I think baby is having a growth spurt. I'm suddenly back to exhausted, and kind of sore. So I've climbed back in bed already this morning, while DS is playing on the iPad.
@ArtificialRed - Not to sound like a total neophyte, but is that what it is? Me too! Exhausted, MS is back when I first wake up, and I'm more sore than usual.
On the confession side, I had a good sip of my husband's margarita at dinner this week. Most days I don't miss the alcohol at all. But we've been eating pulled pork tacos all week and there was something about the lemon/lime/salty/tart/spicy combo that just did it for me.
@curiousfool1 what? The growth spurt? That's just my own reasoning I came up with behind the 3-4 days stretches I would be extra tired, hungry, and sore before going back to "normal" when I was pregnant with DS. It would happen every month or so? I don't have any scientific proof that the baby is growing at a faster rate, it just feels like it lol
I'm getting my hair colored while drinking my fully caffeinated iced coffee, not even a little bit sorry. And I'm gossiping with my hairdresser shamelessly about everyone we know. I'm the worst right now.
Also, the only vegetables I ate yesterday were in a burrito bowl or on a pizza.
I called out of work today for my daughter's Kindergarten graduation. In all fairness I requested the day of months ago. So I spent my morning making this because I signed up to bring the cupcakes.
@artificialred I've been saying the same thing! I can't stay awake and I am always hungry.
My confession is totally related. I ate two full lunches yesterday because I was so hungry. Beef pot pie with two eggs and 2 slices of toast. SO thought it was hilarious because he's always known me to watch what I eat...but not lately. I also fall asleep with my clothes on without intending to.
@ArtificialRed the growth spurt is totally a thing. I tell DH all the time that I firmly believe squish grows in spurts based on my random 2-4 days where I'm exhausted and starving before feeling normal @MaximumEffort Super cute!
~Ziggy
Me:27 (diagnosed anovulatory May 2016) DH:29 (normal) Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012 TTC#1 since June 2015 June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying" October 2016- We became licensed foster parents November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*
My FFFC may be TMI, but I've been constipated for over 2 days now. Coffee tasted bad to me all through first tri, so I quit coffee cold turkey. But today I bought a decaf coffee for the the first time in months partly because it works as a laxative for me. And I feel so much better!
@ArtificialRed I can totally buy the growth spurt idea. I was starving for three days at the beginning of the week, and yesterday and today I feel normal. I've noticed it comes in waves like that every couple weeks for me.
I think this might get me flamed, it's in keeping with the breastfeeding topic, but I'm also curious to know others opinions on it. Disclaimer: I think women should feel totally comfortable breastfeeding in public with or without a cover if that's what works for them.
A friend of mine posts a lot of things about normalizing breastfeeding (which I agree with) but it's all pictures of women who are full on topless and breastfeeding. That to me goes beyond normalizing breastfeeding. You don't need to be topless to breastfeed and you don't need to post pictures of it. Maybe this is a me problem, but I feel like it invalidates the issue a bit when it becomes about being topless as opposed to just the average mom feeding her child in public without being shamed by randos.
@DuchessOfCambridge this for me is the same as the people who flaunt feminism but only post quotes and photos with top less women. Yes we want feminism. Yes feminism is great, but by putting the emphasis on nudity aspects of feminism is why people don't take it seriously. @MississippiCatfish that's amazing, I can't ice things ever
About the 3-4 days of tiredness and all that jazz, does it correlate with anyone else's regular period time? Because once a month when I would usually be getting my period I'm way more exhausted and hungry and moody.
My confession: I told my step son that he smelt like BO because I wanted him to take a shower so I could nap.
@MississippiCatfish I LITERALLY do that all the time to you guys. HOW does one make that mistake more than once? Sorry! In my head you are completely different people if that helps.
@duchessofcambridge I agree with you. I nursed in public without a cover, but I was still covered. I feel like when people go overboard, it further distances the people who are uncomfortable with breastfeeding in public. It's not difficult to do tastefully. It should be about feeding your child and not about making a statement.
