UO Thursday 6/22

meatballs37 · June 2017

unpopular opinion Thursday!

meatballs37 · June 2017

I don't really like Starbucks. I don't get what the big deal is. I will have a pumpkin spice latte in the fall. But other than that, meh.

smorzandoj · June 2017

@meatball37 you have hurt my heart. I don't drink coffee though but I love chai. And their salads. And..um...the chocolate chip muffin.

sabriel1 · June 2017

I've got one that I know is unpopular. I think posting ultrasound photos is dumb. They only mean something to you. To everyone else they just look like blobs. There are some posters on here that I've been watching for just in hopes that everything is alright with thier pregnancies but that would have been accomplished better with a simple "yay, got an ultrasound and saw the heartbeat".

I like that they have their own thread on here so I can choose to ignore if I want I just think it's dumb to post it. I especially think it's wierd when people post them on Facebook or put them in a frame as a gift... Like what do you want me to do with this?

There you have it, I'm a kill joy

MrsJ2410 · June 2017

@meatball37 I have become OBSESSED with Starbucks since getting KU, mostly because its a chain and they have the caffeine in mgs on their website which I feel like I can trust more. And they will honor whatever crazy pregnant request I have.

My UO is I can't understand why everyone thinks its ok to have Native American themed things for babies. Like baby headdresses and teepee print everything and "raising my tribe" shirts. Just so disrespectful. Sorry.

eggplantface · June 2017

MrsJ2410 said:

My UO is I can't understand why everyone thinks its ok to have Native American themed things for babies. Like baby headdresses and teepee print everything and "raising my tribe" shirts. Just so disrespectful. Sorry.

I'm very glad I've never heard of this being a thing.

awb1216 · June 2017

@meatball37 I'm with you. I don't get the Starbucks thing at all. I'll have a latte once in a while when I'm traveling, but other coffee shops have much better coffee and generally I prefer to keep my $4 and make my coffee at home. I've never had a pumpkin spice latte, never had a Frappucino, (not really sure what it is anyway).

My unpopular opinion is that I don't get the point of gender reveal parties. I don't have a problem with making it a fun event for the parents with a cake or something like that, but it seems excessive to have a big party for a big group of people to find out the gender.

meatballs37 · June 2017

@MrsJ2410 well then you would hate my DD's nursery. It's filled with fox and teepee print stuff. I look at it this way, whether I decorate with igloos, shamrocks, or rainbow hearts. Everything has to come from a source. I personally think the prints are adorable. Native Americans aren't the only ones who use teepees. I also think it depends on how one presents things that makes something disrespectful or not.

@smorzandoj I wish I liked tea.

@sabriel1 I never posted my ultrasound on my last BMB or Facebook. Mostly because for me personally I thought it was weird to basically say "hey everyone, look inside my uterus!"

hullabalou · June 2017

I think second, third, etc. baby showers are fine. I have a friend pregnant with her 4th and we are throwing a shower for her. Of course she doesn't need big gifts, but it is fun to get together and buy baby clothes and celebrate a pregnancy.

eggplantface · June 2017

awb1216 said:

My unpopular opinion is that I don't get the point of gender reveal parties. I don't have a problem with making it a fun event for the parents with a cake or something like that, but it seems excessive to have a big party for a big group of people to find out the gender.

Yup. I've said it before and I'll say it again: Sex reveal parties: When the baby shower just isn't enough attention. I also take the philosophy that no one thinks your kid is as cute/special/important as you do. If you want to have one, more power to you, but I'll politely decline the invite.

the_other_mother · June 2017

I personally enjoy gender reveals. Whether it's close family, friends, or just acquaintances, I am always excited to find out. I did mine at my shower, but I don't think I would ever have a separate, huge party just for that. If I do it again it will just be a little get together with immediate family.

I have never understood why so many people think 2nd+ showers are "tacky." Unless you are literally throwing yourself a party. Most people around here have "sprinkles."

I thought of an OU yesterday and was waiting for today to use it and it has completely escaped me. *Face palm*

BelhurstBride · June 2017

eggplantface said:

awb1216 said:

My unpopular opinion is that I don't get the point of gender reveal parties. I don't have a problem with making it a fun event for the parents with a cake or something like that, but it seems excessive to have a big party for a big group of people to find out the gender.

