@mdfarmchick overall, I think the transition from 1-2 was way easier than 0-1 for a lot of reasons, but primarily because you know what's coming for the most part, and you know each phase has an end point (so "this too shall pass" makes it a lot more manageable when night sleep becomes sparse).
DH and I did a lot of preparation with DD in the form of talking about how excited we are to give her a sibling and to see her get to be a big sister. We talked about how blessed we were that God saw how much we loved each other He had someone else that would be a perfect fit for our family to love and care for as one of our own. All of those discussions helped a lot when it came to the first 6-8 weeks that can bring some challenging moments. I also bought some big sister books that we worked into the reading rotation.
The hardest part for me personally was nursing DS while DD kept needing my attention. I felt horrible and wished desperately for a clone. Those times were short lived and DD had a lot of opportunities to "help" by doing tummy time with DS or bringing him a blanket or his stuffed animal. Once DS was more mobile, it was a game changer. They could "chase" each other around and interact on a different level. I've appreciated that DH and I are "man to man" defense right now, and I'm a little apprehensive about shifting to zone...
How far along are you? Not sure yet, but assuming 4-5 weeks
How old are your other kids? 2.5
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? Nothing as of now
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : My daughter will have a forever friend
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GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? Other than my husband I have told my best friend, my sister, and my December group from when my daughter was born. They are all excited.
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? I'm just struggling to deal with the fatigue. It's so much harder this time around. No more lounging and napping in the evenings and weekends while DH waits on me hand and foot. Sigh.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : I really look forward to seeing how DS interacts with his little brother or sister.
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GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? People have been excited, but not nearly as excited as when we announced that we were pregnant with our first. Honestly, between our parents, best friends and midwife, our midwife showed the most excitement.
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now?: DD will need to adjust to no longer being an only child and I know that is going to be a big transition for her
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : It warms my heart to think of DD as a big sister. I know she will love her new role. She's very independent and happiest when she's helping or contributing somehow so I'm thinking she will really flourish when the new baby is here
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/ I want more sleep but DD no longer naps
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? We will be waiting at least until after my first appt when we hear the HB to tell very close friends and family. The full 12 weeks for everyone else.
How far along are you? 6 weeks and some change... exact date coming in two weeks How old are your other kids? 11 months (for another week...) Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? Like @mamaloba816 I am just sooo exhausted. The fatigue is kicking my butt and I feel like DS is getting the short end of the stick. I'm trying really hard to pull it together but I just want to sleep. Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : I am really excited to see DS as a big brother. He loves other kids and it's going to be so special to see him with a sibling. Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? We just told our families last night. They were definitely excited... some more surprised than others. I told my best friends and they are all so excited!!!
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now?2 kids feels like a lot of kids to me, 3 kids seems like a thousand kids
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : My 6 year old was propping her leg up on the baby's head today in the car. Idfk what I am doing.
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GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? My friends are excited, my older kid is looking forward to having another baby to beat up. I haven't really told my family yet.
Spontaneous pregnancy #1 DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
732973 Clomid Cycles
2 IUIs
3 Fresh IVFs= 1 Ectopic treated with MTX Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016 Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3 Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
How old are your other kids? 19 month old daughter
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? HOW THE HECK DO YOU HANDLE TWO KIDS?
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : Although... I always wanted more kids.... (Yay confused pregnancy hormone brain!)
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/ My toddler is SO clingy right now. Can she somehow know what's going to happen?
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? We've only told one person so far, but we plan to announce it to my family this weekend. We invited them to join us for dinner - and they said they would, unless something better came up. I made a 'big sister' shirt for my daughter to wear.
5 weeks today How old are your other kids? 23 months Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? My DS has been sleeping through the night for close to a year now. He goes to sleep at 8 and wakes up at 8:30. Ever since I got my bpf last week, he's been terrible!!!!! Refusing to sleep in his own bed, and doesn't give up screaming if I try the cry it out method (which always worked for us) its been a week now, and it's only getting worse! Anyone with the same problem? Anything helped? Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : I miss the new born stage! Can't wait for this one! Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/ Still not having too many pregnancy symptoms...other then a missed period and peeing frequently, I haven't felt any different! I know I should count my blessings, but it's a bit nerve wracking
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? nothing much thinking its time to start putting my daughter in her own room at night she's slept through the night since 3 months old. I just am more comfortable with her next to us and her room is kind of far from our room but by the time the baby comes we will def want her in her own room.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : Im super excited that my DD with be a big sister!
