We had friends over for dinner last night and planned to announce. They walked in the door, hadn't even taken off their shoes, and my 2 year old DS ran over and screamed "Baby in mommy's tummy!!!!!"
The good news about not being at the beach (if there is such a thing) is that I made it to the big fall kids consignment sale. I got 3 garbage bags full of clothes for $150
Warning: self - indulgent rant ahead. I'm so tired of being sick. Everytime I think I'm starting to turn the corner, I spend the next 2 days laying on the couch and throwing up. Ugh. So over this.
well is officially official....i can no longer button up my jeans. I haven't been able too wear them comfortably for a while regardless so I've been wearing alternatives but yesterday I tried and... well it just is not going to happen.
not sure if I have baby to blame for this or all the total junk I've been eating - but either way ... there is officially a bump there. can't deny it if you can't do up your pants. lol. 13+4 today
@bb3vj3n Oh man I feel you. I'm also 13 + 4 (but with twins) and I haven't been able to wear regular jeans for awhile... I popped hardcore right before labor day, like, overnight. I saw my OB on 13 + 1 and she said I was measuring where a singleton pregnancy would at TWENTY weeks, which is apparently normal. Like whoa. No wonder I feel so huge! I feel like I completely skipped the first half of 2nd tri.
@bb3vj3n No shame in busting out those maternity clothes. I was able to put them off for a while last time with the hair tie trick and a belly band, but maternity pants are way comfier.
So I'm really excited for football season because then I have an excuse to eat all the dips. We're having taco dip and buffalo chicken dip this weekend. Mmmmmm.
Also Go Packers!
Me: 30 H: 30 Dx: PCOS Married: June 2013 TTC#1: January 2015 BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16 TTC#2: June 2017 BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
The Old Navy by my house is getting rid of their maternity section so everything is massively on sale. I got 3 tops for $4 each! Can't beat that!!!
Then I went to Thyme Maternity and bought a pair of jeans ($80) and a shirt ($40). I'm so cheap when it comes to clothes. This made me want to cry. I only went through with it because I had a gift card. Otherwise there's no way I could justify that!!
@justkeeptrying oh my lord that is ridiculous for something you're only going to be wearing for a year, maybe a year and a half, tops. Thank goodness for gift cards!
@ShawnnaO, right???? The top I think I could pull off as a regular shirt after the fact. But the jeans?? I'll definitely try to sell later. Maternity clothing is way overpriced in my opinion.
@justkeeptrying I got lucky last time and never had to buy new clothes. I got a few cheap shirts in the next size up and wore leggings everywhere if it wasn't warm enough for a dress. I'm "popping" a lot sooner this pregnancy so I'm really not sure. I've got a few oversized sweaters and plenty of leggings, I hope I can make due with that.
@ShawnnaO, that's amazing!!!! I am starting this pregnancy 40lbs heavier than my pregnancy with DS. So I know most of what I had with him isn't going to fit right unfortunately. Hoping to keep my weight gain down so I can still wear some of it!!!
I'm scared to post this, but I'm so ashamed of myself to tears right now. I'm overweight currently 238 5'11, and got pregnant at a time I'm not happy with my weight. I always dreamed of having a cure baby bump, but my natural gut looks about 20 weeks on it's own. I feel so disgusting. My husband made me do my weekly picture, and I'm so embarrassed of myself. I have not been able to enjoy this pregnancy at all for a multitude of reasons, but this being the main one. I looked up what other women looked like pregnant around my sa.e size and (yes selfishly) it made me feel worse about myself. I don't know what to do, and I feel so pathetic crying late night and posting on a forum. This is my picture for reference. I don't think I'll take any more weekly pictures.
@vaewelch I understand the feeling of looking in the mirror or looking at pictures and seeing the worst, especially when comparing ourselves to our previous, thinner selves. I am a stranger here, having never met you, and I can honestly, honestly, say that in the photo, you do not look disgusting at all...I wouldn't say something if I actually thought so! You look so happy and glowing, and pregnant! This does not look like a 'natural gut' to me, this looks like you have a little baby in your tummy! We are our own worse critic and are the hardest judge of ourselves and our bodies...pregnancy weight and hormones don't help with body insecurity...it's hard! It's hard to accept these changes, it's hard to not feel comfortable in your body. All I can say is, I regret not taking more photos of me in my first pregnancy because I was 'feeling fat' or my face looked thick, or I didn't feel pretty. I literally have maybe 8 photos of me. The photos I do look back at now I look back at with fondness...yes I was 40 lbs heavier than my 'normal self' , yes I felt gross most of the time during my pregnancy, but my DD was worth all of it, and I never look back and regret gaining that weight as I had a healthy wonderful baby. Take care of yourself, love yourself, all of you. I know it's really hard to see a photo of yourself and not judge it, but to me, an outsider looking in, I see a beautiful, happy woman who is carrying a child...which is really one of the most beautiful things in the world.
