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EDD March 12, 2018
EDD March 12, 2018
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Waiting Room Wednesday - June 7th
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i don't think this was posted last week so I thought I'd start it again!
***General TW that this thread might contain discussions mentioning MC and loss.***
Welcome to Waiting Room Wednesday!
You can express your thoughts, feelings, and frustrations on not TTC and connect with others who are in the same boat. TTC can be a long journey, and having to wait makes it feel even longer -- even if it is for a good reason. I invite you to resurrect this thread at any point in the week if you have something to say. Treat this like an ongoing conversation.
Benched = involuntarily not NTNP/TTC and "out of the game," usually due to medical reasons
TTA = avoiding pregnancy by using protection or FAM, usually for non-health-related reasons __________________________________________________________________
Are you benched or TTA?
What brings you here?
How long do you think you'll be here?
How have things been going?
Any R/R?
GTKY: What is your favorite holiday?
Re: Waiting Room Wednesday - June 7th
Thank you all for your sweet words. I'm not much of a hugger, but...
Are you benched or TTA? TTA
What brings you here? My husband still won't commit to a second baby and I'm about to lose my shit going back and forth with it.
How long do you think you'll be here? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
How have things been going? Not good, hence my board break.
Any R/R? Ugh, so many. I'm just at a loss at this point. I've tried being direct, being subtle, pestering, not bringing it up at all, and everything in between. My husband just doesn't give me any answers. He swears he wants another child but will give me zero time frame. His response when I ask for a time frame (if he even responds) is "I don't know." At this point, our daughter will be at least 5 if a new baby comes along. I always wanted children close together so this is already hard for me to swallow. I was so close with my siblings and I'm afraid, if our daughter even gets a sibling, they will not have anything in common. Sometimes I wonder if my husband really wants another child. Even though he says he does, he doesn't act like it. I'm hurt, angry, and frustrated.
GTKY: What is your favorite holiday? Thanksgiving! I love seeing family and eating but I also love the anticipation of the Christmas season. I always get so excited for the Christmas season even though I, inevitably, get super stressed. Haha!
EDD March 12, 2018
Are you benched or TTA? Benched? I haven't talked to my doctor yet, but I will bring it up when I see her tomorrow.
What brings you here? TW- Miscarriage
How long do you think you'll be here? No idea. We both agreed to NTNP once we feel up to it, but I don't know what my cycle will be like.
How have things been going? I'm feeling ok, but I was a mess the last two days.
Any R/R? I really missed you, ladies.
GTKY: What is your favorite holiday? Definitely Christmas. It's such a magical time.
EDD March 12, 2018
Just here for GTKY since we've officially started TTC.
My favorite holiday is Christmas no question. I love decorating, Christmas lights, giving gifts, baking gifts, all the innocence and joy with the kids, the music, and all the time with friends and family
HX
DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
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@ChloandCoco - Oh no! I was just thinking about you the other day and was wondering how you were doing. I am so sorry for your loss. You will be in my thoughts and prayers
Are you benched or TTA? TTA
What brings you here? Waiting for news on a supplement. If I committed to the supplement I would have to be att school most of the school year. I am hoping I will hear soon. She seems in no real hurry to announce them and its not like I can say "Can you please hurry up and decide if I have it so I know when to start TTC! Thanks!" Ugh! The type A planner in me is struggling
How long do you think you'll be here? August at the latest but maybe July...
How have things been going? Lately it hasn't been too bad. I have spurts where I think about it a lot but then I get busy and it helps take my mind off of it. Next week my life will slow down a little so I'm sure I will start thinking about it a lot again.
Any R/R? I think all the ranting I did above just about covers it.
GTKY: What is your favorite holiday? Christmas is my favorite holiday because all of my famil traditions and seeing the kids all excited. I love Thanksgiving too though
I do understand not wanting your kids to be too far apart. I really hope you get an answer soon
@ChloandCoco I'm so sorry you're back here (although it's nice to see you!). Hopefully you won't be here too long! I agree with @notthefather, it's absolutely normal to be a mess in your situation.
@kindbytealikat Yay for starting!
@glitzandglitter Would it be inappropriate to ask them that? You could always frame it in another way, if you need to. "My cousin is getting married in October" or something. I hope you get an answer from them soon, though, because that has to be frustrating!
Are you benched or TTA? Still benched!
What brings you here? Waiting to go back to work from leave, and then we're going to give it three to five months before we actively start so that we can start saving.
How long do you think you'll be here? Hopefully not past the end of the year!