@duchessofcambridge I agree with you. I nursed in public without a cover, but I was still covered. I feel like when people go overboard, it further distances the people who are uncomfortable with breastfeeding in public. It's not difficult to do tastefully. It should be about feeding your child and not about making a statement.
@mariposa_767s@ooodalollly you're so right, it should absolutely be about feeding your child and not making a statement. Especially since I think that statement gets lost in translation.
I know it's me, but I won't nurse in public or even with family.. I will with DH, but I don't feel comfortable exposing myself. We'll use bottles when with family or in public. You can shame me if you want! Just my choice. I'll still be pumping, just in privacy..
@DuchessOfCambridge I definitely don't post pictures of full topless women, but there have been MANY times that I'm taking pictures with my other kids or of me with DS3 while I'm nursing and I don't hide it one bit for the sake of someone else's feelings. I don't think I necessarily have to "make a statement", but I am no way going to hide what I think should be normal for our society.
Edit because I forgot to add that I convinced DH to stop at the store on his way home so I can binge watch the new season of Orange is the New Black!
I'll probably get flamed for this but at the beach today, in 90 degree weather with no shade, a woman had a newborn (DH and I agree no older than 3 weeks max) out in the sun and holding him in the water with huge waves that almost knocked DH over. I don't make it a habit to judge other parents but I was judging harshly.
@Furmommy that sounds way better for me and my comfort level than what I posted I plan on doing in the POTD! Especially around my family. I hope we can do that and just use bottles when not in the privacy of our own home!
@cmessamore I don't think there's anything wrong with a picture of a woman breastfeeding, it's specifically the pictures of women who are topless breastfeeding and making a statement. If you're breastfeeding normally even without a cover but are covered otherwise with clothes, I think that's fine. I wouldn't be comfortable with that myself but would never see a picture of that and think "ugh what is she doing".
I don't understand "tasteful" when it comes to breastfeeding. Saying that it needs to be done "tastefully" adds to the problem. It doesn't need to be tasteful. It just needs to be done if women choose to feed their babies that way. I think calling out full on topless photos sexualizes an incredibly non-sexual experience. It continues this perception that women shouldnt feel comfortable breastfeeding because someone might find it gross or tasteless.
You know my motto. You do you, but it's not okay to say "No not you. You don't do you."
@elizabethschuyler I think when people are intentionally tasteless then it borders on tacky. That's what I'm talking about. Some people are intentionally extra with it just to prove a point.
@ElizabethSchuyler I understand where you're coming from and respectfully disagree, which may just be because I'm more conservative than most when it comes to body stuff. Just as @bcashaw stated with the feminist movement, in my opinion it hurts rather than helps the cause because people then focus too much on the "naked" part of it rather than the "this woman is just trying to feed her child" part.
That being said, I would never tell a woman to cover up or anything like that, and I don't think other people should either. I saw a video of a woman breastfeeding (not topless, just without a cover though she was fully covered at all times) and people walked up to her and told her it was disgusting and she needed to find a bathroom or something. Broke my heart.
Fully agree on the man buns though. No more man buns.
I guess the worst part about the public breastfeeding debate is that there even has to be a debate. That women still feel the need to "make a statement" because people, other women included, haven't accepted that breastfeeding is natural.
@jess0211 There was a time we were on vacation and I was internally flaming a mom for exposing a newborn to the sun. After a little bit, she started a conversation and I found out baby was 6 days old, had been born via surrogate in California and mom was just waiting for her birth certificate to bring her home to Australia. She was jaundiced and the doctor recommended 15 min direct sunlight per day before trying bili lights. I felt like the worst person in the world!!
Your story sounds like it could be different, but reminded me of mine.
I guess the worst part about the public breastfeeding debate is that there even has to be a debate. That women still feel the need to "make a statement" because people, other women included, haven't accepted that breastfeeding is natural.
This.
