Are you sharing your baby name?

whiska · July 2017

disneyfan0511 said:

@NME44 we're in the same boat. We can't decide on a name and likely won't know until the baby is born. This happened with our second DD - she was nameless for a few hours. DH and I have very different naming styles so it's hard for us to find middle ground.

This reminded me - I was nameless for like, 5 days! And I don't think it used to be so weird for parents to not decide on / announce a name for a while. I wonder how often that happens anymore, or if most parents in the US today feel like they have to name baby asap?

FakeFinn · July 2017

Nooe, not sharing the name. I don't care for other's opinions, but my SO will have more difficulty hearing negative opinions regarding the name. Also, we'll be sharing if it's a boy or a girl and we like at least one thing to be a surprise

Amber_Waves · July 2017

No, we won't be sharing or discussing names. Reason 1: Team Green
Reason 2: we'll probably just have a short list, not 1 boy name and 1 girl name. I want to see this kid before naming them. Some names I like better for a kid that has my husband's dark hair and eyes; some I like better if they seem to have my fair coloring.
Reason 3: Some of our names are family names and some are not. I don't want people to get attached to the idea of the baby having a family name, just to have us choose one that is more random in origin, but better suited to baby.

jackiesmom324 · July 2017

I'm not sharing until I have my take home baby and because hubby and I picked a weird name but we both like it

ChelK3 · July 2017

We've been telling everyone that asks. I know a lot of people won't like the names we have picked out, so this way they have more time to get used to it and accept that that is what the name will be, because we aren't changing our minds. If it's a boy the name will be Demitrius. Not sure on a middle name for a boy yet. If it's a girl it will be Dahlia Elaine. Our son's name is Leoric, but we all call him Leo. Everyone thought that was just the weirdest name ever, but I think it's cool that he has a "normal" nickname and a unique actual name.

kater622 · July 2017

We are sharing our name. I don't really care what people say, and if someone has something negative to say I just tell them that's rude. I've already started referring to her as Joey and I love it!

andipandicWed121369 · July 2017

With our first we shared the name with close family but no one else. I signed all my thank you cards from us and 'Baby E' so people got a hint, lol.

mdcd44127 · July 2017

I'm late to the party since I never signed on yesterday, but we're not sharing the names we've chosen. The only person I would be willing to share them with (my mom) can't keep a secret to save her life, so that's out.

I totally agree with @tamaraaaa when she says it's harder to hate the name when it's immediately associated with a baby, and like @MJDsquared, I don't want either of us (mostly DH) cooling on a name because someone else (like DH's overly opinionated dad) doesn't like it. We'll share the sex, and that's enough.

If people ask outright, I tell them we haven't decided yet, even though we've known for months... if they really push, I tell them the baby's name will be Potato.

@ChelK3 I love those names!

anewadventure · July 2017

@djd0404 haha, potato! that reminds me, last time we eventually were tired of the pushback and started just telling people outrageous names. i wish i remembered most of them. eventually we were on a camping trip with my parents and came across the original blacksmith shop of thaddeus stevens. we didn't (and still don't) know the first thing about this guy but we told my mom on the spot, "oh look! we'll name him baby thaddeus." and ran with it. she even wrote it on his card for the shower as a joke. it turned a contentious topic (to her, because she was offended we wouldn't tell her the name, same for MIL) into something funny we still joke about.

KLake42 · July 2017

It's a secret until they get here. I don't know if it's superstition, or we just like keeping secrets.

holzie-2 · July 2017

We were planning on keeping it a secret but decided to reveal at our gender reveal party because MIL guessed the girl AND boy names we liked, so we couldn't let MIL know and not my parents, so now everyone knows!

cait5413 · July 2017

Amber_Waves said:

No, we won't be sharing or discussing names. Reason 1: Team Green
Reason 2: we'll probably just have a short list, not 1 boy name and 1 girl name. I want to see this kid before naming them. Some names I like better for a kid that has my husband's dark hair and eyes; some I like better if they seem to have my fair coloring.
Reason 3: Some of our names are family names and some are not. I don't want people to get attached to the idea of the baby having a family name, just to have us choose one that is more random in origin, but better suited to baby.

Just a warning on hair/eyes: baby hair and eye color both change! DD was born with black hair like her dad and it all fell out and is brown, but not as dark as it was. My niece also had quite a lot of dark hair when she was born and is now pretty blond (she's 3). Her brother was born blonder than she was when she was born (and had less hair), but his hair is now light brown (he's a little over a year). A lot of babies are born with blue eyes that change color as they age. DD's went from navy blue to a blue ring on the outside and green/hazel in the middle. Now I think they may be sticking green, but not sure (she's 11 months). So you may not know when baby is born what their hair/eyes will ultimately be!

FakeFinn · July 2017

cait5413 said:

Amber_Waves said:

No, we won't be sharing or discussing names. Reason 1: Team Green
Reason 2: we'll probably just have a short list, not 1 boy name and 1 girl name. I want to see this kid before naming them. Some names I like better for a kid that has my husband's dark hair and eyes; some I like better if they seem to have my fair coloring.
Reason 3: Some of our names are family names and some are not. I don't want people to get attached to the idea of the baby having a family name, just to have us choose one that is more random in origin, but better suited to baby.

