So, yesterday was rainy here and I decided to relax and put my feet up (mainly because going up my stairs ... where all of my responsibilities currently are .... was way too daunting). Unfortunately, this made me feel overwhelmed with how much I should be doing, but am not doing because I'm too tired/uncomfortable. This then led to my feeling guilty for being ready to be a family of 4 when I know how much TLC a newborn takes. Anyway, I guess I got a bit blue and I'm not in love with that. I want to just enjoy these last few weeks with DD and DH, but my physical in-capabilities are frustrating me. I also wish I was able to be more active with DD, but again ... everything just seems to hurt more this time around (thanks, pre-stretched muscles! )
I have an OB appointment this week, and I think I'll mention it then as well, just wanted to vent here. I've mentioned it to DH and he has done SO MUCH to help, but that makes me feel even more useless!
@HappyToBeHere I've had a lot of the same feelings (but don't have another LO to take care of). It's been really hard going from able-bodied to NOT able-bodied and being totally humbled by the resting process. Guilt is compounded when I think about how hard we tried to get pregnant, and how pre-pregnant me would've gladly not complained about any of this just to have a healthy baby. So you're totally not alone, and I think it's part of being human!
@HappyToBeHere I have had a lot of those feelings as well, but without having a LO around. I have felt a lot of pressure to spend a lot of time with DH, as just the two of us, and as much as I know he doesnt mind me just laying on the couch, I want to get out and enjoy the weather. Im just not sure if I will have it in me the next two weekends to go out like I did this last one.
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
@mrsmatt1212 and @littlebug2010: Thanks for commiserating, ladies. Honestly, I doubt DD notices; she loved that she got to watch "her shows" yesterday since we do try to get out and about as much as possible. But gah...I feel you both on all of your points. Able-bodied to not able-bodied is humbling and difficult for sure, and wanting to enjoy the weather without despising it at the same time is so conflicting!!
I visited my friend and her days-old child yesterday, along with her husband and 4 year old. The baby is so adorable and his big sis is completely enamored. This friend is a natural mother (grew up with several much younger siblings). She's so chill and makes things look easy- she's been laid-back and free spirited her whole life; I've known her since we were 12. The baby was sleeping when we got there and slept most of the visit; she said the past few days have just been feeding, changing, and him sleeping. Like it's easy. Blowouts or needing a Target run for supplies at 4am are no biggie to her. It's such a juxtaposition because everything I read is preparing someone for the most crazy and stressful experience of one's life and everything that could possibly go wrong. My point is, I hope, as a FTM, that I've prepared for the worst but things may actually go really well. I'm more prone to be a worrywort than she is, but hey, maybe she'll be the right person to tell me to chill out and that everything's fine.
I visited my friend and her days-old child yesterday, along with her husband and 4 year old. The baby is so adorable and his big sis is completely enamored. This friend is a natural mother (grew up with several much younger siblings). She's so chill and makes things look easy- she's been laid-back and free spirited her whole life; I've known her since we were 12. The baby was sleeping when we got there and slept most of the visit; she said the past few days have just been feeding, changing, and him sleeping. Like it's easy. Blowouts or needing a Target run for supplies at 4am are no biggie to her. It's such a juxtaposition because everything I read is preparing someone for the most crazy and stressful experience of one's life and everything that could possibly go wrong. My point is, I hope, as a FTM, that I've prepared for the worst but things may actually go really well. I'm more prone to be a worrywort than she is, but hey, maybe she'll be the right person to tell me to chill out and that everything's fine.
FTM here and I prepared for the worse but I have a very calm LO. Our days are full of sleeping, eating, and changing, but no blowouts yet. He is 11 days old today and still as calm as the day he was born! I was a bowl of anxiety, worrying about everything and now I have this super calm baby and I'm over here like what to do with myself!!
Me:
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with PCOS: January 2009
1st D&C: Janaury 2009
Dating: March 18, 2009
Married: June 12, 2010
TTC: January 1, 2011
2nd D&C: June 5, 2011
3rd D&C: August 3, 2011
Dec 2016: BFP (due 8/5/2017)
@DeansGirl14 I hope I'm like your friend with becoming a family of 4. Becoming a family of 3, to DH and I, wasn't as insane as I imagined/planned it to be, but I feel like so many people have told me how CRAZY going to a family of 4 is, so I'm nervous all over again.
We have a big Quality Audit this week at work. My mgr is out on vacation so I'm the back up. I was asked by how many people if I will be the backup for our department if called in by the auditors AND was told "HOLD BABY IN TILL AFTER THE AUDIT." Um noooo you don't tell me how to control this baby or mother nature, so goodbye! Whatever baby does is more important to me than this audit.