Yup. I've said it before and I'll say it again: Sex reveal parties: When the baby shower just isn't enough attention. I also take the philosophy that no one thinks your kid is as cute/special/important as you do. If you want to have one, more power to you, but I'll politely decline the invite.

Couldn't agree more.

And it's a sex reveal. It isn't a gender reveal. And if you can't use the correct term that you aren't grown up enough to be having the damn party.

heatherdubrow · June 2017

Agreed on sex reveal, Native American themed nurseries, and Starbucks...

I can't think of a UO today.

Chawk17 · June 2017

smorzandoj said:

@meatball37 you have hurt my heart. I don't drink coffee though but I love chai. And their salads. And..um...the chocolate chip muffin.

I love Starbucks chai lattes too. Although I did have to go from a venti to a grande.:)

Chawk17 · June 2017

MrsJ2410 said:

@meatball37 I have become OBSESSED with Starbucks since getting KU, mostly because its a chain and they have the caffeine in mgs on their website which I feel like I can trust more. And they will honor whatever crazy pregnant request I have.

My UO is I can't understand why everyone thinks its ok to have Native American themed things for babies. Like baby headdresses and teepee print everything and "raising my tribe" shirts. Just so disrespectful. Sorry.

2 things to comment. What are you getting at Starbucks? I get chai lattes but don't know what else I can get while pregnant...so I'm after advice.

And 2nd is it bad that I've intentionally picked out spiritual names. Hawk and Fox. I don't want to be disrespectful. But I love the native spiritual names. I'm not doing teepees or anything though. I'm with you on that.

MrsJ2410 · June 2017

@Chawk17 I get a decaf iced coffee with two pumps of chai, its like a dirty chair but cheaper, and there is a little caffeine from the chai syrup but not too much because only two pumps! Or I get a Strawberry refresher with lemonade because the lemonade waters it down a bit and the refresher's don't have a lot of caffeine to begin with and they weirdly help me with my morning sickness ( tart fruity things seem to help me).

I wouldn't assume those names were picked to be Native American, just different and nature based. I am not the be all end all expert on this, and I am more referring to when like smiling super blonde mommy bloggers dress their blue eyed, blond babies in headdresses because its "boho". I just think the line between "boho" and cultural appropriation has become a little blurred...

Aeml1985 · June 2017

1) I LOVE starbucks but hate that the only way to get a decaf iced coffee is to order an iced americano, not the same
2) we had a sex reveal party but only invited parents, siblings and best friends. There were no presents, photographers or crazy paraphernalia (only cupcakes and other deserts) and I will have one for this baby as well.
3) My daughter has a teepee in her playroom, I really don't get how it's disrespectful and I think the PC thing has gone WAY too far when the use of the word "tribe" is offensive. It's a word that applies to more than one situation.
4) My gf is hosting a sip and see for baby #2, not because I want presents, because lets face it people have shitty taste and buy you a bunch of shit you don't want/need/didnt register for anyways. But why shouldn't the birth of a second/third/etc child be celebrated?

So, no individual UO but it seems today is about disagreeing with other peoples.

meatballs37 · June 2017

DD is blonde haired blue eyed and part Native American. I think assuming children that have lighter features can't be part of Native American culture is ignorant.

Starynightsky24 · June 2017

I love coffee! All the coffee! I miss the caffeine terribly. Although, I do agree that there are much better place to get your coffee then Starbucks.

Second baby showers don't bother me… If I don't want to come I just decline. But I do see how it can be gift grabby.

I always invited to the family out to a restaurant and had a cute way to announce the sex there. With DS it was around easter so we gave everyone an Easter egg, and they opened it to find the blue candy. With DD we brought pink filled cupcakes. It was fun and not all about the baby. We will do something similar again.

My UO is that I so dislike watermelon. Yuck. It's like textured water! It's annoying this time of year, because it's everywhere.

mbirdie · June 2017

MrsJ2410 said:

@meatball37 I have become OBSESSED with Starbucks since getting KU, mostly because its a chain and they have the caffeine in mgs on their website which I feel like I can trust more. And they will honor whatever crazy pregnant request I have.

My UO is I can't understand why everyone thinks its ok to have Native American themed things for babies. Like baby headdresses and teepee print everything and "raising my tribe" shirts. Just so disrespectful. Sorry.

