Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
I now check these message boards more than I check facebook. It really bums be out when we have a few slow days in a row.
That's been the case for me for a while. I'm also sad our board isn't more active. Do we need more GTKY threads? "Why my pregnant self is crying" thread? I haven't cried yet so I feel weird doing that one. Tearing up at the ASPCA commercials doesn't count, those are sad.
FFFC: I saw my BIL commented on someone's post on FB with some, shall we say, controversial statements. In fact, some straight up racist/xenophobic stuff. It bothers me a lot and I haven't mentioned it to H, but I'm at a point where I want very little to do with him. We're going up to my in-laws (where he lives, because of course he's living with his parents while being an internet tough guy) in December for my shower and I'm dreading it. The only silver lining is that we typically only talk about sports. H is insisting we christen our baby and I keep nudging him in the direction of his other brother being godfather, but now I will flat-out refuse to let this one be it.
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
Bought a giant bag of Halloween candy (yes, already) and ate the entire thing in 4 days. Guess I shouldn't have been so shocked at my weight gain at yesterday's appointment...
@eggplantface Don't back down! I also giggled when I read the part about him being an internet warrior and living at home...
My FIL and MIL say a lot of racist/hateful things. I rarely spend time with them anymore (they live RIGHT next door basically)--and DH knows that if his parents say anything--we leave. I feel like people weren't as comfortable voicing their racist thoughts a few years ago--and now people are almost proud of how close-minded they are. That's my opinion, of course.
@eggplantface and @magnolia305 I admire you for taking a tough position with family. My family lives near us and we are VERY close. They have a tendency to say or do some things that DH and I absolutely think are offensive. Half the time I don't say anything because it isn't worth the battle, but it does make me feel guilty.
My confession: I snuck a really tiny sip of DH's red wine while he was getting me water the other night. I'm not sorry. That tiny droplet was delicious.
It is the first weekend for college football, and instead of being able to go to the first game, we have to go to a wedding. We have season tickets, and the wedding is in the same town as the game. I want to blow off the wedding and go, but it's DH's cousin's wedding and all of the rest of his family will be there.
@magnolia305 me to. Dh calls The bump my pregnant facebook.
Fffc: i am super annoyed at my sil parenting style. She sends the baby away so she can have kid free for weekends and vacations. She drops the baby off at grandma's to go to dinner and the grocery store. This weekend the baby is at the grandparents so she can go apple picking. The baby is 8 months old.
@magnolia305 me to. Dh calls The bump my pregnant facebook.
Fffc: i am super annoyed at my sil parenting style. She sends the baby away so she can have kid free for weekends and vacations. She drops the baby off at grandma's to go to dinner and the grocery store. This weekend the baby is at the grandparents so she can go apple picking. The baby is 8 months old.
I know a few people who parent this way. I definitely don't get because that's totally not my style. I try to bring my DD with me as much as I can. Even though it makes it a little harder on me, more responsibility less relaxation. I really want my daughter to be flexible and adaptable, and also have plenty of life experiences. Apple picking seems like a great activity to take a baby on!
@ash0625 I had two sips of wine at a dinner party bc it was paired with the food. Don't worry about it
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
I don't understand when people put ages with decimal points. It really confuses me. Like, is this mathematical or years and months? They will go from one way to the other in the same post. There was one posted in a mom's Facebook group that said, "My daughter is 2.5 but can't start preschool until 2.9..." Is your daughter 2 1/2 or 2 years 5 months? Also, you never see 2.11, so is it mathematical and nothing to do with months? I get so confused by all this.
@lainikins Haha yes!!! I get so confused by that too. I also can't go by months after 1 year except 18mo. Since that's a clothes size. After 1 he is 1, 1.5, then 2. And so on until like 10 and then the .5 even has to go. Don't make me do math in conversation, I will stare at you silently figuring out 41 months in my head while you continue to talk and I don't hear a word. I hardly remember how old I am in years sometimes.
