UO Thursday 7/27

peachy13 · July 2017

ilikestars089 · July 2017

My UO: I hate summer and the 80+ degree weather we've had in my area for a couple months... I can't wait for it to be fall so I can comfortably wear all of my favorite leggings, boots, and scarves.

I live in the PNW where this is basically blasphemy because we don't get many months of "nice" weather.

MJDsquared · July 2017

@ilikestars089 I am so with you. Plus most of us in the PNW don't have air conditioning! And seriously, how has it been highs of 90ish every day forever?! (It's crazy that I'm stoked for a high of 82 today, haha.) I feel like summer weather here used to be much more variable instead of consistently this hot. Thanks, climate change.

Kirss · July 2017

@MJDsquared No A/C?! I'm in Michigan, where we get a couple months of 70+ and there's no way we'd buy a house w/o central air.
I don't have an UO, but I am just confused how people can live w/o air.

Tennis11785 · July 2017

I grew up in Jersey in a house without air and it never really phased me. Now I would never even look at buying a house that doesn't have air. Granted I live a little further south, but I'm still in the Mid-Atlantic.

elev2017 · July 2017

I grew up in CT without a/c and except for a handful of really hot days, I don't remember it being that bad. Of course, my parents got central air right after I went to college lol. I also spent every summer of my life from the time I was 12 - 22 years old at a summer camp living in cabins without electricity... so that sort of changed my perspective. My husband and I were planning on getting split duct a/c for our house, but then we found out we were having twins and had to put that idea on hold for a while since it's expensive!

elev2017 · July 2017

My UO is that I HATE ketchup, but love ketchup and mayonnaise mixed together (I've heard this called Russian dressing or fry sauce in different regions).

peachy13 · July 2017

Pinterest is great for ideas and inspiration, but I think it's cheesy when someone copies a pin detail for detail for their party/wedding/shower/living room/nursery/whatever. I think decorating with your own creativity and taste is much more fun and interesting, and shows off your personality more than a random picture from the internet will.

failuretofly · July 2017

Now that we are team pink this is at the forefront of my mind.

I hate frilly, lacey, tulle covered baby clothes, or just dresses on babies in general. They're so impractical and stupid. I have been shopping for some clothes for her to 'make it real' and I seriously cannot find anything that is feminine that I also like. Annoying.

MJDsquared · July 2017

I've been lurking other board's UOs this morning and a few people's opinions are the opposite of mine so here goes:

I don't mind being called 'mom' or whatever now that I'm pregnant. I have a coworker, a 32ish year old man who will sometimes call me "mom" now in a jokey way, and it doesn't bother me. I'm sure I'd be more annoyed if everyone around me stopped using my name and started calling me some variation of 'mom,' but this one instance doesn't.

I always see those memes that say the only acceptable time to ask a woman if she's pregnant is if you see a baby sticking out of her. I agree you shouldn't just ask someone if they're pregnant because they throw up or because they have a belly (or they've gained weight), but if someone is very obviously pregnant, I don't think asking how far along they are (or just asking if they're pregnant even if it's obvious) is that bad. By that I mean I wouldn't be bothered if a stranger asked me if I was pregnant/how far along I was today. I don't side-eye anyone who hates being asked those things when they're pregnant, it just wouldn't bother me personally.

ETA (late): I think my second point is being misunderstood. All I mean is that I don't mind if people ask if I'm pregnant/how far along I am since I'm pregnant, because some women hate being asked even when they are very obviously pregnant (and not giving it up for adoption or anything). I don't go around asking if other women are pregnant. Lol.

mdcd44127 · July 2017

@kvacmak I definitely hear you. I'm team blue, but before we found out I was looking at both options and was horrified by the amount of unnecessary ruffles, scratchy tulle, and rippable lace on so many of the girls' outfits. I was super excited when I found the Primary online shop (https://www.primary.com/shop/baby) because it meant the possibility of buying a little black dress for a girl, haha. Now I just have to work on finding non-obnoxious/sexist phrases on our boy's clothes!

peachy13 · July 2017

@MJDsquared totally agree with both! I've had a few coworkers now ask me if I'm expecting. Maybe a risky move, but it's also pretty obvious at this point. I straight up look pregnant and I definitely don't get offended if people assume without knowing for sure. Also don't mind getting called "mama" or whatever, it's cute.

elev2017 · July 2017

@MJDSquared I literally had a female colleague of mine say to me "How's mama today?" about a minute before I saw your post. She actually went on to say "I hope you don't mind me saying that, I don't want to offend". In general, I can't stand that particular woman, but her comment didn't bother me and it's publicly known at work that I'm pregnant. I will never comment on a stranger being pregnant, even if it's glaringly obvious, jussssst in case, but that's more just me being overly cautious.

