PGAL check in 10/02

ngolimento · October 2017

Let's get this week rolling!

How far along are you?

Any appointments coming up?

Questions?

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)

GTKY: I need some happy thoughts today. Tell me about something awesome that happened to you recently, something nice that someone did for you, or an act of kindness you witnessed.

sparklingdiamond · October 2017

How far along are you?  9w6d

Any appointments coming up?  I had my last u/s with the RE this morning and was officially released to the OB.

Questions?  Not at the moment

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)  I think I have talked about this before (and I know that u/s measurements can still be off), but it still freaks me out that I was measuring 2 days behind. Also, the heartrate does fluctuate right? It was in the 170s last time and was like 156 today. But he said in the normal range.

GTKY: I need some happy thoughts today. Tell me about something awesome that happened to you recently, something nice that someone did for you, or an act of kindness you witnessed.  Well I bought a new car! That made me happy lol. And got rid of that car we had that I hated. It was a Chevy and was a 2012 with less than 100k miles and was headed for needing a new transmission. So glad to be rid of it.

linds0503 · October 2017

@sparklingdiamond the heart rate is supposed to come back down after around 9 weeks, so take it as a good sign. As far as measurements go, there is an error range of about 5 days on those machines in either direction, so it sounds like you and baby are right on track.

linds0503 · October 2017

How far along are you?
13 weeks 6 days.

Any appointments coming up?
3 weeks until next obgyn and over 5 weeks until we find out the sex on the screening ultrasound.

Questions?

I don't think so.

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)

Good. I am starting to get used to my new belly, and I have continued to be a pretty cool cucumber as far as anxiety goes.

GTKY: I need some happy thoughts today. Tell me about something awesome that happened to you recently, something nice that someone did for you, or an act of kindness you witnessed.

Hmm... I have been trying to focus on the little things lately. Like how everyone keeps making things and giving us things for this baby. My friend's mom even offered to make a blanket for the baby this weekend, and I do not even know her very well.

mdwiny · October 2017

Let's get this week rolling!

How far along are you?
10 weeks

Any appointments coming up?
Just had an ultrasound a few days ago. Got all the blood in the world (seriously, 11 vials) drawn today for various screenings. NT scan in 2 weeks.

Questions?
Am I the only one who's not on the same page as their SO about finding out sex? I really want to know, but DH wants to be surprised. Feels like I have to defer to him. Boo.

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)
Good! Still nauseous, but not quite as frequently or severely as I have been. Mostly just reallllllly antsy to get past all the screenings in the next 2 weeks. That's when we'll start telling more people.

GTKY: I need some happy thoughts today. Tell me about something awesome that happened to you recently, something nice that someone did for you, or an act of kindness you witnessed.
I'm struggling with this today, too. Luckily the internet is still full of kitten videos. Kittens are an unqualified good in the world.

mdwiny · October 2017

@sparklingdiamond Upgrading from a shitty car feels so good! We did that last year and it still makes me so happy. Congrats!

linds0503 · October 2017

@mdwiny I don't remember if you are a FTM, but there might be ways but to get dh too realize the practicality of knowing the sex. Maybe take him to the baby section and show him that there is a blue rack and a pink rack and very little in between. Practicality won my dh over. Personally I feel like I will need the time to process it if it is a boy, because I want a girl so bad.

mdwiny · October 2017

@linds0503 Yep, FTM! That's not a bad idea, because DH is *very* practicality oriented. But we're going to try hard to avoid blue/pink stuff no matter the sex. (Looking for that little in between, or else just buying an even mix of both.) So I feel like that could backfire on me, lol. And yeah, your concern resonates with me. I don't yet have a strong gender preference, because I've been so focused and worried on just TTGP and having it stick around that I haven't had room to care about sex. But now that I'm relaxing a bit about the pregnancy, I'm worried that I have 30 more weeks to develop a preference, and the last thing I want is to be disappointed in the delivery room, even for an instant! Plus, birth seems so stressful, who wants added surprises!?

ngolimento · October 2017

@sparklingdiamond congrats on graduating! HB can fluctuate (remember the babies sleep too!), so as long as you are in the normal range you are golden.

@linds0503 I am glad you are feeling good and steady, that is such an important mental state to hold on to. I also received a baby blanket from a near-stranger when I had my daughter, and it was SO touching.

