DH and I bought tickets to Arcade Fire for this October. We've been longing to go since we missed their last tour. Question, I'll be in my early third trimester. Is it safe to go in terms of noise? Have any of you been to concerts pregnant?
@sjis From everything I've heard, the amniotic fluid muffles sounds from the outside so it should be okay if you're not standing right in front of a speaker.
That's just what I've read on other BMBs when this has been asked, I'm a FTM and haven't been to a concernt pregnant though!
@sjis DO NOT MISS ARCADE FIRE!!!!! They are literally the best band I have ever seen live and I go to shows allllllll the time. Ugh. Amazing. Enjoy! Baby will be just fine in there
It helps if you're putting baby to bed and the sun's still out and shining in through the window, or if the sun rises early in the morning. Just helps to keep baby settled. Just depends, some babies don't like the dark, my son doesn't.
@ktcakes87 not at first. Babies sleep all day, after all. Light or dark doesn't bother them. But as they get older, darkness will help some kids. Some don't care. Now keeping it dimmer at night at least will help them eventually learn day from night and sleep better at night. Eventually(once baby regains birth weight) you'll start walking baby up from naps during the day and letting them sleep as long as they want to at night, keeping it dim and quiet when they do get up so you can hopefully put them back to sleep sooner.
Married May 2014 DD born August 2016 Baby #2 due December 2017
If the baby is going to be sleeping in a bassinet next to my bed for the first few months, do I also need a "diaper changing station" in my room as well?? I'm trying to figure out what the night time routine will be like, and I really don't want to have excess stuff all around the house that I don't need/have room for. What setups and sleeping arrangements have worked for you?
@ktcakes87 we have never done black out curtains with the twins... we do close shades or thin curtains but they do pretty well. I also think its some of what you get them used to. @kater622 we found it helpful to have a "changing station" in our room, but that can be the top of your dresser, you don't need a specific piece of furniture. or if you have a PNP as your bassinet many of them come with a changing station also
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@ktcakes87 I found DS fared better with a darker room after about 4 months.
@rainbowdashh I have no idea haha I never did! I would NOW but he's 18 months old lol
@kater622 we didn't, I just had a stash of diapers, wipes and cream next to the bassinet and changed him on our bed. BUT we did have a couple accidents where the whole bed had to be changed... but they were few and far between.
I've had people come up with different answers to thiS... will I have had 3 babies in 3 years or 4 years? When people ask how old my oldest child is, I say, "he'll be 3 in August." And twice the person I was speaking to said, "oh! 3 babies in 3 years!" But I kind of think it's in 4 years... do you count the length of the first pregnancy? I got pregnant the first time in November 2013. Doesn't that make 3 babies in 4 years? Or is it from the time the first baby was born? I'm so confused!
Wait. Why on earth would you wake a baby from a nap once they regain birth weight?
So they will sleep longer at night rather than a long time during the day. Especially a breastfed baby, only 2-3 hours for a nap during the day. At night, as long as they want.
@cait5413 I'm with @rainbowdashh - in my experience, that's not how napping works. More often than not with newborns the better they nap during the day, the better they sleep at night. Unless your baby has a medical condition and a doctor has advised waking for frequent feedings, I wouldn't wake them.
The best and most freeing advice I was given as a new mom was to never wake a sleeping baby.
There are several sleep training methods that argue either way. Every baby is different and I'm excited/anxious to see how my new LO compares to his brother in terms of sleep!
@cait5413 2-3 hours total for naps during the day? I'm not trying to be rude, but hell no I never woke my breastfed babies up from a nap. They were at birth weight at 1 week old. I can't even imagine.
Agree with @rainbowdashh. Sleep begets sleep. Let them be. I never woke my babes from naps and they both slept through the night by 3 months.
As for dark and quiet: it's actually better not to make it so dark and quiet. A baby will get used to sleeping in the lighter environment and with normal noise going on around them and will sleep better for you later. I'm not saying leave the lights on and the tv blasting, but you can be washing dishes and leave the blinds open and the baby will sleep fine. It may also help their circadian rhythms adjust to nighttime being the dark and quiet time for sleeping.
i don't know what the recommendation is for concerts, but I saw Bruno Mars at 30 someodd weeks pregnant. My son is okay.
@cait5413 2-3 hours total for naps during the day? I'm not trying to be rude, but hell no I never woke my breastfed babies up from a nap. They were at birth weight at 1 week old. I can't even imagine.
2-3 hours per nap. If my daughter tried to sleep for more than 3 hours in a row during the day, I woke her up. I wanted her eating as much as possible during the day so she would sleep as much as possible at night as soon as possible.
Married May 2014 DD born August 2016 Baby #2 due December 2017
I agree with @cait5413. I never let my son take a nap longer than 3 hours during the day. He was also breast fed and I wanted him to eat a lot during the day so he wouldn't need to eat as much at night. He slept through the night by 3 months as well and before that was only waking once in an 8 hour stretch from about one month.