YES. As a full status First Nations woman with a full status DH and DD I completely agree with this. It just looks weird and out of place to me. My friend once said she was going to make an apartment building print and see if it would sell the same as all the teepee stuff, lol. I like this article

https://www.scarymommy.com/cultural-appropriation-versus-appreciation/?utm_source=FB

magnolia305 · June 2017

I guess my unpopular opinion is that I can't stand 2nd showers. I live in a small town, though, where everyone knows everyone and showers/sprinkles/diaper parties are a huge deal. At the school I work in, things have gotten out of control--showers, sprinkles, showers for 2nd marriages, etc. In a 3 year time span, though, we have had a baby shower, a wedding shower, and a "sprinkle", for the same girl. That's a lot. I do understand there are times a second shower is completely appropriate, in which I gladly participate

meatballs37 · June 2017

I had a shower for my second marriage (DH's first marriage and his family wanted to celebrate). My wedding shower, baby shower, and this baby will all be within three years. I don't think I should feel guilty or shameful about that at all. If people have a problem with it, they aren't the type of people I would consider a friend.

Ashoes123 · June 2017

I can't stand watching team sports. The sounds of football on the TV revolts me. Im secretly hoping my DD and future child have zero interest in sports because becoming a soccer mom and driving from practice to practice is my worst nightmare. Gymnastics, karate, swim team is OK. Soccer, football, hockey not OK.

clc515 · June 2017

I dont enjoy that after we got married last year, everyone asks about kids. We used to talk about things besides that right? And yes we want kids, and we will announce around 12 weeks, but Im cringing at the thought that kids are all people will ask about for now on.

P.S. totally agree about big ass gender reveal parties (i think a family dinner is cute), and i do think 2nd and 3rd showers are just fine.

mamajenna_cnm · June 2017

Ok, I had a patient today tell me that her husband gave her this beautiful engraved necklace as an early "push present". I've never heard of this before...so she proceeded to tell me that it was a present that the birth partner gives to the mom for "pushing the baby out"!! UMMMMMMM.....WHAAAAT?! Apparently this is a thing...something I think is completely ridiculous and puts a lot of pressure on the birth partner. Shouldn't the baby be the push present lol?

eggplantface · June 2017

mamajenna_cnm said:

Ok, I had a patient today tell me that her husband gave her this beautiful engraved necklace as an early "push present". I've never heard of this before...so she proceeded to tell me that it was a present that the birth partner gives to the mom for "pushing the baby out"!! UMMMMMMM.....WHAAAAT?! Apparently this is a thing...something I think is completely ridiculous and puts a lot of pressure on the birth partner. Shouldn't the baby be the push present lol?

I think husbands/partners have probably been giving their wives a gift after the birth throughout history (if they wanted to), but it only recently was given a name and became a "thing" that you just "have to" do.

barrelocarol · June 2017

Ha! I love you ladies.

My unpopular opinion is that I get really irked when I receive 1 year, 2 year, etc... birthday invited with a registry.

I can see the one year thing, but by 2 years, it starts to irk me.

However, I'm amazed at people's generosity. For my son's first birthday party, we wrote some version of "your presence is our present" and people poured out so many gifts. I cried. Couldn't believe it!

Chawk17 · June 2017

mamajenna_cnm said:

Ok, I had a patient today tell me that her husband gave her this beautiful engraved necklace as an early "push present". I've never heard of this before...so she proceeded to tell me that it was a present that the birth partner gives to the mom for "pushing the baby out"!! UMMMMMMM.....WHAAAAT?! Apparently this is a thing...something I think is completely ridiculous and puts a lot of pressure on the birth partner. Shouldn't the baby be the push present lol?

Yep I've had my push present picked out for 3 years. Flame if you want. But I'm getting another wedding band. Same band, but on the other side. So wedding band, engagement, push band.