Married 6/1/13
BFP #1 7/2013 MMC 9/17/13
BFP #2 5/2014 MC 6/15/14
BFP #3 11/13/14 (Found in ER with ruptured cyst) Diagnosed MC 11/15/14
BFP #4 4/2015 MC 7/1/15
BFP #5 10/21/15 EDD 7/3/16 Praying for our rainbow!
I forget how old I am all the time. I am on here more often than FB, I have a desk job that's very boring and spend a lot of time on the internet. On 3 occasions I have poured myself very small (prob 2oz or less) glasses of wine but only one time really drank it. It's weird but pouring it for myself kinda was enough. I also wish our board was more active.
DH and I bought a new bed and I, in general, just think I am better at putting stuff together than him. Mostly because I rad faster than him so the directions are easier to follow for me. So I asked him to use the goo gone to get a label off, but it was mostly to send him away so I could put it together myself. Of course he still came and mantightened every screw I had already screwed in. And mansplained the Allen wrench to me a little bit.
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
FFFC: I really can't stand when people refer to their kid as prince or princess. Like I get pet names. My baby is my baby but he's not my prince. That's just so weird to me. And it's ok when a dad calls his daughter his princess, still a little weird after age 10 but when a mom says it I can't help but think you're going to raise a little brat. Which I know isn't the case. It's just what my brain jumps too. Yeah I always judge a little on the inside for that.
Along that same note I hate when couples refer to their partner as their king or queen. Like my H isn't my king, that's weird.
FFFC: I really can't stand when people refer to their kid as prince or princess. Like I get pet names. My baby is my baby but he's not my prince. That's just so weird to me. And it's ok when a dad calls his daughter his princess, still a little weird after age 10 but when a mom says it I can't help but think you're going to raise a little brat. Which I know isn't the case. It's just what my brain jumps too. Yeah I always judge a little on the inside for that.
Along that same note I hate when couples refer to their partner as their king or queen. Like my H isn't my king, that's weird.
This drives me BANANAS! we always correct anyone who refers to my DD as princess, and dad or not, girls are not princesses. They are ass kicking, confident women in the making. Whenever I think princess I think of peach from mario and I can't. I feel like it sets kids up for a sense of entitlement. So maybe that's my FFFC.
and ew my husband is not my king/prince, I don't worship him as my keeper (implying if he's MY king I must be below him).
Andrea (31), married Aaron (36) September 2012
Parents to fur babies Tiki and Gizzmo and 2yr old Georgia IF veterans; #1 conceived on second clomid+HCG+IUI, #2 conceived on 1st Letrozole+HCG+IUI EDD: Feb 5, 2018
@SunflowerMama428 years ago I taught a set of twins...their real life birth certificate names were Princess and Precious. I can't make this ish up. And their older brother was Parrish.
@mamaof5already agreed! I also hate when those same people lament of how HARD it was to leave their baby. No one forced you. Hey, I would have loved even 12 hours away in the last year and a half + but my kid is only just starting to now be at the stage where I can even CONSIDER a night away (horrible sleeper who won't go back to sleep for anyone but me, only just now weaning/taking milk for the first time despite numerous attempts), but please continue to tell me how difficult this was for you, but keep on doing it anyways. I have one friend in particular that talked about an upcoming trip as if she was so incredibly overdue and I just blinked and stared at her like "did you forget who you're talking to? This is your third time away and I still haven't slept an entire night..." when I eventually said instead "I'm jealous. I would love even a night away!" Of course she said "oh but it is so HARD to leave him!" All the stabby eyes.
@MrsJ2410 lol to the mantightening and mansplaining! It's already been decided that in our new house all furniture will be built by my dad and I together since my husband and I almost always get into world war 3 when he decides I have no idea what I'm doing (he's wrong).
@SarahFoley725 you're mar16? Me too. Were/are you on the fb group?