@mdwiny seriously, thank God for kittens! I hope your NT scan goes well, I know the wait is really nerve-wracking.

rklinge0 · October 2017

@mdwiny we were team green last pregnancy, my choice. Dh was working for the anatomy scan so I definitely won out. We did end up with numerous u/s in 3rd but I held strong. This time, I concede and let him have it ( if we make it) but he is willing to make compromises for me on some testing.
There are some pros of being team green. All major toys and big ticket items are going to be able to be reused. We also got over a year worth of diapers and I have yet to have to buy baby wash and lotion, she is almost 2 1/2.

stalkinghorse · October 2017

@mdwiny I second linds0503, I think anything you can do to make birth less stressful is worth pursuing. Same with those first few weeks. I really like the idea of adjusting to a sex ahead of time. Could you agree with your husband for you to know but for him to be surprised. Am I crazy for thinking tit shouldn't really be up to the spouse? I'm being crazy, I just know it!

@linds0503 Really nice to hear a PGAL mommy is maintaining such composure, that's awesome. I think the idea of focusing on little things is really wise. If we pay attention, there really is a lot of kindness around us.

@sparklingdiamond YAY for a new car! Congrats! Car buying is so stressful and annoying. Glad it's behind you and you don't have to worry about car troubles on the way to any of your baby's appointments.

How far along are you? 11w3d

Any appointments coming up? Seeing my ob next week! Really looking forward to it.

Questions? I'm ok!

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here) My doctor called and left a message. Why do I insist on screening my calls! He said my NIPT results were normal but he wasn't sure if I wanted to know the sex. OF COURSE I WANT TO KNOW. It's been an hour and a half since I emailed as much. I am literally dying to know.

I also know that my doctor knows that I'm pretty PGAL anxious. So I appreciate that he's trying hard to keep things very "test results are good" kind of terminology. But I would love a little more data? Like, your odds of x,y,z are one in 1,000 etc. Do I need to wait until the NT for that?

I really should know better than to be critical when I really love him so much!

GTKY: I need some happy thoughts today. Tell me about something awesome that happened to you recently, something nice that someone did for you, or an act of kindness you witnessed.

My truly amazing sister in law has been battling a very rare and aggressive form of uterine cancer. She just finished chemo and her first set of scans were clear. She will have to continue checking every three months for the next two years. But she is really feeling like a new person not that at least chemo is behind her.

She helped me so much through my first miscarriage even though she had just been diagnosed. She has twin 9 year olds and is just generally a badass. I think of everyone I tell, she will be the most excited. I can't wait!

ngolimento · October 2017

How far along are you? 12 weeks, 4 days

Any appointments coming up? None this week

Questions? Newp

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here). I have been feeling extremely tired this past week, and I am really over it. I also am considering getting a Doppler because my PGAL brain is freaking out on me over a hay ride I went on on Saturday. It was way more bumpy than I remembered from last year, and all I could think about was placental abruption. I also am freaking out today over an unknown chemical smell that happened in my workplace today. I went home early before anyone could figure out what it was. I wasn't willing to sit around until someone decided it was dangerous.

GTKY: I need some happy thoughts today. Tell me about something awesome that happened to you recently, something nice that someone did for you, or an act of kindness you witnessed. I got nothing today

. Nervous, tired, and bummed.

julzy · October 2017

How far along are you?
12 weeks today

Any appointments coming up?
NT scan tomorrow and feeling pretty anxious about it.

Questions?
no

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)
I'm really looking forward to tomorrow being behind me. I've been telling myself I just need to get through my NT scan today and get my NIPT results (blood draw last Thursday) before I can really relax and enjoy this pregnancy. It's exciting it's finally here (and I'll have the NIPT results by a week from today) but it's also completely nerve-wrecking because of the possibility of bad news. I don't know if my heart can take bad news. I'm pretty scared.

GTKY: I need some happy thoughts today. Tell me about something awesome that happened to you recently, something nice that someone did for you, or an act of kindness you witnessed.
I received an award last week from a local club in my community for my work to bring climate change awareness and action to our community. It was really amazing how many friends and family came out to support me and I'm still feeling all the feels looking back at the pictures. It's really a cool feeling to have my work recognized because I'm so passionate about it.

ngolimento · October 2017

Good luck on your scan tomorrow @julzy! I am in the same boat as you, waiting on the blood results, and crazy nervous about it. And congratulations on getting recognized for all your hard work! I'm so glad advocates like you are hard at work on such an important issue.

mdwiny · October 2017

@julzy Good luck with your scan!! I'm right there with you on the anxiety. Leading up to my 10w scan last week, I was counting down the days waiting for it, but then the night before I got total cold feet and didn't want to go. The idea of bad news was more than I could bear. But just try to think that this time tomorrow it will be over and you will be awash with joy and relief.

