First I have to say this topic is not to ignite a battle because I know people get worked up over this topic. I just need some feedback and thoughts, if any of you are facing similar situations.
So with DS, we both got Tdaps and so did my parents and it was no issue. DH's parents lived on the other side of the country, so it was a non issue for them. Since then, they have moved back here and would presumably be around baby a lot. We informed them of the need get these updated based on our doctors' recs. I've never been a militant flu shot/germaphobe-type person but having a newborn during peak illness season, plus having a kindergartener bringing in germs, I feel extra strongly about it this time. Well, fits ensued. I was afraid of it since they are definitely in conspiracy theory/anti-vax territory. However, I was hoping the health of their grandchild/wanting to spend time with her might be more persuasive.
Of course I'm pissed and, to be honest, rather hurt too, that they would argue something we view as very important for the baby's health in those early months, especially since the things she kept mentioning are myths that have been debunked over and over. We basically told them it was a non-negotiable and left it at that. MIL said she'd "think about it." I think they might actually refuse. And of course they have the right to do so, but then don't act like we are the bad guys for limiting contact until baby is vaccinated. There is a pattern with them of questioning and/or arguing decisions we have made regarding DS, so I already have a short fuse as I anticipate these confrontations. I'm not used to this since my family have always been very reasonable and respectful of our parenting. Have any of you run into this issue? What did you do or what is your plan for handling it if you do?
Me: 36 DH: 41
TTC #2: July 2016
BFP: 4/19/17 EDD: 12/31/17