Bear in mind, I'm only having one healthy pregnancy- singletons or multiples we are only going through this experience once so the gift has meaning.

meatballs37 · June 2017

I'm all about the push presents! DH got me DDs birthstone in a set of earrings. I deserved it. Her delivery was god awful.

heatherdubrow · June 2017

I'm with @eggplantface in that birth partners have probably been giving gifts forever. But yea, calling it a push present just sounds stupid.
But maybe I'm bitter because my H has never given me one?

ashhsa · June 2017

Okay- I've got one- that I myself might regret saying in a few weeks-

I am looking forward to morning sickness!
Now hear me out- im only 4 weeks and 4 days- and have had none yet- I had it in my last pregnancy- but obviously it wasentt so bad for me. And I found it reassuring that everything was progressing as it should. I hope I don't get it worse than last time though, and if I do I'll regret ever saying this at all.

the_other_mother · June 2017

I think the term "push present" is stupid. I don't think I would have ever heard it in a million years in real life or in my circle, I only ever heard it here. With that said, I would love to receive one, but I don't think anything should be "expected." I would feel like a total brat if I was mad about not getting one. DH was so supportive before, during, and after birth that he didn't really need to spend money on anything IMO.

MamaRoni · June 2017

I have 5 little boys.... had a shower for the first.... shower for 2 and 3 since they were twins.... a friend party with 5 friends for the 4th.... and nothing for the 5th.... we had an 11 week loss between the 4th and 5th and I feel like I definitely wanted something to celebrate him.... afterall it is a miracle anyone has a baby...
From now on.... I support people having more than that original shower.... every baby deserves a celebration . ...

That said... there's a girl in my town who had 7 .... SEVEN.... huge showers for her little girl... OVERKILL

Zoey1019 · June 2017

Yes, perhaps my UO is I am want my "push present" as well....lol....I am a basic bitch and I know it. I don't care what you call it, but I like gifts and I will take every chance to get one that I can. This is NO way means that my baby isn't the #1 gift best gift ever!

My other UO is the UO thread, I have never liked it as long as I have been on TB. I think that it does help us get to know each other better, but I hate when it turns people against each other, I have seen it happen and it sucks, which is why I tend to avoid it.

Chawk17 · June 2017

I'm sure when I get my ring " push present" I'll hear snarky comments and see eye rolls especially from mil.
But I've gone through a lot to get this baby. I lost a tube for this dang it!

Zoey1019 · June 2017

@Chawk17 Same!

mamajenna_cnm · June 2017

Ok...hearing your different sides on push presents has definitely helped me understand a little better. Just the way this lady talked about it seemed outlandish to me. But I can see how a sentiment related to the baby or relationship can be really cherished by an expectant mama. Let's just not call is a push present! Please!

Chawk17 · June 2017

@mamajenna_cnm haha ok won't call it a push present. I agree thats the baby

EmmyMommy123 · June 2017

Chawk17 said:

mamajenna_cnm said:

Ok, I had a patient today tell me that her husband gave her this beautiful engraved necklace as an early "push present". I've never heard of this before...so she proceeded to tell me that it was a present that the birth partner gives to the mom for "pushing the baby out"!! UMMMMMMM.....WHAAAAT?! Apparently this is a thing...something I think is completely ridiculous and puts a lot of pressure on the birth partner. Shouldn't the baby be the push present lol?

Yep I've had my push present picked out for 3 years. Flame if you want. But I'm getting another wedding band. Same band, but on the other side. So wedding band, engagement, push band.

Bear in mind, I'm only having one healthy pregnancy- singletons or multiples we are only going through this experience once so the gift has meaning.

@Chawk17 this was my "push present"! I'd talked about how at some anniversary or with a first baby I'd love to have another band and that it was a symbol of a new step in our marriage/family. My husband was listening and presented it to me a couple hours after our son was born. So sweet! I love it. If the photo loaded properly you can see my husband had it on my sons finger

chucksmom15 · June 2017

clc515 said:

I dont enjoy that after we got married last year, everyone asks about kids. We used to talk about things besides that right? And yes we want kids, and we will announce around 12 weeks, but Im cringing at the thought that kids are all people will ask about for now on.

P.S. totally agree about big ass gender reveal parties (i think a family dinner is cute), and i do think 2nd and 3rd showers are just fine.

Yes!!! We got married last July and all I've heard since then is when are you having a baby? You know you're 35 right?? People literally said this at our reception.

chucksmom15 · June 2017

On the gifts after the baby's birth (avoiding the term lol), I think it's not a bad thing but it shouldn't be mandatory. I'm getting a new car next month bc my convertible is not baby friendly and we've now decided to build a house next year so I'm just gonna say that's my gift.

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