~Ziggy
Me:27 (diagnosed anovulatory May 2016) DH:29 (normal) Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012 TTC#1 since June 2015 June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying" October 2016- We became licensed foster parents November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*
As far as the breastfeeding debate, I personally don't know where to find the line (for me) between the fact that breastfeeding is healthy and natural and should be treated as such, and the fact that (like it or not) breasts are sexualized and that is the reality in our culture. I personally don't like to do things that make me feel exposed sexually. Just because it "shouldn't be" doesn't mean it isn't. Not trying to make a point or sway anyone in any direction - don't know what my point would even be - just sharing what my internal debate has been for my breastfeeding career;)
I'm kind of glad that I will be out of town on a mission trip for church on Father's Day. My ILs will be here helping with the kids and they've said he can definitely go out whenever he wants and sleep in while they are here. So that is the main part of my present to him, lol. We are going big for our anniversary this year(next month) and so decided to take Mother's Day and Father's Day easy in the gift department. He will, of course, get some fabulous art from the children as always, but I'm glad he'll be able to take time off and relax without me having to do the bulk of the childcare this year.
As far as the breastfeeding debate, I personally don't know where to find the line (for me) between the fact that breastfeeding is healthy and natural and should be treated as such, and the fact that (like it or not) breasts are sexualized and that is the reality in our culture. I personally don't like to do things that make me feel exposed sexually. Just because it "shouldn't be" doesn't mean it isn't. Not trying to make a point or sway anyone in any direction - don't know what my point would even be - just sharing what my internal debate has been for my breastfeeding career;)
This is kind of how I feel about it. I want it to be totally normal. Even women (not all, obviously, but plenty) that dress modestly for religion, cover hair, shoulders/arms, etc will nurse their babies in public. It should be totally normal. But I dread that moment when baby unlatches and for two seconds I'm exposed in a "technically not nursing way." It was easy enough to avoid that when he was tiny. But when he started getting distracted, we pretty much stopped nursing in public. (Conveniently, that also coincided with not needing to nurse as much and waiting was usually a perfectly acceptable option.)
I guess the worst part about the public breastfeeding debate is that there even has to be a debate. That women still feel the need to "make a statement" because people, other women included, haven't accepted that breastfeeding is natural.
This is a great point.
A woman should never be made to feel uncomfortable with the choices she made for herself. We cannot continue to tell women what they should and should not be doing with their bodies. We cannot continue to tear each other down for choices we may not choose for ourselves. I know we're all from different walks of life, from different cities and countries. I don't like being critical of another woman's choices.
A woman feeding her child topless in an Instagram photo might give another the confidence she's been looking for to do the ol' pull up/pull down trick when she heads to the park for the first time as she's been too scared to leave the house and breastfeed in public. If it makes you say "Oh I need a cover" that's great too. It's totally worth it IMO if it helps any woman achieve a personal milestone/goal.
Also, I'm okay with being in the minority on this. Just know I support you ladies with whatever choices you make.
On the breast feeding topic. I can't stand when people go on tirades about "breast is best". My nephew was legitimately starving because the doctor focused on breast feeding and didn't even mention bottle/formula feeding. It took too long to figure out the issue and he suffered. Breast feeding should be more normalized but so should bottle feeding. Fed is best.
On the breast feeding topic. I can't stand when people go on tirades about "breast is best". My nephew was legitimately starving because the doctor focused on breast feeding and didn't even mention bottle/formula feeding. It took too long to figure out the issue and he suffered. Breast feeding should be more normalized but so should bottle feeding. Fed is best.
That makes me very sad. We were very fortunate to leave the hospital with formula and had a free sample can at home when my son had low blood sugar. I hope they found a new doctor.
Re: FFFC 6/9
On the confession side, I had a good sip of my husband's margarita at dinner this week. Most days I don't miss the alcohol at all. But we've been eating pulled pork tacos all week and there was something about the lemon/lime/salty/tart/spicy combo that just did it for me.
