This morning I'm going to model for a professional photographer. The pics, most likely, won't be my style (the dresses I've seen are over-the-top) but I'm excited to get hair and makeup done professionally.
@lewliv Have fun today! Also, despite your name change here, I still always tag you with your old name and have to fix it!
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
My 17 month old hasn't slept a full night since the beginning of the month. ended up at urgent care on July 3rd with a severe ear infection, and after a week of hell, back at the Dr today finding out he now has a double ear infection. Having said that...I am so so so tired. I am "cry for no reason/snap at everybody" kind of tired. My husband work second shift, so I end up on the couch with the LO most nights. He gets to go to grandmas and nap but I get to go to work...which makes me want to cry again..
I'm trying to book an overnighter for next week, and when I contacted this super-awesomely-rated little B&B, they refused to take us because they have an AGE LIMIT and don't take 2 year olds! I was baffled!
ETA: I was too speechless to ask on the phone, but I just checked their website and the age limit is 3. FFS. I should've kept my mouth shut about her age.
Random- should have included this in my "rave" for the FTM thread but, typical of preggo brain, forgot... I got a pedicure on Saturday. I usually don't do mani/pedis; in fact, the last pedi I got was over 2.5 years ago for my wedding! But boy, it was heavenly. Not even a fancy one, just your standard that includes the foot and leg massage/scrub. That massage chair felt amazing on my lower back too. And my toes look a lot neater than I can manage on my own now. Yippee
I'm having a hard time with my almost 4 year old. I feel bad that we are about to rock his world and he's already acting out now. The past two days he's been awful and not himself. I'm scared of how he will act once baby brother is here. We were working in the nursery a lot this weekend and I think he felt left out because baby was getting all the new things in his room and he wasn't getting anything. He also took back all the "baby books" from brothers room back into his room even though we NEVER read them. I feel guilty.
@EmyB30 is there a way he can help with the nursery, maybe feel more involved? You said he didn't like baby brother getting anything new, maybe you can get him something small 'from baby brother' so he gets something too but from baby? my friends son had a really hard time when baby 2 was coming, so some of those things helped. They let him pick out some stuff for the nursery so he felt a little ownership/ like it was from him, gave him a small gift from the baby (best big brother shirt) and had him 'write' down his favorite activities, foods, etc so the new baby could 'get to know' what he liked. It all helped him feel involved and protective/ proud instead of jealous.
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
My mom has been staying with me in the hospital so I am not "alone" while we wait to induce on Saturday. I feel like she misinterprets everything the doctor says daily, she never leaves, even when I tell her to get out and go do something. My husband comes up after work and she stays in the room while he is visiting and then chimes in on everything we say. Tonight she went to the bathroom and we were talking about the baby and what not and somehow she interpreted it as we were talking shit about her and sent out texts to her friends and my aunt saying such! She is literally driving me insane and I am in here for high blood pressure to begin with!! I'm trying to be nice but at this point, she has upset me that I am ignoring her now. Not sure I can take 4 more days of her being here.
Me:
27 DH: 29
Diagnosed
with PCOS: January 2009
1st D&C: Janaury 2009
Dating: March 18, 2009
Married: June 12, 2010
TTC: January 1, 2011
2nd D&C: June 5, 2011
3rd D&C: August 3, 2011
Dec 2016: BFP (due 8/5/2017)
@bwing10 not to oversimplify the situation, but can't you ask her to leave? Sounds like her feelings are already hurt, so you might as well at least benefit from it.
Can you tell her you want some alone time or time alone with your husband before baby arrives? Do you have any siblings that can drag her out for a few hours to give you a break?
FWIW I am having my own mother issues this week. Must be something about this stage of pregnancy.
Can you tell her you want some alone time or time alone with your husband before baby arrives? Do you have any siblings that can drag her out for a few hours to give you a break?
FWIW I am having my own mother issues this week. Must be something about this stage of pregnancy.
She is in from Florida to "help" around the house once the baby is born, and sadly all my siblings live in Florida and I'm the only family in the state or I would be trying to send her somewhere! She is driving my husband up the wall. She is used to my siblings needing her and I don't need her in that sense. She was able to be in the room when my sister delivered and she is insulted that I won't let her be in the room when I deliver.
