child. I would obviously be happy with either and we are team green. However, I know my husband really longs to have at least one daughter. Since we only plan on having two, it might be nice to have a daughter first so the pressure is off :-).
My husband actually finds it really interesting that so many of his male friends wants sons so they can "bond" with them. But he sees the relationships in my family and almost all of my female cousins are super close to their dads, but the boys not so much. (I have 27 first cousins.....so it's quite a sample size)I think he pictures himself with that same father daughter bond. I know he would bond well with a boy, but I think he just sees something special there with the father/daughter relationship. .
Follow up question… I see a lot of comments regarding room sharing. Does it really matter sex of siblings for room sharing? I mean at least while they're a little?
@hollieileen yeah I agree, I don't really think it is much of an issue to roomshare a boy and girl. Granted if you are planning to have your kids share a room through high school that might be another story lol.
@SLC1102 I love your answer and I feel the same way! I so look forward to raising tolerant and strong children and I agree....raising a strong independent girl or a boy who stands up for women's rights would both be so rewarding.
My loss was a baby girl, so a little girl would be special. End TW In the beginning I strongly felt this pg was a boy, but I’m not so sure anymore. I’ll be so happy either way.
I am hoping this little one is a girl. With 2 boys and this being our last, it's my only hope for a girl. I would love a third boy for the pack too of course! We are currently debating room sharing. Each of our boys has a room now, but they could easily share. We have bunk beds in the smaller room, so it'd be a pain to move them and create a nursery. If this baby is a boy, we may be able to adapt one of the current themes so it's less work. Poor third child!!
I'm hoping for a boy - this is likely our only child we'll have and my SO would love to pass on the family name. I always thought I would want a girl since I was close with my mom but I feel so much differently now that I'm pregnant. It'll be a while before we find out but that's what I'm hoping for!
Follow up question… I see a lot of comments regarding room sharing. Does it really matter sex of siblings for room sharing? I mean at least while they're a little?
Our b/g twins will share a room for a couple more years. I'm hoping by then we'll have a new house with 4 bedrooms, but if not before they hit kindergarten we'll switch them over and one will share with whatever sex this baby is. Although, I think it'll be hard to break them up since they've been together since the back room at the fertility clinic.
We were team green the 1st time and have DD. For our second and last bambino, it's a toss up! I think similarly to moms who'd like to save the clothing money, and having a sister is something I always wanted growing up (have one brother) so I'd love DD to have that special relationship. Then again, a boy might be amazing and perhaps a really different experience.
On room sharing: my parents let my brother and I pick between sharing a bedroom and having a playroom or having separate rooms. We shared until mid elementary. Never thought it was a "thing", worked out great for us.
@nanifrog do they really seem more violent or just physically inclined? I notice boys seem to physically independent earlier, climbing, throwing etc. But girls seem to be more advanced verbally. So, with my DS, he gets frustrated more easily bc he cannot communicate as well. He throws everything, but he doesn't mean it in a violent way. I am sure there are kids who are more violent (I know I have seen some pretty violent girls!) but it may just be general differences. There are plenty of shows and toys that are non violent. And I honestly could not care less about what other people say in regards to gender norms. If my son wants to play with dolls, I encourage that. Wants to watch princess movies, I encourage that. It's all a balance, and I wouldn't stress too much.
There really are general differences between the genders, it all has to do with the increased testosterone that starts to be released when baby is about 14 weeks in the whom. However as we all know there are people on both scales of male and female who have personalities that differ, nature and nurture! There can be sweet boys who love hugs, language. And girls who are wild and love risk! But in general the impact testosterone makes has been researched and known in both brain scans, brain function and behaviour.
Netflix has a doco called The 9 Months That Made You, episode 2 the 2nd trimester has info on gender. It may not be everyones cup of tea - but the Bringing up Boys and Bringing up Girls by Jame Dobson a child psychologist - are good books, written awhile ago and conservative Christian but give them a shot, I value the psych background and info on genders that are not based on social things but rather a psych and behaviour point of view.
I'm preparing myself for a boy - knowing even my sweet natured husband loves taking physical risks...
@nanifrog do they really seem more violent or just physically inclined? I notice boys seem to physically independent earlier, climbing, throwing etc. But girls seem to be more advanced verbally. So, with my DS, he gets frustrated more easily bc he cannot communicate as well. He throws everything, but he doesn't mean it in a violent way. I am sure there are kids who are more violent (I know I have seen some pretty violent girls!) but it may just be general differences. There are plenty of shows and toys that are non violent. And I honestly could not care less about what other people say in regards to gender norms. If my son wants to play with dolls, I encourage that. Wants to watch princess movies, I encourage that. It's all a balance, and I wouldn't stress too much.
