So that post by the woman who's never had an orgasm made me think of this...
I started masturbating waaaaay before I even knew what masturbating was (or what an orgasm was, or had any of the birds & bees talk). I just knew it felt good. Looking back now I think it's super weird how early it was and I don't think I've ever admitted this to anyone.
^^ yep. same. I remember discovering the playboy channel on our family's old ass tv where sometimes it would come in fuzz-free. I was probably 10? And no lie, my first instinct was to touch myself. I mean, how did I know to do that? It's super weird to think about.
Me: 33 DH: 34 Married: Oct 2015 TTC #1: Sept 2016 BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16 BFP: 3/24/17 DD1 born 12/2/17 TTC #2: July 2018 BFP: 8/26/18 DD2 born 5/16/19
@MJDsquared@peachy13 I remember getting all excited when my mom would watch young and the restless (i was supposed to be napping) and then afterwards i would go hump things and touch myself. I guess it's instinct? Kind of creepy if you think about it. When people talk about their "sexual awakenings" in their teen years, I always get quiet because I don't want to admit I was way too young, I'm talking like 5 or 6.
@peachy13@Chelk3 Oh my god I'm so glad it's not just me! I think I was probably about five too. I have no idea what spurred it, but I do remember certain sex scenes in movies when I was younger (Titanic for one, and another movie that I can still remember the scene but have no idea what the movie was or who was in it).
@MJDsquared Definitely not just you! I was suuuper young and I think I accidentally first discovered the "sensation" while straddling a couch or something, then got curious. I remember being freaked out, like "what just happened?" And I've never told anyone, either.
Another confession... I regret a couple of my tattoos. 2/3 of them don't mean anything, and they were spontaneous decisions at the time, where I literally went to a tattoo shop, pointed something out in the books, shrugged, and then proceeded to get permanent ink on my skin. I pretty much did it because it felt cool. Luckily, the tattoos I have are all hide-able/fairly small, and they came out nice. I'm not embarrassed or anything by them, but sometimes I look at them and am like, why tf did I even get this?
Me: 33 DH: 34 Married: Oct 2015 TTC #1: Sept 2016 BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16 BFP: 3/24/17 DD1 born 12/2/17 TTC #2: July 2018 BFP: 8/26/18 DD2 born 5/16/19
@peachy13 DH has a bunch of tattoos (he's sworn off of them for now because $$$ for baby, but I'm sure he'll get more eventually) and he asked me all the time if I'd ever get one. I was sort of on the fence, but when my dad passed away I finally felt that one I'd thought about in the past would now be meaningful (even my mom got one and she's adamantly opposed to tattoos). He's asked if I'll get another, but thinking about possibly having thoughts like yours in the future is what's keeping me from it. I just can't think of any right now that are meaningful and will still for sure be meaningful down the road.
Just posting to say hiiii January lurkers! Someone on their FFFC board (which I was lurking, duh) said everyone should come read this, the irregular period thread, and the never had an orgasm one. I get that the last two are entertaining but shit now I feel like a zoo animal for sharing one of my deep dark secrets! Lol.
It's actually really normal for children of kindergarten age to discover their sexuality (up until that point they don't really realise the difference between boys and girls) and that some things feel good. I remember that I loved playing doctor
@MJDsquared I appreciate you (and others) sharing. Mine was similarly early and I've always felt like a bit of a weirdo because of it. But I have run across so much parenting advice about how to handle kids rubbing themselves early so I know it's not actually that abnormal. At a young age it can be more about comfort and soothing, as you see it more at naptime and bedtime. My goal is for my kids to not to feel like it's super shameful, but like going to the bathroom or changing clothes it is something done in private. Sex positive and all that... What I do want to limit is them seeing really graphic sex scenes at a young age because well, I think the objectification of women (ETA and men too to a lesser extent) and the hyper-unreality of porn (or even soft-core stuff in movies) will do much worse things to their sexual development than early self-exploration.
Me: 36 | DH 35, Married 2007
TTC #1 June 2015 April 2016 - AMH, FSH, Progesterone normal June 2016 - HSG clear *TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16 BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17 DS - 12/9/17 TTC #2 December 2018 BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19 DD - 11/1/19 My Chart
Whelp, I'm joining the club because I was caught laying down kissing a boy at 5 and probably around 6 or 7 discovered Cinemax. It made me curious and I totally masturbated. I don't recall having an orgasm at that time though.
I just pulled my first "pregnancy card". My aunt came to town for a large street fair my city has each year. I usually avoid it because it's hot and crowded and basically shuts down our town for the week, but she asked if I'd come walk around a bit. I did for about an hour and then said that my back was hurting and headed home. My back is fine. It's just 87 degrees, humid, and sunny here and none of my shorts fit so I was wearing a dress and having some thigh rub issues. Now I'm home watching Netflix and will go pick them up later. No shame.