@vaewelch You are beautiful and your body is beautifully carrying new life! Take the pictures! There is this wonderful thing about children— they love unconditionally. For many years, if not forever, Mama is the prettiest most beautiful person in their child's eyes. My 2 kids look at their scrapbooks often and LOVE seeing pictures of when they were in my belly. I might not love them, but man, they just think it's the coolest thing and if you sit back and think about it, it really is. After this baby is born you can absolutely work on your weight if you so choose, but please don't ever think less of yourself or that you don't deserve to take part in milestone photos. Pregnancy is a big deal and YOU are accomplishing it, that deserves recognition!
@vaewelch I carry weight the same. I'm still really hurt by someone asking if I was pregnant at 9 weeks. Yeah, none of that was baby. It was all me. Even down 4lbs thanks to nausea. I'm right at 14 weeks, like you. I think I can tell a little bit but mostly right now is in the "big lunch or baby?" phase. I would go ahead and take a picture of that sign with the applicable fruit/vegetable for a few more weeks until you feel like it looks more like definite baby. Then get back to taking pictures with you in them. It's easy to file them away if you don't end up wanting them but it's impossible to go back and recreate them when you or YH or that little baby wants them. If nothing else, take them for the baby. That kid is going to love you. That's kid is going to want to see those pictures. And they're not going to see them the way you do. They're going to see their amazing mom and how excited you were to be having them. (Side story, my mom was always too embarrassed to wear a swimsuit. She only went swimming with us about three times that I remember. Guess what? I don't remember what she looked like in her swimsuit. I just remember being thrilled she was actually swimming with us.) I know how easy it is to just tear yourself down. I get it. But do know that what you see isn't what others see. Try to see what the rest of us do. You are wonderful and are so loved.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@vaewelch, firstly, you look beautiful. You look so happy to be pregnant and are just glowing. I don't say that often about pregnant women. Because we usually look like crap for the first while (let's be honest). But you look so beautiful.
Secondly, I can resonate with your post so much. I was approximately 40-45lbs lighter when I got pregnant with my son. Bump pictures were fun because I was starting in such good shape. This time around I feel huge already (I weigh what I weighed at 32 weeks with him). When I compare my bump photos, I want to cry. And I hesitate about taking them.
But then I remember just how special THIS baby is. I want him/her to be able to look back on pictures of me during my pregnancy, no matter what size I am. What PP said is totally accurate. Your baby will think your beautiful regardless of your size. My son loves me so much even though I'm not running half marathons anymore. He just loves his mommy!
So obviously it's a personal choice. But I vote keep doing the bump photos! You'll never look back and regret taking them. But you might look back and regret NOT taking them.
@vaewelch I just want to chime in to say that I also think you look radiant and beautiful! The photo has this playful feeling, presumably capturing your husband coaxing you into documenting a magical time, which I think ultimately has a real sweet vibe. Your future selves and your kid will pick up on that most of all.
I was recently reading something... somewhere... in which an older woman was reflecting on her life, and says that when looking at pictures of her younger self, she can't imagine why she was so critical of her looks at the time. That hit home for me. Our culture is so good at convincing us that beauty looks a certain way, but that's not reality. I swoon over the same pictures of my mom, my friends that they "hate," because I love them and can see their whole selves shining through, not just the "shell." It's so hard to see ourselves that way, but I think it's helpful to remember that the important people in our lives do.
@vaewelch FWIW, I think you look great. Remember, pregnancy is such a short period of time and you have the rest of your life to achieve all of your health and fitness goals. I also promise that regardless of how you feel you look today there will be a day that you look back at that picture and will be so glad you have it. I let myself not be photographed during my first pregnancy bc I was afraid of how I look and that is one of my biggest regrets. Maybe next time just take the picture and enjoy it later.
@vaewelch - I don't have any words of wisdom for you. I just wanted to let you know that I get it. You and I are pretty much exactly the same size. I really wanted to lose weight before this baby, but at nearly 38 years old, I started getting nervous that it would get harder, so we went ahead with baby #2. I'm ridiculously self-conscious, and can't really stop thinking about losing weight. I haven't been able to exercise at all because I've been really sick this entire pregnancy so far, and I obviously can't diet. I'm doing my best to limit weight gain to the lower end of the recommended range, and making a plan for after the baby is born. Hopefully the plan is not derailed by PPD like last time.