There really are general differences between the genders, it all has to do with the increased testosterone that starts to be released when baby is about 14 weeks in the whom. However as we all know there are people on both scales of male and female who have personalities that differ, nature and nurture! There can be sweet boys who love hugs, language. And girls who are wild and love risk! But in general the impact testosterone makes has been researched and known in both brain scans, brain function and behaviour.
Netflix has a doco called The 9 Months That Made You, episode 2 the 2nd trimester has info on gender. It may not be everyones cup of tea - but the Bringing up Boys and Bringing up Girls by Jame Dobson a child psychologist - are good books, written awhile ago and conservative Christian but give them a shot, I value the psych background and info on genders that are not based on social things but rather a psych and behaviour point of view.
I'm preparing myself for a boy - knowing even my sweet natured husband loves taking physical risks...
I want to make sure it's clear that I'm not saying any of this. My point is that I don't like the violent shows marketed towards boys, just like I don't like the princesses marketed toward girls, and that there would be a learning curve for me regarding how to handle it.
Follow up question… I see a lot of comments regarding room sharing. Does it really matter sex of siblings for room sharing? I mean at least while they're a little?
Fun random fact about Florida, children of the opposit sex cannot share a bedroom past the age of five. No idea WHY that's a thing but I'd speculate that it keeps poor people from having multiple children. Also worth pointing out, that it's rarely enforced.
I'm kinda torn. On the one hand, I want one girl and one boy, just because that seems normal and well-balanced to me. I already have a female child. On the other hand, I am both a feminist and a trans supporter. I think that gender rules create oppression, so I want to say that it doesn't matter what sex my baby is - but honestly, it is very difficult to conquer my own attachment to the status quo. I would have tried to use gender-neutral pronouns with my daughter, but I knew it would just be too hard. Statistically, she's likely to turn out to just be a girl. So I gave her a girl's name and I dress her in rainbows - and robots. If I am lucky enough to have a son, he will wear all of her hand-me-downs. I want a boy; but if he's non-binary, I'll be the first to paint his toenails. This combination of seemingly-contradictory ideals is the best I can do. We'll find out the sex in a week-and-a-half. Finding out the gender might take much longer.
As a mom of a kid who isn't neuro-typically "healthy", I even avoid telling people we wish for a healthy baby, because I don't ever want to diminish a persons feelings when they are carrying a not-healthy baby. Hope that makes sense.
I have two girls already and would love a third. I always would daydream of having 4 girls, my entire life. Plus it would be so much easier to reuse all of big sisters clothes and stuff.
@yesthisiskim0401 I agree about the "healthy" baby. Sure, I want my baby to be healthy. But I in no way want to make someone birthing a child with a disability or health concern to feel like their pregnancy or experience is somehow "less-than". My 5yo FS has some pretty serious delays, and while they are caused by lack of nurture on top of genetics, I know what it is like to parent a child that other people would consider as "imperfect". If ya'll only knew the comments we get. It's heartbreaking how ignorant they are to the awesome boy he is.
Married DH : 7/7/12; 3 fur babies (2 dogs and 1 cat) DS born 9/3/13; DD born 7/22/15; LO due 5/28/18 FS (age 5) and FD (age 2) to become AS/AD very soon!
@mommabmb@yesthisiskim0401 I always assume people mean physically healthy. Then again I get incredibly pissy when people assume shit about what I say, so I'm sure it isn't the best turn of phrase. I'm looking forward to having a baby in my arms to cuddle and love until they grow up.
@mommabmb@yesthisiskim0401 I always assume people mean physically healthy. Then again I get incredibly pissy when people assume shit about what I say, so I'm sure it isn't the best turn of phrase. I'm looking forward to having a baby in my arms to cuddle and love until they grow up.
I understand the well-meaning part of it. I don't get upset when others say it- it isn't meant to be hurtful. (Admittedly- I'm also not always good at being "PC"). This is just one area that hits close to home. The trauma experienced by my kids is neurological, but a child born without an arm or with a genetic physical disorder should also be celebrated as a beautiful new life.
Married DH : 7/7/12; 3 fur babies (2 dogs and 1 cat) DS born 9/3/13; DD born 7/22/15; LO due 5/28/18 FS (age 5) and FD (age 2) to become AS/AD very soon!