Andrea (31), married Aaron (36) September 2012
Parents to fur babies Tiki and Gizzmo and 2yr old Georgia IF veterans; #1 conceived on second clomid+HCG+IUI, #2 conceived on 1st Letrozole+HCG+IUI EDD: Feb 5, 2018
@MrsJ2410 I'm the same way to. Mainly i think because i read the directions instead of just guessing how something goes together, but of course dh (or my 16 year old son) always have to check and make sure it's right enough afterwards.
@the_other_mother what baby wouldn't love some picking! Today with my fil she went to a soccer game, for a walk, shopping, and flower picking. She seemed really happy. Apparently they keep her in a darkened house, or at the baby sitters and she gets like 0 stimulation. It irks me so much. I get some people have to leave their kids and babies to go to work, but then after that? Be with your kid! And babies are so easy to take with you, put them in a car seat, a stroller or a carrier and take then wherever!
@smorzandoj i wonder how those kids are doing in life with those names?
I too have had a few drinks of beer this past week. I made a beer butt chicken and totally had a big fat gulp (or 3) of the extra beer. Boy that was tasty!
@SarahFoley725 you're mar16? Me too. Were/are you on the fb group?
Not the original one. I'm in a smaller one that got made later on. @BrittaniLC is too!
I wonder if the original is still going. I left shortly after DD was born, too cliquey and I felt like if you went against popular opinion you were on the outs
Andrea (31), married Aaron (36) September 2012
Parents to fur babies Tiki and Gizzmo and 2yr old Georgia IF veterans; #1 conceived on second clomid+HCG+IUI, #2 conceived on 1st Letrozole+HCG+IUI EDD: Feb 5, 2018
@SarahFoley725 you're mar16? Me too. Were/are you on the fb group?
Not the original one. I'm in a smaller one that got made later on. @BrittaniLC is too!
I wonder if the original is still going. I left shortly after DD was born, too cliquey and I felt like if you went against popular opinion you were on the outs
I don't know. I think we have a couple in ours that were in both. I didn't want to join early because I didn't feel like I "knew" anyone. By the time we started our group we were all more familiar with each other which was nice.
@mamaof5already I took mine pumpkin picking when she was 2 months. I wore her in the ktan and she slept almost the whole time, even through a corn maze. I can't wait to take her again this year. She will probably enjoy the hayride a little more.
@magnolia305 me to. Dh calls The bump my pregnant facebook.
Fffc: i am super annoyed at my sil parenting style. She sends the baby away so she can have kid free for weekends and vacations. She drops the baby off at grandma's to go to dinner and the grocery store. This weekend the baby is at the grandparents so she can go apple picking. The baby is 8 months old.
Does she stay home full time? Because if she does, I totally can relate to needing a break and letting the baby have some family time.
@mamaof5already I took mine pumpkin picking when she was 2 months. I wore her in the ktan and she slept almost the whole time, even through a corn maze. I can't wait to take her again this year. She will probably enjoy the hayride a little more.
I was looking up pumpkin patches yesterday! I seriously can't wait to take DD to one this year!
FFFC: I drove halfway down my neighborhood road before I realized I forgot to shut the sliding door to the van. My one year old had the time of her life for those 90 seconds.
@magnolia305 me to. Dh calls The bump my pregnant facebook.
Fffc: i am super annoyed at my sil parenting style. She sends the baby away so she can have kid free for weekends and vacations. She drops the baby off at grandma's to go to dinner and the grocery store. This weekend the baby is at the grandparents so she can go apple picking. The baby is 8 months old.
Does she stay home full time? Because if she does, I totally can relate to needing a break and letting the baby have some family time.
Stuck in a box: Nope, she works 24-32 hours a week, but baby goes m,t,th -10 hour days to a baby sitter, Wednesday to grandma, and my in laws go up on Fridays to watch her.
@magnolia305 me to. Dh calls The bump my pregnant facebook.
Fffc: i am super annoyed at my sil parenting style. She sends the baby away so she can have kid free for weekends and vacations. She drops the baby off at grandma's to go to dinner and the grocery store. This weekend the baby is at the grandparents so she can go apple picking. The baby is 8 months old.
Does she stay home full time? Because if she does, I totally can relate to needing a break and letting the baby have some family time.
