Went to the local car seat check last night and switched DD (3) to forward facing and installed the infant carrier and base. On Wednesday, DD was saying she was excited to turn around. Yesterday when we got home, she asked me, "why am I facing this way?" So I explained how the seats don't both fit RFing and I asked her if she liked sitting this way. She said, "no!" Such great testimony to not switching them early. I've heard so many people say there's no way she likes being RFing still. I've been wanting to post about it on my personal FB page just to piss off my sister (and others) who swears her kids would have never "survived" being RFing that long. Granted, her kids are also in booster seats too early to truly be safe.
***TW in Siggy*** Me: 34 / DH: 33 Married: Nov 2011 TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014 TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
I am so irritated with my SiL right now. She's in town visiting and watching DD (18 months) for the week, but her version of watching her is to give her a smart phone or to feed her every 5 seconds. I'm about to lose it! I've said a few things but I don't want to fly completely off the handle, since she's not my sister. DH has said something to her, too, but when we leave for work she just disregards everything! I guess I should stop looking at the nanny cams . . .
My MIL is out of the country until July 21 and then is back for 2 days before she leaves for another international trip with with my FIL. They don't get back until August 6? I really want the baby to come while they aren't here just because I know she would be devastated. I'm the worst.
My confession is that I donated tons of DH's toys this week. MIL always gives us tons of little toys with our stockings (shit like legos and nerf guns) and we never do anything with it but he gets attached to it.
I really love them, they're great. She's just baby crazy (rightfully so for her grandchildren), I just have limited time with other family members. And besides all my justifiable reasons, I would love to not go all the way to my due date and I just think it would be really funny. She knew my due date when they decided to plan their trips.
Omg @aehogan90 my ILs are away end of July to the first week of August and this thought has crossed my mind as well. I'd only be 37 weeks though, so I'm not actually hoping to have LO while they're gone. MIL just keeps telling me that she "HAS" to be at the hospital this time, and I just don't see the point in her/them coming to wait. She constantly tells a very one-sided story about when I went into labour with DD that makes DH and I look like a**holes. It's upsetting.
This being our second, I now know I won't want visitors again until a few hours after birth, and I don't know how fair it is to be like "sure, come sit and wait, but just know that you'll be waiting another few hours before I become human again and want you to meet LO". My mom was in the room for L&D last time, and then she left and came back to hold DD about 2 hours after birth so that DH and I could spend time just the three of us, try latching, etc. My mom is very cognizant and respectful of our space, though.
My FFFC is that I've spent far too long on ingender the past few days trying to see if I can figure out the sex of this LO using the 'nub theory' (just learned about it a couple months ago). I swear I'm going insane with curiosity being Team Green this time (I found it much easier with the first!).
@aehogan90@HappyToBeHere I don't blame either of you! I don't even want DH to tell the ILs I'm in labor until after the baby arrives because I don't want to deal with them. If I have a scheduled RCS, my mom is comin out for DD and then I don't want visitors until the following day. I know whatever happens, they'll be pissed off and I could care less!
***TW in Siggy*** Me: 34 / DH: 33 Married: Nov 2011 TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014 TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
The last two days I've just wanted my dog to LEAVE ME ALONE! I love him and his sweet snuggly self but PLEASE stop touching me for 5 freaking seconds! I'm thinking it has to do with being downright uncomfortable in general and he comes and plops his 75lb behind on me and goes all limp body so I can't move him. I feel terrible about it, but I just want to sit alone!
@cmmiller531 dogs are ridiculous. Mine is only 20ish lbs and I have a hard enough time trying to get her off of me when she clings; I can't imagine trying to move 75lbs of dog!
My confession is I have like 5 outfits that I wear to work now. A lot of my maternity clothes are getting snug in the boobs and shoulder area, so I'm just sticking to wearing stretchy target dresses!
@aehogan90, I completely understand. My family lives 2 hours away and everyone except my immediate family was out of town when DS was born. They didn't and still don't get to see him as much as DHs family and I want them to get a chance this time. I'm actually delivering at a different hospital this time which is closer for my side and further for his. We're already getting pushback from people because we said we'd let them know when it's ok to come.
@HappyToBeHere This is my third time being Team Green and the first where I actually could click on the first trimester screening link in my email if I wanted to know the sex. I don't know if it's the email or the fact that this is likely my last, but I've been more tempted to find out than with the others. At the same time, I really love that delivery room moment and want to experience it again. I just wonder if it will be as emotional or exciting as the others especially if it's my third son. Not that I wouldn't be excited, but I'm basically assuming we're having another boy so I don't know if it will feel like a true surprise. Plus, I get enough comments from people about hoping or rooting for a girl, which really bothers me. I can't imagine some of the obnoxious things I'd hear if we already knew what we were having.
