My first was breech from early on so I ended up with a csection. #2 was head down but she ended up flipping and has been breech from about 24 weeks up until now. My doctor thinks maybe it's something anatomical and there just isn't room in there for her to flip. I consented for a VBAC already but since I'm not a candidate for a version and I'm pretty sure I'm just meant to carry breech babies I already know that when they schedule me I will be scheduled for 7/18. DD1's Birthday is 7/11 so exactly 1 week apart if this little one stays breech.
I went for my last ultrasound yesterday and this little nugget is still breech and very high, she has no intention of flipping so I'm being scheduled for a c section first week of July. I have cried about this, don't know why I'm so upset.
I'm 29, husband is 30 Together since 2006 Married 01.17.15
Sigh just reporting that I will be 35 weeks tomorrow and baby is still head up. The doctor said if she doesn't flip by my 37 week appt that they will schedule a C-section. I'm meeting with a different Doula this weekend as she said she has some "tips" and has a lot of success with turning breech babies. But this is my last resort. I feel like I'm killing myself (and making myself miserable) spending hours a day doing all these crazy exercises and going to appointments trying to get this baby to flip and none of it has been successful. I was feeling very defeated last week but I've spent a lot of time talking with other Moms who have had C-sections and I'm starting to feel better about the possibility (probability).
@maribeth0721 and other breech mamas facing this- it is NOT anything you did or aren't doing etc. I think I wrote earlier but I had a breech baby with my first from 18w on and due to Lupus I had a LOT of scans so I was always aware of her position. I drove myself nuts from 30w on doing all the spinning babies (and hurting my back in the process), the chiropractor, the acupuncture, the moxibustion that nearly burned my pinky toes off and then the painful external version that did nothing except was most likely the impetus for my labor at 38w. I had an anterior placenta as well which does make it harder than a posterior one when they get bigger to turn. Finally I bought myself a great c section book and started coming to terms with not getting the birth I envisioned and allowed myself to grieve that and it did feel like grieving. I am going for a VBAC this time and I think I drove my doctor nuts asking for a low transverse and double sutures the whole time!
i just want you to know you aren't alone and it's okay to be upset about it and still want what's best for your baby. Don't let anyone tell you you should just be happy to get a healthy baby and make your feelings invalidated- people did it to me and it sucked. Keep doing whatever you feel you need to do whether it be exercises/procedures to try to turn them or eating ice cream and relaxing! C sections, especially planned ones like for breech, are really just another way to get baby. Read up on them and see what your hospitals offers in the way of gentle or family ones and still make a birth plan for what you would ideally like- I know it helped me feel more in control of the uncontrollable
@JAM85 Thanks so much for your reply and your kind words. They really mean a lot. The other thing is all these people (non-child birth educations, non-medical, etc) keep saying oh she will just flip in her own time! Be patient! And with all the research I have done and the specialists I have met with I know at this point how unlikely that is and I wish people would stop saying it....Like you said, it's invalidating. It also makes me think like it is something I am doing that is causing her not to flip. I am starting to accept that this is not within my control. I've started talking about my birth more and more like it will be a C-section just to get myself in the mindset. I appreciate your advice, support, and your empathy! I will look for a good book.
@JAM85 Thanks so much for your reply and your kind words. They really mean a lot. The other thing is all these people (non-child birth educations, non-medical, etc) keep saying oh she will just flip in her own time! Be patient! And with all the research I have done and the specialists I have met with I know at this point how unlikely that is and I wish people would stop saying it....Like you said, it's invalidating. It also makes me think like it is something I am doing that is causing her not to flip. I am starting to accept that this is not within my control. I've started talking about my birth more and more like it will be a C-section just to get myself in the mindset. I appreciate your advice, support, and your empathy! I will look for a good book.
Oh my gosh, yes, so much this!!
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@maribeth0721 I'm lurking from August and I want to tell you that the way you are feeling is perfectly valid. DS flipped into a breech position a few days before 37 weeks. The doctor told me about spinning babies and the heat/ice method as well as getting in a pool. She also gave me the option of an external version. She told me to go home and research it, then come back in a week. People made so many comments and kept pushing me to go to a chiropractor. I've never been to a chiropractor and was certainly not going to one while pregnant. I also got he's got plenty of time, blah blah blah. It was so frustrating and I cried and cried because I felt robbed of the labor experience if I scheduled a c section. I researched and tried at home remedies. I cried for 6 days. I wrote a list of questions and watched videos of external versions. When I went back I saw a different doctor. This was the doctor who discovered he was breech referred me to. I asked her all my questions which she carefully answered. Finally I said, if it were you, which route would you take. She very honestly said c section, there are too many risks with a version. I had only seen her once through my pregnancy. She let me cry and talk it out. She made sure she would be the one to perform my procedure because the doctor who discovered he was breech moved to a different practice that week. She is now a person I consider a dear friend and I have followed her to a practice 45 minutes from my house because she has been there for me through some other health issues. I trust her implicitly. She will be performing my 2nd c section in August.
You are allowed to feel the way you feel and don't let anyone make you feel that you can't. Hugs to you and prayers for a smooth delivery regardless of whether it's vaginal or cesarean.
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i just want you to know you aren't alone and it's okay to be upset about it and still want what's best for your baby. Don't let anyone tell you you should just be happy to get a healthy baby and make your feelings invalidated- people did it to me and it sucked. Keep doing whatever you feel you need to do whether it be exercises/procedures to try to turn them or eating ice cream and relaxing! C sections, especially planned ones like for breech, are really just another way to get baby. Read up on them and see what your hospitals offers in the way of gentle or family ones and still make a birth plan for what you would ideally like- I know it helped
me feel more in control of the uncontrollable
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You are allowed to feel the way you feel and don't let anyone make you feel that you can't. Hugs to you and prayers for a smooth delivery regardless of whether it's vaginal or cesarean.