Plus size moms

mommaSG · July 2017

I figures i would start this thread for all the beautiful plus sized mamas just to give support during a time when weight gain is going to happen and encourge each other each day

mommaSG · July 2017

To start it off this is my 2nd biological child. My DS is 8 and i have a step DD who is 12. When i got pregnant with DS i was 130 and 18 yrs old i gained 50 lbs with him and never lost it. I am now turning 27 in 2 day and at 200 lbs. I want to be healthy during this pregnancy and to do that my dr recommends 15 to 20 lbs gain.
I am 11 weeks today and lost 3 lbs due to food aversions to the max. I am also continuously drinking frozen water instead od pop

gilsam1 · July 2017

@mommaSG I appreciate that and completely agree and second it!

I'm supposed to only gain 12 lbs (according to OB) during this pregnancy, and as a FTM i have no idea how much i'll actually gain and i'm terrified of being lectured about weight. I recently lost 20 lbs at the beginning of this year in anticipation of trying to get pregnant, and i'm okay with gaining it all back for pregnancy but hope i can actually stay around the 12 lb "guideline". I'm worried though b/c i lost that weight with diet and exercise, and right now diet is questionable and exercise is completely zero

So far, I'm down 1-2 lbs from where i started at the beginning of the pregnancy, so i'll take that so far as a win! Haha, hope i can keep it up

mommaSG · July 2017

gilsam1 said:

@mommaSG I appreciate that and completely agree and second it! I'm supposed to only gain 12 lbs (according to OB) during this pregnancy, and as a FTM i have no idea how much i'll actually gain and i'm terrified of being lectured about weight. I recently lost 20 lbs at the beginning of this year in anticipation of trying to get pregnant, and i'm okay with gaining it all back for pregnancy but hope i can actually stay around the 12 lb "guideline". I'm worried though b/c i lost that weight with diet and exercise, and right now diet is questionable and exercise is completely zero So far, I'm down 1-2 lbs from where i started at the beginning of the pregnancy, so i'll take that so far as a win! Haha, hope i can keep it up

It can be hard and i worry about working out to my dr said as long as i am not running doing sit ups and laying flat on my back. I found some great low impact youtube workout for second trimester i am giving a try. I have no dou t you can do this just going in with the right mi d set is a start.

garykayla · July 2017

Love this thread! I'm 5'9 and 250! Can't wait to get to know you girls! I'm 11 weeks today and I already can't wait to start showing!

mommaSG · July 2017

garykayla said:

Love this thread! I'm 5'9 and 250! Can't wait to get to know you girls! I'm 11 weeks today and I already can't wait to start showing!

Omg i am 11 weeks today too wooooo bit i am opti g for a c section so i get to sched a week before due date

supercoolstephy · July 2017

I'm nice and round. 5'1 and about 235ish. My ob told me if I got to 200 that I'd be out of the high risk category. But I only got down from 280 to 220(I've had a little fun since ttc and getting pregnant and gained some. I'm 11 weeks 2 days and I look like I did at 16 weeks, even though I weigh 30 pounds less at that point. Off.

mommaSG · July 2017

I think its amazing how each of you are working hard not only for yourself but also the baby. Jist remember the gain is for the baby dont put extra unwanted or need stress on what the scale says. We are all beautiful and are growing human beings these next few months we are wonder woman

scatteringashes · July 2017

I was 300 pounds when my son was born. He was 7 pounds, every single thing about my pregnancy and birth was picture perfect.

With this one my weight is up about 15 pounds ins the past 13 weeks, and I'm at 220. The OB's office I'm in considers my weight a high risk, because they go by BMI -- at 5'2", my BMI is pretty much always obese. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I'm firmly of the belief that doctors put too much emphasis on weight during pregnancy, when it is only one part of the overall picture of one's health. And not at all a comprehensive way to decide if one is healthy.

KLake42 · July 2017

I agree with @scatteringashes, that doctor's put too much emphasis on weight, but I think part of the problem is that there isn't much data out there to work with. We know that high BMI mamas deal with higher risk for GD and pre-e, but we don't know if that risk is there the moment we get pregnant (if we already have underlying blood sugar or blood pressure issues), or if that risk is impacted by the amount we gain during pregnancy.