@ngolimento I'm sorry the hay ride freaked you out!! I'm sure everything is fine, but I know that anxiety all too well. Just try to think of all the pregnant women all over the world who are pregnant factory workers, pregnant aerobics instructors, pregnant farm laborers... our bodies are strong.

@stalkinghorse I think he would hate knowing that I knew, and I would hate having a secret. I'd end up driving him nuts begging him to let me tell. I guess I feel like I have to defer to him because if I get my way, I'd be ruining this beautiful surprise he wants to have, whereas if he gets his way, I just have to wait longer. But the debate is NOT over yet. Anyway, your post is full of good news! Congrats on your good NIPT results, and that's amazing about your SIL! And keep us posted on baby's sex!!

@rklinge0 Good points, filed away!

lolablue3 · October 2017

How far along are you?

14 weeks!

Any appointments coming up?
My first OB appt is on the 18th.

Questions?

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)
I'm doing great! Maternit21 results came back today negative for any chromosomal abnormalities. I also found out that baby is a girl! I can't believe it. That's three girls and one boy for us.

GTKY: I need some happy thoughts today. Tell me about something awesome that happened to you recently, something nice that someone did for you, or an act of kindness you witnessed.
My softball team earned the 2 seed in districts this week!

lolablue3 · October 2017

@sparklingdiamond yay for a new car! We are going shopping in January. I have a 2008 Suburban with almost 200k miles on it. I think I'm going with a Yukon XL this time around.

@julzy good luck with the scan! I felt the same way until my maternit21 results came back. Getting the message today was a huge relief.

ngolimento · October 2017

Apparently I got my Harmony results today, but my phone never showed the incoming call. *Dies*

mikkimikey · October 2017

How far along are you?

11 weeks 6 days

Any appointments coming up?
I have my NT scan in about four hours!! I am nervous (even though this is my third one!! Lol)

Questions?

not that I can think of!!

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)
I am doing pretty well! I have a Doppler that relieves my mind every day. My daughter loves to take video of it as I find the heartbeat. It reads the heartbeat digitally so I know when I've found the baby's heartbeat and not my own! My family loves getting those videos. I've been able to find it for about a week and a half now. It's a huge peace of mind for me!

GTKY: I need some happy thoughts today. Tell me about something awesome that happened to you recently, something nice that someone did for you, or an act of kindness you witnessed.

We finally hired a new person at my work, so I won't be working as many doubles as before. So THAT'S pretty nice! I am reeeeeally excited about that because I've been working at least three doubles per week for the last seven weeks. I'm so over it!

sparklingdiamond · October 2017

@mdwiny Maybe he will change his mind? I don't think I would be happy if DH didn't want to know and I did! :-p

@stalkinghorse Oh no! Missing the doctor's call is the worst! That is great that her scans were clear and I hope the continue to be!

@ngolimento I don't blame you for going home! I wouldn't sit around with an unknown smell either. I totally feel you on the Doppler thing. I didn't have one last pregnancy, but kind of want one with this pregnancy.

@julzy Good luck on your results and I hope they come back quickly and all clear! I totally understand feeling worried about it.

@lolablue3 Yay for a girl and good results!

@mikkimikey Yay for no more working doubles! That's always a good thing.

pghren · October 2017

@ngolimento oh no! Bad phone
@mikkimikey that's cool you've had such luck with doppler
How far along are you?
13w3d

Any appointments coming up?
nope

Questions?
nope

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)
Baby really needs to pop up into my abdomen. It's been so uncomfortable recently with all the stretching and fullness in my pelvis.
Also the nausea had returned with this cold full of congestion I picked up. I've spent the last several days in bed or lounging in front ouf the tv not being able to eat or drink much.

