Hey all!
I know there's a thread about births but nothing specific about VBACs, thought I'd start one since I feel really passionate about having a successful one and I imagine other mommas who want them feel the same.
Anywho, where do you plan to give birth? Is your OB VBAC friendly? Was it hard getting your SO on board? I'm interested in everyone's game plan and research.
I actually made my DH watch The Business of Being Born to get him on board. We noticed I just went through the hospital ringer and didn't get to take charge of my birth. They put me on pitocin right away and it progressively just got worse as time went on. I pushed for 2.5 hours then opted for a CS because I was exhausted and DS' HR was dropping. Overall, I would consider my CS pretty traumatic.
I feel like a VBAC is my redemption (not in the "I didn't give birth" type of way) and it's statically safer than a RCS (technically speaking for a healthy pregnancy), with better recovery times. I need those things as a mom-to-be of a newborn and toddler. My OB who did my CS also told me she thought I was a good candidate for one.
So here's what I've planned so far: if I get approved, I will be doing a water birth at a birthing center with a midwife (and maybe doula). Completely unmedicated because my epi didn't even work last time so I know I can survive contractions.
Tell me about yours!
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So, I wont be going there for number 4. The problem is, my town has 8 OBs and 4 are in that practice and only one other does vbacs. She does come highly recommended and my friend that is an L and D nurse recommends her. My appointment isnt for another few weeks so I havent been able to talk to her in person. If this doesnt work out Ill have to look about 30 minutes north (in good weather), which isnt ideal since my husband had to convince me yo leave for the hospital wirh number 3 and she was born 45 minutes after arriving.
However my OB has said if Thing 2 gets as big as Thing 1 was (9lbs3oz) I might well have the same problem. She didn't get into a lot of detail but said they have a "low bar" for what triggers an RCS instead.
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My first birth was not the experience I wanted at all. I was induced (totally my choice) and the baby did not want to come. I could have waited a few more hours to see if he was going to progress but I also had the worst epidural experience. I jerked and they missed the right spot and I was in a state of paralysis. I wouldn't talk, move my arms, and barely knew what was going on. I also had to have the meds injected about every 30 minutes and every time my pulse would drop drastically and I was very sick to my stomach. During my csection, I threw up the entire time and was so drugged afterwards that I could barely remember the first moments of my sons life.
Hoping that we all get the vbacs we want want and I can't wait to hear everyone's stories!
https://findyourbalancehealth.com/2014/04/my-vbac-success-plan/
My first was delivered by emergency c-section after a placental abruption. Our son's unusual genetic condition caused polyhydramnios (high amniotic fluid), which made an abruption more likely. If this baby is healthy, an abruption is unlikely to happen again.
I was induced at 41w 5d after failing to go into spontaneous labor, and he was born 30 hours later. I only dilated to 6 cm. I don't feel traumatized by my c-section, or feel like it was a failure. There were so many other circumstances that WERE traumatic: We knew he would be having open heart surgery shortly after he was born, and I gave birth 1000 miles from home so we could be at the best pediatric cardiology hospital in the world. The experience wasn't about me, my vanity, or my goals. It was about bringing our son into the world--ALIVE.
But recovering from abdominal surgery SUCKS. Did I mention that? Lol!
My VBAC was awesome - induced at 9 AM, epidural at 1 PM, baby born at 5:30 PM after a half hour of pushing. Hoping for a similar experience with number 3.
https://evidencebasedbirth.com/evidence-for-induction-or-c-section-for-big-baby/
OP, your story sounds just like my BFF's. She's working with a MW through a birthing center this time around, who is optimistic BFF will be successful with her VBAC in September.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
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There are lots of peer reviewed, evidence based articles available on the ACOG's website and in healrh journals that you can present to and discuss with your provider. These will get you a lot further with your provider than blogs, although the citations on blogs can also provide a wealth of information. Best of luck!
Im hoping for a natural birth this time (no drugs, vaginally) I was told during recovery that I would likely be a good candidate for VBAC so I'm not really making plans yet. Just hoping !
My biggest fear though is going through everything again only to end up with another csection in the end.
Id appreciate revisiting this topic, I have so many questions! If only we could have a crystal ball to know what is best!
7 IUIs, 7 BFNs.
2 IVF attempts, both cancelled and converted to IUI, both BFNs.
Decided that my tired old ovaries are ready to retire.
Next step- reciprocal IVF, using my wife's eggs, my uterus!
fresh 5 day transfer (2 embryos) 4/17/17- BFP!
Identical twins "due" 1/2/17 (but anticipated arrival sometime December)
I do want a VBAC because I do want to experience giving birth that way. But mainly I think it will be harder to recover with a toddler who loves to cuddle and is very rambunctious and we are now in a two story house vs. the ranch we were in before..
I will be going back to my original OB who fully supports VBACs and does't think I will have any issue with it this time.
BFP#3 5/22/17 | MC 6/17/17 at 7w3d
My first birth was an emergency c-section. He was breech and I went in at around 37 weeks for an appointment for a version to try and turn him around. Well we didn't even get to try because before they do the massage they monitor the baby for awhile to make sure he could handle being massaged and turned etc. During monitoring they noticed his heart rate would dip and come back up. It happened multiple times over a few hours and then they admitted us and wanted to monitor over night. It was mid-afternoon at this point, I was moved to a room and was settled in watching TV. All of a sudden nurses and doctors rush in and start telling me to turn this way and that etc. My son's heart rate dropped and didn't come back up. Doctor said let's go, we're taking him out now. It ended up that something weird was happening with his umbilical cord being twisted.
Anyway, it was scary at the time and I'm so thankful that the nurses and doctors monitored me so close and took action and were so supportive and calming for me during the whole thing. The actual procedure and recovery wasn't bad at all, though I wouldn't opt for abdominal surgery it if wasn't necessary.