We weren't planning to announce until mid-July but DH made a comment during Father's Day church service and cat was let out of the bag. (I work Sundays so I wasn't there until dinner) he asked me to tell his grandma because he thought it would mean so much more coming from me. So I did. I asked "So what do you think about being a great grandma again?" She understood what I was saying but proceeded to list off her other great grand children saying she had so many already but nevwr really saying congrats or anything. DH drove her home and I guess all she had to say was that she was shocked we would be starting a family so soon. We got married last year so its not like we are just 2 kids making babies, I'm 25 and he's 30. It just kinda pissed me off. She's never acted like she disliked me so its not what I'm used to from her.
We have a family member like that. "How dare anyone not do their life on my timetable!" We e learned that we just have to ignore what she says about our family and live our lives. Does it still suck? Yes. Sometimes her words still hurt me. But I try really hard to focus on the positive.
Dude, I hate the world and also am so blue. I wish I could tell ANYONE but we are waiting until after our first appt on Friday as that seems to make sense. I feel super lonely though and want to tell my girlfriends.
My husband is gone for a training this week. He left yesterday (DD2's first Father's Day) and won't be home until the weekend. He will miss DD2's first birthday, but be here for her party. I'm super salty about it.
My husband is gone for a training his week too. He left Saturday and comes back Friday night. It's supposed to hit 120* here tomorrow and I'm stuck in the house with 2 crazy kids and 2 pent up dogs. I am not pleased.
My husband is gone for a training this week. He left yesterday (DD2's first Father's Day) and won't be home until the weekend. He will miss DD2's first birthday, but be here for her party. I'm super salty about it.
My husband is gone for a training his week too. He left Saturday and comes back Friday night. It's supposed to hit 120* here tomorrow and I'm stuck in the house with 2 crazy kids and 2 pent up dogs. I am not pleased.
Oh god. I feel for you, girl.
This is the perfect time for wine, but noooooo
I thought about taking my girls off the splash pad tomorrow but it's going to be so hot and I have so much cleaning and packing to do that I don't think we'll go.
My husband has been asked to be groomsman at a wedding 2 day after my due date- that is 4 hours drive from where we live- and he insist he is going to do it. Someone is going to be let down either me- or the groom...
My husband has been asked to be groomsman at a wedding 2 day after my due date- that is 4 hours drive from where we live- and he insist he is going to do it. Someone is going to be let down either me- or the groom...
That sucks. Maybe with any luck you'll deliver early? I know that normally we shouldn't hope for the baby to come early but at the same time babies come when they are ready so maybe if your little one makes an entry a week or two ahead of and the wedding it won't be so bad?
@ashhsa Eeeek, that's a bad idea. Your H needs to start separating things he wants to do from things he should do. As awesome and fun it would be to be in a wedding and party all weekend with your bros, your wife is at home with a newborn (or about to pop) and it's not a good idea to be gone. The bros should understand, and if they don't, they're crappy bros.
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
@ashhsa oh yeah that's just not gonna work. You can't rely on hopefully delivering early or late. Missing the birth of his child for a wedding isn't the right choice! Due dates aren't guarantees of delivery!
Me: 33 DH: 31 DS: 5 years old TTC #2 since August 2015 July 2016: Testing cycle with 100 mg Clomid = BFN August 2016: 50 mg Clomid + IUI = BFN October 2016: IVF#1 - 13 retrieved / 12 mature / 9 fertilized / 2 blasts November 2016: FET#1 = chemical January 2017: FET#2 = chemical March 2017: IVF#2 - 18 retrieved / 18 mature / 16 fertilized / 5 blasts
April 24, 2017: FET#3 - BFN May 24, 2017: FET#4 - BFP! - Beta #1 151 - Beta #2 503 - Due date 2/9/18
@ashhsa perhaps you can compromise. If this were my husband I would let him plan to go to the wedding as a guest and not a groomsman just so that there is not as much riding on him if he has to cancel. If this is your first baby chances are you will have plenty of time for him to get there in time even if he is worst case scenario 4 hrs away. If you were having contractions that morning I just would ask him to stay home.
DD born Oct 2011 - DS#1 born Jan 2014 - DS#2 born Apr 2015 - DS#3 born Sept 2016 - LO#5 due Feb 7, 2018
This is my second baby- @sabriel1 the issue is- its a 4 hour drive- in a remote/ish location so if he were to attend and something happened- he couldn't just leave and be by my side. He has basically said- for now he will accept - and then at 12 weeks he will discuss it with the groom. Another big concern is if I have already had the baby who will our daughter be with if I have a repeat c section- if I'm still in hospital- or if I'm at home- who will stay with me as I won't be able to lift her? She will be 2 then. Arrghhhhh dilemma. I need to focus on the positive- and I am sure my family can help out even a little bit- I'm sure it will all work out. I hope!
The fact this is a second baby changes things for me. Having the logistics of another child being home as well as second labours are generally faster I would say no way
DD born Oct 2011 - DS#1 born Jan 2014 - DS#2 born Apr 2015 - DS#3 born Sept 2016 - LO#5 due Feb 7, 2018
I want to punch my own mother. She doesn't know I'm pregnant and keeps making these comments like "oh you lost all this weight you probably won't want any more kids", "I think that your family is just the right size", "oh you're so busy, how would you ever do it with one more". Like back off, you had your chance to determine your own family size now it's my turn so eff off
This is why I haven't told my own mother yet. She has already made her opinion clear about me expanding my family so I can only imagine her response to the pregnancy. "Oh you guys def shouldn't have another baby with A's diagnosis". "You would be crazy to have another baby with how good of shape you are in." She needs a can of STFU.
This is also my mother. My dh will tell her and hopefully she will vent to her assistant and get it out of her system before she talks to me about it.
Re: Bitchfest Monday 6/19
Maybe with any luck you'll deliver early? I know that normally we shouldn't hope for the baby to come early but at the same time babies come when they are ready so maybe if your little one makes an entry a week or two ahead of and the wedding it won't be so bad?
Even if you are one of the lucky few to go early you're going to be recovering from childbirth and trying to get used to life with a newborn.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
DS: 5 years old
TTC #2 since August 2015
July 2016: Testing cycle with 100 mg Clomid = BFN
August 2016: 50 mg Clomid + IUI = BFN
October 2016: IVF#1 - 13 retrieved / 12 mature / 9 fertilized / 2 blasts
November 2016: FET#1 = chemical
January 2017: FET#2 = chemical
March 2017: IVF#2 - 18 retrieved / 18 mature / 16 fertilized / 5 blasts
May 24, 2017: FET#4 - BFP! - Beta #1 151 - Beta #2 503 - Due date 2/9/18
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7