October 2016 Moms

Let's Talk About Sex, Bay-Bee:

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Re: Let's Talk About Sex, Bay-Bee:

  • I would be terrified to not be on any BC at all. I don't trust us to always be responsible enough on our own. I know how childish that sounds, but sometimes I get the overwhelming desire to procreate, and it takes a few days to fade away before I remember that we're poor and that is a horrible idea.
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  • I finally called my OBGYN about this infinite bleeding and spotting, since I'm getting other lady part issues. The last two times we have had sex, it hurt SO. BAD. After this last time I had enough, and went and checked myself out with a mirror. It looked like I had some knots or something on my cervix, so I made an appointment for a PAP. I don't think that can be blamed on the birth control.
  • I hope everything is ok @AllyTheKid. You just reminded me that I need to set my annual exam.  
  • Don't slack on the Pap!
  • Welp. It's vagina day. Wish me luck gals...
  • Welp. It's vagina day. Wish me luck gals...
    Good luck!
  • Crap. Things are looking a bit grim. Ultrasound and transvaginal ultrasound in my near future for a better idea of what the deal is.
  • Crap. Things are looking a bit grim. Ultrasound and transvaginal ultrasound in my near future for a better idea of what the deal is.
    Oh man, that sucks. Do they have any clue?
  • They don't want to talk about it until my labs come back. Which usually isn't a good sign in my experience. I'm already attempting to prepare myself for the worst. But I'm hoping it's just a vicious yeast infection or something. Fingers crossed.
  • @AllyTheKid any history of PCOS?
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  • @brzvice History of cysts, but previous OB wouldn't diagnose me with PCOS or even consider checking me for it because I'm skinny :/ 
    Can that affect the cervix and uterous too?
  • @AllyTheKid I don't think so. Sounds like your in the clear. It just reminded me of some of the same symptoms my GF had who was diagnosed. It took a while for her diagnosis though
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  • My ovaries used to swell up real big and hurt so bad from the cysts, and they made my period go haywire, but my birth control has kept THAT in check. I seldom ever ovulate with this Nexplanon, maybe once every two or three months? It sucks when I do, but for the most part my ovaries are under control now and so are the cysts.

    Now we wait to see what's up with my idiot cervix. I'm so tired of feminine issues. I'm tired of EVERYTHING going on with my stupid body right now. I wish there was a physical reset button!
  • I hope it's nothing serious @AllyTheKid

    Do you have to be overweight to have PCOS?
  • Good luck to you @allythekid keep us updated! I'm sure that's not a fun situation to deal with l...  :/
    *American in Tanzania, East Africa, since 2013
    DH - Tanzanian
  • @ladybug2821 Apparently it's most common in overweight women? I also didn't have other symptoms commonly associated with PCOS like excess body hair or thyroid dysfuntion. However, I literally had/have multiple painful cysts on both of my ovaries every cycle that do not go away and affect my cycle and fertility unless I'm on BC or other hormone pills to "reset" my cycle. So I don't to this day inderstand why he didn't do a full evaluation. I've been ignored a LOT about my feminine issues because of my age and size and it is so frustrating :( it's not fucling "flattering" when your legitimate health concerns are being discounted :/
  • Yeah that's ridiculous @AllyTheKid. Can you demand that they do the tests anyway?  My sister has pcos and she wasn't always overweight. I think it was the meds that put weight on her, not the condition. And she was young when diagnosed. They are full of shit if you ask me. 
  • @ladybug2821 I think the main reason they blew me off, is because it "only" took me 6 months to get pregnant with Jimmy, and I got pregnant with Johnny just while switching BC. I think because my complaints were pain and irregularity and not my actual fertility they didn't thinj it was serious enough to look at. I really feel that way. I am going to a different clinic now, and they actually treat me like somebody "worth examining" so that's good. Hoping to get to the bottom of everything soon! 
  • I'm pretty sure I could never have sex again and be happy. Haha I just don't want it! We still have sex 2-4 times a week but I definitely fake it.

    @AllyTheKid I would at least ask to get your levels tested for PCOS. I got tested for PCOS just because my periods were super painful, long and I only ovulated every 70 or so days for a couple cycles. I also had a few cysts. I didn't have any of the other symptoms either like excess weight, hair, or thyroid distinction. It is more common in overweight women but skinny women can have it too. Turns out I didn't have it but it's an easy thing to check for! 
  • I got a call yesterday, they only have my regular labwork back and not my Pap. The NP said my results looked "virtually normal, but they found some yeast". Okay, no biggie, right? In that same conversation, they told me they are going to treat me for PID. I was given not one, but two different antibiotics to take for two whole weeks followed by one Diflucan pill. That seems a bit excessive for finding "some yeast" and no bacteria. I looked up PID too and I don't understand why I would be treated for that when it's typically caused by bacterial STDs, and from what I read, seldom if ever yeast. I haven't even had symptoms of a yeast infection honestly that I'm aware of, so it makes me wonder how much yeast is "some yeast"? Sorry for the rant. I don't like taking unnecessary antibiotics is all. I'm going to take them obviously because I want to get better, I'm just confused by this treatment plan and diagnosis. Uuugghhh.
  • @AllyTheKid What is PID? Also, I once went in for a pap and they discovered I had a yeast infection without any symptoms. I always figured they just caught mine early since I've heard they can be quite painful. Maybe that's the same case for you. That does seem a little heavy on the medication though! Can you call and have a nurse exclain the reason behind their treatment?
  • PID is Pelvic Inflammatory Disease. It isn't an actual "disease", but a serious secondary condition of other untreated infections, which is why I'm so confused. I don't have any infections, other than some yeast, but the fact that even that was asymptomatic makes me wonder how that could even have remotely been enough to cause a serious secondary infection?

