the last time we had sex I started to spot for a few days, pretty sure that freaked him out enough that it might be a while before he wants to try again......I'm not mad about it.....
I'm glad I'm not the only feeling sick of sex. I mean, it's not like I deprive the man. We have sex at minimum once a week. But these actions of his lately just disgust me. This is not the man I married!
@JuliaGoolia719 My DH situation is kinda similar. He's so worried about safety that he will only put out if I'm on top. Yup, one position for the Rest of this pregnancy TW we did experience a loss in the past and so it's kinda sweet he's so protective, sweet and boring.
@vjraab I would have gone Nuclear. He is acting so immature and the worst part is that if there was an emergency he wouldn't be there for you because you're blocked he's too busy acting like a little "witch".
I don't know what the family dynamics are like with his parents, but I'm sure if your relationship with his mom is even civil, she would be livid that he's treating you this way. Getting her or other people involved Intervention style is the nuclear level.
@LemmyRN I have no hesitated to go nuclear when my husband has done something down right despicable. I keep his mom close for many reasons - that being one of them. She lays into him.
Yeah, I'm pretty sure there's nothing in the world that would slow DH's sex drive down. Thankfully, he's not pushy about it at all, and doesn't try anything unless I initiate. We're down to only a couple times a week (if he's lucky), but I make the effort because I know how important sex is for him (and me too when I'm not pregnant).
@vjraab hopefully he is just being petty. And an idiot.
But what I worry about, I hesitated to say this, Is that it gives me red flags to emotional abuse. His whole attitude of "if you don't do what I want I'll punish you," is wrong. You have shared his actions, but if he has also been name calling, mean, belittling, etc. then action needs to be taken; possibly with a counselor or church elder/priest.
@cyanope Bless you for a couple of times a week. Sadly, the only time I've done that is if we were on vacation and when we were trying for baby #2. Poor DH
Haha...like I said, @EmilyLove25, sex has always been a pretty integral part of our relationship. Two times a week only happens when I'm pregnant or have a newborn. I know we're not normal. We're kind of the joke in our circle of friends. If we disappear alone together for any length of time, the sex jokes start.
Not blocked anymore! Effective today after my doctor appointment. I guess he does care about the baby on the way....or maybe he just realized what a childish ass he was being...or maybe he realized I wasn't going to baby him....I was so close to calling MIL too. She's an amazing MIL, but I don't like involving family in my relationship. It's easy to confide in you guys though, so thank you.
We're on the twice a month train right now and I'm thankful. It's usually an almost every day situation. I'm just not in the mood when I'm pregnant. DH is so distracted by his promotion right now that he has zero sex drive. Not complaining unless it goes on for too long
My husband is doing graduate school full time right now and we're doing once a week and I AM DYING lol I need an every other day thing! Sometimes I feel like I'm preying on him
A couple of times a week is super impressive to me! DH is enjoying me having a chest for the first time ever (and frankly, I'm amazed as well) although he swears he will always be an @ss guy <---- necessary in this configuration. I've been having super sexy dreams and am hopeful I get the amped up sex drive symptom! We (mostly) had a lot of fun TTC, but we're on the once a week train and I'm happy to be there right now. I did make him close his eyes the last time because I'm definitely feeling the weight gain. Sadly, I am not going to be one of those "all bump" ladies. I know there are lots of divergent opinions about body image in this BMB - and as much as I'm looking forward to embracing the bump, I'm not loving the size of my butt and hips right now. I'm thankful he's still loving up on me despite that.
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TW we did experience a loss in the past and so it's kinda sweet he's so protective, sweet and boring.
I don't know what the family dynamics are like with his parents, but I'm sure if your relationship with his mom is even civil, she would be livid that he's treating you this way. Getting her or other people involved Intervention style is the nuclear level.
But what I worry about, I hesitated to say this, Is that it gives me red flags to emotional abuse. His whole attitude of "if you don't do what I want I'll punish you," is wrong. You have shared his actions, but if he has also been name calling, mean, belittling, etc. then action needs to be taken; possibly with a counselor or church elder/priest.
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020