@MetsGirl18 - I hear you. I have no idea how you haven't clicked the link yet ... I've had 5 ultrasounds, and two u/s techs know what I'm having. They haven't documented it though, because I don't want someone to slip up either in my OB's office or in the delivery room. But if I had a link to click, I'd be so so so tempted!!
@emmeline714 I had pop-tarts and a frappucino for breakfast, a salad for lunch and just went to McDonald's and got an unsweetened iced tea and a mcflurry...no shame here....
@MetsGirl18@HappyToBeHere I'm Team Green as well and also have had the link in my email since about week 12. At first, it's all I thought about, then told myself "once you see it, you cant unsee it" and I've put it out of my mind. The tricky part now is my weekly ultrasounds, but today's tech was right when she said it's actually harder to tell as they grow, since they're more crowded in there. I'm a FTM and so excited for that delivery moment! One of my top priorities is to make sure DH gets to say "it's a boy/girl" and not a nurse/doctor.
Former team green here. Our US tech messed up and put it in the report that she emailed me. I was/ still am livid. DH knows that I knew, but we agreed that we wanted to keep him surprised. I haven't told anyone else that I know. I'm still really angry that they ruined the surprise for me but am trying to make the best of it. At least everyone else can be surprised!
Omg @kristenk727 that's infuriating! I've been paranoid about that. So sorry your surprise was spoiled, but hopefully it'll still be fun since you're keeping it to yourself.
@EmyB30 I had a Big Mac extra mac sauce with fries no salt and a coke I haven't gained as much weight as I did with my first so I thought i reward myself. I am only 182 lbs and with DD1 last year I had gained a lot more I don't even want to say.
Yeah it is a good feeling. DH is taking me on a movie night and I am debating what other junk food I will have tonight hopefully I don't feel sick after @EmyB30
@MrsVP614 I ended up with c-sections and DH was the one to announce the sex to me both times. The first time, the doctor just happened to let him announce the sex and the second time I just asked if he could tell me. They were amazing moments. I plan on having him do that again. This time, I'd like to announce the sex to my kids though so I get to see their reactions. They're rooting for a boy, but I'm sure they'll be thrilled either way.
@HappyToBeHere the practice I go to doesn't document the sex either (at least for Team Green). I always assumed they did but when I was getting prepped for my induction last time, the nurse asked what we were having and when I said we didn't know but I assume you do, she said nope, they don't document it.
***TW in Siggy*** Me: 34 / DH: 33 Married: Nov 2011 TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014 TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
My FFFC is that the crib & mattress have been delivered, and I have absolutely no desire (or energy) to set it up. I know it'll get done before LO gets here, even though he'll be in our room until he's 5/6 months old. Maybe it'll be my project when the kids start back to school.
I did set up the bassinet today though! To keep DD from climbing in it, she & I swaddled her babydoll & put it down for a nap in it instead. AW pic included.
I've finally got the urge to nest guys!! Too bad my fat swollen feet and legs didn't get the memo This isn't really a confession but it's all I got lol
Regarding eating McDonalds and stuff.... saw a Fit Pregnancy article saying "too much sugar" while pregnant is linked to childhood allergies and asthma. WTF? HOW MUCH SUGAR??There was zero info about what constitutes too much and for the love of all that is holy, I, for one, crave nothing but sweets. Whatever, I'm still eating massive creme-filled donuts from Marianos.
DH's family is having boundary issues with coming to the hospital in the day of my repeat c. I informed DH months ago I only want him and me when LO is born. He doesn't get the stress this places on me. He said, "I can't control who just shows up.". Last time MIL showed up to the hospital 20 min after we did and didn't leave until hubby did to grab stuff some 36-48 hours later. She lives near me and not more than 2 miles from hospital. I also felt overwhelmed when my hospital room was overloaded with 4-6 family visitors. Wish nurses would have cracked down on it.
Incidentally my surgical paperwork states that no one else other than your one support person is to come to hospital before I am out of recovery & ready for visitors. MIL & SIL think that is ridiculous and may come anyway. I honestly want my parents to be closer, but not at hospital in case things are rough again.
McDonalds must be a thing this week. Big Mac for dinner was delicious, but now suffering reflux/ hearburn.
My FFC: DH and I are actually contemplating Turing DS front facing because he has been such a nightmare to get into his seat recently. Yes, we know all the risk and +/- to this. Thankfully we have a few more weeks before Lo#2 arrives to really make this choice.
BTW, anyone else finding conflicting info on the safest position for the second carseat?
@Lauradi1010 - That sounds so overwhelming. I'm very thankful DH knows (or at least pretends to know, lol) how stressful it is to have people sitting and waiting/wanting to visit and hold LO, etc.
@Lauradi1010 every kid goes through a time where they suck getting into the car seat (been there!). I don't think it would matter which way they are facing. Keep pushing through it. Their safety is more important than a tantrum that they throw for a few minutes.
When you say position for the second car seat, do you mean which seating location in the rear?