How have things been going? I pulled a muscle in my side a few days ago, AF arrived yesterday complete with awful cramps, woke up with a migraine today, and have been dealing with a flare up in my back. So... Fun! Other than that, things have been all right on the BOTB front. We'd received an ad from Target about creating a baby registry and getting a $20 gift card for doing so, so we did that the other night. The whole time, DH and I were like "I wish this was real". My sister's baby is due in just a couple of weeks, so that's been fun.
Any R/R? I shop at Torrid and they're having a "buy one, get 2 free" sale on their clearance. I also had a $10 coupon for my birthday, so I got about $50 worth of merchandise for $4!
GTKY: What is your favorite holiday? Once again, I'm the oddball...
I LOVE Halloween. I like Christmas and Thanksgiving, but I absolutely freaking LOVE Halloween. If we had a house with a nice front yard or porch, I'd decorate like crazy for Halloween.
Diminished ovarian reserve
BFP: 4/14/2020 EDD: 12/20/2020
I am sorry that you are having a rough week with AF and your pulled muscle
The pulled muscle is feeling better today, but still a little tender. HR can only move as fast as positions open up, unfortunately. I'm hoping I'll hear either the end of this week or sometime next week, but we'll see. The problem up until now was the lifting restriction, but now that it's been relaxed, it should theoretically be easier for them to find me something.
Diminished ovarian reserve
BFP: 4/14/2020 EDD: 12/20/2020
@glitzandglitter: Ugh! I'm anxious for you! It seems as if you've had to wait forever. Make a decision already! Geez...
@dreamscapes_: Way to go on the shopping deals! That sounds like a win in my book. My company does offer counseling but I'm not really comfortable meeting with someone on campus because of my interaction with others. I am open to seeking third party help at this point. See below...
Last night my husband and I had a discussion about getting pregnant and it didn't go well at all. We ended up having a huge argument that ended in hurt feelings both ways. Right now I don't see how this conversation will ever be positive and I'm not sure what that means for us growing our family, but it isn't promising. I hope we can have a more productive conversation now that we've both had time to calm down and process it.
EDD March 12, 2018
Diminished ovarian reserve
BFP: 4/14/2020 EDD: 12/20/2020
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DH and I were very split on this for a long time. I can tell you that for us, he was so compartmentalized and focused on himself that he wasn't really thinking about me and our goals/life as a couple. It took a long time for him to get there. Fortunately, he was usually more reasonable after we'd had an argument and he really saw how things were affecting me - it made him more open to discussing it. It didn't mean it went my way quickly, but it really opened the line of communication so we could articulate our real feelings. I hope that you two were able to revisit the topic and talk open and honestly!
Married: 2016
BFP #1 4/23/18, blighted ovum 5/29/18
BFP#2 7/14/18, DS 4/5/19
New update: As I had hoped, we were able to have a productive conversation about this last night after we both had time to calm down and reflect on the night before. We finally got to the root of my husband's hesitation about trying for another baby. He absolutely wants another child, he just dreads the stress and anxiety that comes with it. We discussed his specific anxieties and concluded that waiting will not make that anxiety go away. So, with his support, we're finally, finally, FINALLY going to start trying. I can't believe I actually get to say that
EDD March 12, 2018
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So happy you guys were able to talk productively AND that he's on board! Happy dance!
Married: 2016
BFP #1 4/23/18, blighted ovum 5/29/18
BFP#2 7/14/18, DS 4/5/19
Diminished ovarian reserve
BFP: 4/14/2020 EDD: 12/20/2020
EDD March 12, 2018
DS2 due 12/12/18
New here! Just put up my intro!
Are you benched or TTA? TTA
What brings you here? Ive had baby fever lately and Hubby and I both agree this isn't the right time to have a 3rd. I just started a new job and we are trying to buy a house here in the next few months. So I thought I could have some company with you ladies as I already come on here frequently for my boys' birth month groups.
How long do you think you'll be here? About a year....
How have things been going? Life and relationship wise I would say a steady incline up! Life has been really rough and put us through the ringer when I lost my job (mill closed) and SO got laid off in the same week right after our first born was a month old. But I am proud to say a big move 5 states away and 2 new jobs has proved the best decision ever! Other then that I've had some weird lady bit problems and my OBGYN can't get me in for another month and a half due to my work schedule
GTKY: What is your favorite holiday? Christmas! Don't know what it is but even thinking about it brings me back to feelings like a kid
Wow! 5 States is a big move! Glad it worked out for you
Re: OBGYN did you ask to be on their cancelation list? In cases like that I like to make an appointment but ask to be put on the list for a call if something opens up sooner. It's not always possible due to work hours but sometimes it works out.
EDD March 12, 2018
HX
DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
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@ChloandCoco *TW* I'm so sorry.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18