Hi @baseballhoneyFirst, I want to encourage you to pursue your course, and I am certain that you will come out successfully. Before I answer your question, there are a few things that I would like you to tell me. Is the man you are planning to have sex with your husband? Or rather is he the same man you plan to pursue the IVF journey with? If so why then do you want to use pills or abstain from sex? I thought people choose IVF or IUI when they can’t conceive naturally and so they may need help from fertility doctors. You should have as much sex as possible if you want to become pregnant of the man. If this happens, I am sure you will be happy, and it will help you avoid the prohibitive costs associated with IVF. Otherwise, if the doctor has told you to abstain from sex, there should be a good reason for that, and I think you should respect that decision.