I'm way frustrated, because I'm pregnant with mo/di twins. I have done the research and I know that high calorie/protein is associated with reduced risk of TTTS (a very serious risk I face, with the twins sharing a placenta), so I should eat a lot. Also, a higher weight gain is recommended, even for high BMI mamas, by multiples experts, to increase baby weight for preemie babies (since I have a high risk of them arriving early). But having high BMI (and being 40) means a higher risk for pre-e, which could also be a problem for the babies, so my ob/gyn practice is recommending a lower weight target than the twins experts I've read recommend. I feel like I need to lean towards what the twins experts say, though, but not go over.

I was in line with what the twins experts recommended, but this week, my weight shot up a few pounds overnight, and I had to take off my wedding ring (it's clearly bloat). So now I'm over what the twins experts recommend, and way over what my doctor recommends-- at 15 weeks, I've gained 18 pounds (twins experts would have me between 11.5 and 15).

I started at 177, after losing about 20 pounds last year and keeping them off. I'm 5'3, so I'm obese. I was healthy and active before getting pregnant, though, so I wasn't too worried. Now, I can't help worrying. I see the doctor tomorrow, so we can talk about the sudden weight gain this week, check my urine and blood pressure, etc.

I hate worrying about every little pound on the scale, but my body is not predictable any more-- I've never in my life felt this bloated, and my blood pressure has risen a bit (not seriously high, just high enough to pay attention).

I'm going to start tracking what I eat-- I found an app where I can input the calorie and macronutrient goals recommended by the twins experts. And I'm going to cook for myself more, and avoid processed, high sodium foods. I'm hoping that's good enough.

supercoolstephy · July 2017

My Dr never told me I was gaining too much last time. I don't think I gained a ton till the end, but by the end I was up about 40ish, did not have Gestational Diabetes (even though she tested me twice and passed both, to her surprise with flying colors) and did not have Pre-E, although I had major swelling of my whole body.

I really want to be eating healthy but right now I cannot stomach food I made at home, so I'm eating crap food all the time. We have a CSA box every two weeks and since getting pregnant the box basically goes to waste because I can't even force myself to eat it... and I'm fairly decent cook, so it really sucks.

clc515 · July 2017

I'm relying heavily on the prenatal for nutrients, because right now I can basically only enjoy bagels and cream cheese, some cereal and milk, and oatmeal lol. Trying not to overload on the cereal cuz of the sugar, but at least I can eat that!

DH said yesterday he can sorta see a bump forming. I'm not sure if that's bloat, fat, or baby haha. FTM, so not sure when I'm gonna show. I've stayed about the same weight so far (11weeks), but since I'm wearing mostly loose dresses I haven't noticed anything getting tighter yet! Did order some maternity capris though... No pants are ever comfortable for me lol, so hoping that these will open my eyes!

Ready4theParty · July 2017

I am also considered obese. I am 5'7 and 220 prior to getting pregnant. With my first I was 190 and the thought of gaining weight scared me. My mom put on a ton of weight in her pregnancies that took her years to take off and I thought I would be the same. After DD1 was born I lost the weight and then some. I started a job that was stressful and gained 25 lbs that I have struggled to take off. With DD2 they weren't too worried about my weight. This time, and a whole 5 lbs heavier than I was with DD2 I am told I need to not gain weight. Um, ok. I know how my body works, while my goal is to only gain 15 lbs I am ok with gaining 20 or the 25 recommended. The chart of what everything weighs at delivery is fascinating. Uterus weighs 2 lbs, placenta weighs 'xxx. Makes you feel better about those lbs.