Sorry, I didn't mean to babble about myself. I just want to let you know that you're definitely not alone.
@vaewelch Your post simultaneously breaks my heart and also makes me feel SUPER angry. I feel angry that you don't feel like you can be 100% thrilled about being pregnant and loving your changing body. I really hope you keep taking your weekly photos. I really hope you can find the amazing, incredible beauty that is your pregnant body. I'm so sorry and sad that you are struggling with this. I am hoping you will find it in yourself to allow yourself to be loving towards your body - which is the thing that is growing and sustaining your child. I have no idea what your diet is like but I know for me making sure I eat some leafy greens and lean protein makes me feel more confident about my body regardless of what it's looking like. Maybe making sure you are including something like that in your diet when you can will boost your confidence? Regardless, sending you big hugs.
Thank you guys for the posts. I don't normally break down like this, and I feel a little foolish now. But thank you everyone. While I'm not the happiest with my body, I am growing life, and doing something amazing.
Thank you guys for the posts. I don't normally break down like this, and I feel a little foolish now. But thank you everyone. While I'm not the happiest with my body, I am growing life, and doing something amazing.
Everyone has moments like this, for whatever reason, so no need to feel foolish. I do hope that going forward, if you begin to have thoughts like this again, you're able to stop and remember what you've just said, that your body is growing a life, and that's not nothing!
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Re: Weekly Randoms - 9/4
It. Was. Perfect.
@justkeeptrying Awe! That's adorable!
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
ETA I should know better, been doing this for 4 years.
not sure if I have baby to blame for this or all the total junk I've been eating - but either way ... there is officially a bump there. can't deny it if you can't do up your pants. lol. 13+4 today
So I'm really excited for football season because then I have an excuse to eat all the dips. We're having taco dip and buffalo chicken dip this weekend. Mmmmmm.
Also Go Packers!
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
Then I went to Thyme Maternity and bought a pair of jeans ($80) and a shirt ($40). I'm so cheap when it comes to clothes. This made me want to cry. I only went through with it because I had a gift card. Otherwise there's no way I could justify that!!
@vaewelch I carry weight the same. I'm still really hurt by someone asking if I was pregnant at 9 weeks. Yeah, none of that was baby. It was all me. Even down 4lbs thanks to nausea. I'm right at 14 weeks, like you. I think I can tell a little bit but mostly right now is in the "big lunch or baby?" phase. I would go ahead and take a picture of that sign with the applicable fruit/vegetable for a few more weeks until you feel like it looks more like definite baby. Then get back to taking pictures with you in them. It's easy to file them away if you don't end up wanting them but it's impossible to go back and recreate them when you or YH or that little baby wants them. If nothing else, take them for the baby. That kid is going to love you. That's kid is going to want to see those pictures. And they're not going to see them the way you do. They're going to see their amazing mom and how excited you were to be having them. (Side story, my mom was always too embarrassed to wear a swimsuit. She only went swimming with us about three times that I remember. Guess what? I don't remember what she looked like in her swimsuit. I just remember being thrilled she was actually swimming with us.) I know how easy it is to just tear yourself down. I get it. But do know that what you see isn't what others see. Try to see what the rest of us do. You are wonderful and are so loved.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Secondly, I can resonate with your post so much. I was approximately 40-45lbs lighter when I got pregnant with my son. Bump pictures were fun because I was starting in such good shape. This time around I feel huge already (I weigh what I weighed at 32 weeks with him). When I compare my bump photos, I want to cry. And I hesitate about taking them.
But then I remember just how special THIS baby is. I want him/her to be able to look back on pictures of me during my pregnancy, no matter what size I am. What PP said is totally accurate. Your baby will think your beautiful regardless of your size. My son loves me so much even though I'm not running half marathons anymore. He just loves his mommy!
So obviously it's a personal choice. But I vote keep doing the bump photos! You'll never look back and regret taking them. But you might look back and regret NOT taking them.
I was recently reading something... somewhere... in which an older woman was reflecting on her life, and says that when looking at pictures of her younger self, she can't imagine why she was so critical of her looks at the time. That hit home for me. Our culture is so good at convincing us that beauty looks a certain way, but that's not reality. I swoon over the same pictures of my mom, my friends that they "hate," because I love them and can see their whole selves shining through, not just the "shell." It's so hard to see ourselves that way, but I think it's helpful to remember that the important people in our lives do.
Sorry, I didn't mean to babble about myself. I just want to let you know that you're definitely not alone.