FFFC 9/22

sparkymcgeee · September 2017

Tell us your darkest secrets. And remember these aren't actually flame free so...

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sandbar517 · September 2017

I don't wash my clothes every time I wear them. But I do my daughters' clothes.

sparkymcgeee · September 2017

I was super paranoid yesterday because of the dream I had and loss milestone and stuff. So I peed on another stick. I'm ridiculous. It showed positive as soon as the pee hit and the control line wasn't even as dark as the test line. By a lot. I think I can confidently put the pee sticks down.

But I probably won't.

ivyvines6 · September 2017

I know every pregnancy is different, But I'm pretty sure the reason why I am so nauseous this time and I was not last time is because I was still smoking weed up until the third trimester with my last pregnancy. I will take nausea over anxiety attacks, any day though. It's way easier to manage!

mileswithmyles · September 2017

My BFF offered to throw me a sprinkle for this baby and I didn't say no.

ivyvines6 · September 2017

mileswithmyles said:

My BFF offered to throw me a sprinkle for this baby and I didn't say no.

I am low-key hoping someone will do the same. I have given away every single thing that we used for J as he outgrew it or it became unnecessary as he aged out of it. I was not planning on getting pregnant again until he was in VPK or kindergarten. Oops!

suchaglencoco · September 2017

It's 8:30 am and I'm lounging in bed while watching Netflix. The kids stayed at grandma's last night and I have a "should do list" in my head, but I don't get a lot of these days so I'm taking it slow. We also went to a baseball game and were out past 10 so I clearly need recovery time.
My goal is to get moving by 10. We'll see if that happens.

@sparkymcgeee, do whatever you need to do to keep your mind at ease.

sparkymcgeee · September 2017

On my last BMB I started off pretty sassy. Hormones make me ragey and annoyed at the world so I gave zero Fs. So much so that I was super annoyed when some from the previous years BMB came over and tried to graciously give us advice and let us know that those super experienced moms (meaning moms for three months) would be available to answer questions we might have for this tumultuous roller coaster we were about to experience, I went off. It was super condescending and patronizing. There were more BTDT moms than not at the time and I wasn't having it.

Anywho, the fact that I started off this board being the "bully" and all is kind of hilarious to me because I really was a bitch last go around. I've been trying to be nice this time. My hormones calm down a bit later on in the pregnancy so I'm not such a demon but I've held my tongue a few times so far here.

sandbar517 · September 2017

@sparkymcgeee I feel the same way. I've been seeing random posts from people whose screen name I don't recognize and I totally want to call them out, but I've been trying to keep my tongue in check. For now.

JenniatONU · September 2017

@sparkymcgeee, this just blows my mind. My bmb made a facebook, and when The Nest had the big exodus, I rarely came back here.

Now, it's soooo dead. And you being a bully? ****pffft****

Too many special unicorns here then, apparently.

<------Didn't give an F then, don't give a F now.

ivyvines6 · September 2017

@sparkymcgeee @sandbar517 I don't think anybody liked to me on my last BMB until we were in the third trimester. (More realistically until we started the FB group right before our LO's were earthside.) I was a super bitch. I'm trying to hold back on my bitchy snark, but it still creeps out a little bit from time to time. I am a little more forthcoming about certain information than I was last round, so there is that.

lund · September 2017

*lurking from April which is just ironic*

@sparkymcgeee FWIW you're one of my favorite May ladies!

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lincbeesmom · September 2017

mileswithmyles said:

My BFF offered to throw me a sprinkle for this baby and I didn't say no.

I am hoping somebody offers to throw me some kind of shower. Our son will be 4 by the time this baby is born and I have almost no baby stuff anymore. What I do have I’ve been collecting over the past three months from freebies and mommy Facebook groups. But we just moved and I’m not seeing the same quality of stuff from where we were. Anywho, if family offers to throw me a sprinkle, I will drive the five hours back to attend hahah.

ETA: Not saying that we can’t just buy our own stuff buuut free stuff is so much better haha. It pains me to buy infant stuff knowing that they’re going to outgrow everything within a year

suchaglencoco · September 2017

I'm very team science when it comes to things like pregnancy. That made me a part of the "mean girls" in my first bmb. Because knowing you can't feel a baby kick at 8 weeks means you're being mean....

sparkymcgeee · September 2017

lund said:

*lurking from April which is just ironic*

@sparkymcgeee FWIW you're one of my favorite May ladies!