@rainbowdashh I'm not sure either - DS slept better at night when he took longer naps during the day. For awhile he took 4 hour naps and still slept 12 hours at night! I guess it will depend on the baby!
It didn't happen every day, certainly, but I made sure she was eating every 2-3 hours during the day, even if she would have slept longer. Luckily, DD did fine and gained weight well breastfeeding, but I had a friend whose supply did not come in, and her baby slept A LOT and ended up back in the hospital for failure to thrive. (she is now healthy and happy and super smart and did great on formula) So, after that, I dropped the "never wake a sleeping baby" idea. This is less of a concern the older baby gets, but at first I was really careful about her eating enough. When feeding from bottles, it's easy to see how much baby gets. When breastfeeding, it's not, and I was a little paranoid. And I wanted to sleep at night!
Married May 2014 DD born August 2016 Baby #2 due December 2017
@kater622 we're not going to have a changing table or area. I highly doubt I'd be able to manage the twins on one, so I'm doing something like this instead. It's on wheels, so very mobile as well! I can only hope to be this organized, and the cart is from IKEA.
i'm finding myself in "both camps" for a lot of your answers here. for me it comes down to what age baby we're discussing - for the newborn stage, first three-ish months at least, your baby should sleep anywhere, and it is good to have lots of light and noise around them and not tiptoe around all the time. sleep begets sleep, never wake a sleeping baby, all that jazz is definitely right.
around 4 months your baby *should* (hah, hah) start to consolidate his/her sleep patterns into prolonged nighttime sleep and distinct napping patterns during the day, generally 3 or so naps from 4-6 mo. then 2 naps til 12-15 mo, then one nap. at this point, some babies really react better to having a darkened room and more care for the sleep environment. the light blocking panels for the windows and the sound machine are some of our best purchases in the long run. i also agree that once you hit 4 months up, you don't want your child taking any single nap that is longer than three hours during the day as it affects the amount of consolidated night sleep.
as we all know, some babies follow the clockwork recommendations and some, well, don't. you'll figure out what quirks your baby has as you go along and i wish all of you many hours of rest and a baby that STTN as early as possible!
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Good points, @anewadventure. For us, the 4 month sleep regression was very real. We also stopped swaddling at that point and started to be more diligent about putting baby down "drowsy but awake" instead of rocking her or feeding her all the way to sleep. It sucked anyway, so we tried to get her to adjust to all of the sleep stuff at once.
Married May 2014 DD born August 2016 Baby #2 due December 2017
How often will I be taking a newborn (e.g. less than 3/4 months old) outside in a stroller during the bitter cold winter months? I'm thinking that a bassinet attachment on a stroller might not even get any use because it'll be too cold to take long walks from December through March.
@blueskies17 we had a surprisingly mild winter when DS was born (in January) and we took him for walks fairly regularly. That being said, we used the carseat attachment, not a bassinet. You can always bundle them up!
@blueskies17 We also live in a mild-winter climate and we used the carseat that clicked in to the stroller, but I will say we used her carseat in the stroller for a long time, until she could sit up pretty well--maybe even til she was 6 months old? It depends on the stroller you have and how flat it will lay how old they need to be to sit in it. If you have a baby carrier, though, you could certainly get by with babywearing if you want.
ETA: also consider if you might use it inside (walking a mall, at a restaurant, etc.). If you go out to eat, you can't sit a brand-new baby in a high chair (though you can flip over most high chairs and set a carseat in it or use a sling). You might use a bassinet stroller for that purpose.
Married May 2014 DD born August 2016 Baby #2 due December 2017
@blueskies17 I went for a lot of walks with LOs soon after leaving the hospital. Great for some vitamin D intake, especially if they have any level of juandice. I also wasn't allowed to drive for 2 weeks after DS, so I'd get stir crazy sitting at home, and it helped me "bounce back". I think I just used the stroller part of a travel system, the seat leaned back with receiving blankets rolled up on the sides.
We live in Iowa so very cold I the winter, I did use my stroller during that time when DD was a baby because it was nice to use at the mall or Target if my mom was with me
@kvacmak yes a car seat attachment should suffice, since we won't be able to walk outside for long periods of time! Trying to decide whether a bassinet attachment will be absolutely necessary.
@cait5413@jlemons-2 it would be great to take walks at the mall, but I live in the city and I doubt that I'll drive out to go to the mall very often. Sucks because that would be perfect during the winter.
@KathrynJ088 I hope this winter won't be so bitterly cold so that I can get out there and take some walks with the baby!
The stroller that is at the top of my list comes with a bassinet, but I want to open my options for other possibilities. There is an overwhelming number of choices out there!!
I am actually a little worried about a December baby. I think it will be really hard for me to be stuck in the house the whole time on top of all the holiday stuff.