FTM here and I prepared for the worse but I have a very calm LO. Our days are full of sleeping, eating, and changing, but no blowouts yet. He is 11 days old today and still as calm as the day he was born! I was a bowl of anxiety, worrying about everything and now I have this super calm baby and I'm over here like what to do with myself!!
Fingers crossed baby stays calm but lots of babies are really chill in the beginning. Just don't count out a crazy one yet. DD was super calm and chill for several weeks and then around a month or so decided to be crazy active, loud and wild.
@aehogan90 +1 to that! DD was very sleepy and easy the first 2 weeks. We'd have to wake her every 3 hours to eat. Now she's getting stronger and stronger (up to 6 lbs from 4 lbs 9 oz!) and is less "easy" since she wants to eat on her own schedule. Just keep in mind things may change, and that's not a bad thing! Still no blowouts though...fingers crossed.
I just puked on myself at work. My boss told me to work from home. Apparently I smell really really bad because our office manager got out the can of Lysol and started spraying it lol.
+1 on the calm baby front. I was 16 when my brother was born and he was calm cool and easy for a few weeks then BOOM! Colic baby from he depths of hell!
Does anyone mind if I start a weekly appointments thread? I don't think we had one last week. I'm due later in the month and could hopefully keep it going into the end of August of beginning in September.
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I have got a gem for y'all! My sister told me that my bump photos make her feel uncomfortable because I am so big and she "fears how I'll feel when the weight doesn't melt off afterwards." I'm pretty sure I know that it's not just going to melt off and that it takes time. I told her that I actually feel more beautiful now than when I'm at my skinny marathon weight. I wish I could have screenshotted her face on our FaceTime call. It was priceless!
She's definitely keeps it interesting. Never a dull moment. I'm kind of excited for when she gets pregnant so that she'll see it's not all rainbows and unicorns!
@tova24, I'm so glad you can rise above her obvious jealousy!! I get so heated whenever anybody comments on another person's weight/body (especially from a sister, grrr)!
@tova24 your sister is a gem! My younger sister has made some odd comments, but they are all things that I would expect from a 22 year old (like being horrified by maternity pants!), but to say that your bump freaks her out is crazy! Maybe once your LO is out, you can tell her that she makes him feel uncomfortable.
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
@tova24 seriously everytime I hear about your sister, I remember you mentioned Higland Park and it just makes more sense and reminds me why we won't raise our kids there...my offer to visit her still stands.
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
We ordered 90+ prints from Shutterfly last month, and never received them. I just remembered the other day, so I checked the tracking and they've gotten lost somewhere. So I called Shutterfly, and they did a re-order with expedited shipping; they said they'll start an investigation and find out where the other order got to. She told me the lost package of prints would be returned to them and they'll destroy the package, but I'm still uneasy about 2 years' worth of family photos just being out there somewhere. Am I being irrational?? None of them are scandalous whatsoever, lol, but I barely put photos on Facebook!
@HappyToBeHere I would try not to worry to much, chances are the wrong people got them and either have every intention of shipping them back and haven't done it yet or they just tossed them.
@tova24 You're a saint for putting up with your sister. She's a real peach.
I actually started packing my hospital bag with 4 weeks at most to go until delivery. I'm a huge procrastinator so this is a big deal for me. Last time I packed it after my water had broken because I had a c-section scheduled 6 days later and assumed I wouldn't go into labor before then. There are things that I probably won't be able to pack until closer to the end, but at least I have made progress. If only I could cross all of the other things off the list that need to get done over the next few weeks. I don't feel like I had much of a nesting instinct with my other 2, but this time I'm really trying to get everything organized, cleaned and settled before it's too late.
Happy Wednesday. One week to go for me. I'm feeling less nervous about the C-section, but am stunned at how much DH and I still have to do. Still need to set up baby swing, find the bassinet portion of pack and play, dig out baby booties/ mits, was baby clothes, find my extra pump parts, find the extra bottles, wash and sterilize everything.
FWIW, I am currently sitting on the couch watching TV because moving is tough right now and I am tired. I only feel mildly guilty. Glad DH starts paternity leave tomorrow so we can get stuff done. I see lots of bin digging in the next three days. At least I have 3 bottles washed and sterilized and two outfits ready to go.The crib, pack n play and co-sleeper are all set up as well.
@HappyToBeHere Same feelings, girl. My kids are so chill and actually love being home since we're on the go so much, but I, of course, feel down and guilty that I'm "ruining their summer" by being pregnant and unable to do as much.
Being pregnant has probably saved us a ton of money this summer, actually. We stay home much more than we would have.
