@lola4411 it does make me happy and makes dh insanely happy. That's not to say she has the best diet around, but for an 8 year old, it's impressive. She eats fries, chips, fruit snacks, but the "main" part of meals is a struggle for us because none of us eat like she does lol. Except mac n cheese and ramen. FWIW, my son eats like crap and our youngest is kind of in the middle.
My ILs are very anti-anything-healthy, so they give her a hard time and it drives me crazy. She's 8. You should understand by now that this is how she is, stop bugging her to try pizza and chicken nuggets.
FFFC: a few minutes ago I hiccuped really deeply, it made my stomach move, and LO kicked me, which left me giggling and right now I'm trying to hiccup like that again.
eta: unsuccessfully, because I have zero idea how to hiccup. It's mostly coming out as little burps. Elena is not impressed.
@lola4411 it does make me happy and makes dh insanely happy. That's not to say she has the best diet around, but for an 8 year old, it's impressive. She eats fries, chips, fruit snacks, but the "main" part of meals is a struggle for us because none of us eat like she does lol. Except mac n cheese and ramen. FWIW, my son eats like crap and our youngest is kind of in the middle.
My ILs are very anti-anything-healthy, so they give her a hard time and it drives me crazy. She's 8. You should understand by now that this is how she is, stop bugging her to try pizza and chicken nuggets.
how the F can you be anit-eating anything healthy? thats just crazy talk!
I really want to tell people off when they complain about my oldest's food preferences. I get that it seems weird and makes it hard when a kid doesn't eat the "typical" foods that are served at parties and such, but stop giving my kid a hard time because she doesn't eat like shit. She doesn't like pizza, burgers, hot dogs, chicken, chicken nuggets, grilled cheese, those sort of things. She prefers a turkey sandwich or salad. So what? Why is it ok to give someone grief for eating healthier but it's "acceptable" to eat the shit that is making people overweight and causing health problems?
So much this! DD is also a healthy eater. People act amazed when she chooses tomatoes and carrots as a snack. At a restaurant over the weekend she had the option of a salad or fries as a side. She chose salad. She's also apparently "allergic" to cheese now (she's not) and can no longer eat pizza because of it. (Thank you Daniel Tiger for teaching my 3 year old about allergies.) The comments people make are super frustrating. I just hope she doesn't listen and think she needs to start eating crap just because everyone else is, as she gets older.
@sjohns908@sdarling2010 I get these comments too though DD isn't a completely healthy eater when we go out to dinner I'll always orders her a side of fruit or veggies in place of the standard French fries and more than once I'll hear "give the kid some fries!" I'm like...no, she won't eat them.
FFFC's: DD2 had her grade picnic today from 11-12. I took her home after so we can go to the pool. DD1 stayed at school. To be fair though, Tuesday is DD1's picnic and I will do the same for her.
I try to crank up the TV and make a lot of noise if I hear the snow ball or ice cream trucks coming, praying I catch it to block out the sound before the girls hear it. Not all the time, but when they come before dinner. Which is a lot of the time. Who TF comes around at 5pm?!?
On the popularity note, I wasn't popular or unpopular in hs, I was a jock and a nerd and hung out with those kids, and as a result I felt very little pressure to be "cool" or do anything I didn't want to do. I think that's ideal, and I hope my kids fall into that same middle of the road category.
I was in the same boat - my best friends were hoco queen and prom queen and I was just on the fringe. I kept myself occupied with sports and top 1%, and my parents never let me out of the house beyond those extracurriculars so I didn't get to fully capitalize on the popularity factor of my circle of friends. And I've never been one for much gossip so drama rarely involved me like it did my friends. I had a great time in HS and I hope my kids do to, I'm always sad when I hear people hated school.
On the FTMs know nothing tip: yes I'm a FTM and I know nothing. I'm constantly fantasizing about my LO and what we will be like as a family. All the heart eyes all the time. And then I remember what I've heard and witnessed: that my life will be changed forever and there will be no more time to myself- and I panic. I'm the kind of person who takes naps whenever I can, I eat whatever whenever...I go out when I feel like it... I like brunch at restaurants. Y'all I have only FOUR MONTHS LEFT OF FREEDOM. And I can't even drink!!!!!!!!!! And yes I tried to conceive for over 2 years and wanted to have this baby more than I've ever wanted anything. But also, I'm freaking out.
@lola4411 Idk but it's annoying AF. I could go on for days about how ridiculous it is. But I'm also paranoid to vent about that sort of thing in detail on here lol
@sdarling2010 yes! When we had a cookout, I made sure to have plenty of fruits and veggies out so that she had something to eat. Everyone always laughs "Oh is that all you're eating?". Stfu and leave her alone before you make her feel like it's wrong to make good choices. The good choices we work so hard to encourage and praise her about.