@mommabmb@yesthisiskim0401 I always assume people mean physically healthy. Then again I get incredibly pissy when people assume shit about what I say, so I'm sure it isn't the best turn of phrase. I'm looking forward to having a baby in my arms to cuddle and love until they grow up.
I understand the well-meaning part of it. I don't get upset when others say it- it isn't meant to be hurtful. (Admittedly- I'm also not always good at being "PC"). This is just one area that hits close to home. The trauma experienced by my kids is neurological, but a child born without an arm or with a genetic physical disorder should also be celebrated as a beautiful new life.
I get it. I mean, who DOESNT want a healthy kid, kwim? I just avoid saying it because you never know what someone is going through. With my second we always said "as long as it's healthy" and her immune system is great and she is relatively healthy. But she had delays no test could have shown us and when we started our journey with her we got a lot of "omg I'm so sorry". I'm not sorry for her or I, or our family. So I'm just sensitive to the "healthy" comments. And I try to be as sensitive to others. Not at all an attack on people who say it or wish it.
I don't know how I managed to not respond to you earlier @Shima42 but... I feel like it's not really realistic to not use gender specific pronouns in most situations. Both myself and my SO are of the opinion that J is a boy until he tells us otherwise, this one will be their designated sex until they tell us otherwise, and we will accept whatever is decided by them at that point.
@ivyvines6 totally agree with you. I'll use the pronouns he/she until they tell me otherwise. Don't know why people have to make everything so hard these days
*Married 7/29/11 BFP 10/2/13, EDD 6/3/14 Gave birth to my beautiful son, Owen Robert on 6/4/14! BFP #2 8/28/15, EDD 5/5/16
@MrsPrice519 I wouldn't necessarily say that things are so hard these days, but it isn't the cultural norm yet. It could be that in fifteen or twenty years gender neutral pronouns are the standard. Who knows?
This is our first child. I would obviously be happy with either and we are team green. However, I know my husband really longs to have at least one daughter. Since we only plan on having two, it might be nice to have a daughter first so the pressure is off :-).
My husband actually finds it really interesting that so many of his male friends wants sons so they can "bond" with them. But he sees the relationships in my family and almost all of my female cousins are super close to their dads, but the boys not so much. (I have 27 first cousins.....so it's quite a sample size)I think he pictures himself with that same father daughter bond. I know he would bond well with a boy, but I think he just sees something special there with the father/daughter relationship. .
I agree! We have a two year old girl, My husband wants a son to "bond" with, but EVERY Dad I know who has both girls and boys bond better with their girls! The boys seem to butt heads with dad, at least in their teens. As for me, I wanted a boy when I was pregnant with DD1, but after having her, I LOVE having a girl! (She is a legit wild-child tho!) It really doesn't matter.. I'll take whatever God thinks is best!
@Ambermom043 I think something has been engrained in our culture that men are convinced that they need a son so they can do the sports and "manly" things. But, in practice, you will have a special and different bond with any child.
We are all hoping for a girl this time. Our son is 6yrs old so there is a good age gap regardless and we didn't save any baby stuff from him. This will be our last so one of each will be great. But I really am ok with another boy. I love my son, he was so easy.
Oh and just a side note... he loves superhero and "violent" shows.... he's not violent at all, he has never hit another kid. Nothing like that. He's in first grade and yesterday he came home a little upset because another boy yelled at his teacher in class and he didn't like that, it wasn't right. He's really sweet. he also has a couple Barbie dolls and many female action figures. Even princess pop toys and likes belle from beauty and the beast cuz she's smart. Really I think it all comes down to how you raise your kids and teaching them right from wrong and that tv is make believe, it's not real. And that it's never ok to put your hands on another person without their permission. Tv and such won't undo the lessons you teach them. I am more worried about him learning bad behaviors from other kids than tv.
Well, I already have one boy and two girls. You’d think I’d want a boy to even things out but I honestly don’t care. Hubby on the other hand is itching for a boy so with that, I guess you could say I’m hoping it’s a boy so he can have his wish fulfilled. Lol
We have two boys and this will be our last so I’m hoping for a girl but I would be happy with a third boy too. I loving being a boy Mom but I don’t know if my house or food budget can handle another boy. On the other hand we have absolutely everything we need for a boy. This baby will be born 10 days after DS2 turns two, as long as I make it to 39 weeks, so it’s all in the right season too.