My biggest thing is that I really want to go see my parents, but at 36 weeks along, it's not going to happen. I'm due Aug. 20th, and the kids start school on Aug. 28th, so unless baby comes early and I can travel with new baby (about a 3-4 hour car ride) on the weekend that he was actually due, it won't happen.
It's dumb. We're all fine. My kids are still doing MUCH more than some others...I just had these grand illusions of feeling great right up until my due date, and I don't.
I am fairly certain baby has turned again. NOOOO. He was transverse up until my last appointment, where he was head down. He's definitely not in the same position he was the other day. Feels transverse again. Hoping he turns before my 38 week appointment next week.
Today's random- the Chicago news outlets have capitalized on a story about an apparent Cubs World Series baby boom. There's a spike in births going on right now. Now, we're White Sox fans, and had planned to TTC in fall of 2016, so I have an irrational annoyance that anyone may think our kid is a Cubs celebration baby. Nope, just coincidence. One of the doctors quoted in the article refused to validate that any boom was Cubs-related, saying there's often an increase in babies born in July-August anyway (Oct-Nov is when the weather really gets shitty here so guess what people do for fun, wink wink).
@DeansGirl14 I'm from Cleveland and they just had a story about a little Baby Boom among the Indians players themselves - 6 babies this summer on the team. Everyone was thinking they celebrated the playoff wins and were consoled after the World Series a certain way lol, but good to know about the stats for July-Aug! I'm an Aug baby too.
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I have an OB appointment this week, and I think I'll mention it then as well, just wanted to vent here. I've mentioned it to DH and he has done SO MUCH to help, but that makes me feel even more useless!
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
This friend is a natural mother (grew up with several much younger siblings). She's so chill and makes things look easy- she's been laid-back and free spirited her whole life; I've known her since we were 12. The baby was sleeping when we got there and slept most of the visit; she said the past few days have just been feeding, changing, and him sleeping. Like it's easy. Blowouts or needing a Target run for supplies at 4am are no biggie to her. It's such a juxtaposition because everything I read is preparing someone for the most crazy and stressful experience of one's life and everything that could possibly go wrong.
My point is, I hope, as a FTM, that I've prepared for the worst but things may actually go really well. I'm more prone to be a worrywort than she is, but hey, maybe she'll be the right person to tell me to chill out and that everything's fine.
Diagnosed with PCOS: January 2009
1st D&C: Janaury 2009
Dating: March 18, 2009
Married: June 12, 2010
TTC: January 1, 2011
2nd D&C: June 5, 2011
3rd D&C: August 3, 2011
Dec 2016: BFP (due 8/5/2017)
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
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Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
DD#1: 5/29/12
DD#2: 1/14/15
Baby #3 on the way due 8/19/17
Wow....just wow. Once again, just shows how awesome you are, and how she's in for such a rude awakening someday if and when she has a baby!
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
@smallbutmighty77 oh Highland Park... beautiful but riddled with first world problems. I definitely could not raise Landon there. Maybe Evanston!
I actually started packing my hospital bag with 4 weeks at most to go until delivery. I'm a huge procrastinator so this is a big deal for me. Last time I packed it after my water had broken because I had a c-section scheduled 6 days later and assumed I wouldn't go into labor before then. There are things that I probably won't be able to pack until closer to the end, but at least I have made progress. If only I could cross all of the other things off the list that need to get done over the next few weeks. I don't feel like I had much of a nesting instinct with my other 2, but this time I'm really trying to get everything organized, cleaned and settled before it's too late.
FWIW, I am currently sitting on the couch watching TV because moving is tough right now and I am tired. I only feel mildly guilty. Glad DH starts paternity leave tomorrow so we can get stuff done. I see lots of bin digging in the next three days. At least I have 3 bottles washed and sterilized and two outfits ready to go.The crib, pack n play and co-sleeper are all set up as well.
Being pregnant has probably saved us a ton of money this summer, actually. We stay home much more than we would have.
My biggest thing is that I really want to go see my parents, but at 36 weeks along, it's not going to happen. I'm due Aug. 20th, and the kids start school on Aug. 28th, so unless baby comes early and I can travel with new baby (about a 3-4 hour car ride) on the weekend that he was actually due, it won't happen.
It's dumb. We're all fine. My kids are still doing MUCH more than some others...I just had these grand illusions of feeling great right up until my due date, and I don't.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
Now, we're White Sox fans, and had planned to TTC in fall of 2016, so I have an irrational annoyance that anyone may think our kid is a Cubs celebration baby. Nope, just coincidence.
One of the doctors quoted in the article refused to validate that any boom was Cubs-related, saying there's often an increase in babies born in July-August anyway (Oct-Nov is when the weather really gets shitty here so guess what people do for fun, wink wink).