I'm currently in the waiting room at my OB's office doing the 3hr glucose tolerance test. I'm totally treating myself to the Olive Garden across the street afterwards for lunch. I won't know my results today, so I figured I'd splurge.
I thought of a spicy one the other day. So when I met DH, it was through a friend. We were going to see a friend's band play and went to dinner first. She invited him to go with us and even put him on the phone with me. I told him not to be a douche bag and to just meet us. He told me to scald myself showering to get ready. He came to dinner and flirted with me like crazy, but I didn't think anything of it, just assumed it was his personality. Next night my friend's roommate gets tickets to another concert (Eric Church) so we go to that, too, with a different group of people. I get pretty tipsy and wind up hanging out with this dude they know. Dancing and making out. Turns out, it's DHs cousin, not first cousin, like his dad's first cousin's son. DH and I wind up dating and I figure out the connection somehow. Probably because the cousin has a name that's not really common for guys. I was so scared to tell DH. I told him a couple years ago and he thinks it's hilarious.
TL;DR, the night after I met DH I made out with his cousin.
The stack of urine collection cups and sharpie to write our names with grosses me out every time I see them. My mind always goes crazy thinking of how much urine is potential on that sharpie (I always write my name on the cup first).
***TW in Siggy*** Me: 34 / DH: 33 Married: Nov 2011 TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014 TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
@bumpybump luckily our nurses write our names on the cup (with their gloves on) for us. But if I open the little collection box and there's someone else's cup in there just sitting... gross!
Is this when you girls have to pee before your appointments? We have bathrooms attached to our exam rooms and we just pee in a little plastic cup and then the nurse comes and checks it. One appointment I couldn't hold it waiting to be called back and had to pee in the waiting room restroom. I had to pee in a cup and put it in a brown paper bag and keep it with me until I was called back. Felt kind of awkward carrying a brown paper sack..with pee in it...
@EmyB30 yes, I pee in a cup at every appointment. We can go to the bathroom and leave our samples at any time after we check in and up to our appointment. No carrying around a bag with piss in it here.
***TW in Siggy*** Me: 34 / DH: 33 Married: Nov 2011 TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014 TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
@bumpybump I don't have carry the bag of piss with me every time thankfully!!! Just if I have to go before I get called back to the room. I always feels bad after I pee in the cup because 8 out of 10 times I miss. I always wipe off the sides of the cup before leaving the bathroom.
@bumpybump At my office the print off a sticker for us to put on there. I guess that way there is no mistaking who's cup it is.
My FFFC is I am so bad at peeing in that cup. I never had this problem with DS but this time around I either can't get enough pee out or I pee like a sprinkler and can't get catch enough. I guess they don't need very much because the nurses have not said anything.
+1 to what @shyviolet does! My office prints off labels and puts them on for us, and they give us extra wipes to wipe the cup off with after!
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
my office does the sticker and then in the bathrooms there is a little like cubby door in the wall and you open that, put you cup in, and the other side has a door to the lab so no carrying it around or pee cups all over.
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
Our bathrooms are like yours @smallbutmighty77. It grosses me out when I open the box on the wall in the bathroom and someone's pee is sitting in it. our nurses write our name on the cup before sending us in. One time they just wrote "Sarah" on my cup (you know bc it's such an original name) and got my pee mixed up with a woman who went just before me... also named Sarah. They were drilling me about having high sugar in my urine and later realized their mistake.
DH just text me saying he and DD are going to stay the night at FILs house and that I could meet them there tomorrow. I got so freaking excited. King size bed to myself! Not waking up to put DD back to bed! Yeessssss!!!!!
I think it's weird to kiss anyone on the mouth that's not your SO. Especially kids. It's an intimate thing. DS has been trying to kiss me on the mouth lately and I don't know why.
And yes, I realize I'm posting this after admitting to making out with a stranger.
I grew up kissing my mom and dad good night. The kisses stopped probably when I hit elementary school at the latest. I don't even think of my family as particularly affectionate. I guess it's a family culture thing.
@SpotConlon we're affectionate, I have no problem with kissing, just not on the mouth. Especially babies and small children who have compromised immune systems. I don't know if you have a cold sore or if you've been sick. It especially makes me mad when people bring germs around my new born. When DS was 5 weeks old, MIL got a bad respiratory infection, FIL didn't have symptoms and showed up at our house unannounced. DS was sick within a couple days and had to be swabbed nasally for pertussis.
I feel like the majority of people don't understand how germs work. Pregnant women, babies, and elderly people are more susceptible to getting sick and just because you don't feel bad or "that bad", it's best to err on the side of caution and stay away.
@bumpybump - we have to pee in a Dixie cup and bring it out to the nurse lol. I'm waiting to trip and dump it on something or myself. She just tests, dumps the sample and tosses the cup.
Mine is I have a money stash in the house that DH doesn't know about/know where it is. Any Birthday, Christmas, random cash I get my hands on I put it in there. Like when we saved money on the carpet install cause I paid cash and I put the difference in my stash. Hehe I could put it in my own bank account but for some reason I just like having the cash there, feels like more of a treat to grab what I think I need and go buy something - I bought a Boba baby wrap today with some of it. Sometimes I get DH something with it. It's probably the only "secret I have" from DH.
Me: 37 DH: 37 - Married 10.2015 ❤️ Canadian DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
I don't find it odd when parents kiss their little kids on the mouth, I remember kissing my parents goodnight on the mouth when I was very young but don't remember when it stopped- maybe early elementary school? But extended family members and beyond are a nope for a multitude of reasons. And most of them are about transmitting gross ass germs to a wee baby. I'm breezy about germs for myself normally when not pregnant but this flu season I practically cocooned myself at home. Which is why there are a few rule I'm instituting from day one before the baby gets his shots and immunization abilities up to speed.
