Protected sex while on BC?

baseballhoney · August 2017

Hi all,

I am doing IVF at the end of October. My RE told me from now until then when I am on BC pills we should use barrier protection or abstenece for sex. That seems like a long time to me. Just curious if anyone else had to do it for that long?

tclufingon · August 2017

Hey @baseballhoney, you should follow your RE's instructions. Barrier protection sex wouldn't hurt, will it?

tobs2017 · August 2017

Hi @baseballhoney

First, I want to encourage you to pursue your course, and I am certain that you will come out successfully. Before I answer your question, there are a few things that I would like you to tell me. Is the man you are planning to have sex with your husband? Or rather is he the same man you plan to pursue the IVF journey with? If so why then do you want to use pills or abstain from sex? I thought people choose IVF or IUI when they can’t conceive naturally and so they may need help from fertility doctors. You should have as much sex as possible if you want to become pregnant of the man. If this happens, I am sure you will be happy, and it will help you avoid the prohibitive costs associated with IVF. Otherwise, if the doctor has told you to abstain from sex, there should be a good reason for that, and I think you should respect that decision.

suchaglencoco · August 2017

tobs2017 said:

Hi @baseballhoney
First, I want to encourage you to pursue your course, and I am certain that you will come out successfully. Before I answer your question, there are a few things that I would like you to tell me. Is the man you are planning to have sex with your husband? Or rather is he the same man you plan to pursue the IVF journey with? If so why then do you want to use pills or abstain from sex? I thought people choose IVF or IUI when they can’t conceive naturally and so they may need help from fertility doctors. You should have as much sex as possible if you want to become pregnant of the man. If this happens, I am sure you will be happy, and it will help you avoid the prohibitive costs associated with IVF. Otherwise, if the doctor has told you to abstain from sex, there should be a good reason for that, and I think you should respect that decision.

I'm sorry, but what?
To tell someone on an infertility board that to get pregnant they just need to have "as much sex as possible" is hurtful and a little rude. Most women that need help from a fertility specialist have done the whole sex to conceive thing and unfortunately, it does not work for everyone.

***edited because I wrote out a really nice response, but now that I get reading more on the board I realize you're just spamming it with your "deep thoughts" and your bio whatever website.

adirat · August 2017

@bumpadmin See post above. They are spamming and they are insulting board members. This is ridiculous.

@baseballhoney I'm also on bcp before ivf. My RE didn't tell us to use barrier method in addition to the bcp. It probably varies based on your dx right? For instance if you had really severe MFI with no chance of conception outside of IVF I doubt it would matter. By contrast if you are doing IVF for an RPL issue, you might want to be more safe since the risk is higher.

cseley321 · August 2017

@tobs2017 seriously? I am guessing you haven't been through IVF?

To the OP, no you shouldn't have unprotected sex while prepping for IVF. Everything is timed a certain way to ensure you produce a ton of eggs... you don't want to jeopardize the results, or possibly become the next octomom if multiple ones get fertilized

Please follow your doctor's instructions, it's just a small amount of time to wait in the grand scheme of things. Personally we just abstained altogether.

suchaglencoco · August 2017

Honestly, I didn't even want to have sex. I was getting enough times pokes, I didn't need another one, haha.

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