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/ Im super antsy for an ultrasound but ours isn't until august 5th. The first trimester makes me so nervous
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? Only my parents, my brother and my two close friends know and they are all excited especially my parents! DH isn't telling his family until after the first ultrasound unless we visit them before that then he might tell them in person.
How far along are you? 5 wks and a few days How old are your other kids? 2 and 4.5 Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? My only major concern is that I'll likely have to have another c section. I'm worried about my recovery since my oldest has cerebral palsy and can't walk. It was a hard enough recovery last time and now she's going to be 3 years older and a lot heavier!
Also, I'm a little worried about how my youngest will respond to not being the baby anymore. Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : I love seeing how close my girls are and how well they get along with each other. I'm hopeful that this new baby will form that same bond with his/ her sisters!
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GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? We've only told my mom so far and she can't be more excited! We'll probably make an announcement to everyone else around the 12 week mark.
When did everyone move their kids out of a crib? DS will be 20 months old when the new baby is born. This one will sleep in our room with us (planning to at least, because we did before) for 3-4 months in a PnP. I'm sure so much will depend on his personality at the time, but I'd really like to not buy another crib....
@kburg15 I was just talking to my husband about this I thought about moving my daughter to a toddler bed but she will only be 20 months old by the time this one is born also. Right now she still sleeps in our room so our first task is to transition her into her own room which i don't think will be a issue. Its more me then my daughter having the hard time with it lol . But I def want her in her own room before the new baby comes. My hubby is afraid if she's in a toddler bed she will just get up and get into stuff or start playing in the middle of the night and get hurt. lol I really don't think she would she sleeps all night etc and he is a little paranoid but if we do we will probably put a baby gate in her doorway just incase lol.
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? Mostly just wondering how I'll handle 2 kids and a demanding full time job. Also really need to figure out a plan for getting DD fully weaned and sleeping in her own room.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : I'm excited to tell DD that she has a sibling on the way, but want to wait til we're in the clear. I would hate to have to explain a loss to her.
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions: Any tips for night weaning the most stubborn 2 year old boob fiend ever?
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? We've only shared with immediate family but everyone is psyched!
@kburg15 - my advice is to keep him in his crib as long as possible! If it ain't broke, don't fix it. My DS will be 2.5 in August and thankfully is still going strong in his crib. He was 19 months old when DD was born, and it was such a relief knowing that when I put him down, he wasn't going anywhere. It does suck buying another crib, but you can always find deals on those or even get one second hand. I wouldn't change his sleeping situation if you don't have to!
How far along are you? Like 30 seconds, lol. Not even 4 weeks yet.
How old are your other kids? DS will be 2.5 in August, DD is 9 months.
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? Having two kids close in age was a bigger challenge when DD was a newborn, but I think we've really hit our stride as parents of two. Time to add to the chaos!
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : I'm thrilled my children will have more than one sibling. My husband and I have always envisioned a house filled with kids and noise, and I hope they grow up really loving each other.
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GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? Haven't told anyone yet, it's waaaaay too early. If our next beta comes back with a good number tomorrow we may tell my parents, but definitely nobody else.
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? I'm so tired all the time i feel like i'm neglecting my baby.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : My son has been talking about a brother and sister forever so it'll be exciting for him to actually have a real one not imaginary.
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? I just told my husband and my boss nobody else knows. Probably won't know for a while. We go see my family for Thanksgiving so i may try to wait and surprise everyone then.
Whoa, Mom guilt tonight. I have felt so sick all day. The kids have been in front of the TV 90% of the day today. DH had to help someone move so he wasn't even home to play with them or take them outside after work. Usually I can grin and bare it, but between the nausea and migraine today, I can't even get off of the couch. Hoping for a better day tomorrow because these kids brains will be fried if this continues and Summer doesn't last forever.