Just a warning on hair/eyes: baby hair and eye color both change! DD was born with black hair like her dad and it all fell out and is brown, but not as dark as it was. My niece also had quite a lot of dark hair when she was born and is now pretty blond (she's 3). Her brother was born blonder than she was when she was born (and had less hair), but his hair is now light brown (he's a little over a year). A lot of babies are born with blue eyes that change color as they age. DD's went from navy blue to a blue ring on the outside and green/hazel in the middle. Now I think they may be sticking green, but not sure (she's 11 months). So you may not know when baby is born what their hair/eyes will ultimately be!

@Amber_Waves

Same with my niece. BIL & SIL had two names in mind, one for a darkhaired girl and one for a blonde girl. My niece had straight brown hair until she was one year old. Now she has a head full of blonde curls!

Amber_Waves · July 2017

@cait5413
good to know! babies on my side are all bald for 24+ months, then blonde until they are teens, and then anything goes. I think I'm just going to assume that DH's thick brown hair won if baby is born with anything on their scalp. LOL.
Maybe I'll be wrong end up with a blonde named Raven, but I still want to take a peak before finalizing the name!

atack · July 2017

I am sharing. Did with the other two. Everyone loved DDs name (Claire- normal, classic, pretty and at the time not as popular as it might seem now). My sons name was a bit more varying opinions. My mom didn't seem to like it, but loves it now. His name is Patrick. This one we haven't finalized the boy option, and who knows what we'll do for the girl although it seems final: Eloise Catherine. Boy name may be Kellen or Sam(uel). I did share my like for Edith and Eleanor and not everyone liked Edith- esp my MIL. I told her she named her three kids already and she laughed it off. True story though! I use that line to anyone that gives me anything about our name choices.

anewadventure · July 2017

Amber_Waves said:

@cait5413
good to know! babies on my side are all bald for 24+ months, then blonde until they are teens, and then anything goes. I think I'm just going to assume that DH's thick brown hair won if baby is born with anything on their scalp. LOL.
Maybe I'll be wrong end up with a blonde named Raven, but I still want to take a peak before finalizing the name!

so, we like to joke in my family that our genes are "strong" - i am one of four siblings, we all have green or blue eyes and blonde hair. my dad has hazel eyes and blonde hair. my mom? brown eyes and brown hair. and none of her kids look like her.

fast forward...i have green eyes and blonde hair. my DH has dusky skin, dark brown hair, and brown eyes. we all thought, no question our son would look like DH. nope, he's a dead ringer for me except with blue eyes (and blonde hair) and people STILL ask my husband if he is the father! so bizarre. we're very interested to see how this LO turns out and he has his fingers crossed that he/she looks like him at least a little bit, haha

cait5413 · July 2017

@anewadventure We also say the Smith genes are strong (my dad's side). My mom refers to herself as a "freight forwarder" because my brother and I look nothing like her! She has dark brown hair, brown eyes, olive skin. My dad had dark brown hair as an adult but was born blond with hazel/green eyes. My brother and I were both blond, blue eyes, with the fair skin from my dad's side. Most people say DD looks like DH, but her hair is not as dark (his is legitimately black, from the Native American genes on his dad side), but she's paler like I am. Her eyes have been a combo of ours so far--blue on the outside (but darker than mine), and green/hazel in the middle (DH's are green), but I think they may stick green--we'll see. I had hopes for a black haired, blue-eyed baby, so maybe this one will fulfill that!

NME44 · July 2017

agree with @cait5413. My daughter had brown hair with a blonde patch when she was born. Now blonde blonde blonde.

my husband = brown hair, dark brown eyes, reddish beard.
me = blue eyes, used to be blonde but now mousy brown hair.

my kids: bright blue eyes with blonde hair, olive green eyes with blond hair.

DH says it'd be nice to have one that looks like him this time

elev2017 · July 2017

I'm being very selective about who I tell. I love our names and I don't want to hear negative opinions so I've only told people who I think will be non-judgmental. We also only have one name for each gender picked so far and if we have two boys we're probably going to pick two different names than what we chose for the boy/girl combo. If we have two girls then we'll keep the first girl name we chose and then pick a second one. Twins make everything more complicated lol!

beaandthebabes · July 2017

We've gone ahead and told our name and no one has been as excited/in love with it as we are but I know that will change when they are attached to a sweet little baby so I'm not letting my feelings get hurt over it.
I just like being able to call him by his name from early on knowing he is getting used to my voice in there.
I looove when people make it a surprise but we are just not surprise people.

jekasi · July 2017

I don't like to discuss names with others, either. I don't want someone throwing shade on a name that I'm considering. When people ask, I usually tell them it's hard because I am an elementary school teacher and don't want to run into a bunch of other kids with the same name. In reality I am like 95% set on a name. I've only said the name to my DH and BFF so far, and like with the first, I kind of want to let it simmer in my head for a while before I commit.

