@Chawk17 My mother doesn't drive because she doesn't like to. Even when she still had my late father's car, she still didn't drive it. That car was sold for the metal. My brother (aka the baby because he's so little still..... hear my sarcasm) doesn't drive because he does not want to. He relies heavily on public transportation. Another reason he refuses to buy a car is because he wanted my mother to buy one (then I'm guessing let him use it for free) with the little trade in value would be for my father's car. It was from 1986 people. She said she didn't need a car and told him to buy one. If my brother had car, it would mean that he would need to share the burden of any errands that need a car. For instance, when my father was sick and needed to go to the doctors' in Boston or when my mother had surgery twice in the last couple of years. Can't take ya if you don't drive. Something more common would be grocery shopping. Can't take ya if you don't drive.
My brother is an asshole.
***TW*** Me: 36 DH:35 Married: 7/10/2016 TTC#1 - May 2016 BFP 9/6/2016 - Missed MC 10/20/2016 BFP 5/5/2017 - CP IVF #1 - June 2017 - Transferred 1 fresh 4 AA embryo. 7/9 Beta #1 - 161 Adam Born on 3/18/18
@Sp128 I think you have a really bad stomach flu coming on, don't you? I mean, for like next weekend. That would be SOoo unfortunate for you to have to miss that outing you were really looking forward to.
If you do feel you can't fake an illness or get out of it, and they start to drill you on not being pregnant and talking about babies, honestly... let them have it. Tell them in detail about your MC and how you feel and just lay it all out there. It will make them feel uncomfortable but hopefully they will STFU about it. I use this tactic many times.
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks) MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks) MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP) RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017 MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP) RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017 MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023. Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing. Surgery for endometriosis January 2024 Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months.
FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)
Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.
@SP128 I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this whole situation. I agree with PP that you should just skip it because you're "sick." Then take your mom, and only your mom, out to lunch one afternoon. It's totally inconsiderate of her to invite others to your outing.
Thanks ladies. I feel like I have to grin and bare it. If I do dinner with her one on one that's over an hour of grilling and seething remarks. If her fam is there, they may be whispered yelling.
@dpjennifer I would love to yell out that I had a mc, but honestly these people have such lack of manners that it wouldn't matter. My mother would then yell at me for being too old and how I should've listened to her and I told you so.
Lose lose situation. I limit outings with my mother. Sad situation really.
On a positive note, I'm learning so much on how to be a mother from mine. I'm learning what not to do.
***TW*** Me: 36 DH:35 Married: 7/10/2016 TTC#1 - May 2016 BFP 9/6/2016 - Missed MC 10/20/2016 BFP 5/5/2017 - CP IVF #1 - June 2017 - Transferred 1 fresh 4 AA embryo. 7/9 Beta #1 - 161 Adam Born on 3/18/18
@SP128 Ugh. Sorry. That sucks that it doesn't seem to effect them.
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks) MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks) MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP) RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017 MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP) RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017 MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023. Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing. Surgery for endometriosis January 2024 Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months.
FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)
Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.
fun times i'm on hold with coventry trying to fix a doctors mistake. i've mentioned ins fraud and they are going to do a 3 way call with me. ugh!
ETA - insurance lady couldn't get anyone in doctors office to pick up maybe lunch break. She will try again later today and tomorrow morning. The doctor resubmitted the claim wrong so it would have been paid. I told the customer service rep all of our headaches. She's also going to mail us proof of the EOB so I can fight it with collections. Although I told her I do prefer that coventry get ahold of this doctor and fix the headache and if so I want proof sent to me.
If there were 2 good things that came out of my loss they would be - that I can get pregnant and how much of a bitch my OB was and that led me to the new OB I have. That old one is one of the top 3 providers recommended to me for VBAC from our local ican group. I've never had these problems with any of my doctors in my life!
Re: WTF Wednesday
My brother is an asshole.
Me: 36 DH:35
Married: 7/10/2016
TTC#1 - May 2016
BFP 9/6/2016 - Missed MC 10/20/2016
BFP 5/5/2017 - CP
IVF #1 - June 2017 - Transferred 1 fresh 4 AA embryo. 7/9 Beta #1 - 161
If you do feel you can't fake an illness or get out of it, and they start to drill you on not being pregnant and talking about babies, honestly... let them have it. Tell them in detail about your MC and how you feel and just lay it all out there. It will make them feel uncomfortable but hopefully they will STFU about it. I use this tactic many times.
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023.
Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months.
FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)
Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.
FET #2: September 2024 (failed)
FET #3: December 2024 (failed)
#BitterHagPartyOf1
TTC: 3/23/2013, BFP: 2/28/2014, EDD: 11/6/2014, ADD: 11/7/2014
TTC: 2/1/2016, BFP: 3/4/2017, EDD: 11/11/2017, No HB @ 8 weeks, MC: 4/8/2017
TTC: 5/24/2017, BFP: 4/14/2018, EDD: 12/22/2018
@dpjennifer I would love to yell out that I had a mc, but honestly these people have such lack of manners that it wouldn't matter. My mother would then yell at me for being too old and how I should've listened to her and I told you so.
Lose lose situation. I limit outings with my mother. Sad situation really.
On a positive note, I'm learning so much on how to be a mother from mine. I'm learning what not to do.
Me: 36 DH:35
Married: 7/10/2016
TTC#1 - May 2016
BFP 9/6/2016 - Missed MC 10/20/2016
BFP 5/5/2017 - CP
IVF #1 - June 2017 - Transferred 1 fresh 4 AA embryo. 7/9 Beta #1 - 161
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023.
Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months.
FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)
Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.
FET #2: September 2024 (failed)
FET #3: December 2024 (failed)
#BitterHagPartyOf1
~~ married 8.11.07
~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
~~ BFP4 10.27.16 MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
ETA - insurance lady couldn't get anyone in doctors office to pick up maybe lunch break. She will try again later today and tomorrow morning. The doctor resubmitted the claim wrong so it would have been paid. I told the customer service rep all of our headaches. She's also going to mail us proof of the EOB so I can fight it with collections. Although I told her I do prefer that coventry get ahold of this doctor and fix the headache and if so I want proof sent to me.
Me: 36 DH:35
Married: 7/10/2016
TTC#1 - May 2016
BFP 9/6/2016 - Missed MC 10/20/2016
BFP 5/5/2017 - CP
IVF #1 - June 2017 - Transferred 1 fresh 4 AA embryo. 7/9 Beta #1 - 161