    I think I will call her about the antibiotics. Although I'm pretty sure she's just wanting to cover all the bases before I come back in for a follow up so she can see if anything has helped. 
  • @AllyTheKid I know you have to be so frustrated! They just need to give you straight answers. Hopefully they will get your pap back soon and maybe that will help answer some questions.
  • Hopefully I'll hear something by Thursday, they said to call them if I don't hear back by then. 

    I feel like I've spent the last two months of my life waiting for some form of test results or another... I want a new body.
  • @fitlady21 2-4 times a week?!?  I don't have time for that. I try at least once but I'm right there with you, I could go without it. 

    @AllyTheKid So are they treating the PID and the yeast?  For the yeast, they'd only give the diflucan I would think. 
  • @ladybug2821 Yes, but I can't take the Diflucan until I finish the two weeks of antibiotics. So even though yeast is all they found, it is going to be the last thing treated because antibiotics can cause or worsen yeast infections. 


    I think it goes without saying that my vagina is out of commission. It will be BJs if and when deserved, indefinitely. Which sucks, because I'd love to have sex if I either wasn't bleeding all the time, or if it just didn't down right hurt.
  • @Ladybug2821 It may be 2-4 times a week but it's quick sex.. not good sex. 10 minutes from start to finish which I can handle to not here the complaining haha
  • 10 minutes is a marathon compared to what our sex has turned into... We go so long in between times we have sex, we're lucky if he lasts 2 minutes.
  • @ladybug2821 I LOLed at the 2-4x a week comment because u was thinking the same thing. Damn girl! 
    @fitlady21 insert hand clapping emoji you are awesome for taking one for the team. I struggle getting sex in 2-4x a month let alone week. 
    @allythekid keep us posted on if the meds are taking care of any symptoms. fX
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  • So my husband constantly complains about not getting enough sex.. I told him he gets it 2-4 times a week! He said I know but that I don't attack him and he can tell I don't really want it at first so it's not the same. 

    I say yake what what you can get mister. And beggars can't be choosers. 
  • @brzvice My only real symptom was the super painful sex, and I'm not even considering doing the naked dance again until after my full treatment course, so hopefully by the end of it all will be well!

    @ditlady21 That's like asking for $100, being given $100, then being disappointed it was in dollar bills instead of gold dollars.
  • Omg some men are worse than women. Do you want the damn sex or not?  Stop complaining and just take it. I don't have the energy to put anything special into it. 
  • Ugh. I need to get on the pill. We had drunksex and even though I know I'm not ovulating it's enough to send me into a panic. Not ready to be pregnant again. 
    *American in Tanzania, East Africa, since 2013
    DH - Tanzanian
  • Tmi warning here 

    Anyone else feel "looser" now that everything is finally back to normal vajay Jay wise? I had a third degree tear and was expecting it to be not quite the same  but am kind of embarrassed and definitely haven't mentioned anything to H. 
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  • I didn't feel quite as toned after Johnny, but I've been doing kegals and they seem to be working.
  • I feel like the most ungreatful person ever. I whined for nearly a year about how badly I hated that Nexplanon implant. Now that it's removed I finally had one "normal cycle", and am now on my 2nd. AF is due in 2 days and this is the first time I've experienced PMS in like- 3 years. It is literally just as miserable as pregnancy symptoms, and this bloating even makes me LOOK about 5 months pregnant. I know I'm not because I went ahead and tested in a fleeting moment of panic despite being on the pill, and got the obvious negative. But whaaa, boo, hiss! I forgot how bad "real periods" suck! Haha
  • So I got the Paraguard IUD last week. Totally painless besides a little bit of cramping and some odd spotting. But then I started my period (second one since having LO) a few days later and oh my goodness... tons of cramps, bleeding through EVERYTHING, and passing ping pong size clots! Being a woman sucks.

    And also, my husband said he could feel the iud during sex so now I have to make another appointment for people to look up my hoo-hah and trim the strings again. Ugh.

    anyone else’s SO still complaining about not having enough sex? We have sex on average 3-4 times a week and if he isn’t getting it everyday, he complains. Yet he isn’t helping with LO, doing laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc to make more time for it (and take stress off me). Drives me nuts! 

    Sorry for the kind of unrelated rants.. 
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    I heard Paraguard makes you bleed like crazy pretty much the entire time you have it, that's why I opted against it. I don't know anybody who kept it long enough to see if it would level out though, so who really knows?

    FI complains about no sex- because we really don't ever have sex. I either don't want it or his antidepressants make his member not work and he doesn't want it. 
    Tell him No money (and by money I mean help around house) No honey! If you want the sex that's one thing, but if you don't let him know you'd appreciate him to make an effort around the home if he wants you to make more of an effort in the bedroom. I'd be frustrated too, sorry girl. But may I just say, you're a Goddess for being able to do the baby dance that often! Bravo!
  • Right @AllyTheKid! @fitlady21 I think 3-4 times a week is above average. I would definitely talk to him about helping around the house. He can’t expect you to do it all and then be all about the sex. 
  • @AllyTheKid @Ladybug2821 Exactly! He just keeps saying he wants things to go back to normal. He doesn’t understand this is our new normal even though I keep trying to explain it to him! So frustrating.
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