Also, the only vegetables I ate yesterday were in a burrito bowl or on a pizza.
@artificialred I've been saying the same thing! I can't stay awake and I am always hungry.
My confession is totally related. I ate two full lunches yesterday because I was so hungry. Beef pot pie with two eggs and 2 slices of toast. SO thought it was hilarious because he's always known me to watch what I eat...but not lately. I also fall asleep with my clothes on without intending to.
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
@MaximumEffort Super cute!
Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012
TTC#1 since June 2015
June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN
July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN
August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying"
October 2016- We became licensed foster parents
November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo
March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*
@ArtificialRed I can totally buy the growth spurt idea. I was starving for three days at the beginning of the week, and yesterday and today I feel normal. I've noticed it comes in waves like that every couple weeks for me.
A friend of mine posts a lot of things about normalizing breastfeeding (which I agree with) but it's all pictures of women who are full on topless and breastfeeding. That to me goes beyond normalizing breastfeeding. You don't need to be topless to breastfeed and you don't need to post pictures of it. Maybe this is a me problem, but I feel like it invalidates the issue a bit when it becomes about being topless as opposed to just the average mom feeding her child in public without being shamed by randos.
@MississippiCatfish that's amazing, I can't ice things ever
About the 3-4 days of tiredness and all that jazz, does it correlate with anyone else's regular period time? Because once a month when I would usually be getting my period I'm way more exhausted and hungry and moody.
My confession: I told my step son that he smelt like BO because I wanted him to take a shower so I could nap.
In my head you are completely different people if that helps.
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
Edit because I forgot to add that I convinced DH to stop at the store on his way home so I can binge watch the new season of Orange is the New Black!
@cmessamore I don't think there's anything wrong with a picture of a woman breastfeeding, it's specifically the pictures of women who are topless breastfeeding and making a statement. If you're breastfeeding normally even without a cover but are covered otherwise with clothes, I think that's fine. I wouldn't be comfortable with that myself but would never see a picture of that and think "ugh what is she doing".
You know my motto. You do you, but it's not okay to say "No not you. You don't do you."
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
That being said, I would never tell a woman to cover up or anything like that, and I don't think other people should either. I saw a video of a woman breastfeeding (not topless, just without a cover though she was fully covered at all times) and people walked up to her and told her it was disgusting and she needed to find a bathroom or something. Broke my heart.
Fully agree on the man buns though. No more man buns.
Your story sounds like it could be different, but reminded me of mine.
Met 2008 | Dated 2010 | Married 2012
TTC#1 since June 2015
June 2016- 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 12), thin (2.45) lining | BFN
July 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | 2 follies (14 & 10), thin (~4) lining | BFN
August 2016- 1mg estradiol CDs 1-7, 50mg generic clomid CDs 5-9 w/TI | BFN | Referred to specialist, visited once, was told we have less than a 3% chance even on medication, recommended to IUI for up to a 50% chance, decided not to pursue at this time | Stopped "trying"
October 2016- We became licensed foster parents
November 9, 2016- Arrival of DD#1, 4yo
March 1, 2017- 1 day late, feel like crap (low fever & exhausted) | Mom suggested test before taking meds, I laughed but did it anyway | BFP! *shock*
A woman should never be made to feel uncomfortable with the choices she made for herself. We cannot continue to tell women what they should and should not be doing with their bodies. We cannot continue to tear each other down for choices we may not choose for ourselves. I know we're all from different walks of life, from different cities and countries. I don't like being critical of another woman's choices.
A woman feeding her child topless in an Instagram photo might give another the confidence she's been looking for to do the ol' pull up/pull down trick when she heads to the park for the first time as she's been too scared to leave the house and breastfeed in public. If it makes you say "Oh I need a cover" that's great too. It's totally worth it IMO if it helps any woman achieve a personal milestone/goal.
Also, I'm okay with being in the minority on this. Just know I support you ladies with whatever choices you make.