GTKY: I need some happy thoughts today. Tell me about something awesome that happened to you recently, something nice that someone did for you, or an act of kindness you witnessed.
Sorry I've been having a rough time recently

sparklingdiamond · October 2017

I thought of a question I forgot to ask. My RE had said at my appt yesterday that I can stop the progesterone. My OB had said I would stop probably around 12 weeks. (Yes I didn't follow directions and saw the OB before I was completely released lol). When did you stop the progesterone?

mdwiny · October 2017

@sparklingdiamond My OB said I can stop at 13 weeks. But YMMV I suppose.

linds0503 · October 2017

@sparklingdiamond I stopped at 10 weeks.

sunshinedays-2 · October 2017

@sparklingdiamond I stopped at 10 weeks

@allowachick and @ngolimento I'm sorry to hear you have both been having a rough time. I hope things brighten for you soon. Also, I would freak out at missing that call ngolimento! I hope you were able to connect with them and that it was good news!!

@lolablue3 that's great news on your test results and congrats on your softball team! I played softball in high school and loved it.

@stalkinghorse I'm right there with you on wanting to know the details. I'm a very numbers oriented person in general and PGAL brain certainly does not lessen that preference! Also, your sister-in-law sounds like a really amazing person.

How far along are you?
13+4

Any appointments coming up?
Not until the end of October

Questions?
Not today!

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)
I was doing great until I got hit with a migraine yesterday! I went from almost feeling like my prepregnancy self to hiding in a dark room in pain while throwing up everything I ate and drank. Prior to pregnancy I had only ever had one migraine and I have had 2 in the last month. The first was mild and I took care of it with a coca-cola but yesterday was really brutal. I seriously admire anyone who has to deal with migraines on a regular basis because it was intense. Hoping I don't get too many of those over the next 6 months...

GTKY: I need some happy thoughts today. Tell me about something awesome that happened to you recently, something nice that someone did for you, or an act of kindness you witnessed.
Last night my husband was in a test and I couldn't contact him so I reached out to my dad about my migraine. He just got back from Korea for work on Sunday but still he and my mom dropped everything to get me a coca-cola and tylenol (I didn't have anything at home and at that point was having really bad visual auras). It was really sweet and made me feel happy that my husband and I decided to move closer to family last year (we used to live 2000 miles away in california)

toesinthesand-2 · October 2017

I've been MIA for a while, but popping in to say "hey" and give a little update!

How far along are you? 12w1d

Any appointments coming up? Just had my 12w appointment today! Finally heard the heartbeat... 163!

Questions? None really!

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here) - Doing ok, today's appointment finally has me feeling like I can relax a little more and start enjoying this pregnancy more. I've been so anxious after our losses that I've honestly been feeling a little detached.

GTKY: I need some happy thoughts today. Tell me about something awesome that happened to you recently, something nice that someone did for you, or an act of kindness you witnessed. We closed on the sale of our first house (a little bittersweet!) and are moving forward with getting ready to start building our dream home.

rklinge0 · October 2017

How far along? Should be 10w3d but had an ultrasound and measured at 10w6d. Either one is fine but tried to schedule nt today so hopefully they get me in 3 weeks
Any apppintments? First was today at 9:30, lasted over 4 hours. Was told no ultrasound but somehow got one in and good heartrate at 173.
Questions: not at the moment.
How are you doing? Actually super excited today. First pregnancy where i have measured ahead and haven't spotted at all. Hopefully good signs. I went out and bought a few onesies and gender neutral clothes.
Gtky: I love my 2 year old and am super impressed with her language skills, she is starting to sing actual phrases to songs ( for most this wouldn't be a big deal but for a mom of a speech delayed kid, it's everything). Also I love how she helps make sure my husband and I kiss every single day( she pushes dh and my face together and wants us to kiss).

rklinge0 · October 2017

@sunshinedays-2 sorry about the migraine, I got them a few times a year when I am not pregnant and it sucks.
Congrats @toesinthesand-2! Are you renting in the meantime? I bought my first house during my first pregnancy and the stress about did me in.
Congrats On the tournament win @lolablue3!

julzy · October 2017

@rklinge0 how cute about your daughter making you and your husband kiss. That's the cutest thing ever!!!

Thank you to everyone who sent good wishes for my NT scan today. It was normal!!

mikkimikey · October 2017

Thanks for the positive vibes ladies! I am posting the NT scan photo on two threads because I am so excited.

This is little cutie was looking perfect and everything was on target! S/he was sucking its thumb the last couple scans, but at least DH got to see it this time!

The nasal bone and the back of the next measured right on target (which was great because Down's syndrome runs in my family).