Random question for my BTDT moms... with DS my boobs didn't really grow until my third trimester. This time I'm already in my biggest bra from milk-filled boob days. Are they going to keep growing??
@chasingroygbiv don't get too down on yourself. I remember when I was pregnant last time and we watched all the shrek movies one day while I dozed off. I felt really guilty. This time I lay down in the afternoon and rest and cuddle. I realized it's good quality time and the kids love snuggling. They watch a show and get some rest time in between activities and general craziness.
@mdfarmchick mine grew at the beginning last time and then stayed the same until after delivery and my milk came in (aside from me just growing larger in general lol)
@chasingroygbiv I'm saying no to the mom guilt for you. The first trimester is survival mode. I hope tomorrow you feel better because we seem to have similar symptoms and I know how crappy the nausea and the migraine feels.
Thanks @kburg15, @jeanbean15 for the responses. I'm glad I'm not alone in the huge boobs department. Hopefully they will calm down soon because I'm not looking forward to shopping for even bigger bras. Ha. And I'm sick of how much they hurt. Lol.
@megpeg@mdfarmchick Thanks, ladies. My husband felt really bad that he even went to help this person move, but I told him he shouldn't, he had been planning to help for awhile and you can't ever really guess what my days are going to be like, apparently. I can't believe my son hasn't questioned me yet, not necessarily pregnancy, but "why are you lazy, Mom?" He's very sweet, so he likely won't, but if our daughter was a bit older and could put the words together she would totally call me a bum and tell me to get it together because she's a sass! I'm hoping each day I'm inching closer to feeling better. I hope. HA! If it were just me and DH I wouldn't be so worked up, but I just don't want to be a sucky Mom!
How far along are you? ~ 4 weeks, super early, I know How old are your other kids? DD will be 1 in a week and a half Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? Just concerned about DD not being the only one anymore. I'm sure she'll be fine though since we have a dog to gice attention too as well but still. Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : Just being able to conceive again and give DD a sibling. Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/ None now GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? Haven't shared yet but the few people who know are excited lol (DH is not one of them yet)
Thank you! @kalawa Today isn't much better symptom wise, but the kids got to go to grandma's for a bit while I went to a dermatology appointment so they were excited and that made me feel better. It's the little things right now.
@chasingroygbiv another vote here for not feeling any guilt. Like others have said, the first trimester sucks, and I'm all for doing whatever it takes to get through it. On those rough days, it's hard enough just to function, so you definitely shouldn't feel guilty at all.
@chasingroygbiv no mom judging here! We're all making it through the best we can, and our little ones will continue to thrive despite our rough days. The same things happen over here with my two!
@kburg15 we moved DD out of her crib at about 23 months. I wanted her to be successfully transitioned before we were in baby arrival mode. I wanted it to be its own thing and not related to this new baby in her life because I didn't want her to feel like she was being moved to make room for someone else. I guess I worried she'd feel replaced in some respect. We did the whole shopping for the bed thing together and talked all about what being in a big girl bed meant. She was super verbal and very good about staying in bed.
Now...our DS will be a different story (21 months). He is hilarious and amazing, but I'd be lying if I said there weren't days where I fantasized about a crib topper... He's our climber, cuddler, and extreme feeler. He just has super strong emotions and loves to be with people. He would cuddle with us all night (amazing, but we need sleep, too). I think if we transition him before he's really ready, he'll end up sneaking into someone's bed to cuddle. Adorable, but a bit intrusive Right now, when we put him to bed, he watches his mobile and falls asleep; however, I think if he had the option to walk around the room, there would be a challenge greater than I'm prepared for at bed time. I think we'll transition DS after baby arrives. We will keep baby in our room for the first 2-3 months or so anyway (in a RNP or PNP), and then the transition can happen in the summertime, too, when he is closer to 2.5.
@chasingroygbiv So grateful for grandparents! My mom came down from my hometown today because of my having to rest, and I've taken full advantage. My kids love when she's here...so it's a win win.