Stuck in a box: Nope, she works 24-32 hours a week, but baby goes m,t,th -10 hour days to a baby sitter, Wednesday to grandma, and my in laws go up on Fridays to watch her.
hmm, well then I guess personally I would miss my baby if that were me. To each their own I suppose.
FFFC: I drove halfway down my neighborhood road before I realized I forgot to shut the sliding door to the van. My one year old had the time of her life for those 90 seconds.
Definitely just Lol'd after reading this one! Thanks for the laugh!
eggplantface
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Re: FFFC | 9.1
FFFC: I saw my BIL commented on someone's post on FB with some, shall we say, controversial statements. In fact, some straight up racist/xenophobic stuff. It bothers me a lot and I haven't mentioned it to H, but I'm at a point where I want very little to do with him. We're going up to my in-laws (where he lives, because of course he's living with his parents while being an internet tough guy) in December for my shower and I'm dreading it. The only silver lining is that we typically only talk about sports. H is insisting we christen our baby and I keep nudging him in the direction of his other brother being godfather, but now I will flat-out refuse to let this one be it.
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
My FIL and MIL say a lot of racist/hateful things. I rarely spend time with them anymore (they live RIGHT next door basically)--and DH knows that if his parents say anything--we leave. I feel like people weren't as comfortable voicing their racist thoughts a few years ago--and now people are almost proud of how close-minded they are. That's my opinion, of course.
My confession: I snuck a really tiny sip of DH's red wine while he was getting me water the other night. I'm not sorry. That tiny droplet was delicious.
Fffc: i am super annoyed at my sil parenting style. She sends the baby away so she can have kid free for weekends and vacations. She drops the baby off at grandma's to go to dinner and the grocery store. This weekend the baby is at the grandparents so she can go apple picking. The baby is 8 months old.
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
DH and I bought a new bed and I, in general, just think I am better at putting stuff together than him. Mostly because I rad faster than him so the directions are easier to follow for me. So I asked him to use the goo gone to get a label off, but it was mostly to send him away so I could put it together myself. Of course he still came and mantightened every screw I had already screwed in. And mansplained the Allen wrench to me a little bit.
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
ETA: when I see how long the weekly thread is, I may not to view it since it is hard to catch up/keep up.
we have a daily thread for my j13 BMB and it is great.
Along that same note I hate when couples refer to their partner as their king or queen. Like my H isn't my king, that's weird.
mario and I can't. I feel like it sets kids up for a sense of entitlement. So maybe that's my FFFC.
and ew my husband is not my king/prince, I don't worship him as my keeper (implying if he's MY king I must be below him).
IF veterans; #1 conceived on second clomid+HCG+IUI, #2 conceived on 1st Letrozole+HCG+IUI
EDD: Feb 5, 2018
@MrsJ2410 lol to the mantightening and mansplaining! It's already been decided that in our new house all furniture will be built by my dad and I together since my husband and I almost always get into world war 3 when he decides I have no idea what I'm doing (he's wrong).
ETA reference photo
IF veterans; #1 conceived on second clomid+HCG+IUI, #2 conceived on 1st Letrozole+HCG+IUI
EDD: Feb 5, 2018
@the_other_mother what baby wouldn't love some picking! Today with my fil she went to a soccer game, for a walk, shopping, and flower picking. She seemed really happy. Apparently they keep her in a darkened house, or at the baby sitters and she gets like 0 stimulation. It irks me so much. I get some people have to leave their kids and babies to go to work, but then after that? Be with your kid! And babies are so easy to take with you, put them in a car seat, a stroller or a carrier and take then wherever!
@smorzandoj i wonder how those kids are doing in life with those names?
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
I too have had a few drinks of beer this past week. I made a beer butt chicken and totally had a big fat gulp (or 3) of the extra beer. Boy that was tasty!
IF veterans; #1 conceived on second clomid+HCG+IUI, #2 conceived on 1st Letrozole+HCG+IUI
EDD: Feb 5, 2018
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018