Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Expecting TRIPLETS! Seeking suggestions
as for a car I guess you need to think if you want all three in a row or are going to stagger them (this may also affect your car seat choice.) if you stagger how easy is it to access the 3rd row? You may need to consider a minivan.... we are just switching to one now as we are expecting #3 but so many people say the sliding doors are a life saver.
2. the protein can be tough.. greek yogurt (low sugar varieties), cottage cheese, nuts, nut butters on toast or fruit, were all things I did... I;m assuming your going to be seeing an MFM and most of them have a nutritionist who may be able to help you find high protein items that you can stomach. but give yourself a bit of a break in the first trimester as that nausea can be killer and just getting something to eat can be a challenge. (it will get better). also lots of small frequent meals. plus WATER, WATER, WATER
3.even with a singleton pregnancy your body changes, it won't be the same. I think that is something we all struggle with. but your body has done an amazing thing and try to give yourself a break. It took me a while (and TBH i'm still getting comfortable with my new body). Please be aware right after birth you will have a lot of loose skin... it kinda freaked me out but it will shrink back (though maybe not completely) hang in there mamma you will be beautiful no matter what
4. Pgal brain is a B. I too had a miscarriage before my twins. I felt better after viability, just tell yourself every day that you are pregnant. hugs
5. you will start showing sooner, some of it is bloat, but your uterus is holding a lot more than a normal pregnant woman so yes you may have to spill the beans sooner. just think of it as more support!
GL!
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
As for a vehicle, we ended up getting a van when they were a few months old because one of our cars stopped running. I was so upset because I liked using our Trail Blazer, but the van has been a life saver for me. The automatic doors and seats that collapse and store underneath have been amazing when it's just me taking them out and about. The space is also great when we have the 2 dogs shoved in there as well. We don't go "up nort'" too much (Wisconsite over here), but the in laws are 2 hours away so it makes for nice travel.
Just do your best with eating and remind yourself that you don't have to eat perfectly every day. I couldn't stand the smell of most meats through most of my pregnancy and my twins turned out healthy and safe at the end of it all.
With regards to eating, I couldn't keep anything major down but started getting my protein from carnation instant breakfast shakes. My gf who is pregnant also drinks them and blends them with yogurt and bananas. I have one (or two ) every day and that keeps me at a decent intake of protein. Also, for some reason..they are easy to keep down when nothing else is.
Good luck!!