JuliaGoolia719 · July 2017

I'm 5'6 and at 214 now, when we transferred our embaby (we did a frozen transfer after IVF) I was at 222, I originally lost 9lbs in the first tri and for the last 2 weeks have been back up 1lb at 214lbs. I am 15w1d now. I was expecting my OB to be more concerned with my weight than she seemed to be, she said she expects me to gain anywhere from 20-30lbs.
My first trimester basically all food was disgusting to me and the only thing I could possibly stomach was pizza, bagels and other refined carbs-- in small amounts, trying to eat a fruit or veggie was not worth the way I felt afterwards. I'm slowly getting back to being able to eat regular foods again, we'll see what my weight does then!
The last month or so I've been able to get back to the gym (I hadn't been able to do much during IVF and then got out of the habit/got lazy and discouraged since the hormones from IVF helped me pack on a solid 15 lbs that did not seem inclined to budge--turns out all I needed was to have a first trimester where ALL food was gross and I had no appetite). I'm not worried about trying to lose weight now obviously, but I do want to get as strong as possible and hopefully make labor less.....labory?

mommaSG · July 2017

@JuliaGoolia719 omg i was the same way about food for the most part. Nothing tasted or smelled right i couldnt even watch my cooking shows bc it made me sick. Pizza was and still is something i crave but its also been fruits out the wazoo and frozen water

madcouplewithabox · July 2017

I'm right at the overweight/Obese line. My OB said in my first appointment "let's try to keep the weight under 200". This last appointment he was extremely happy that I hadn't gained anything and then mentioned something about not gaining anything the rest of pregnancy!?!? I'm hoping I heard him wrong and am going to ask at my next appointment. I have an eating disorder history and have had to constantly reign my brain in with wanting to over restrict after eating poorly. If he is seriously on the "no weight gain train" I might look for a new OB

My mind can't handle that pressure in a healthy manner.

mommaSG · July 2017

@madcouplewithabox if he is serious i would look for another ob to me if its i. Your medical history about the eating disorder for him to suggest something like that can be a trigger and not only can thay end up harming you but also the baby. Weight gain is going to happen so just breath and if you need anythi g we are all here for you

gilsam1 · July 2017

@madcouplewithabox I had to look for a new OB after my first appointment for the same reason. She was totally guilt tripping me about wanting to get pregnant. "You know it would be really high risk right?" Most physicians I've had don't really care enough about my history (I also had reoccurring battles with anxiety and an eating disorder) and they'll just focus on the number that my weight is. I've actually been praised for having "normal" weights when I was actually really suffering. The last time that happened I actually laughed at him and said "its not healthy but whatever". Do what you need to do and stand up for yourself and your baby! Don't let these bullies (even if they are wearing white coats) push you around

auntieraindrop · July 2017

I'm lucky my doctor has been awesome. She did ask me to lose weight while we were TTC and I dropped from about 220 to about 200 before we got pregnant. I've lost about 5 lbs in the first trimester, but I've been eating horrible. All the things I can stand to eat are just carbs and salt, with ginger ale or gatorade. She's been really supportive and told me if all I can eat is french fries, then I should eat french fries. It's ok to be a little chubby during pregnancy, she said, and she expects me to gain about 25lbs by the end of it. My weight has barely been mentioned at all since I got pregnant. It's a nice change from other doctors who have often blamed totally unrelated things on my weight (I went in for foot pain to my old doctor's office, and they had already decided that I could expect foot pain because I had small feet and was heavy, before I even had a chance to tell them that I had fallen down stairs the day before!)

mommaSG · July 2017

So i am 13 wks tomorrow and my vitamin b12 is low so had go to regular dr today. He was super rude bc he goes well your showing but it looks like you havent gained any weight. Stating that its a good thing bc i shouldnt gain mor then 15 lbs. Like ya its good but did you have to be rude about it he was just very harsh

JuliaGoolia719 · July 2017

mommaSG I'm sorry he was a douche about it!

Samsmommy6515 · July 2017

@madcouplewithabox please look for another OB if he was serious about not gaining. I have an ED and just one comment from my last practice caused me to scare myself into restricting with my last pregnancy and by the end when I hadn't gained a pound (and lost a few) they were sending me in for tests to check on the baby. I'm grateful she was born healthy and weighed over 7 pounds. But this time around I found a new doctor who agreed to not talk about weight (unless it becomes a huge concern, like pre-e) because she knows about my history of ED and calrorie restricting.

And for me, the worst part about the gain shaming is the almost constant pressure to watch and hold back. I'm not trying to stuff myself, I just want to comfortably eat a full meal without guilt.

madcouplewithabox · July 2017

@Samsmommy6515 I'm going to have a talk with him about it next appointment. If we don't come to some sort of agreement I'll def. look into someone else, maybe even a midwife instead.

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