Me:
27 DH: 29
Diagnosed
with PCOS: January 2009
1st D&C: Janaury 2009
Dating: March 18, 2009
Married: June 12, 2010
TTC: January 1, 2011
2nd D&C: June 5, 2011
3rd D&C: August 3, 2011
Dec 2016: BFP (due 8/5/2017)
@bwing10 I would try to set boundaries. I would try to tell her she can visit you, but between hours x and y. This is your birthing experience, it should be the way you want it to be!
My breast pump came in today and I'm soooo excited about it! I got the Spectra S2 Plus and I can tell already that I'll love it. It's nice and quiet, small, and the suction is great! I tested it on my cheek...and then my kids wanted me to test it on their bellies. I also love that it has a "massage mode" to stimulate let-down before actually pumping. I seriously carried around a HUGE, blue plastic, LOUD, tackle box sized pump that I rented from the hospital with my first two...so I'm extra thankful!
I also had a baby shower on Saturday and with everything we received, plus gift cards, we are officially ready for baby! My MIL is buying our car seat for us in a couple of weeks.
I have an appointment on Thursday. We'll see what he says about the pitting edema on my ankles. I need a day where I can put my feet up and do nothing, by that hasn't happened. I'm feeling "rushed" and very much like I only have a couple of weeks left. I'm 34 weeks, but my son was born at 36 weeks, and daughter at 38, so who knows?
@AdvoCyndi30 I love that you tested your pump on your kids bellies! I tested mine on my leg, to make sure everything was working well, and DH was curious, so he also put it on his leg to test and see what it felt like.
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
Took my dogs to the vet today. Our younger dog has such anxiety they had to muzzle him and then take him to the back for an extra pair of hands At least it's done now!
@smallbutmighty77 those are great ideas!!! He did pick out a wall hanging for brothers room the other day and he also wanted a "turkey tail" in his room too so we hung one up in his room. I know to an almost 4 year old telling him he's going to get a new dinosaur room for his birthday means nothing since it's like 2 months away but I keep telling him he's getting new stuff too!!! I already asked him what kind of toy does he want baby brother to get him....so we'll see if that helps. Some days he's so lovey and wants to feel him kick other days he doesn't like him....
DH is trying to convince me that as a pregnant wife I have to ask him to go get milkshakes at 11pm. I guess he really wants a dessert He's complaining that the pregnancy is almost over and I have not made any middle of the night requests. Go figure!
The ILs just called DH saying they want to come out this weekend and "help" before baby comes. I told DH, no. It's more stressful for me to have someone come and I really want these last few weekends to be "normal." This isn't our first kid so there's not a lot we need to do anyway. I know some would jump on this and let them come but not me. They drive me crazy to start with and seriously, it'd be too much for me right now. I know they just want to see DD and play with her anyway.
***TW in Siggy*** Me: 34 / DH: 33 Married: Nov 2011 TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014 TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
@bumpybump ugh. Good for you! If my MIL tells me or DH one more time it's not too late for a shower (c section is scheduled for 3 weeks from Friday btw) I'm going to scream. We're having a 2nd boy just over 2 years later. When I say I kept everything, I literally mean everything. The only big ticket item we needed was a travel system and I got a great deal on that. The only thing we need is diapers and wipes which if people want to bring when they visit, they can. I've told her multiple times I'm not comfortable with a 2nd shower. Then it's, oh well if this was a girl we'd definitely have one. Well, it's not and it's our last, so chill.
@lewliv My DH has said the same thing. I think he is also really enjoying my ice cream craving becuase it means he gets more ice cream than normal.
@bumpybump I did the same thing for my parents and DHs. We see DHs this weekend for church, but after that its just us until baby is here. As much as they all want to help and do things, I really just want my last few weekends to be just me and DH.
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
I'm really happy to hear that I'm not the only one who wants these last few weeks of just us. My Dad keeps pushing an offer to come up from FL and help us for two weeks before my due date. And while two weeks of my Dad's cooking sounds great, the rest of it seems overwhelming (even though my Dad is a low-key chill guy). We've spent so much of the pregnancy busy that I need some chill out time with my husband before everything changes forever. I just don't know how to gently tell my dad all this...