MJDsquared · July 2017

@leilagphillips I agree, I wouldn't say anything to a stranger (unless we were like in a birthing class or something, lol) not only to be overly cautious in case there's a chance they aren't pregnant, but also in case they're someone who is pregnant but does get offended when people ask.

Kirss · July 2017

@peachy13 A girl I know asked me to make her daughter a shirt for her 2nd birthday, NBD. She showed me a picture and kept saying "this is my vision" ummm, no you didn't create this. She was very nit-picky too for all the details, saying how this doesn't match her "vision" the exact dets in the pic. I was rolling my eyes so hard.

wabash15 · July 2017

I don't understand posting ultrasound potty shots. you wouldn't post photos of your babies genitals once they were born why would you do it before they are born? All you have to say its its a girl or boy with a nice side US view...

NME44 · July 2017

@MJDsquared, the problem is usually not asking a pregnant woman if she is pregnant; it is when you ask a woman you *think* is pregnant, and she is not. There are medical conditions that can cause someone to look pregnant (ascites, or perhaps a tumor) and some women just carry their weight differently. Therefore, it's safer to just not say anything than risk being hurtful.

peachy13 · July 2017

I also haven't minded when people I know touch my stomach without asking. I know some people are horrified by this. I've noticed it's more of the older generation who just jump right in and start petting me. They're so happy about it that I honestly don't care.

MJDsquared · July 2017

@NME44 I know, which is why I don't ask anyone. And I'd be offended if someone asked me when I wasn't pregnant. But I saw people on another board saying they hate when people ask, even when they are pregnant. I'm just saying I'm fine with people asking if I'm pregnant/how far along since I am, in fact, pregnant.

balletnerd · July 2017

My UO is that I think it is so weird to look at other people's ultrasound photos. Hi I don't know you, but now I've seen inside your uterus. I'm Ok with it on this site as it's specifically for it... but in "real life" it weirds me out. Also- I don't know what to say when people show me theirs... I don't find it cute I think it's creepy. Haha and of course I like seeing mine- but I don't show it around to people or use it as an announcement. I like to know the baby is healthy- but for some reason the photos just weird me out. Haha

elev2017 · July 2017

@balletnerd I 100% agree with you! I do love mine and have shown them to some friends and family who want to see them, but I'm always weirded out when people post them to social media. They ARE creepy! In fact throughout the first 10 minutes of my anatomy scan, my stepdaughter (who's 6 and on the spectrum) just kept repeatedly saying "THEY'RE SOOOO CREEEEPYYY!!!" and I couldn't really disagree lol.

MJDsquared · July 2017

@balletnerd @leilagphillips I told DH that under no circumstances will we be posting an ultrasound photo on social media, whether as an announcement or otherwise. (Same with pregnancy test pictures.) I think both are weird! Though I totally love seeing U/S photos on TB (except for potty shots like @wabash15 said; I don't think we'd even show those to family in person...who wants to see that?).

NME44 · July 2017

@MJDsquared, gotcha! Thanks for the clarification

cait5413 · July 2017

@balletnerd I don't mind regular ultrasounds, but 3D ultrasounds are so creepy!

ChelK3 · July 2017

Just wanted to add, it is such a shitty feeling when you just gave birth and you're out in public without the baby, and someone comes up to you and asks, "when are you due?" Or "are you pregnant?" Like, I get it. I still look pregnant. But I'm not. And I'd rather not be reminded of just how fat and swollen I still am. Seriously, just don't do it. Do not ask a stranger about their pregnancy. What if they are giving the baby up for adoption? What if they just had a stillbirth? Some women are bursting to talk about their pregnancy. Let them bring it up. Other women are struggling, and would like to keep that private.

Tennis11785 · July 2017

Right now in my mindset, I wouldn't mind if someone asked me if I was pregnant. I am, and it wouldn't offend me if someone asked. I'd honestly probably think "oh good, it looks more like a baby bump and less like I'm just getting fat."

However, I still live by the "you do not ask ever rule". Because I had a couple acquaintances (neighbors, people in the same civic group I'm in) ask me with my last pregnancy and **TW** it was super awkward because I had to tell them I was but that they baby wasn't going to survive to birth. It's an awkward thing to describe and sometimes I just didn't want to have to explain it. But I thought it would be worse/more awkward to just tell them yes, and then have to remember to tell them that we lost the baby.

breezybee · July 2017

Hugs @Tennis11785

darkfyre · July 2017

@djd0404 I found a lot of non logo graphic t-shirts at target for my son. No ads no phrases just fish, shark , dino etc. Fun without being obnoxious

thatlauragirl · July 2017

Oh @Tennis11785 I'm sending you big hugs. That's the worst. We found out about our son's Trisomy 18/21 diagnosis 3 days before we were leaving on a Disney cruise. We still went because our ds was so excited to go but it was really rough and surreal when everyone on the ship was oohing and ahhhing over my bump and asking questions about him, knowing he wasn't going to survive long.