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I should clarify that it was the previous years BMB. So I was July13 at that time and July12 came over to condescend to the poor newbies.

When we finally moved to FB (our kids were 2) people were legit shocked when they found out what my SN was here and how much the loathed me at first. We all love each other now but we got rid of some crazies so there's that.

sandbar517 · September 2017

@suchaglencoco You can TOTALLY feel them breathe, though, right?

suchaglencoco · September 2017

sandbar517 said:

@suchaglencoco You can TOTALLY feel them breathe, though, right?

Well obviously!!!! I thought everyone knew that.

Eta- that nonsense convinced me to come out of lurking.

tincupchalice · September 2017

Someone threw me a shower for my second baby. None of the people were those who went to my first baby's shower and we had axe throwing contests.

sandbar517 · September 2017

I better be careful, though, I already got one warning because of a post I made in reference to that......

sparkymcgeee · September 2017

sandbar517 said:

I better be careful, though, I already got one warning because of a post I made in reference to that......

I saw that! I could remember what you had said though. Just that it was gone. It made me really sad and miss the old bump.

sandbar517 · September 2017

@sparkymcgeee it said something about finding out who the crazies were, and the warning said I "wasn't making people feel welcome" or some such bullshit.

sharkmama39 · September 2017

I don't mind sprinkles. It all goes back to that whole idea of we're adults and we get to chose whether to participate or not. If you think it's gift grabby then you don't need to go/give a gift.

sparkymcgeee · September 2017

sandbar517 said:

@sparkymcgeee it said something about finding out who the crazies were, and the warning said I "wasn't making people feel welcome" or some such bullshit.

Ah. I remembered agreeing with you but I couldn't remember the specifics.

ivyvines6 · September 2017

sharkmama39 said:

I don't mind sprinkles. It all goes back to that whole idea of we're adults and we get to chose whether to participate or not. If you think it's gift grabby then you don't need to go/give a gift.

My last BMB was SUUUUPER judgey about sprinkles and gender reveals and considered everything gift grabby. One of the ladies recently went to a gender reveal party (which she thinks are stupid) and complained that the couple already knew the baby's gender. So... Maybe next time, DON'T GO???!

Ceridwen77 · September 2017

+1 for science
+1 for snark (I was part of the "you can't sit with us" group on my last BMB)

So yeah...second showers. Not gonna lie, I'm in the "it's totally tacky" camp.

dinonugget · September 2017

My coworkers threw a diaper party for me on my last day of work before DS2. They didn't ask beforehand and I definitely didn't complain!

sparkymcgeee · September 2017

dinonugget said:

My coworkers threw a diaper party for me on my last day of work before DS2. They didn't ask beforehand and I definitely didn't complain!

I was surprised with a full shower for DS at my previous job. I had even told people that I already had a LO so I don't think showers are necessary and stuff. I think that might be why it was a surprise shower.

Poppy0419 · September 2017

I was super super quiet my last BMB because I realized REALLY fast I knew someone IRL on that board and didn't want anyone to figure out who I was. I wasn't married at the time so we kept the pregnancy under wraps for a LONG time. I was scared she'd realize it and spill. But I hated it in the end because then I lost any contact and yeah.

Im secretly hoping my friends here do something along the lines of a sprinkle. And not really for the gifts. I moved when my daughter was 3 weeks and it would make me feel like I have a tribe here and I'm cared about. Is that weird? Kinda weird. It's totally tacky to throw your own, but if people WANT to do it for you, get together and enjoy it. I'm team celebrate all the babies.

crazyliblady · September 2017

I totally wouldn't mind a sprinkle for #2. Everyone at work knows my LO really well because my family hangs out at the library, but I'm going to wait and see. Not that I would mind if I didn't get it, I just would like it if I did.

My FFFC is that I couldn't care less about the "forbidden" food list right now. I have not, nor will I ever, heat my lunch meat. I also have all the cheese I want in any variety. DS was fine, I'm sure this kid will be too.