1- Hands must be washed when before handling the baby. I don't care if you just used hand sanitizer or "your hands are clean" get your ass to the sink and wash your hands with soap.
2- No kissing his face or hands. I have a friend who has a herpes strain virus from her aunt kissing her on the mouth area as a baby because Aunt "didn't realize" she was on the start of a herpes breakout. My friend is still pissed about it 30 years later.
Together: January 2002 Married: May 2008 Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
I totally kiss DD on the mouth and she does the same. I don't find it odd at all for parents to do so with their children when young. Realize they are also probably seeing you and DH do it and are learning it's a way to show love.
***TW in Siggy*** Me: 34 / DH: 33 Married: Nov 2011 TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014 TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
I guess I shouldn't say gross, just not my style. It makes it difficult to say it's ok for mommy and daddy to do this, but no one else. I also have been getting anxious knowing he's at the age where he notices body parts and how to tell him who it's ok for them to change his diaper or take him potty since we both have large families
The pee cup conversation is kind of baffling me. Do you guys have to pee in a cup before every appointment? Is it for protein? My midwife just keeps a tube of the test strips with an indicator chart in the bathroom. When you turn up, go to the bathroom and pee on the little strip. If it turns green and yellow (glucode and protein) all good. Just throw it in the bin. If it turns a different color, tell her what color it went. No pee cups. Or pee handling. Or pee outside of the toilet.
Yup. Each appointment starts with a bathroom trip where you write your name on a small test tube, pee in a disposable cup, pour pee into said test tube (throwing out cup) and then put pee tube in a special holder thingy that is in a two way cabinet.
Together: January 2002 Married: May 2008 Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
I've definitely started using the "pregnancy card" at work to get out of things. My direct supervisor doesn't have/never wants kids and somehow she has no clue what pregnancy can be like so I can get away with a lot. I usually only do it if it will make a specific coworker I don't like have to do something.
I come from a big Italian family and for whatever reason I feel like we often kiss each other on the lips. As I've become an adult I kiss them more like right between the lips and cheek. But yeah I totally grew up kissing my mom and even grandparents on the lips! I definitely kiss my kids on the lips.
To chime in on the kids kissing thing my mom and I always did Eskimo kisses. It was something special just she and I did. I could see me doing it with my baby.
We do kisses on the mouth as well. I just followed DS lead. He started kissing on the mouth I'm like whatever. It doesn't happen often as he's more of a hug type. I thought this practice was gross before I was mom, I thought I'll never kiss my kid on the mouth. Now it doesn't bother me. Not sure when we'll stop doing that, probably I'd say 1st grade or so!
Re: FFFC 6/30
TL;DR, the night after I met DH I made out with his cousin.
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
One appointment I couldn't hold it waiting to be called back and had to pee in the waiting room restroom. I had to pee in a cup and put it in a brown paper bag and keep it with me until I was called back. Felt kind of awkward carrying a brown paper sack..with pee in it...
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
My FFFC is I am so bad at peeing in that cup. I never had this problem with DS but this time around I either can't get enough pee out or I pee like a sprinkler and can't get catch enough. I guess they don't need very much because the nurses have not said anything.
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
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Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
And yes, I realize I'm posting this after admitting to making out with a stranger.
I feel like the majority of people don't understand how germs work. Pregnant women, babies, and elderly people are more susceptible to getting sick and just because you don't feel bad or "that bad", it's best to err on the side of caution and stay away.
Mine is I have a money stash in the house that DH doesn't know about/know where it is. Any Birthday, Christmas, random cash I get my hands on I put it in there. Like when we saved money on the carpet install cause I paid cash and I put the difference in my stash. Hehe I could put it in my own bank account but for some reason I just like having the cash there, feels like more of a treat to grab what I think I need and go buy something - I bought a Boba baby wrap today with some of it. Sometimes I get DH something with it. It's probably the only "secret I have" from DH.
DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
03.2016 - Natural BFP - MC 5w4d
04.2016 - Natural BFP - Chemical
10.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = IUI Cancelled (cyst/no mature follicle)
11.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFP, EDD 08.2017 - It's a BOY!
TTC #2 06.2019
08.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = Chemical
09.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFN
10.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #3 = BFN
01.2020 - IUI w/ Injections #4 = BFN
08.2020 - Natural BFP - MC 9w5d
11.2020 - IVF Retrieval - 3AB & 4BB
05.2021 - FET #1 = BFP, EDD 02.2022 - It's a BOY!
1- Hands must be washed when before handling the baby. I don't care if you just used hand sanitizer or "your hands are clean" get your ass to the sink and wash your hands with soap.
2- No kissing his face or hands. I have a friend who has a herpes strain virus from her aunt kissing her on the mouth area as a baby because Aunt "didn't realize" she was on the start of a herpes breakout. My friend is still pissed about it 30 years later.
Together: January 2002
Married: May 2008
Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
My FFFC is that I got mad at my 2.5 year old for acting like a 2.5 year old. I blame the hormones.
Together: January 2002
Married: May 2008
Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
#1 - DD: 7/5/12
#2 - DS: 5/21/14
#3 - EDD: 8/25/17
I thought this practice was gross before I was mom, I thought I'll never kiss my kid on the mouth. Now it doesn't bother me. Not sure when we'll stop doing that, probably I'd say 1st grade or so!