@MJDsquared you're not alone. I remember having those sensations pretty early on, too!
@whiska I think I somehow knew I shouldn't be caught doing it, like I only did it in my room and if I heard someone coming I'd stop...even though I didn't know what I was doing. Haha. But I agree with you. I have no idea why I was allowed to watch those movies, but I'm guessing I watched them at my father's house and he's not really a shining example of parenting. I'm going to try harder to keep the age-inappropriate movies away. I don't want my kids to feel shame either, and I think that's an advantage of being in the situation where you started young because it'll probably freak you out less than if you discovered your sexuality at like 13 and then walk in on your 5 y/o doing it. And I'm so happy I confessed this so I can feel like less of a weirdo now lol. I'm not sure if I ever even told DH about this.
@jlemons-2 and @MJDsquared January lurker here (although I've said hi on a few posts, since I am due January 3rd... likely to be December) and y'all definitely are NOT boring! Rooting for happy and healthy nine months and thinking about you especially @jlemons-2.
@MJDsquared Guilty The juicy subjects and "get that subtext outta here" candidness are appreciated. I agree with @EmilyLove25 Your group is NOT boring.
This is cracking me up because I have a vague recollection of getting in trouble for this during nap time at preschool. Doesn't it seem strange that our bodies are programmed and capable of feeling those sensations so long before puberty? You'd think it would emerge/develop around the same time as all the rest of the fun reproductive puberty stuff. Ha.
FFFC: Whenever I'm eating something my kids want I tell them it's spicy. They immediately don't want it or ask for it again. And I'm finally able to enjoy my treat in peace. It works every time. Then if I give them the same thing later and they ask if it's spicy (because they remember I said it was before), I just tell them it came from a different bag/box that isn't spicy. They just shrug, say ok, and proceed to eat without question..... My kids are so gullible. I got the idea from a time I was actually eating something spicy (Doritos Salsa Verde flavor) and they wouldn't stop harassing me for a bite. Finally I said "fine, you want to try, go ahead, but I'm warning you that it's spicy" I gave them each a small piece and sure enough they hated it.
The funny thing is, IDK if anyone here is a mom to boys, but some little boys play with themselves at a very young age, like 3. I didn't know what to do besides move his hand and say it's not nice to do that.
The funny thing is, IDK if anyone here is a mom to boys, but some little boys play with themselves at a very young age, like 3. I didn't know what to do besides move his hand and say it's not nice to do that.
Yes. And my son for sure knows the difference between girls and boys. He's 3.
I'm so freaking glad to hear I wasn't the only sexual child. I've always been to afraid to talk about it with anyone for fear of judgements. I thought I was the only one. I think i was also only about 5 or 6... I grew up in a strict religious household (mormon) that shamed any type of sexuality. It was "wrong" and "dirty" to engage in anything sexual outside of marriage between a man and woman, including self pleasure. I'm Pagan and have been for some time now, and I believe (as do many other pagans) that there's nothing wrong with self pleasure, and sex between consenting adults is healthy and a perfectly normal part of life.
I'm thinking about taking a weekend vacation to my favorite spa in wine country and not bringing anyone else. Including my husband. All I want to do is sleep, read books, eat cheese, and float in their giant pool all day. Although, that's pretty much all I want to do these days lol.
@clovelyone DS has played with himself since he was an infant... I can't tell you the number of times I've had to request he not put a toy on his penis while I'm changing his diaper.
*TW*
TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@MJDsquared I remember my sister (7 years older than me) catching me a few times and acting like it was hella wrong and I needed to stop being such a freak. So same reaction - you learn to hide and it and totally freeze when anyone is coming or might turn on a light
For the movies - I'm cool with stuff like Dirty Dancing or what you might find in some PG-13 movies. It's about the romance and less the T&A. But I saw a lot of raw R-rated scenes way too early and would like to keep that away from them until 14 or 15. My mom was pretty hands off, which was mostly great. It had a lot of perks but looking back there's just a few things I would change.
Me: 36 | DH 35, Married 2007
TTC #1 June 2015 April 2016 - AMH, FSH, Progesterone normal June 2016 - HSG clear *TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16 BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17 DS - 12/9/17 TTC #2 December 2018 BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19 DD - 11/1/19 My Chart
@clovelyone DS has played with himself since he was an infant... I can't tell you the number of times I've had to request he not put a toy on his penis while I'm changing his diaper.
Mine too. We just had to have a conversation with him about not it the other day because he whipped it out at my inlaws and screamed "im pulling my penis"... that was fun lol
@NME44 I totally want my kids to know their body parts, but I was totally caught off guard that he (he's not my son, but my ex's) would play with/rub it.