Anybody have any recommendations for a winter jacket that is warm but carseat safe/friendly? Does it exist? Or do you have to layer up after straps are on? DD will be one in August.
Me: 30 H: 30 Dx: PCOS Married: June 2013 TTC#1: January 2015 BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16 TTC#2: June 2017 BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
@becausescience you pretty my just have to layer over the straps. Any kind of coat can make the car seat unsafe, as the straps would compress the coat in a crash and she could be ejected.
@heatherdubrow Yes, I'm fully aware of the risks associated with wearing a bulky jacket in a carseat. When I say "carseat safe/friendly" I'm referring to something like this: https://csftl.org/the-cozywoggle-review/.
Me: 30 H: 30 Dx: PCOS Married: June 2013 TTC#1: January 2015 BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16 TTC#2: June 2017 BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
@becausescience DH and I think that coat (Cozy Woggle) is pretty neat! I've never seen that. We keep blankets in the car for each of the kids, and they wear a thin spring jacket from daycare to car, car to store, etc. It's super quick to get in and out of the car, and I think the Cozy Woggle seems like the extra zipping and shifting would leave me out in the cold longer than I'd like. Because it gets so cold here, we really don't spend a lot of time outside when we're en route somewhere long enough to make a big difference. If we are going somewhere to be outside, we just pack their warm coats along. It's worked for us really well so far!
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? My kids are both excited but DD is set on a sister and I'm sure she'll be a super drama queen if it turns out she's getting a brother. Oh and the fact that DH and I are going to be out numbered now.
If this is your last baby, how do you feel? I said this one would be my last but I feel super sad about it and now I don't know if I want it to be my last!
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : I'm happy about adding another!
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions: I need to write a literary criticism paper in a week and I don't know where to start
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? Given the situation that happened last month, everyone is excited and everyone that I have told that has been close to me or my brother feels like that this is a blessing (it would have been anyway) from him and a way for me to heal. I haven't told my parents yet, I want to do something special for them. I have been looking at gifts on etsy and amazon but there are too many ideas!
DD born August 17, 2010 DS born October 13, 2014 Baby #3 due March 2018
@becausescience I wasn't trying to snark you, I guess I just misunderstood your question. I have a lot of friends who were unaware of the risks, so I wasn't sure if you knew.
@becausescience We usually do a fleece (Columbia or Northface), not sure if you're thinking baby or older. With the babies we just do a warmer layer on them, warm up the car, then a blanket over. Winter... my favorite. Not.
DS is 14 months! @emklein86 we are pretty similar!!
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM... I feel like I'm just in this anxious waiting game... waiting for all of my symptoms to arrive. Last time I was horribly sick from 5 weeks until 15 weeks. And then all the symptoms just kept coming as time went on and I was pretty miserable all of the time. I don't know how I will manage it all with a toddler running around! Although last time I was dealing with it while working a job that I absolutely heated and dreaded so now being a SAHM with a toddler might actually be a lot easier (emotionally at least) than what I went through before!
Current joys/happy thoughts... I am just so excited for DS to be a big brother. I definitely can empathize with the guilt others are feeling about bringing a baby into a young toddlers life so quickly.. but to be honest, I don't personally feel the guilt because I am just so excited!! DS will be confused and I'm sure agitated a lot in the beginning, but I think he'll love having a sibling!
Rants/Raves/Randoms... DH was very unsupportive during my last pregnancy. I was sick and tired in the beginning and towards the end I was in significant pain all of the time (terrible carpal tunnel!!!!) and he was just the worst about it all. And then it all changed when DS was born and he was great. But I've made it very clear to him that he needs to be 100% supportive this time. That if I want foot rubs and back rubs then he needs to give them because I'm in actual serious pain from growing a baby!! And I just want him to be understanding and sympathetic. He's a "push through it" kind of guy, and he can't just brush me off for 9 months like I should grin and bear it. And he has agreed so here's hoping :-)
Only DH and I know! Except my May 2016 mom's know too DH wants to wait until we hear the heartbeat to tell our parents and siblings, and we will wait until at least 12 weeks to tell everyone else. DS is at an age where he can't understand the concept yet, so we're just going to talk about it with him all the time and try and teach him to understand... but it will probably be later in the pregnancy that it starts to make sense to him. I am super excited to tell our group of friends... there are 4 couples, one has a 2.5 year old and a 4 month old, another has a 2.5 year old and is due in September, then DH and I, and then another couple has a 10 month old. It's so fun that all of our families are growing at the same time!!