Together: January 2002 Married: May 2008 Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
I know it's different because of where I am but I'm PUMPED for my mom to get here!! DD and I just made a paper count down chain to help her visualize when Grandma gets here.
@mango517 I literally told my family that I needed the time with my husband. I explained that the idea of going from just a couple (for 13 years) to a family of 3 will be a huge change, and I need the last few weeks to be just us.
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
@bumpybump@littlebug2010@Mango517 I'm on the same boat! I just want to enjoy DH and the dogs before everything changes forever. Even after the baby's here, I was very clear that overnight guests are not welcome as we want some privacy to adapt and bond.
A few weeks ago, a French bakery opened around my house and I can't resist walking by it. Went to take Zoe to the groomer and came back with these:
@Nxy that is such a sweet idea! @bumpybump proud of you!
I'm getting stressed. Car will most likely be in the shop for 2 weeks. The rental they gave me is nothing that I'm used to and I just want to drive something I'm comfortable with. Second stressor: my really great friend is coming this weekend for a visit. She wants to plan Landon's bris. I know that it is culturally really important, but I'm not really a member of the Jewish community (Chanda/orthodox)here and don't have family here to attend the bris. I was just planning a circumcision at the hospital. I don't know how to tell her this without offending her. She keeps telling me that I need to stop isolating myself but it's really easy to do it when everytime I go to temple I feel like I have a scarlet letter on.
@tova24 that can be tough. A bris is such a family religious event. I could see how not having family near and not being close to the community could have you wanting to do it at the hospital. Does she know how you feel and your concerns?
Have you looked into other temples or maybe more modern orthodox? The wrong temple can really push people away-but the right one especially with you being a bit on your own can really be a great asset. (Says the girl who goes essentially never-but has very good friends who have found them to be lifesavers).
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
@smallbutmighty77 when I was in the Chicago, I always went to Chabad in Highland Park. It was such a great community. Since moving to Dallas, I really haven't found the same thing. My friend thinks I just need to "try harder," but right now I'm just so exhausted from prepping everything for Landon and myself that finding a temple just sounds like too much! Last night she legitimately asked me how many mezuzahs I needed for my apartment (she's really into this!). I don't know how to slow this train down!
@tova24 I am from HP so I know that area well...I could see how finding that community again can be hard. Plus once we start with the futzing and mothering and hovering there is no end. Sometimes giving in is easier than fighting it, and sometimes it just takes pointing out that you don't need the guilt and if you did you would talk to your own mother! Maybe instead of finding a temple, you could find a JCC or something that has mom/me classes etc and meet people that way? Less pressure.
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
We had a labor and delivery class last night. It was pretty interesting, but not as in depth/intense as I was expecting. DH wished there was more about the partner's role, since he's a worrier and dreading seeing me in pain and not being able to help. Funny note: there was a couple in front of us, and every time the nurse would play a video he would cover his eyes with a sheet of paper, nervous about what he was about to see! Ha!
FTM here, and I've now had two friends recently give birth early, one at 34 weeks and one at 35 weeks. I know it's totally out of my control, but it's freaking me out since I'm 33 weeks and don't feel ready at all. Technically, we have everything we need, but mentally I keep thinking we still have several weeks. I feel a bit better knowing I have weekly doctor appointments to check in.
Does anyone own a hand held carpet cleaner? Any brand or model recommendations? My cat puked all over the nursery this morning including our cream glider. We've only had it a week and it's already stained.
I should pay to have the carpets and upholstery professionally cleaned but we're running out of time!
The first day May 2007 The yes day April 2012 The best day Nov 2013
@BlackNYellow We got the Bissell little green machine when our previous dog got elderly and started having accidents around the house. It works pretty well for small stains! I'd recommend it for spot cleaning.
We also have a Bissell behemoth carpet cleaning vacuum, it's so large and cumbersome that I almost never bust it out anymore because it's just a huge ordeal to use.
Together: January 2002 Married: May 2008 Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
@Mango517 thank you! I just ordered that model on Amazon. Hopefully it does the trick. I scrubbed the heck out of the carpet and glider with Dawn soap just now and the stain is coming out. Funny story, one of my family friends gave me a bottle of Dawn as a shower gift and said she uses it for everything. What a great gift!
