TFAS 8/29

lalala2004 · August 2017

***This is a check-in for those with babies/children at home. If you are having a hard TTC day or TTCAL day this post may mention children or issues specifically related to parenting or babies. Pregnancy may also be mentioned. Please feel free to lurk at your own discretion.***

What number are you trying for?

Cycle/Month?

WTO/TWW?

Ages of other child(ren)?

Any thoughts about this cycle?

Any questions?

GTKY: What food do you like that your SO does not like?

lalala2004 · August 2017

What number are you trying for?
Dos
Cycle/Month?
0/1
WTO/TWW?
WTO
Ages of other child(ren)?
16 months on Friday
Any thoughts about this cycle?
OPKs were looking promising, but I have had noticeable CM for a few days and I didn't get a chance to POAS yesterday, so idk what's going on.

I had set a date to night wean DS, and now that it's only two months away, I just don't know. He doesn't sleep well at night and I'm afraid night weaning will make it worse, not better. He's generally been cutting down on nursing apart from that, though.

Any questions?
I feel like we've had a lot of grads from this thread, but there are still a few of us left, right?

GTKY: What food do you like that your SO does not like?
Beans! I miss cooking with them.

izza2 · August 2017

What number are you trying for? First bio, second total

Cycle/Month? 2/2

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? Almost 9 years.

Any thoughts about this cycle? Nada. Had some slight O pains yesterday but nothing so far today. Last cycle I had O pains for 3 or 4 days until O actually happened. No CM yet, but I've also been taking cold medicine, so I expect that to interfere.

Any questions? Nada

GTKY: What food do you like that your SO does not like? I love lemon stuff. Lemon cookies, lemon meringue (just not the meringue, lol), lemon zest... He's not a fan of lemon. I think that's it. We have pretty much the same food dis/likes, except he loves onions and I think they're gross unless cooked a lot.

marcus7676 · August 2017

@lalala2004 I night weaned DS by using the Sleep Easy method. Maybe try that? It worked wonderfully.

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 2/2

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? 23 months

Any thoughts about this cycle? I was convinced last cycle was it, since I got pregnant the first time around. I feel a bit more defeated going into this cycle. And more tired.

Any questions?

GTKY: What food do you like that your SO does not like? Lobster might be the only thing.

princesslockness · August 2017

@lalala2004 When L was having issues STTN we tried having a sippy filled up, and in his bed with him. It took 2 days, then he went hunting for the sippy and soothed himself back to sleep. Maybe something to try.

What number are you trying for? 3

Cycle/Month? 1/1

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? L is 2y, E is 9 months

Any thoughts about this cycle? Fertile week is going to be right around when my volleyball team has games EVERY night. This might be a heck of a sleep deprived cycle.

Any questions? I had one, but I forgot it.

GTKY: What food do you like that your SO does not like? We really like the same food, both kinda lame meat&potatoes stuff. I guess unless KU I can't do black pepper, and he puts it on everything.

shortstack930 · August 2017

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 21/21

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(ren)? 3

Any thoughts about this cycle? Well, it's our last natural cycle before surgery 9/20 to check for endometriosis and since the past 20 cycles and 3 IUIs didn't work I'm not at all hopeful.

Any questions? Nope

GTKY: What food do you like that your SO does not like? Pickles

offtoneverland · August 2017

@lalala2004 Thanks for starting the new thread! It may be the nightweaning helps your son sleep through the night better because he won't be used to nursing anymore. But you never know how he'll handle it. I exclusively pumped for my daughter because I couldn't stand nursing, so I really can't say much about the weaning process. Good luck with getting a positive OPK soon! *fingers crossed*

@izza2 I have the same thoughts on onions! I only like them if they're cooked a lot, and even then I only eat them sparingly. DH loves onions on everything and I refuse to kiss him after he eats them because...yuck!

@marcus7676 I'm in the same boat. I got pregnant right away the first time and I'm really surprised to be on cycle 4, so I'm being kind of a baby about it. I was convinced last cycle was it too because I had ALL THE SYMPTOMS. I learned my lesson.

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What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 4/4

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? My daughter just turned 3 two weeks ago! She's getting so big and so independent. *tears*

Any thoughts about this cycle? Meh. Feeling a little defeated and trying not to get my hopes up, so I'm going to try my hardest to just be patient and see what happens.

Any questions? Not really. I'd ask for tips on dealing with the terrible three's, but it looks like most of you have younger kids!