***TW in Siggy*** Me: 34 / DH: 33 Married: Nov 2011 TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014 TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
@Lauradi1010 I second what @bumpybump said .... DD is currently (hopefully) just coming out of the tantrum getting into the carseat situation. She is forward-facing, but I really don't think it would matter one way or the other. Just gotta tough it out, unfortunately!! Good luck!
As for the second carseat in the back, I'll have the infant seat behind me and DD behind the passenger seat (where she currently is). I keep my seat far more forward as the driver in my SUV than DH does when he's passenger, so having the larger seat makes more sense behind me (I had DD behind me as well when she was in the infant seat).
@Lauradi1010 That's super frustrating and your DH should just put his foot down. My DH has had to with his mom a lot with various things - mostly to do with our wedding. DH has always been the dutiful son (playing into her guilt trips, etc.) so it's been a tough transition for her.
I'm having the opposite problem with the delivery room conundrum - I think I might want my mom in the room and DH is against it. We live across the country from both of our families and originally my mom was going to come out about 3 weeks after the baby was born. My sister will be in grad school and wants to come to meet the baby before classes start so now they will (likely) be here for the birth instead. I think if this had been the plan from the start, DH would be fine with it, but it was originally going to just be the 2 of us so he's having a tough time accepting that I might want her actually in the room. My FFFC could be...I want DH to be satisfied with this birth but if I'm the one actually doing the birthing and I want my mom there, I don't think he can/should object. Maybe that's selfish. I just have no idea what I'm going to want when the time comes.
Re: FFFC 7/7
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Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
This being our second, I now know I won't want visitors again until a few hours after birth, and I don't know how fair it is to be like "sure, come sit and wait, but just know that you'll be waiting another few hours before I become human again and want you to meet LO". My mom was in the room for L&D last time, and then she left and came back to hold DD about 2 hours after birth so that DH and I could spend time just the three of us, try latching, etc. My mom is very cognizant and respectful of our space, though.
My FFFC is that I've spent far too long on ingender the past few days trying to see if I can figure out the sex of this LO using the 'nub theory' (just learned about it a couple months ago). I swear I'm going insane with curiosity being Team Green this time (I found it much easier with the first!).
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
The tricky part now is my weekly ultrasounds, but today's tech was right when she said it's actually harder to tell as they grow, since they're more crowded in there.
I'm a FTM and so excited for that delivery moment! One of my top priorities is to make sure DH gets to say "it's a boy/girl" and not a nurse/doctor.
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
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Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
I did set up the bassinet today though! To keep DD from climbing in it, she & I swaddled her babydoll & put it down for a nap in it instead.
This isn't really a confession but it's all I got lol
WTF? HOW MUCH SUGAR?? There was zero info about what constitutes too much and for the love of all that is holy, I, for one, crave nothing but sweets.
Whatever, I'm still eating massive creme-filled donuts from Marianos.
Edit- missing words
DH's family is having boundary issues with coming to the hospital in the day of my repeat c. I informed DH months ago I only want him and me when LO is born. He doesn't get the stress this places on me. He said, "I can't control who just shows up.". Last time MIL showed up to the hospital 20 min after we did and didn't leave until hubby did to grab stuff some 36-48 hours later. She lives near me and not more than 2 miles from hospital. I also felt overwhelmed when my hospital room was overloaded with 4-6 family visitors. Wish nurses would have cracked down on it.
Incidentally my surgical paperwork states that no one else other than your one support person is to come to hospital before I am out of recovery & ready for visitors. MIL & SIL think that is ridiculous and may come anyway. I honestly want my parents to be closer, but not at hospital in case things are rough again.
My FFC: DH and I are actually contemplating Turing DS front facing because he has been such a nightmare to get into his seat recently. Yes, we know all the risk and +/- to this. Thankfully we have a few more weeks before Lo#2 arrives to really make this choice.
BTW, anyone else finding conflicting info on the safest position for the second carseat?
When you say position for the second car seat, do you mean which seating location in the rear?
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
As for the second carseat in the back, I'll have the infant seat behind me and DD behind the passenger seat (where she currently is). I keep my seat far more forward as the driver in my SUV than DH does when he's passenger, so having the larger seat makes more sense behind me (I had DD behind me as well when she was in the infant seat).
I'm having the opposite problem with the delivery room conundrum - I think I might want my mom in the room and DH is against it. We live across the country from both of our families and originally my mom was going to come out about 3 weeks after the baby was born. My sister will be in grad school and wants to come to meet the baby before classes start so now they will (likely) be here for the birth instead. I think if this had been the plan from the start, DH would be fine with it, but it was originally going to just be the 2 of us so he's having a tough time accepting that I might want her actually in the room. My FFFC could be...I want DH to be satisfied with this birth but if I'm the one actually doing the birthing and I want my mom there, I don't think he can/should object. Maybe that's selfish. I just have no idea what I'm going to want when the time comes.
We know baby will go in center seat, but still not sure weather to put DS behind driver or passenger.