The first day May 2007 The yes day April 2012 The best day Nov 2013
@BlackNYellow I feel your pain!!! My issues are currently with dog puke a friend recommended Folex carpet cleaner (Walmart) which she swears by for her sick cat stains if you end up needing something more than Dawn.
my little spot cleaner is an older Bissell where the bristles are only on the outside of the brush and not very effective, I should get the green one mentioned. I should add to my registry since I'll use it for LO stains too!
Re: Weekly Random 7/10
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
ETA: I was too speechless to ask on the phone, but I just checked their website and the age limit is 3. FFS. I should've kept my mouth shut about her age.
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
Diagnosed with PCOS: January 2009
1st D&C: Janaury 2009
Dating: March 18, 2009
Married: June 12, 2010
TTC: January 1, 2011
2nd D&C: June 5, 2011
3rd D&C: August 3, 2011
Dec 2016: BFP (due 8/5/2017)
Can you tell her you want some alone time or time alone with your husband before baby arrives? Do you have any siblings that can drag her out for a few hours to give you a break?
FWIW I am having my own mother issues this week. Must be something about this stage of pregnancy.
Diagnosed with PCOS: January 2009
1st D&C: Janaury 2009
Dating: March 18, 2009
Married: June 12, 2010
TTC: January 1, 2011
2nd D&C: June 5, 2011
3rd D&C: August 3, 2011
Dec 2016: BFP (due 8/5/2017)
I also had a baby shower on Saturday and with everything we received, plus gift cards, we are officially ready for baby! My MIL is buying our car seat for us in a couple of weeks.
I have an appointment on Thursday. We'll see what he says about the pitting edema on my ankles. I need a day where I can put my feet up and do nothing, by that hasn't happened. I'm feeling "rushed" and very much like I only have a couple of weeks left. I'm 34 weeks, but my son was born at 36 weeks, and daughter at 38, so who knows?
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
He's complaining that the pregnancy is almost over and I have not made any middle of the night requests. Go figure!
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
@bumpybump I did the same thing for my parents and DHs. We see DHs this weekend for church, but after that its just us until baby is here. As much as they all want to help and do things, I really just want my last few weekends to be just me and DH.
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Together: January 2002
Married: May 2008
Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
A few weeks ago, a French bakery opened around my house and I can't resist walking by it. Went to take Zoe to the groomer and came back with these:
@bumpybump proud of you!
I'm getting stressed. Car will most likely be in the shop for 2 weeks. The rental they gave me is nothing that I'm used to and I just want to drive something I'm comfortable with. Second stressor: my really great friend is coming this weekend for a visit. She wants to plan Landon's bris. I know that it is culturally really important, but I'm not really a member of the Jewish community (Chanda/orthodox)here and don't have family here to attend the bris. I was just planning a circumcision at the hospital. I don't know how to tell her this without offending her. She keeps telling me that I need to stop isolating myself but it's really easy to do it when everytime I go to temple I feel like I have a scarlet letter on.
Have you looked into other temples or maybe more modern orthodox? The wrong temple can really push people away-but the right one especially with you being a bit on your own can really be a great asset. (Says the girl who goes essentially never-but has very good friends who have found them to be lifesavers).
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
Maybe instead of finding a temple, you could find a JCC or something that has mom/me classes etc and meet people that way? Less pressure.
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
FTM here, and I've now had two friends recently give birth early, one at 34 weeks and one at 35 weeks. I know it's totally out of my control, but it's freaking me out since I'm 33 weeks and don't feel ready at all. Technically, we have everything we need, but mentally I keep thinking we still have several weeks. I feel a bit better knowing I have weekly doctor appointments to check in.
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
I should pay to have the carpets and upholstery professionally cleaned but we're running out of time!
We also have a Bissell behemoth carpet cleaning vacuum, it's so large and cumbersome that I almost never bust it out anymore because it's just a huge ordeal to use.
Together: January 2002
Married: May 2008
Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
my little spot cleaner is an older Bissell where the bristles are only on the outside of the brush and not very effective, I should get the green one mentioned. I should add to my registry since I'll use it for LO stains too!