@callababy17 you still can do those things! We drag our kids to brunch and dinner bc I like to eat and drink. I nap sometimes during nap time. It isn't all doom and gloom. But you will just find yourself commiserating with other moms like whoa about how burnt out you are. Wine helps.
My confession for yesterday was I had a moment of sadness yesterday during our ultrasound when we found out we will be adding two more boys to our family. Don't get me wrong, I'm very excited and relieved everything look good so far (our actual anatomy scan isn't until next week), but sad there are some girl things I will miss out on. Like seeing my husband have that daddy daughter bond, watch her get married and wedding plan with her, watch her become a mother some day. I know it all sounds silly, but I had a moment of sadness.
However, I AM excited to watch our son grow up with two brothers and them all become best buddies (because that's what always happens, right? ) And if they all choose to get married, I will get to dance with all my kids. I'm excited they are the same sex and I can dress them in matching clothes and bow ties!
It's going to be wild with 3 boys! But now I'll get to do all the girly shopping for myself!!!
@curlyq423 it is such a normal feeling to be a little sad anytime there is loss. It doesn't seem like a loss, but a big life change where other opportunities are changed forever can affect one's pysche in a real way! Im sure your little dudes will be so fulfilling that you won't even miss the girl drama, lol!
@carries2018 thank you for the encouragement as I mourn the loss of my independence! Wait..why is there not a bachelorette party type celebration before the baby comes? Is that what the baby moon is for? It suddenly seems quite necessary. I miss wine.
@callababy17 Thank you! I don't want anyone to think I'm not appreciative or thankful for what we've been given because I truly am! Apprantly my husband only shoots out boys! I think I'm also dreading the whole "oh wow, so you're going to try again for a girl???" No, just no. I would keep having kids (not just to have a girl but because i like big families) if money and sanity allowed, but I'm terrified to have twins again, Haha!
As far as losing your independence I'm not going to lie and say it's easy and you will never miss it, but it does get easier. There are times I miss just being able to go out when we want and be home when we want, but you DO adjust. Where you go and what you do changes and it's not a bad thing. One of my favorite things about being a parent is watching my child grow and do things through their eyes. It may sounds cliche or silly, but I love it. Be sure to take advantage of family watching your child (if it's an option) so you can have a day or night out. Look into a good babysitter to also give you a break. But trust me, you will also love going out to eat with your kids and just hanging out with them too. It all changes, but for the better!
@curlyq423 my gf has 4 boys and wanted a girl SO badly. I remember when she was pregnant with her third, they thought it was their last and when she went in for her AS, the text I got after was simply "It's a boy". I knew she was heartbroken. And that's totally ok. She unexpectedly got pregnant again 2 years ago and to say she was upset that that was also a boy is an understatement. She said she went in the bathroom once the tech was done and just cried.
Of course she was happy that her babies were all healthy, but she mourned for what she would never have. She still talks about how she wishes she had a girl, but she obviously loves all of her boys so much and gets involved in their cub scouts and karate, etc.
It's so weird how kids restrict your freedom and drain you in many ways, but at the same time you definitely wouldn't change it. With two kids only 13 months apart there are many weekends where I can't wait for Monday to get back to work and get a break (exact opposite of weekends pre-kids where I dreaded Mondays), but I absolutely don't regret having kids and wouldn't change it. It becomes a new normal and the "highs" really do make up for the lows!
There is a great clip in "what to expect when you're expecting" where a dad explains this perfectly.... right before his son walks up with poop in his hand at the playground. It's the best!
@curlyq423. I told this to @buttercream_frosting too.... I think the reason me and MIL get along so well is because I'm like the daughter she never had. If your sons choose a lady partner maybe you'll get to experience some of those things as a MIL too. But it's okay to be sad and mourn the loss of the idea of your own girl.
TTC x 1.5 years.
Acupuncture, Femera x3 cyles, and HSG. BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015. TTC x2 months. BFP January 2017.
@callababy17 I will say, one baby did not change my life all that much...and not to make it sound like it wasn't different, but DD1 was probably the most chill kid ever. She loved everyone, slept anywhere, we really didn't change too much- we went out to eat when we wanted, went on long car trips, didn't live our life around naptime. The 2nd one though was the toughest transition (so far) for me. Juggling 2 of them and their naptimes and needs especially with a needier baby #2 really caused the most change in our lives. So don't worry too much about baby #1, you'll still be able to live your life and he or she will be a wonderful addition to it!
Not to be a buzz kill but my first baby was the exact opposite of @ac1259. She was a super difficult newborn and it made me think that everyone who loves newborns and says that they are so cute and happy and sleep all the time were liars. We had to change a lot because she was way too screamy to take to restaurants or longs trips in the car, etc. The second one was a piece of cake though! Newborns are such a grab bag but I'm on to #3 and #4 now so obviously I still think it's still worth it!