GTKY: What food do you like that your SO does not like? We pretty much like the same foods, except for onions and mushrooms. DH keeps trying to get me to love mushrooms but I refuse to eat them, except for sometimes on pizza. DH likes to experiment with food a lot and try new things, whereas I prefer to use the same tried-and-true recipes over and over again. Chicken nuggets and frozen veggies for dinner? Yes please!

holly321 · August 2017

What number are you trying for?
3
Cycle/Month? 5?/8
WTO/TWW?
Benched a/l

Ages of other child(ren)?
DD is 6 DS is 4
Any thoughts about this cycle?

Any questions?
None
GTKY: What food do you like that your SO does not like?

My DH is the pickiest eater in the world, in his defense some stems from abuse from his step mother. He hates all foods.

@offtoneverland, I have no tips for the terrible 3's, but I have sympathy.

fwtx5815 · August 2017

What number are you trying for?
#2

Cycle 2 / Month 4

WTO, CD29

Ages of other child(ren)? 18mos

Any thoughts about this cycle?
Just wishing my body would get its act together and ovulate already. Last cycle was 96 days long and it only ended because I took Provera. I can handle BFNs but this anovulation business is rather frustrating. Four months isn't that long in the grand scheme but when my body isn't cooperating it feels like a long time.

Any questions?
nope

GTKY: What food do you like that your SO does not like?
i love fruit in salads and my husband hates it

offtoneverland · August 2017

@holly321 Thanks for the sympathy! Some days are really great and others make me wonder why I want to do it all over again.

@fwtx5815 So sorry about your long cycles. That sounds like absolute torture. Fingers crossed that you ovulate soon and don't need to take Provera again!

lalala2004 · August 2017

@princesslockness he sleeps in bed with me, which is a whole other issue that will need to be solved eventually (and definitely doesn't help with TTC sex) but offering water is definitely something I will try. I tried night weaning around 13 months and ended up with mastitis, so that's another reason why I'm nervous....

mrstmoose · August 2017

@lalala2004 I don't have anything to add since I didn't BF long but I will say good luck! And hi!

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 0

WTO/TWW? Currently in TWW. Waiting for AF to come and then we will start.

Ages of other child(ren)? DD is 15 months

Any thoughts about this cycle? Nada

Any questions? Just realizing I'm going *hopefully* being having another tiny human running around.

GTKY: What food do you like that your SO does not like? Raw tomatoes and peas. Which is hilarious because DD loves peas. So we have them frequently. Lucky him!

mrsinterweb · August 2017

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 3/3

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? Almost 15 months

Any thoughts about this cycle? This will be my first cycle without any breastfeeding (freedom!) so I'm hoping that could help things a little. *TW* I had a CP my first cycle trying and just had an oddly light and long period this last time after having a really long and heavy one after the CP. Not sure what to make of that, but trying to stay positive/hopeful. *end TW*

Any questions? Nope

GTKY: What food do you like that your SO does not like? Cucumbers. He'll eat pretty much anything except those. He does like pickles though.

littlehottmess55 · August 2017

What number are you trying for? #2

Cycle/Month? Ugh.

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(ren)? 3 1/2

Any thoughts about this cycle? Well. DH was out of town during the whole fertile window. So...not looking great.

Any questions? No.

GTKY: What food do you like that your SO does not like? My DH is really picky when it comes to food. There's cottage cheese, asparagus, raw carrots, mahi, etc.

mrsinterweb · August 2017

lalala2004 RE night weaning: FWIW my DS slept much better after I night weaned (around 13 mos). It made me wish I'd done it sooner. The way I did it is I brought him into bed with us when he first woke and offered water and lots of cuddles every time he woke up. He fussed a lot the first night, and then less the next and then completely stopped wanting it. After that we continued to nurse last thing at night and first thing in the morning, but only for about a month more.

fwtx5815 So sorry for the extra long cycles. Hopefully your body gets the memo and starts to cooperate!

princesslockness · August 2017

@lalala2004 We love the rock n play! E hasn't ever slept with us, and L slept with us up until he got his own one. Life saver at my house. Ours is like the one below:

Edit: mobile won't let me show a pic.

MrsBunz · August 2017

What number are you trying for? 2

Cycle/Month? 2/2

WTO/TWW? Pretty sure Monday was O day, so probably TWW, waiting to see what my temp does

Ages of other child(ren)? Just turned 2

Any thoughts about this cycle? Feeling less anxious and more relaxed this cycle, not sure why. Probably because at the end of the TWW I'll either be PG at the AF Ball or at the AF Ball enjoying a couple of adult beverages!