Poppy0419 · September 2017

@JanaBonfield I throw out all the rules. I eat sushi and lunch meat. And cheese. The only thing I could stomach with my daughter was a club sandwich.

cups4 · September 2017

I had a hot dog from QT for breakfast. Also, the gif that started it all:

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cups4 · September 2017

@sparkymcgeee I get it with the other bmbs. I get lurking and whatnot, but I'm a second time mom and am good on the advice I'm getting from random strangers and acquaintances. Don't need a ftm who has been pregnant a couple months longer to answer any questions I may have.

kpc914 · September 2017

i love the snark! helps me know immediately which ladies I would get along with (the snarky ones, duh!)

I think that if someone wants to throw you a party, who are you to say "no"? However, I'm one of those "not a fan of gender reveal parties" people. Again, if you want to have one...more power to you, i will go, and celebrate with you. but, I would never have one myself nor let someone throw one for me.

@sparkymcgeee know-it-alls are the worst...especially when you know that they do not, in fact, know it all.

Although, I definitely just felt my 8 week old baby sneeze.

Saratiff · September 2017

I was snarky on my last BMB and I loved the people who were snarky with me. So here is my FFC I feel there are so many snowflakes in this world that I'm afraid to post who I really am because I don't want to get blocked which I'm afraid will happen I say what im really feeling.

kpc914 · September 2017

@Saratiff i know! i actually love when people give me some snark back...it takes a LOT to truly offend me. I am all about healthy conflict and getting out your emotions/opinions

sparkymcgeee · September 2017

Saratiff said:

I was snarky on my last BMB and I loved the people who were snarky with me. So here is my FFC I feel there are so many snowflakes in this world that I'm afraid to post who I really am because I don't want to get blocked which I'm afraid will happen I say what im really feeling.

Snark away lady. Solidarity.

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duck_duck_goose · September 2017

@sparkymcgeee Compared to my last BMB I felt that this was a BMB full of super nice people without an ounce of snark. I'm glad to see that I was wrong, though! I find that it's getting kind if hard not to snap at people. Especially the ones who don't seem to know what the introduction thread is for. I'm not sure it could be made it anymore obvious.

My fffc: we have an ultrasound at work and I shamelessly play with it when nobody is looking and I have a spare minute. The U/S waves can't quite penatrate all of my fat or quite get around my pelvic bone (because it's meant for dogs) so right now all I can see is bowel. I couldn't see my last little until about 11 weeks. I should add that I don't make this a daily thing. It was usually something I did just to put my mind at ease every once in a while before I could feel him move or when I couldn't coax a wiggle out of him.

charlestonchew · September 2017

Why is a 2nd shower any more gift grabby than a first? This is my first child and do not expect any gifts. I chose to have a baby and it's my responsibility. If someone wants a second shower I don't think its right to side eye them when first showers are just as grabby. Long winded, sorry!

sparkymcgeee · September 2017

charlestonchew said:

Why is a 2nd shower any more gift grabby than a first? This is my first child and do not expect any gifts. I chose to have a baby and it's my responsibility. If someone wants a second shower I don't think its right to side eye them when first showers are just as grabby. Long winded, sorry!

Because as a FTM you're expected to not have anything on hand to care for the baby. With a second child you do. I may say I don't have anything for this baby since it's been almost five years but I do. I have blankets, crib, PNP, and bouncer. I don't have clothes or bottles or diapers but I have the big stuff I would need to get by.

charlestonchew · September 2017

@sparkymcgeee yeah I get that. I just don't think a 2nd shower deserves a side eye for being gift grabby when that's exactly what a first shower is too. Maybe I'm the odd duck but I feel like I'm responsible for it all. When I say I want to buy certain things DH says lets wait for the shower and I say why? I don't expect anyone to buy me that.

Ceridwen77 · September 2017

charlestonchew said:

@sparkymcgeee yeah I get that. I just don't think a 2nd shower deserves a side eye for being gift grabby when that's exactly what a first shower is too. Maybe I'm the odd duck but I feel like I'm responsible for it all. When I say I want to buy certain things DH says lets wait for the shower and I say why? I don't expect anyone to buy me that.

Good for you for not wanting a shower at all. I had a shower for my first and will continue to side-eye those that feel they deserve one for each subsequent child.

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