Also, if any of you end up with a super fussy, difficult newborn, please feel free to reach out to me! I felt so alone with it and honestly hated being a mom for a bit there because I was so alone with it (and also had undiagnosed PPD). I thought I was supposed to be happy and everything seemed terrible, which just piled on. I think it would have been so much easier if I had someone to reach out to who knew what I was going through!
Not to be a buzz kill but my first baby was the exact opposite of @ac1259. She was a super difficult newborn and it made me think that everyone who loves newborns and says that they are so cute and happy and sleep all the time were liars. We had to change a lot because she was way too screamy to take to restaurants or longs trips in the car, etc. The second one was a piece of cake though! Newborns are such a grab bag but I'm on to #3 and #4 now so obviously I still think it's still worth it!
Also, if any of you end up with a super fussy, difficult newborn, please feel free to reach out to me! I felt so alone with it and honestly hated being a mom for a bit there because I was so alone with it (and also had undiagnosed PPD). I thought I was supposed to be happy and everything seemed terrible, which just piled on. I think it would have been so much easier if I had someone to reach out to who knew what I was going through!
Yeeep. DS was and still is very high maintenance. He is a generally happy kid but he demands attention and never was a great sleeper or content to just sit and relax.
Pregnancy, labor, delivery were all a breeze for me so maybe rough newborns are my payback. When he was around 2-3 weeks old I honestly told DH "I don't know if I want to do this again."
I obviously changed my mind, but don't think you have a broken child if your newborn isn't all naps and cuddles.
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@TallMomma29 DD1 was a terrible terrible newborn. She was so colicky and downright unhappy. She actually wound up being a high need baby. A term used by Dr. Sears. She had to be worn all the time. It got easier around month 3. DD2 was amazing though. She was my super sleeper and laid back baby. Still is my laid back kid.
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My ILs are very anti-anything-healthy, so they give her a hard time and it drives me crazy. She's 8. You should understand by now that this is how she is, stop bugging her to try pizza and chicken nuggets.
eta: unsuccessfully, because I have zero idea how to hiccup. It's mostly coming out as little burps. Elena is not impressed.
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DD2 had her grade picnic today from 11-12. I took her home after so we can go to the pool. DD1 stayed at school. To be fair though, Tuesday is DD1's picnic and I will do the same for her.
I try to crank up the TV and make a lot of noise if I hear the snow ball or ice cream trucks coming, praying I catch it to block out the sound before the girls hear it. Not all the time, but when they come before dinner. Which is a lot of the time. Who TF comes around at 5pm?!?
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@sdarling2010 yes! When we had a cookout, I made sure to have plenty of fruits and veggies out so that she had something to eat. Everyone always laughs "Oh is that all you're eating?". Stfu and leave her alone before you make her feel like it's wrong to make good choices. The good choices we work so hard to encourage and praise her about.
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However, I AM excited to watch our son grow up with two brothers and them all become best buddies (because that's what always happens, right?
It's going to be wild with 3 boys! But now I'll get to do all the girly shopping for myself!!!
@carries2018 thank you for the encouragement as I mourn the loss of my independence! Wait..why is there not a bachelorette party type celebration before the baby comes? Is that what the baby moon is for? It suddenly seems quite necessary.
I miss wine.
As far as losing your independence I'm not going to lie and say it's easy and you will never miss it, but it does get easier. There are times I miss just being able to go out when we want and be home when we want, but you DO adjust. Where you go and what you do changes and it's not a bad thing. One of my favorite things about being a parent is watching my child grow and do things through their eyes. It may sounds cliche or silly, but I love it. Be sure to take advantage of family watching your child (if it's an option) so you can have a day or night out. Look into a good babysitter to also give you a break. But trust me, you will also love going out to eat with your kids and just hanging out with them too. It all changes, but for the better!
Of course she was happy that her babies were all healthy, but she mourned for what she would never have. She still talks about how she wishes she had a girl, but she obviously loves all of her boys so much and gets involved in their cub scouts and karate, etc.
There is a great clip in "what to expect when you're expecting" where a dad explains this perfectly.... right before his son walks up with poop in his hand at the playground. It's the best!
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
All of you ladies are great!
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Also, if any of you end up with a super fussy, difficult newborn, please feel free to reach out to me! I felt so alone with it and honestly hated being a mom for a bit there because I was so alone with it (and also had undiagnosed PPD). I thought I was supposed to be happy and everything seemed terrible, which just piled on. I think it would have been so much easier if I had someone to reach out to who knew what I was going through!
Pregnancy, labor, delivery were all a breeze for me so maybe rough newborns are my payback. When he was around 2-3 weeks old I honestly told DH "I don't know if I want to do this again."
I obviously changed my mind, but don't think you have a broken child if your newborn isn't all naps and cuddles.
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“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times,
if one only remembers to turn on the light."
- Albus Dumbledore
Oct. '17 June S.C. "You Had 1 Job"