I got stuck FOUR times to get one vial of blood. I wasn't even dehydrated since I had to drink a ton of water right before the scan for a full bladder, so I don't know what the issue was. I have always been a hard stick, but this was ridiculous! I will get those results back in about a week!

The 20 week anatomy scan is scheduled for November 30th!

julzy · October 2017

Yay! Congrats @mikkimikey. I had the same issue at my appointment today too. She stuck me twice in one arm, once in the other arm and then finally gave up and took from my hand! It was torture. I finally had to lay down for the hand because I was getting really lightheaded. Here's to hoping next blood draw is easier for both of us!

mikkimikey · October 2017

@julzy YES!!! It was the left arm. Right arm, left arm, right hand!! Such crap!

Fingers crossed dor for both of us!

pghren · October 2017

@rklinge0 glad you're feeling excited enough to buy onesies!

rklinge0 · October 2017

Thanks @allowachick!
@mikkimikey just curious but does your family have the translocation gene for t21? It's rare, only 3%.My dd has the non disjunction form of t21 which means that her having it has no effect on the chances of any of our siblings kids having it.

mikkimikey · October 2017

@rklinge0 I am not positive, but my sister went through a whole barrage of testing when she was pregnant and what you're saying sounds familiar.

My uncle (dad's brother) had Downs's Syndrome and my dad's aunt did as well.

riversdoctor · October 2017

How far along are you?
12w 6d

Any appointments coming up?
10/12-first actual appointment this pregnancy! (I had case hx and labs done at 10w

Questions?
I’m struggling with when to announce this pregnancy and would love some PGAL opinions. Tw I made the mistake of announcing after the first u/s and 8 weeks with my first (I thought we were good since we had a strong hb and good betas) but m/c a week later telling the bad news (especially my father) was almost more painful than the m/c.

We waited until anatomy scan to announce ever since. I would prefer to ensure all systems are developing appropriately and if they aren’t I would like to be aware of that and let people know up front vs finding out and grieving plus trying to share bad news when I just want to hide in private. End tw.

The complicating factor is that my fam was planning a trip to the Dominican in January. My brother and his wife have backed out due to Zika risk (she’s due a week after me). I want my dad to know that he and his gf can buy their tickets cuz we can’t go. (He wanted to book all at once). But I don’t know how to tell them we can’t go without telling him why. I’m also afraid of taking away from SIL’s experience as this is their first.

DH thinks we should just tell them next weekend when they are here because we will be 2nd tri and he thinks it might be more dramatic and seem like I’m trying to outdo SIL by keeping it a secret til thanksgiving time. but letting go of that control (I haven’t even seen a doc yet! I want to make sure all is well before we tell). What do other PGAL moms think?

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)
Tired and headachey. But other than that well. Dh spoils me and basically has been running the house for me!! I’m in bed by 8 most nights!

im glad we are in a strong position financially this because pregnancy. I’m looking forward to splurging on a few baby items that were never necessities before (we bought a glider already, and I am looking into a few things to make cloth diapering with laundry in the basement easier)

GTKY: I need some happy thoughts today. Tell me about something awesome that happened to you recently, something nice that someone did for you, or an act of kindness you witnessed.
I work for the local VA Hospital. Last month the local Walmart employees donated a pallet of Girl Scout cookies to the facility! Each inpatient received several boxes and for weeks we had boxes of cookies for the outpatients along with the coffee that is always available. I love seeing our heroes receiving kindness like that!!

sunshinedays-2 · October 2017

@riversdoctor I can only speak to my personal experience but I also had a lot of trouble finding a time to that I felt comfortable telling people about this pregnancy. Admittedly, I still haven’t told my boss, but we have told our close family members and I ended up feeling a lot of relief getting it off of my chest and having people to share the emotional burden with. I would go ahead and tell your dad. As for how your SIL will feel, I hope that she will be thrilled to have you going through the journey with her and understand either way that you made a personal decision on when to tell based on your mental health. GL on making a decision!!

ngolimento · October 2017

@riversdoctor I completely understand where you are coming from. I was forced to come clean to my parents almost immediately and I hated it. I convinced my husband to wait to let his immediate family know until after our first successful u/s that where everything looked good (8 weeks I think). Then everyone kept it under wraps for until the NT scan and genetic results came back good (12ish weeks).

I am not sure I am much help in this case since I have the same reservations as you do, and hated announcing so early. I tried to announce at work by wearing a "baby loading" shirt last week, but totally whimped out and kept my sweater closed over it all day.

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