Any questions? None

GTKY: What food do you like that your SO does not like? Any type of vegetables, he is pretty much a carnivore, the by product of being raised in a meat market.

offtoneverland · August 2017

@MrsBunz Is the AF ball the Air Force ball? I used to be in the AF!

lalala2004 · August 2017

princesslockness said:

@lalala2004 We love the rock n play! E hasn't ever slept with us, and L slept with us up until he got his own one. Life saver at my house. Ours is like the one below:

Edit: mobile won't let me show a pic.

My son is 16 months old. He doesn't exactly meet the limits of a Rock N Play

I'm totally fine with him sleeping in our bed for now. At this point we will probably move him straight to a toddler bed or a twin bed. If I do get KU, we will transition to DH putting him to bed. I'm not looking for a solution, it just makes night weaning a little more complicated. I'm pretty sure sometimes he helps himself when I'm asleep

lalala2004 · August 2017

@littlehottmess55 sorry you had no timing. That definitely takes away any possible excitement during the TWW

suchaglencoco · August 2017

@lalala2004, getting them to sttn is the worst. Bfing didn't work for us unfortunately, but this is now of the reasons why I'm glad it didn't work. Our children currently use pacis and we plan to wean them this weekend since it's a day weekend. I'm already dreading it.

@offtoneverland, I am TERRIFIED of the 3s!!! I just know it'll be worse than anything we can imagine.

@MrsBunz, DH hates vegetables and I didn't have a great relationship with them when I was a kid either. I have been trying to keep our twins interested and liking them, but it's so difficult when he won't eat some himself or makes a face when they take bites.

What number are you trying for? 3

Cycle/Month? Unknown - we haven't been preventing for months, but haven't been trying too hard since we have unexplained IF and I didn't want a lot of stress or pressure whole we waited out our appt.

WTO/TWW? Right now, I think we're in the TWW, but I have wonky cycles and didn't want extra stress of charting or anything.

Ages of other child(ren)? Twin 21 month olds

Any thoughts about this cycle? We had a lot of fun trying this cycle. It may be one of the last times we can do that before I have to be pumped full of meds.

Any questions? Did anyone else paci wean? Others have given us advice, but most of their children were older and could understand that they used their pacis to "buy" a new toy or that all of their pacis were "broken". Our plan for now is to just bite the bullet and deal with bad naps and overnights. If it's an utter failure and they aren't better by day 3 at all, then we may cave and do it again in a few months.

GTKY: What food do you like that your SO does not like? Casseroles of any kind. Which really sticks because it'd be really nice to just throw a bunch of stuff into a crock pot in the morning and call it dinner, but he won't eat it. And it really stinks because, admittedly so, my mother is not a good cook. At all. And her casserole is one of 2 dishes of hers that I actually love and would like to feed my kids. Whenever I make it, DH eats something else and I give my mom most of the leftovers.

lalala2004 · August 2017

@suchaglencoco I've heard of people going to build a bear and putting the paci inside a bear. At their age, I think they would be able to understand where the paci is if they put it in the bear. Then they still technically have it, but the bear replaces it. Not cheap, though!

princesslockness · August 2017

lalala2004 said:

princesslockness said:

@lalala2004 We love the rock n play! E hasn't ever slept with us, and L slept with us up until he got his own one. Life saver at my house. Ours is like the one below:

Edit: mobile won't let me show a pic.

My son is 16 months old. He doesn't exactly meet the limits of a Rock N Play I'm totally fine with him sleeping in our bed for now. At this point we will probably move him straight to a toddler bed or a twin bed. If I do get KU, we will transition to DH putting him to bed. I'm not looking for a solution, it just makes night weaning a little more complicated. I'm pretty sure sometimes he helps himself when I'm asleep

L is 2. He is only ~30lbs, but he slept in one like this, until Sunday, and loved it!