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? I couldn't leave the house on my own for months with DD. I'm nervous about trying to get out and do things with 2 kids! And now it's hard because I'm so sick I feel like a crap mom who lets her kid veg out in front of the tv because I can barely move
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : I feel this is a good age gap. DD will be almost 24 months when the new baby comes.
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/ So so so so so beyond tired of being sick. That is all.
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? they all seem pretty excited. We have just told family and close friends for now. I'm interested to see how everyone else reacts when we announce to fb lol.
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? I'm kind of worried about the whole thing. Pregnancy with a toddler then a newborn and a toddler. We didn't plan on having them this close together so I'm just trying to get used to the idea of the logistics of it all.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : I really wanted my son to have a sibling but was kind of freaked out about the thought of having another, so in a sense I'm glad it just kinda happened as a surprise or I may not have ever "pulled the trigger." He has seen a few babies lately and has gotten so excited, so I'm really looking forward to seeing him with a little brother or sister.
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? So far, we have only shared with my parents as well as my BMB for my son. Everyone is excited! We won't announce widely until after the first tri.
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DH and I did a lot of preparation with DD in the form of talking about how excited we are to give her a sibling and to see her get to be a big sister. We talked about how blessed we were that God saw how much we loved each other He had someone else that would be a perfect fit for our family to love and care for as one of our own. All of those discussions helped a lot when it came to the first 6-8 weeks that can bring some challenging moments. I also bought some big sister books that we worked into the reading rotation.
The hardest part for me personally was nursing DS while DD kept needing my attention. I felt horrible and wished desperately for a clone.
How old are your other kids? 2.5
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? Nothing as of now
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : My daughter will have a forever friend
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GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? Other than my husband I have told my best friend, my sister, and my December group from when my daughter was born. They are all excited.
How old are your other kids? 10 months
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? I'm just struggling to deal with the fatigue. It's so much harder this time around. No more lounging and napping in the evenings and weekends while DH waits on me hand and foot. Sigh.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : I really look forward to seeing how DS interacts with his little brother or sister.
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GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? People have been excited, but not nearly as excited as when we announced that we were pregnant with our first. Honestly, between our parents, best friends and midwife, our midwife showed the most excitement.
How old are your other kids? 3
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now?: DD will need to adjust to no longer being an only child and I know that is going to be a big transition for her
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : It warms my heart to think of DD as a big sister. I know she will love her new role. She's very independent and happiest when she's helping or contributing somehow so I'm thinking she will really flourish when the new baby is here
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/ I want more sleep but DD no longer naps
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? We will be waiting at least until after my first appt when we hear the HB to tell very close friends and family. The full 12 weeks for everyone else.
Baby #2 M/C 4/5/16
6 weeks and some change... exact date coming in two weeks
How old are your other kids?
11 months (for another week...)
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now?
Like @mamaloba816 I am just sooo exhausted. The fatigue is kicking my butt and I feel like DS is getting the short end of the stick. I'm trying really hard to pull it together but I just want to sleep.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM :
I am really excited to see DS as a big brother. He loves other kids and it's going to be so special to see him with a sibling.
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GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)?
We just told our families last night. They were definitely excited... some more surprised than others. I told my best friends and they are all so excited!!!
How old are your other kids? Almost 6, and 17m
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now?2 kids feels like a lot of kids to me, 3 kids seems like a thousand kids
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : My 6 year old was propping her leg up on the baby's head today in the car. Idfk what I am doing.
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/ GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? My friends are excited, my older kid is looking forward to having another baby to beat up. I haven't really told my family yet.
Spontaneous pregnancy #1
DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
How old are your other kids? 19 month old daughter
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? HOW THE HECK DO YOU HANDLE TWO KIDS?