ChelK3 the name we are considering right now is Demitri although I'm not set on spelling yet

babytimeagain · July 2017

I'm really picky about names and have known for years what I would name my future kids (also sharing with my family and close friends). Dean for a boy and Elizabeth for a girl. Well, we just found out yesterday that we're Team Pink, so Elizabeth it is! We decided on a middle name yesterday, so she'll be Elizabeth Lane. We've already shared the name with family, since the name is firm and there's no swaying my mind. Also, since I tend to prefer more traditional names, I don't foresee anyone having any issues with the name.

ml005 · July 2017

I say no to name sharing, but I imagine I will spill the beans to a few people.

Henderson2015 · July 2017

We're sharing! Her name is going to be Felicity Lynn. I love watching people reaction from genuine love to 'yeahhhh that's a cute name' I honestly don't care what anyone else thinks about the name and love it when someone asks me "well what if she doesn't look like a Felicity?" To me, the look of the infant in that moment doesn't change a name I've already picked out and imagined it by. At 20 weeks we picked Oliver William out for our son, and I had envisioned a brown eyed, brown haired chunk and he has beautiful blue eyes, sandy blonde hair and was only 6.5lbs. I am sticking with Felicity, I love the name, I love the meaning and I will love it no matter what she looks like!

lijuan09 · July 2017

We will share our name, we did with DS and ended up with some really nice personalized items. Plus we have made up our mind, and no one's opinion is going to change that. I do want to run the middle name by MIL since it is her mother's name, and we will use it unless she has a strong objection to it. But that's out of respect for her feelings for her mother, not because she can tell us how to name a kid. Make sense? Anyway yes once it's finalized we will share the name with family & friends.

cmillar36 · July 2017

Nope.

tmk0325 · July 2017

I tell people names I like however we are team green and agree on hardly anything, so the odds of us using one of those names are pretty slim. I like to talk about names though, but SO and I have barely even discussed names yet. We have middles names Harvey for a boy (SO's grandpa that just passed) and Lou for a girl (my mom's middle name), so we'd have to find names that go with those. We also had middle names for our boys first too.

AFrye0726 · July 2017

Most people knew before we were pregnant, they didn't realize it was going to stick apparently because we are getting a ton of negative feedback. Neither of us care, it's his name and we use it regularly for the boys and putting his name on things.
I love actually hearing people use it in context now, but definitely sick of the alternate suggestions..

bbylifelove · July 2017

Nope, not telling anyone else! Me and DH were on the same page from day 1 on that, and our families understand. My sister did the same, and good thing she did. I'm still not a fan of their first daughter's name, but hey, it's their decision!

mrsorigami · July 2017

Not telling anyone names. With our first we didn't decide on her name until pretty close to before she was born, but even then we refused to tell anyone any details like initials or anything. Family had a hard time with it and I don't understand why. It's not their decision and the name has nothing to do with how much they will love the baby.

This time we're not telling any names either, and people are pissed. We also won't be sharing the sex with anyone, if we even find out ourselves. And a few certain family members can't stand not knowing.

I feel like for us as women, people are all already up in our business/uterus all the time anyway (even when not pregnant), so why should they know? Sometimes it feels good to keep a secret. I don't like that they are mad about it, but you can't always get what you want.

ktlee80 · July 2017

We're having a boy. We aren't sharing his name prior to his birth but we do have a short list for first names but a definite middle name. My parents will be the first to know because my dad will be giving him a Chinese name so he'll try to "match" it as close as he can to his American name phonetically but with a meaning.

ChelK3 · July 2017

So I've shared our choice for a boy name on here, Demitrius. We've also told most of SO's family (my family hasn't asked yet, so we haven't told any of them.). There response is "that's a black name!" Followed by lots of laughter at the idea of our "white baby" having a "black name". They have even made jokes saying that I must be hiding something from SO, because I'd only choose that name if I expected the baby to be of a different ethnicity. I'm so annoyed and offended for so many reasons, but also, the name originates from GREEK mythology and is a very popular (although spelled differently) RUSSIAN name. I'm not saying I'm opposed to choosing a name that would be popular amongst African Americans, or any other ethnicities, but what they are saying isn't even true! Ugh, I'm trying not to care too much, but I'm almost starting to wish we wouldn't have shared our name!

MJDsquared · July 2017

@Chelk3 That was my first thought when I started reading, that Demitrius doesn't sound like a "black name" to me at all (and like you said, not like any one race has a monopoly on any names). Also you can name your baby anything you want! Ugh, I hate that people feel like they have a right to ask what names you're thinking and then proceed to tell you why they're terrible. Like, either keep your mouth shut if you don't like it or don't ask about names at all!

mrsorigami · July 2017

@ChelK3 I am sorry-that sounds really annoying of them! I love the name Demitrius!

MJDsquared · July 2017

Today:

Coworker: Do you have any names picked?
Me: *Tells top boy name/story behind it*
CW: I like that! What about girls?
Me: *Tells top two girl names*
CW: *Silence...pause* I really like Ezekiel!

Another coworker liked Ezekiel and didn't totally hate our girl names (Lennon & Elodie) but he asked where we came up with them. I don't care because I don't really consider any of my coworkers friends, so their opinions matter less to me than other people's would (or I wouldn't have told them!).