@jlemons-2 I totally am right there with you. I love Christmastime and depending on when LO arrives, the thought of missing out on that or having it pass by in a sleep-deprived blur where I don't get to see the whole family because they'll want to bring their germy kids makes me a little sad. I've also had lots of well-meaning (?) people remind me that PPD risk is higher in the winter... gee thanks.
@jlemons-2 I'm a bit worried for after Christmas, when the holiday glow and new baby glow fades, and it's still dark all the damn time. I already get some SAD from Jan-Mar.... so I gotta make sure I make time for me. Working out, baking, going for walks even when it's super cold to get whatever sun I can. I think it's good you're thinking about it now (better than getting thrown later!) and have time to come up with some strategies.
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I feel like the odd one out. I love having babies in the fall/winter because I can wear baggy, comfy clothes and I don't feel guilty for staying home. I'd hate to have a baby in the spring/summer and have to wear shorts and feel obligated to go for walks all the time haha
@alyssaleighw I've never had a baby so I don't have any experience to back me up, but I think I agree! Also I'm miserable enough here without AC now, I can't imagine how it would be in the third trimester. I also don't live somewhere where there's snow on the ground all winter though, so bundled up walks could happen.
I'm a little worried about being due boxing day. Would hate to think I will miss out on my DS's Christmas if I went into labour Christmas day. Obviously excited about new baby, but the timing could have been better if I'm honest haha.
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That's just what I've read on other BMBs when this has been asked, I'm a FTM and haven't been to a concernt pregnant though!
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@kater622 we found it helpful to have a "changing station" in our room, but that can be the top of your dresser, you don't need a specific piece of furniture. or if you have a PNP as your bassinet many of them come with a changing station also
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@rainbowdashh I have no idea haha I never did! I would NOW but he's 18 months old lol
@kater622 we didn't, I just had a stash of diapers, wipes and cream next to the bassinet and changed him on our bed. BUT we did have a couple accidents where the whole bed had to be changed... but they were few and far between.
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@kater622 We just got a changing mat--you could use the one in your diaper bag or like this, that would go in any bag: https://www.buybuybaby.com/store/product/skip-hop-reg-pronto-changing-station-in-grey-chevron/1041506080?skuId=41506080&mcid=PS_googlepla_nonbrand_travel_online&product_id=41506080&product_channel=online&adtype=pla&adpos=1o1&creative=87521921100&device=c&matchtype=&network=g&gclid=Cj0KEQjwwLHLBRDEq9DQxK2I_p8BEiQA3UDVDtQxiC6bvH4SZPN5qEu8aK9qnuizCNlTV83JJ6K6DM8aAgPl8P8HAQ --and stocked a basket with diapers, wipes, hand sanitizer, and the mat. We changed DD directly in the PnP or on top of our bed. During the day, I did use the changing pad on top of her dresser in her room.
@lestex I think most people count from when baby is born.
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
The best and most freeing advice I was given as a new mom was to never wake a sleeping baby.
There are several sleep training methods that argue either way. Every baby is different and I'm
excited/anxious to see how my new LO compares to his brother in terms of sleep!
As for dark and quiet: it's actually better not to make it so dark and quiet. A baby will get used to sleeping in the lighter environment and with normal noise going on around them and will sleep better for you later. I'm not saying leave the lights on and the tv blasting, but you can be washing dishes and leave the blinds open and the baby will sleep fine. It may also help their circadian rhythms adjust to nighttime being the dark and quiet time for sleeping.
i don't know what the recommendation is for concerts, but I saw Bruno Mars at 30 someodd weeks pregnant. My son is okay.
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
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Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
around 4 months your baby *should* (hah, hah) start to consolidate his/her sleep patterns into prolonged nighttime sleep and distinct napping patterns during the day, generally 3 or so naps from 4-6 mo. then 2 naps til 12-15 mo, then one nap. at this point, some babies really react better to having a darkened room and more care for the sleep environment. the light blocking panels for the windows and the sound machine are some of our best purchases in the long run. i also agree that once you hit 4 months up, you don't want your child taking any single nap that is longer than three hours during the day as it affects the amount of consolidated night sleep.
as we all know, some babies follow the clockwork recommendations and some, well, don't. you'll figure out what quirks your baby has as you go along and i wish all of you many hours of rest and a baby that STTN as early as possible!
Met: September 2005 Married: October 2008 DS: 09/2014
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
we had a surprisingly mild winter when DS was born (in January) and we took him for walks fairly regularly. That being said, we used the carseat attachment, not a bassinet. You can always bundle them up!
ETA: also consider if you might use it inside (walking a mall, at a restaurant, etc.). If you go out to eat, you can't sit a brand-new baby in a high chair (though you can flip over most high chairs and set a carseat in it or use a sling). You might use a bassinet stroller for that purpose.
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
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June 2016 - HSG clear
*TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16
BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17
DS - 12/9/17
TTC #2 December 2018
BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19
DD - 11/1/19
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DD - 12/28/17
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