Image: https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/1j/eazz0a7a1i5d.jpg

Edit: timeline

MrsBunz · August 2017

@offtoneverland It is! DH has been in a bit over 4 years...so just 16 more to go! On top of it being the AF's 70th birthday, it's our Base's 75th. So they are pulling out all the stops!

offtoneverland · August 2017

@suchaglencoco We weaned my daughter off her paci 2 months ago. It went a lot smoother than we expected, so I'm not sure if this advice will be helpful or not. She's had her paci since she was just a few days old and has been obsessed with it since the beginning. When she turned 2, day care took her paci away at nap time and we followed suit, so she only had it at bedtime at home. Every night she would beg for it and grab it right away. She even liked to have 2 pacis in her crib at all times!
In July, we went to the beach overnight and stayed at a hotel. We decided to leave the paci at home and see what happened. We completely tired her out at the beach and stayed up way past her bedtime, so by the time we got to the hotel, we stuck her in bed and she fell right to sleep without asking for it. We didn't say anything about it to her. Since that day, she hasn't asked for it once! It totally took us by surprise. I think it helped that we didn't talk about it at all, we just did it. It also probably helped that she was really exhausted. So, maybe you could try doing something super fun with your kids to tire them out, and maybe keep them up late so they're really sleepy. Then put them to bed and see what happens. Alternatively, you could try just getting rid of it at nap times for now? I'm not sure if that would make things better or worse....
However, if it doesn't go well, it's really not a big deal for them to have pacis still at their age. I think our pediatric dentist said to try to get rid of them by age 3. Not that you shouldn't try to get rid of them yet, but just giving some peace of mind in case it goes horribly.

I think the newfound indepence that comes with age 3 outweighs the temper tantrums and bad behavior. So all in all, the 3s haven't been too bad (yet, at least...since she just turned 3 two weeks ago)! I probably just jinxed myself...

lalala2004 · August 2017

princesslockness said:

lalala2004 said:

princesslockness said:

@lalala2004 We love the rock n play! E hasn't ever slept with us, and L slept with us up until he got his own one. Life saver at my house. Ours is like the one below:

Edit: mobile won't let me show a pic.

My son is 16 months old. He doesn't exactly meet the limits of a Rock N Play I'm totally fine with him sleeping in our bed for now. At this point we will probably move him straight to a toddler bed or a twin bed. If I do get KU, we will transition to DH putting him to bed. I'm not looking for a solution, it just makes night weaning a little more complicated. I'm pretty sure sometimes he helps himself when I'm asleep

L is 2. He is only ~30lbs, but he slept in one like this, until Sunday, and loved it!

Edit: timeline

Oh, well the weight limit is 25lbs and they say to discontinue use once your baby can sit up, but I guess if your kid is compliant it works. Mine would be trying to launch out for sure!

sarawifenow · August 2017

What number are you trying for? Number 2

Cycle/Month? 1

WTO/TWW? WTO and annoyed about it. Since coming off of BC, my cycles are all over the place. I remember it taking quite some time to even out when I went off to try for my son. I hope it works out faster!

Ages of other child(ren)? My son will be 18 months on the 26th.

It is going TOO fast!

Any thoughts about this cycle? This is our first official cycle of trying. I am excited and H is nervous. Not for another baby, but just because he feels like there is a lot of pressure. Hopefully that will go away soon.

Any questions? Not today

GTKY: What food do you like that your SO does not like? I LOVE pickled ginger and tomatoes. H gags at them.

fwtx5815 · August 2017

Thanks @offtoneverland & @mrsinterweb!

On pacis- my son lost interest when we switched to the 6mo+ size when he was around that age (avent soothies, he preferred the NB stage to the bigger ones), and then went to thumb sucking. Not looking forward to breaking that habit when the time comes. But if you haven't already moved up to the correct paci size, that might be worth a shot if they make different sizes for the kind you have?

offtoneverland · August 2017

@suchaglencoco Tonight my daughter started crying for her paci for the first time in 2 months. I blame you!

suchaglencoco · August 2017

@lalala2004, DD is nuts. I think she'd chew the stitches off to get to it!!! Hahaha.

@fwtx5815, I am super anal about keeping them with proper cups and pacis for their age. I needed braces as a kid for buck teeth from finger sucking so I want to avoid that as much as possible since braces are so expensive! I know I may not be able to prevent it all the way, but I'm trying my hardest. Thank you for your suggestion. I told my mom I'm glad they liked pacis over their thumbs because these are much easier to take away.