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : Although... I always wanted more kids.... (Yay confused pregnancy hormone brain!)
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/ My toddler is SO clingy right now. Can she somehow know what's going to happen?
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? We've only told one person so far, but we plan to announce it to my family this weekend. We invited them to join us for dinner - and they said they would, unless something better came up.
How old are your other kids?
23 months
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now?
My DS has been sleeping through the night for close to a year now. He goes to sleep at 8 and wakes up at 8:30.
Ever since I got my bpf last week, he's been terrible!!!!! Refusing to sleep in his own bed, and doesn't give up screaming if I try the cry it out method (which always worked for us)
its been a week now, and it's only getting worse! Anyone with the same problem? Anything helped?
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM :
I miss the new born stage! Can't wait for this one!
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Still not having too many pregnancy symptoms...other then a missed period and peeing frequently, I haven't felt any different! I know I should count my blessings, but it's a bit nerve wracking
How old are your other kids? 1
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? nothing much thinking its time to start putting my daughter in her own room at night she's slept through the night since 3 months old. I just am more comfortable with her next to us and her room is kind of far from our room but by the time the baby comes we will def want her in her own room.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : Im super excited that my DD with be a big sister!
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/ Im super antsy for an ultrasound but ours isn't until august 5th. The first trimester makes me so nervous
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? Only my parents, my brother and my two close friends know and they are all excited especially my parents! DH isn't telling his family until after the first ultrasound unless we visit them before that then he might tell them in person.
5 wks and a few days
How old are your other kids?
2 and 4.5
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now?
My only major concern is that I'll likely have to have another c section. I'm worried about my recovery since my oldest has cerebral palsy and can't walk. It was a hard enough recovery last time and now she's going to be 3 years older and a lot heavier!
Also, I'm a little worried about how my youngest will respond to not being the baby anymore.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM :
I love seeing how close my girls are and how well they get along with each other. I'm hopeful that this new baby will form that same bond with his/ her sisters!
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)?
We've only told my mom so far and she can't be more excited! We'll probably make an announcement to everyone else around the 12 week mark.
advice?
How old are your other kids?
2
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now?
Mostly just wondering how I'll handle 2 kids and a demanding full time job. Also really need to figure out a plan for getting DD fully weaned and sleeping in her own room.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM :
I'm excited to tell DD that she has a sibling on the way, but want to wait til we're in the clear. I would hate to have to explain a loss to her.
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions:
Any tips for night weaning the most stubborn 2 year old boob fiend ever?
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)?
We've only shared with immediate family but everyone is psyched!
How old are your other kids? DS will be 2.5 in August, DD is 9 months.
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? Having two kids close in age was a bigger challenge when DD was a newborn, but I think we've really hit our stride as parents of two. Time to add to the chaos!
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : I'm thrilled my children will have more than one sibling. My husband and I have always envisioned a house filled with kids and noise, and I hope they grow up really loving each other.
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? Haven't told anyone yet, it's waaaaay too early. If our next beta comes back with a good number tomorrow we may tell my parents, but definitely nobody else.
How old are your other kids? 6 year old son
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? I'm so tired all the time i feel like i'm neglecting my baby.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : My son has been talking about a brother and sister forever so it'll be exciting for him to actually have a real one not imaginary.
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? I just told my husband and my boss nobody else knows. Probably won't know for a while. We go see my family for Thanksgiving so i may try to wait and surprise everyone then.
This time I lay down in the afternoon and rest and cuddle. I realized it's good quality time and the kids love snuggling. They watch a show and get some rest time in between activities and general craziness.
Thanks @kburg15, @jeanbean15 for the responses. I'm glad I'm not alone in the huge boobs department. Hopefully they will calm down soon because I'm not looking forward to shopping for even bigger bras. Ha. And I'm sick of how much they hurt. Lol.
~ 4 weeks, super early, I know
How old are your other kids?
DD will be 1 in a week and a half
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now?
Just concerned about DD not being the only one anymore. I'm sure she'll be fine though since we have a dog to gice attention too as well but still.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM :
Just being able to conceive again and give DD a sibling.
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/
None now
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)?