It took me so long to conceive this one (2 years) I honestly will be thrilled for anything. I guess boy if I HAD to choose, simply because it would make my mom overjoyed (she is extremely traditional and having a first born boy is typically a great outcome).
My TTC journey:
Me and DH: 30-35 Unexplained infertility TTC #1 since 2015 11/2015 - BFP! 12/2015 - MC :'( IVF #1 July 2017 freeze all (20 eggs, 15 mature, 10 fert, 6 blasts, 4 PGS normal) FET #1 TBD Surprise BFP 9/2017 while waiting for FET... hoping for the best!
I really feel like there is a little girl waiting to join our family. I was so happy to have Viking first because I've always wished I had a big brother. Hubby wants a girl really really bad. I'm hoping to eventually have 2 of each. Though I will say I am really hoping we don't have to decide on another boy name. Hubby wants a Jr and I...don't. He also loves the name Daniel. I love the sound/meaning but hate how common it is.
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Happily married since 5/24/2015 Momma of a baby Viking since 4/16, expecting #2 in 5/18
I have three boys, I would love for a little girl, but I feel like it's another boy. On team Green, and one of the reasons was the gender disappointment with my third pregnancy. (I know how horrible that sounds)
Re: I know we all just want a healthy baby but if you had to pick- boy or girl?
My husband actually finds it really interesting that so many of his male friends wants sons so they can "bond" with them. But he sees the relationships in my family and almost all of my female cousins are super close to their dads, but the boys not so much. (I have 27 first cousins.....so it's quite a sample size)I think he pictures himself with that same father daughter bond. I know he would bond well with a boy, but I think he just sees something special there with the father/daughter relationship. .
TW loss
My loss was a baby girl, so a little girl would be special.
End TW
In the beginning I strongly felt this pg was a boy, but I’m not so sure anymore. I’ll be so happy either way.
We are currently debating room sharing. Each of our boys has a room now, but they could easily share. We have bunk beds in the smaller room, so it'd be a pain to move them and create a nursery. If this baby is a boy, we may be able to adapt one of the current themes so it's less work. Poor third child!!
Although, I think it'll be hard to break them up since they've been together since the back room at the fertility clinic.
On room sharing: my parents let my brother and I pick between sharing a bedroom and having a playroom or having separate rooms. We shared until mid elementary. Never thought it was a "thing", worked out great for us.
Netflix has a doco called The 9 Months That Made You, episode 2 the 2nd trimester has info on gender.
It may not be everyones cup of tea - but the Bringing up Boys and Bringing up Girls by Jame Dobson a child psychologist - are good books, written awhile ago and conservative Christian but give them a shot, I value the psych background and info on genders that are not based on social things but rather a psych and behaviour point of view.
I'm preparing myself for a boy - knowing even my sweet natured husband loves taking physical risks...
My 2 girls are independent physical risk takers.
Hope that makes sense.
I have two girls already and would love a third. I always would daydream of having 4 girls, my entire life. Plus it would be so much easier to reuse all of big sisters clothes and stuff.
I agree about the "healthy" baby. Sure, I want my baby to be healthy. But I in no way want to make someone birthing a child with a disability or health concern to feel like their pregnancy or experience is somehow "less-than". My 5yo FS has some pretty serious delays, and while they are caused by lack of nurture on top of genetics, I know what it is like to parent a child that other people would consider as "imperfect". If ya'll only knew the comments we get. It's heartbreaking how ignorant they are to the awesome boy he is.
DS born 9/3/13; DD born 7/22/15; LO due 5/28/18
FS (age 5) and FD (age 2) to become AS/AD very soon!
DS born 9/3/13; DD born 7/22/15; LO due 5/28/18
FS (age 5) and FD (age 2) to become AS/AD very soon!
BFP 10/2/13, EDD 6/3/14
Gave birth to my beautiful son, Owen Robert on 6/4/14!
BFP #2 8/28/15, EDD 5/5/16
Oh and just a side note... he loves superhero and "violent" shows.... he's not violent at all, he has never hit another kid. Nothing like that. He's in first grade and yesterday he came home a little upset because another boy yelled at his teacher in class and he didn't like that, it wasn't right. He's really sweet.
Unexplained infertility
TTC #1 since 2015
11/2015 - BFP! 12/2015 - MC :'(
IVF #1 July 2017 freeze all (20 eggs, 15 mature, 10 fert, 6 blasts, 4 PGS normal)
FET #1 TBD Surprise BFP 9/2017 while waiting for FET... hoping for the best!