@offtoneverland I was so excited for your approach until I saw your update! I'm sorry I jinxed it!! We will definitely run them tired. Did you keep her up past regular bedtime or just put her down exhausted?
My sil said they read it takes 3 nights to break them of it and it worked for her daughter. DH decided then that we would do it Labor Day weekend to try and get it over with. We're kind of over dealing with them. Some nights DD will wake up screaming because she can't find her paci, even if there's another in the crib. It's now been made worse since we moved her into a toddler bed because she kept climbing put if her crib. So she wanders out screaming sometimes.
We're basically ready for 3 nights of pure heck. I am hoping DS is easy because he's not as dependant as DD on it.

josie12367 · August 2017

What number are you trying for? 3

Cycle/Month? 2/1

WTO/TWW? I think the TWW...my cycle is a bit wonky

Ages of other child(ren)? 7 years, and 15 months

Any thoughts about this cycle? I kind of wish it would end already so I can get a fresh start. My cycles are typically anovulatory, so though i'm happy I O'd, or at least I think so based on temps, I'm ready to just be done with it.

Any questions? Nah

GTKY: What food do you like that your SO does not like? Raw veggies. He never prefers vegetables, but he has an even greater hate for them if they're raw

On the paci discussion, I just flat took it away once it felt like it was time to night wean. We did sleep training with both girls at about 13 months, and just took the pacis at the same time. I think the crying/waking only lasted a few days, and then they were over it.

@offtoneverland Hey there! Fellow AF veteran here! What did you do in the AF?

sarawifenow · August 2017

I really need to get rid of DS's paci. We are going to night wean soon, so I think that I will follow @josie12367 's lead and just take it away at the same time.

josie12367 · August 2017

@sarawifenow I've always had a "rip the bandaid off" approach...I've learned to be more gentle now that I have children and take their feelings into consideration, but with pacis...I pulled a bandaid move. I think in conjunction with night weaning, it's the easiest method.

sarawifenow · August 2017

@josie12367 I hope so! I think we may try it over the long weekend. Wish me luck!

offtoneverland · August 2017

@josie12367 I think the rip the band-aid off approach works so much better with kids. Our day care got rid of bottles and pacis cold turkey when she turned one and it went so smoothly! We tried a gradual approach with bottles at home but it just made things worse. I suppose it could depend the kid, though.

offtoneverland · September 2017

@suchaglencoco Yep, we kept her up way past her bed time since we were out at the beach, so she fell asleep as soon as her head hit the pillow. FX for you guys this weekend with the paci weaning. Keep us posted!
@josie12367 Nice to meet another AF vet. I was in public affairs. You?
@MrsBunz I laughed at 'just 16 years to go!' Sounds like it'll be an awesome party! Did you find shoes yet?

MrsBunz · September 2017

@offtoneverland It is surprising how quickly these last 4 years have been, sometimes I still feel like he just commissioned (maybe it's because he has been gone for almost half of those 4 years). So while my brain tells me 16 years is a long time, I also expect it to fly by fairly quickly. I have not found shoes. DH has been on hurricane relief flights all week so I've had our tiny human pretty much solo every day, and shoe shopping is not his favorite past time. DH has the weekend off for the holiday, so I plan on sneaking away at some point to check out a few places. I have comically small feet (like no grown woman should wear my shoe size or consistently be able to shop in the kid's section), so I hate shopping online, I need to try them on first.

josie12367 · September 2017

@offtoneverland I was a medic

@MrsBunz My husband has also been deployed or tdy for half of our marriage. We joke about how good we are at long distance. He's been in for almost twelve years now. Good luck on the shoe search. I wanted to go to the AF ball but he'll be tdy

Mylitta · September 2017

What number are you trying for? 2 - . We're ntnp, mostly because we're bad at bc. So we'll 'officially' ntnp and actually try at 1y like we originally planned.

Cycle/Month? 1

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? 7m

Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm intrigued you see if I'm ovulating. I am still bfing, but my cycles have returned. So we'll see.

Any questions? Not currently

GTKY: What food do you like that your SO does not like? Peanut butter, really any nut or seed of any kind. I love them, he hates them. That's the biggest...

suchaglencoco · September 2017

Thanks for the paci recommendations ladies. We are definitely doing it cold turkey and plan to run them ragged the next few nights. Last night DH said to them "say goodnight to mama for the last time with a paci in your mouth" and my heart stopped for a moment. I am glad our children are happy, healthy, and growing, but man it is going way too fast.

lalala2004 · September 2017

@Mylitta when did your cycle return? Sometimes there is a "warning period" or two before ovulating, but you may be ovulating right away!

edit: Nevermind, just saw your intro post! I definitely recommend temping so you'll know how long your LP is. That's one of the biggest concerns with TTC while breastfeeding. (Assuming you have a cycle. I don't yet....)

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