Haven't shared yet but the few people who know are excited lol (DH is not one of them yet)
@kburg15 we moved DD out of her crib at about 23 months. I wanted her to be successfully transitioned before we were in baby arrival mode. I wanted it to be its own thing and not related to this new baby in her life because I didn't want her to feel like she was being moved to make room for someone else. I guess I worried she'd feel replaced in some respect. We did the whole shopping for the bed thing together and talked all about what being in a big girl bed meant. She was super verbal and very good about staying in bed.
Now...our DS will be a different story (21 months). He is hilarious and amazing, but I'd be lying if I said there weren't days where I fantasized about a crib topper...
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
How old are your other kids? DD - 6, DS - 2
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? My kids are both excited but DD is set on a sister and I'm sure she'll be a super drama queen if it turns out she's getting a brother. Oh and the fact that DH and I are going to be out numbered now.
If this is your last baby, how do you feel? I said this one would be my last but I feel super sad about it and now I don't know if I want it to be my last!
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : I'm happy about adding another!
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions: I need to write a literary criticism paper in a week and I don't know where to start
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? Given the situation that happened last month, everyone is excited and everyone that I have told that has been close to me or my brother feels like that this is a blessing (it would have been anyway) from him and a way for me to heal. I haven't told my parents yet, I want to do something special for them. I have been looking at gifts on etsy and amazon but there are too many ideas!
DS born October 13, 2014
Baby #3 due March 2018
DS is 14 months! @emklein86 we are pretty similar!!
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM... I feel like I'm just in this anxious waiting game... waiting for all of my symptoms to arrive. Last time I was horribly sick from 5 weeks until 15 weeks. And then all the symptoms just kept coming as time went on and I was pretty miserable all of the time. I don't know how I will manage it all with a toddler running around! Although last time I was dealing with it while working a job that I absolutely heated and dreaded so now being a SAHM with a toddler might actually be a lot easier (emotionally at least) than what I went through before!
Current joys/happy thoughts... I am just so excited for DS to be a big brother. I definitely can empathize with the guilt others are feeling about bringing a baby into a young toddlers life so quickly.. but to be honest, I don't personally feel the guilt because I am just so excited!! DS will be confused and I'm sure agitated a lot in the beginning, but I think he'll love having a sibling!
Rants/Raves/Randoms... DH was very unsupportive during my last pregnancy. I was sick and tired in the beginning and towards the end I was in significant pain all of the time (terrible carpal tunnel!!!!) and he was just the worst about it all. And then it all changed when DS was born and he was great. But I've made it very clear to him that he needs to be 100% supportive this time. That if I want foot rubs and back rubs then he needs to give them because I'm in actual serious pain from growing a baby!! And I just want him to be understanding and sympathetic. He's a "push through it" kind of guy, and he can't just brush me off for 9 months like I should grin and bear it. And he has agreed so here's hoping :-)
Only DH and I know! Except my May 2016 mom's know too
7+3
How old are your other kids?
18 months
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now?
I couldn't leave the house on my own for months with DD. I'm nervous about trying to get out and do things with 2 kids! And now it's hard because I'm so sick
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM :
I feel this is a good age gap. DD will be almost 24 months when the new baby comes.
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/
So so so so so beyond tired of being sick. That is all.
GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)?
they all seem pretty excited. We have just told family and close friends for now. I'm interested to see how everyone else reacts when we announce to fb lol.
How old are your other kids? 17 months
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? I'm kind of worried about the whole thing. Pregnancy with a toddler then a newborn and a toddler. We didn't plan on having them this close together so I'm just trying to get used to the idea of the logistics of it all.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : I really wanted my son to have a sibling but was kind of freaked out about the thought of having another, so in a sense I'm glad it just kinda happened as a surprise or I may not have ever "pulled the trigger." He has seen a few babies lately and has gotten so excited, so I'm really looking forward to seeing him with a little brother or sister.
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/GTKY: How are people reacting to your news (or have you not shared yet)? So far, we have only shared with my parents as well as my BMB for my son. Everyone is excited! We won't announce widely until after the first tri.