I'm thinking about taking a weekend vacation to my favorite spa in wine country and not bringing anyone else. Including my husband. All I want to do is sleep, read books, eat cheese, and float in their giant pool all day. Although, that's pretty much all I want to do these days lol.
@tamaraaaa Gurl, Indian Springs in Calistoga! It's actual heaven on earth. Super old school 60's hippy spa retreat that they've recently added to. It's a bunch of cottages and lodges and they have an Olympic size swimming pool with water from the hot springs. They also have a regular size pool with plain ole water. They just added a restaurant a couple years ago and the food there is AMAZING. It's seriously the best - we go there all the time. You should have your next girls weekend there!
DS is obsessed with his penis at 18 months old. Any time it's not covered by a diaper and pants his hands are on it. It's not a masturbation type thing just like soooo curious and fascinated with it lol. It gets really frustrating during poopy diaper changes!!
@breezybee I love Calistoga! My family would do trips there almost every summer. My earliest memories of a little kid are playing in the Baja pools at the spas.
@tamaraaaa Gurl, Indian Springs in Calistoga! It's actual heaven on earth. Super old school 60's hippy spa retreat that they've recently added to. It's a bunch of cottages and lodges and they have an Olympic size swimming pool with water from the hot springs. They also have a regular size pool with plain ole water. They just added a restaurant a couple years ago and the food there is AMAZING. It's seriously the best - we go there all the time. You should have your next girls weekend there!
I'm sending to the group now. We have our next Napa trip with my BMB girls coming up in two months!
FFSC: I dont post here often because I feel like you ladies already have your groups and cliques... Also, toddlers are hard work, and they don't mix with a laptop (TB app sucks. I hate it with a passion), so once she's in bed, the last thing I want to do is get on the computer.
@tamaraaaa and @breezybee Indian Springs was my childhood!! Girl Scout camp and trips there numerous times a year!! Haven't been since I was about 12/13 though.
Re: FFFC 7/20
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I started masturbating waaaaay before I even knew what masturbating was (or what an orgasm was, or had any of the birds & bees talk). I just knew it felt good. Looking back now I think it's super weird how early it was and I don't think I've ever admitted this to anyone.
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
TTC #1 since 12/2015
BFP 4/4/17, EDD 12/4/17
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
your avatar is so innocent.
Met: September 2005 Married: October 2008 DS: 09/2014
April 2016 - AMH, FSH, Progesterone normal
June 2016 - HSG clear
*TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16
BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17
DS - 12/9/17
TTC #2 December 2018
BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19
DD - 11/1/19
My Chart
@MJDsquared you're not alone. I remember having those sensations pretty early on, too!
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
The juicy subjects and "get that subtext outta here" candidness are appreciated. I agree with @EmilyLove25 Your group is NOT boring.
Then if I give them the same thing later and they ask if it's spicy (because they remember I said it was before), I just tell them it came from a different bag/box that isn't spicy. They just shrug, say ok, and proceed to eat without question..... My kids are so gullible.
I got the idea from a time I was actually eating something spicy (Doritos Salsa Verde flavor) and they wouldn't stop harassing me for a bite. Finally I said "fine, you want to try, go ahead, but I'm warning you that it's spicy" I gave them each a small piece and sure enough they hated it.
Eta: spelling
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
I grew up in a strict religious household (mormon) that shamed any type of sexuality. It was "wrong" and "dirty" to engage in anything sexual outside of marriage between a man and woman, including self pleasure.
I'm Pagan and have been for some time now, and I believe (as do many other pagans) that there's nothing wrong with self pleasure, and sex between consenting adults is healthy and a perfectly normal part of life.
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
For the movies - I'm cool with stuff like Dirty Dancing or what you might find in some PG-13 movies. It's about the romance and less the T&A. But I saw a lot of raw R-rated scenes way too early and would like to keep that away from them until 14 or 15. My mom was pretty hands off, which was mostly great. It had a lot of perks but looking back there's just a few things I would change.
April 2016 - AMH, FSH, Progesterone normal
June 2016 - HSG clear
*TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16
BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17
DS - 12/9/17
TTC #2 December 2018
BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19
DD - 11/1/19
My Chart
I read other months boards too. You ladies are not boring
DX Diminished Ovarian Reserve, Factor V Leiden Mutation, Secondary Infertility
MFI (SA #1Count 11mill, Motility: 18%, Morphology: 1%)
AMH .328 | FSH 13.2
@Marley629 @wabash15 LMBO!
If you find a good spot, feel free to share.
You should have your next girls weekend there!
Do you live in CA?
@tamaraaaa and @breezybee Indian Springs was my childhood!! Girl Scout camp and trips there numerous times a year!! Haven't been since I was about 12/13 though.